Comments by "01ooo10" (@j10001) on "Escape The Trap: Break Free From A Sexless Loveless Marriage" video.

  1. The unpopular answer to your first question — and I’ll take heat for saying this, but it’s the cold hard truth — is that almost all women will become their mother as they get older. It’s biological, and they can’t help it; it’s not their fault. That “sexy chick” you married, the one that’s fun to be around and everyone likes, is going to hit menopause and all kinds of yet-unnamed hormonal changes through her 40s, 50s, and beyond, as well as physical and mental changes from pregnancy and childbirth and breastfeeding, and those changes are going to turn her into her own mother. I’m talking about personality, mental processing, and of course physical appearance. Women on YouTube are going to lash out if they see this comment, but the happy truth is that the universe has given you a crystal ball to see what your girlfriend will become—just take a good, hard look at her mother (and maybe her father, too). If the old lady is ditzy, cranky, a real Karen, bipolar—or whatever it is—that’s what’s coming for the daughter in a couple of decades. On the other hand, if her mother is a patient, kind, productive, creative, supportive, uplifting 50-something (in private and in public), a woman you love spending time with, put a ring on the daughter! Take it from a man who married the love of his life (she was a fun and hot 20-something!) but privately thought the mother-in-law was a somewhat weird, absentminded, oddly self-centered woman who didn’t take care of herself. Guess what my wife has become as she now arrives at the same age her mother was when we got married? Yep. Even at a young, naive age, I had enough foresight to know instantly that I would never want to be married to the mother-in-law, not in a million years. Guess what I have now? I’ve watched this transmogrification happen in slow motion before my eyes over a quarter century, and I have the Ivy League education to understand how the biology and neuroscience make this happen. So trust me, just find an older woman you adore and marry her daughter. Run from any situation that is the opposite! Bonus point: I love my children with all my heart, but I have also come to realize I’m living with more of my in-laws’ DNA inside the walls of my own home than they have in their house! My kids’ DNA is half theirs! It’s obvious my kids are carriers of some predispositions (like we all have) that look astonishingly like the in-laws. Of course, this goes for all sides of the family, mine included. The takeaway: no matter how much you believe in nurture, marriage and having kids is a breeding problem first. Find good breeding stock if you want a happy marriage. It’s not a woman’s fault what hormones and DNA-encoded aging will do to her personality. But now that you know this, it will be your fault if you marry the daughter of a woman you wouldn’t want to be married to. Peace. [Btw this is addressing when you marry someone who has no red flags herself. If you marry someone with red flags of her own, well, that’s just stupid. As most videos on this channel make clear.]
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  2. Yes, I’ve known many couples who have lovely relationships for decades and even until death in old age (my grandparents being one example)
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  3.  @msalvi6302  Exactly!
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