Comments by "Maggie" (@maggie6152) on "Army Veteran Responds To Trolls and Discusses His PTSD | @ladbiblestories" video.

  1. Mmmm, I have to disagree. Often abusers have serious mental health issues themselves and come from terrible households yet can still choose ignorance over compassion and empathy even for those going through the exact same stuff they did. I find it more accurate to say people are separated into two types: those who have suffered and never want others to suffer what they did, and those who have suffered and feel everyone's life should be as difficult as theirs. It's a bit of an oversimplification, but as I grow older, it seems more and more true.
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  2.  @bertschumacher2097  Even then, mate, it's hard to call someone abusive from the WW2 era "less of a man", because the social stigma was so intense against not only men expressing feelings, but veterans even suggesting the idea that not everything they did was good was forbidden due to extreme propaganda. Add to that having garbage, equally stigmatized options for mental healthcare, your two options were to internalize and kill yourself or externalize to keep from killing yourself and unfortunately hurt people in the process. Often both would happen in varying degrees because there was no help or way to process the horrible, god awful shit you had seen. Whether you externalize or internalize feelings is affected a lot by things entirely out of our control: genetics, birth order, gender, how parents raised their kids. I'm not saying it's ok to abuse other people, just that abusers usually need as much help as those who are suicidal and we can't judge the past as accurately when we look with the lens of the now and all the resources, knowledge, and societal changes we've gained or had since then. I say this as someone who grew up in an abusive family, and the significantly differing effects it had between me and my two siblings are something I'm still struggling to understand. All three of us are or have been suicidal, anxious, filled with self loathing, anger issues, trust issues, confidence issues but these are expressed in different ways between us. My sister cut herself and is now struggling with hoarding, I'm beginning to numb and dissociate more, and my brother unfortunately is an externalizer and abuses others. You might say my sister and I are better people for only abusing ourselves, but I still remember my brother crying to me about how he was afraid he'd one day kill somebody in a rage and I can't not think about how if we all had had therapy at a much younger age, none of us would have been as fucked up as we are today. I don't speak to him anymore since his abuse turned towards me, but I really, really, really hope he gets into some kind of therapy before he DOES kill someone.
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