Comments by "alukuhito" (@alukuhito) on "The Japan Reporter" channel.

  1. See? An affair still destroys a marriage in Japan. I've heard countless sketchy foreigners in Japan try to say that Japanese married couples don't mind it if their partner cheats on them, because they see it as purely sexual and not related to love. Personally, I think the kind of people that say this only say it because they want to justify cheating - either cheating they do now, or cheating they'd like to do in the future. It doesn't work that way though. We're all human. Cheating hurts everyone, including Japanese.
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  2. That's weird, because Japanese and German societies have a lot in common, but in Japan a suggestion like that isn't taken seriously and usually means it won't even happen.
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  3. What goes around, comes around. Eventually she'll pay for her horrible behaviour.
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  4. Found the weeb.
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  5.  @p92827  I have no idea what you're trying to say. What martyrs? What game? What makes you happy?
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  6. And yet you were there. I wonder what others thought of you staining their city.
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  7. The second woman is in denial. She knows what she's doing is wrong, but she's saying that it's good because she can put her kid in a good school and take care of him when he's sick due to her flexible hours. You don't automatically become smart because you're stuck in an expensive school. That's like the moms who think by sticking their bratty kids in an eikaiwa class a couple times a week is going to get them fluent in English and ahead of the crowd. It's attitude, not money, that does it.
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  8.  @lonelypigeon7562  Exactly. It is a myth that Japanese couples don't mind being cheated on. Too many people perpetuate it.
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  9. It's better to just love yourself instead of look outwards for love. If someone's meant to come your way, they will. If not, not. Never get attached to the notion that you need sex/love/a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse.
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  10. Until you hit 50 though.
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  11.  @bankgarmozerigravity3165  No parent would be proud of their daughter doing porn. Even the daughter doesn't like it anymore. Would you be proud if your own daughter, sister, or mother did porn? I doubt she's that rich anyway, and what kind of shallow parents are proud of money made from porn? They don't exist.
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  12.  @nikitaw1982  No. If you want sex and your partner doesn't, that doesn't mean you go to someone else. It means you either break up and find someone new or you just accept that you can't have sex until your partner wants to. Don't teach your kids that it's acceptable to cheat. Show strength. You don't always get what you want in life. It's better for a kid to have divorced parents with morals than a cheating parent or parents who stay together.
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  13. No. You don't want to be 50 and going out with a 25-year-old. It's just gross. Not only that, but what 25-year-old woman in her right mind would get married to a 50-year-old man? The rule for the youngest woman to date is half your age plus 9. That means if you're 50, the youngest age would be 34. Anything younger than that, and you're mentally ill.
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  14. It's so sad that some Japanese women think they are less attractive with their natural "one eyelid" eyes, which are actually beautiful.
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  15. If that's sweet to you, I feel sorry for you, obviously not having had much time around decent women in your life.
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  16.  @bankgarmozerigravity3165  You clearly have no children. No parent would want their child to do porn. Save your post though in case you ever do have a kid (unlikely) and show it to them so they can see how stupid their parent is.
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  17.  @balbutie  No. I will always be a foreigner, but not always a tourist. The boy's been here a long time. I've got Japanese friends that certainly don't think of me as a tourist. I'd say the same for the countless workmates and acquaintances I've had over the years. Speak for yourself, tourist.
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  18. "not everyone suffers from illegal sex work" LOL. Everyone suffers. The hooker, the person who uses her, and all else involved.
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  19. She's not a bright one.
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  20. I don't think you know what the word "sweetheart" means. Hopefully you're not a guy, because guys with your attitude get thrown under the bus by women like this. Cute and sexy for the camera. Not so much in real life.
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  21. The "Look at my tits!" sweater. I feel sorry for her parents.
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  22. I bet you anything she'll be dead within 20 years. Anyone who gets into this industry is asking for trouble. A supreme idiot indeed.
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  23. Lonely is a state of mind. It doesn't matter if you have any friends or not.
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  24. The first woman is 44, but she looks 54. I guess that's why she got the MILF roles.
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  25.  @555dai3  Yeah, it does.
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  26. She's so toxic. If she has this attitude towards boyfriends, I bet you anything it carries over to her relationships with family, friends, and at work. She also knows she's in the wrong, or she wouldn't hide her face. One day her tits will sag and she won't be as pretty, and nobody will want to have sex with her anyway. She'll find other ways to manipulate people. She mustn't have been loved as a child.
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  27. Canadians have a lot of pride. Sounds like they were from BC or Alberta if they were complaining all the time.
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  28.  @bankgarmozerigravity3165  I said you clearly have no children.
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  29. Except that they're the ones that you're going to meet, not the other ones. You won't realize she's a gaijin hunter until later.
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  30. Very rare occurence though. Much worse things happen in other countries.
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  31. Porn will always exist because people get horny. It's not really about being for or against it. It's not a good thing, but it exists, just like prostitution. I think people are deluding themselves when they say that it's OK though. There simply is no such thing as a healthy porn industry in ANY country. There are ALWAYS exploited women, diseases, drugs, and suicide. It's unnatural, so it screws with people's minds. I think the people here talking about how this ex porn star is sweet and cute are deluded as well. If you spend your time identified with your body and sensual pleasure, then you don't know who you are. You will be in for a shock when you get older and that body isn't as sexy as it once was. If that was your whole identity, then aging is going to be very painful. It's all fun and games when you're listening to an interview or even doing the interview, but I guarantee that if you actually got involved in porn or had a relationship with a porn star that your mental health will deteriorate, and likely your physical health will too. No amount of warning young girls and guys is going to stop them from getting into porn. It's like smoking. People know the dangers, but still do it anyway. It boils down to values and education. To just be told that something is wrong isn't going to change anything. You have to know through reasoning that something is wrong. That's why you always get people that you'd least expect in porn, like priests' daughters. They've been told what they shouldn't do, but that just makes it all the more enticing. Interview this woman again in 30 years, and she'll likely be dead. It's her profession to make men fall for her, so we naturally like her. You have to strengthen your discrimination though to see beyond the surface.
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  32. These people are never very intelligent. They look like they're counter-culture, but don't be fooled. They're actually more conservative than average. They have this phase when they're younger, but all they really want is to be a housewife so they can take it easy. They are much more dull than their loud exterior suggests.
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  33. My friend did that too. Mid-20s, going out with an older Japanese lady, but she started getting on his case about kids. He stayed with her a little while, then had to get out. Too much too young.
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  34. Not. Gonna. Happen. Get strict with tourists? What are you going to do? Put someone in jail for being loud and arrogant?
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  35.  @curiousnomadic  Bwa ha ha ha ha.
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  36. I don't have much respect for Christians though. They're mostly hypocrites. I'm glad that religion never really took hold in Japan the way the Jesuits wanted.
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  37. It's like 3 people though. There's about 125 million others out there.
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  38. You've been fooled. Most "gyaru" are actually the most conservative type of women you can imagine. They want to be housewives because they're lazy. These become the Karens of Japan.
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  39. And, gasp!..., some selfish, ignorant, and disrespectful people are Japanese.
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  40.  @TheGreatAndYOU  Round round, get around, I get around.
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  41. I feel sorry for that black guy. Being scheduled for an appointment means you're not the only one. Run! Nobody needs a woman like that in their life. Of course there are normal scheduling concerns like work, but if someone can't see you for a month and you live near each other, you're wasting your time.
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  42. You call Rachel and Jun successful? I hate them. They're so annoying and superficial. They just show off their lives. It's dumb. And I'm sure they've got all sorts of skeletons in their closets and other shit in their lives that they hide from public view.
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  43. I think by now, every single person in Japan has met a western person. It's not like Japanese are so dumb that they can't understand that characters in movies aren't real people. Japanese get the news just like everybody else does of all the failed marriages, suicides, and bad behaviour of western celebrities. They meet English teachers and other westerners in their daily lives and can clearly see they are not the same as movie or TV characters. And, in the same way, westerners aren't that stupid that they think Japanese people are like manga characters or J-pop idols.
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  44. Automatic divorce. Daughter? I wouldn't believe it. It would simply never happen.
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  45.  @千本桜-h8y  Stop with the assumptions. I can say a lot more. It's dumb when people file away some opinion of a country being so perfect. Wake up and see the bad too. Also, see the good in many foreigners who visit Japan with respect.
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  46.  @千本桜-h8y  Oh, I'm coping very well, sir/madam. Yes, Japan is very civilized these days. I enjoy living in such a society, which is why I've lived her many years. Anyway, I question the idea that Japan is being "flooded by uncivilized individuals". There are still many uncivilized Japanese nationals. I hope you don't run into any of them, because they can make your life hell. Also, there are plenty of foreigners who add to Japan's value and civility. There are many foreigners who keep the peace in Japan. Also, don't forget that the US's massive military presence in Japan helps keep it a peaceful society. If they pulled out, you'd see a rise in uncivilness.
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  47. Yeah, but most do things unconsciously. You can't instantly know all the nuances of a different country's society.
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  48. You're lost.
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  49.  Anna 20 y.o - check my vidéó  STFU. We're not going to check your video.
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  50. I dated a Japanese girl who worked in the office of a dispatch ALT company that I was teaching for many years ago. It was hot, but she started talking about kids and marriage early on. She didn't directly say "I want to get married and have kids asap", but it was getting boring how frequently she would talk about someone just getting married or someone else who is having a baby. I overlooked a couple of major red flags and still really wanted to be with her, but eventually she broke up with me. I found out about a year later that she had gotten married and already had a baby. It's like some people don't even care about the person they're with. They just want to be married with a child. Your partner should come first. Kids should be the RESULT of loving someone, not the purpose TO love someone.
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  51. Your downfall.
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  52. A reflection of her empty mind.
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  53. "Dark side"... Like there's a light side to it?
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  54. Everyone has different thoughts and beliefs. That doesn't mean you shouldn't call people out for horrible behaviour.
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  55. Every womanizer knows the way to get a woman is to simply pay attention to them. Some women are so starved for attention, that you really don't have to do much at all. Of course vice-versa for women who want to pick up men. Actually, Japan is a goldmine for them as so many Japanese men are ignored their whole life, even when married.
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  56. Like what in particular?
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  57. And like a typical American Goth, they're actually amongst the most conservative people. They almost always end up getting married and having kids in the suburbs.
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  58. The Japanese Christians I've met have always been weird. Usually it's women who just want a western-style life, so they get a foreign boyfriend that happens to be Christian, and then they take the traditional role of being subordinate to their husband, so take on their husband's beliefs. I think that of the type of Japanese people that go to a Christian church, a lot of them are there just because they like all things Western. They think about the things and people they really like, then discover that most of them are Western, so they think, "Well, the religion that informs these amazing people is Christianity, so there must be something better than Buddhism in that religion. It doesn't hurt to check it out." I think it's a real shame that Japan didn't import Hinduism back in the day, instead of Buddhism. Buddhism has great things about it, but it's sort of a bastardization of Hinduism, where the real gold is. It's also a shame that people don't investigate Buddhism more instead of just treating it like some cultural thing, ignoring the good it has to offer. I think like most religions though, the average Japanese person's attitude towards Buddhism is similar to the average Westerner's about Christianity. It's more of a cultural thing, and not something you actually dive into to find its treasures. Most Christians wouldn't recognize Christ if he slapped them in the face.
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