Comments by "Fingers" (@digitalspecter) on "HealthyGamerGG" channel.

  1. Regarding looking out for other people: I've taught my kids to be generous and helpful toward other people (and recognize when someone's trying to abuse your goodwill).. and I just got a good example of what it can lead to. I got suddenly unemployed (big contract got dropped) and was quite anxious about it. Through my friends and ex-coworkers I got 4 job offers within a month... they wanted to help me because I had had their backs. One old ex-coworker even told me that "you were one of the very few people who didn't treat me like trash when I was going through rough times". Don't be a doormat but be kind and supportive. You never know when you're the one in need.
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  2. I've been this way almost all my life as well.. and I feel like it might even be something inherent with ADHD.. I can see how authoritarian parenting will exacerbate it.. but I've been thinking it in this way: ADHD causes our brains to not form habits / routines very easily and our brain is still thinking about alternative ways even after 100th time of doing something.. so when someone tells you that "you must do this".. the first reaction is almost curious "really? do you think there are no other ways?" .. this curiosity can turn into defiance with authoritarian parenting but I feel like the seed is there with ADHD.
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  3.  @Buceesfanmaarten  So, would you say that doing brain surgeries on mentally ill people and turning them into vegetables or locking them up in asylums in inhumane conditions was NOT society failing mentally ill people? If not, you must also recognise that things being better now does not mean that there is no failing anymore. Also, this failing is not just how we (try to) treat the illnesses, it's also in how we value people and their traits. That IS heavily influenced by the socio-economic system that surrounds us. Your failure to recognise systemic problems and brandishing of "personal responsibility" at struggling people is just another example of how people are indoctrinated in the current system and are therefore blind to its shortcomings.
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  4.  @OurWonderland  Wise words. There's the other way of guilt tripping yourself too like "I have a roof over my head and food on my table, what am I complaining about?" That doesn't mean that there can't be trauma, suffering, sorrow, fear, anxiety, depression.. I'm not sure but as a person who always felt like I was "in the way".. I learnt how to become unseen, unheard and generally inconsequential as a child.. and I know people have experienced this in varying degrees.. and that carries to this day to belittle everything that goes on in my life, both successes and tragedies. It takes a lot to start seeing things as they are.. not tinted and biased by our internal self-worth (or the lack of thereof)
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  5.  @LL-wu5ui  I understand what you mean and I agree that there are physical and mental illnesses that we simply cannot overcome at the moment and some individuals are just unlucky. However, that's besides the point that I tried to communicate. The broader problem within society is what we value. We're supposed to be happy cogs in the machine that produces more and more and consumes more and more, we define "success" in life in a way that is in the end not fulfilling. When people see through the pointlessness or break themselves in this treadmill we may try our best to treat the symptoms but we don't question the reasons which causes this growing emptiness. Dr. K talks about this too. For example, suicide rates have risen 50% during the last decade. That ought to be a clear signal. However, that is not so much of a failure of the system that tries to treat these hopeless people, it's a failure in the basic assumptions that the system/society is built on.
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  6. Great video as usual! However, I'd like to expand on the tip number 1. If you're like me and you learn by watching youtube, googling a bit and then 95% by doing. I would say that finding a good book or two about the subject and reading them could be a really good idea. (Good) books tend to be much more focused, comprehensive and systematic about the subject than learning tons of tidbits here and there. So, if you're like me, stop every once in a while and DO read a book.. and then put it in the practice.
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  7.  @LL-wu5ui  I said not everything is fixable at the current time and that some people are just unlucky with the conditions they have. You're talking about one person, I'm talking about society and population. Also, when the system causes food deserts and poor people can only afford nutrient-poor food that causes deficiencies and hormonal imbalances.. you absolutely should talk about what is wrong with the society in that case also.
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  8. Sofo Archon's "The Dark Side of Meditation" talks about this. But good to hear you've greatly benefited from it.
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  9. ADHD father with ADHD sons.. I find myself bouncing between permissive, authoritative and authoritarian .. it's so tough. I have hard time keeping my own life and things sorted out so sometimes I feel like how am I even supposed to be able to help others with this shit. I talk with my kids about living with ADHD and about the struggles we share. I just hope I can give them enough support so they can make it in their lives eventually.. and often I hope they can forgive me my shortcomings as a parent..
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  10. I'm a middle-aged guy from Finland and I think I know what you're talking about.. We were invaded.. and we've heard veiled threats and posturing quite a few times (last week was only the latest of them..) Having that thought nagging at the back of your head, sometimes weaker, sometimes stronger, that you may lose all you have, including your life, trying to steel your mind so that you'll have what it takes to see your kin die and kill other humans if need be.. it can't not affect you... it's like even on the sunniest day there's a dark cloud looming on the horizon..
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  11. Okay I'm only 16 minutes in but so far this is more like "Jimmy doesn't know how to answer a question" . EDIT: it got quite a bit better.. I think Dr K handled that defensive aggressiveness well
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  12.  @megrocks3026  It's good to realize that the life isn't inherently that.. but it's been made into competition. Most likely your inherited definition of success is derived from that too. We should strive to change that.
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  13. What I gathered is that insurance companies fighting against Apple created Jobs.
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  14.  @melodybales2038  In almost every case, revolutions have been successful only when the forces of violence have switched sides.. that said, peaceful protests work much better than violent ones.. because it's much harder to demonize peaceful groups. So, there may come a point those everyday men and women who wield the power of violence cannot justify using violence against their own neighbours, countrymen and they'll switch sides.. that's usually when the dictators fall.. quickly.
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  15. Glad to see a fellow Finn pondering about the same problems.
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  16.  @liljimmy4940  "Authoritarianism is a trait of communism. They go hand in hand" Citation needed.
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  17. One more thing: we shouldn't just be focusing on fixing individuals.. there are mechanisms in our current society that push people into places where their life doesn't seem to matter. Overglorification of money (which is ironically pretty much what "success" means for many people), lots of meaningless jobs, denigrating the contributions of low- or no-wage jobs (that's how you keep the wages low), no value for social (or any other) life.. you're just supposed to be "productive consumer", a cog in a machine.. we're being alienated from what it means to be human and alive.... and told to fix ourselves.
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  18. 34:05 sounds so much like me and I'm pretty sure it's my ADHD.. so ..
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  19.  @t33lx10  I'm not the OP but just wanted to say that I went on an internet-diet. Allowed myself to use internet only for one hour per day from 7pm to 8pm. (of course exceptions could happen if I HAD to do something). Anyway, I started writing down things I want to do on the internet during that period of time and the list was surprisingly short :D First two days were horrible but after that the piece of mind returned and I could do stuff I actually wanted more easily. It also weened me off my phone and that has been a lasting effect. Unfortunately I'm scrolling youtube and reddit again.. I want to redo this.. it was really good for me.
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  20. Yup, it's because surprisingly often what we think is the problem isn't the actual problem..
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  21. Straight to the nerve with this one.. I'm not happy or at peace.. because of my scattered mind. ADHD makes it even worse but I can only accept it. I need to get off Youtube and Reddit. They're the bane of my existence right now.
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  22. In deep depression I saw this contradiction in my mind. On the other hand my brain was like "You're completely insignificant" and "Everything is your fault" .. I was like how can I be insignificant if everything is my fault, isn't that pretty significant? Too bad this realization didn't really help at the moment.
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  23. ttrpgs will rise :D
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  24.  @Maturas  Gulaks and holodomor has nothing to do with communism. I could say that capitalism doesn't work, go look at concentration camps and ethnic cleansing.. but I won't because there are better examples why and how capitalism doesn't work like horrible worker / resource exploitation, massive unequality, boom/crash cycles, alienation, which ARE direct results of it.
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  25. So, what am I then? I'm good with people, I enjoy good company.. but I like to spend most of my time alone. I never miss people.
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