Comments by "Oblithian" (@Oblithian) on "Dogen"
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Personally, I like to take the approach of confronting the problem immediately before it becomes an issue. Then progressively responding more firmly if it is neglected and becomes larger.
But where I am from, many have become so accustomed to complacency that an unjustifiably large problem is created by merely making mention of a developing issue. Because 'YOU' are the problem, for creating controversy (addressing the elephant).
I get that in many cases people may over-react to small problems, and as a result of their nitpicking or controlling behaviour an over-sensitivity is developed. So reflexively any criticism may be percieved as a personal attack (especially post ~2012 where 'negativity' is so condemned, and to which even constructive criticism is frequently equated).
But as we all know, a likely problem with a risk of substantial detriment is better resolved sooner, and hindsight is an unforgiving b!+¢#. So in order to increase the success rate, I usually try to approach it as delicately as possible. Often, posing thought provoking questions rather than statements. (Too indirect and you are brushed off, too direct and there is rigid defensiveness.) It doesn't take a lifetime to experience these situations from either side, and I also know possibility doesn't equal certainty. So I remain flexible initially, because it is most important that solutions and safeguards be made, not simply adopting my own ideas (for they may not be the best one anyway).
Anyway, with the extensive essay I have bored you with out of the way... I have a feeling my approach does not fit in Japanese culture either. While it may favour net benefit and minimizing consequences in advance, it is also distinctly more confrontational.
In the unlikely event someone else reads this, what are your thoughts? What is your approach, and how do you think it would mesh with Japanese Cultures? Do you know where would be a good fit?
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