Comments by "p11" (@porky1118) on "You are a 25 Year Old Loner" video.

  1. 20:30 Doesn't work for me like this. If there is a small task, I'm not really motivated to do it. I just think "It's so easy to do that. I could also do it tomorrow.", "I don't have to clean my room up now, I will have to do it tomorrow again anyway.", "I was planning only 20 push ups per week. And it's Moday. I still have some days left. And 20 per week won't affect me anyway.", "I could finish writing my tool now, but I don't even know what I will do then, so I'll just ". The task needs to be huge enough to get me motivated. And when I'm motivated, it will not just be a side task, but my main task for that day. I want to finish it, no matter what. I have to think, it's difficult to get it done, but it should be possible this day/week/month. But in order to finish it, I first have to do this and that and whatever. So I start working, I want to finish it, since I know, I won't when I stop once. I do the first step, the second step, and after some time I realize, I can't do it, it's not worth it, my motivation is suddenly gone. But suddenly my room is mostly clean, and I reordered a few things, even if I didn't get to move my furniture around. Suddenly I'm pretty muscular, even if I only fulfilled half of the intended training I planned. I finished writing some tools and libraries which I can be used for a lot of applications and learnt a few libraries and programming techniques, even if I didn't finish creating the program I originally intended.
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  2. 9:35 I see where this is going. I've been pretty shy, and my mom took a lot of responsibility of things. I still gave my presents to the other person myself, but she always bought it, most of the time without my involvement. Sometimes I prepared something myself, but she still gave the inspiration. Nowadays, when there is a birthday, I don't really care if I have a gift. If I think of it, I tell someone to buy me something. If there's nobody who buys me something, I might buy something myself, but if I'm not forced by someone else or didn't make a clear promise, I won't buy something. And that doesn't only apply to birthdays. I got most of my friends because my mom invited them. I didn't find friends in Kindergarten by myself. I was just walking around and counting up to 100 until the time was up and I could go home again. And nowadays, most of the time I hope other people to do stuff. If someone expects something from me, I might do it. But I almost never do anything I'm not really into by myself. It's even difficult for me to do things I want. But why just me? My brothers are not like this. At least one of them. Not sure about the other one yet. I assume because I've been shy and my brothers haven't been. Even if I'm not shy anymore, my parents probably did more things for me because I was.
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  3. 17:48 „Did your parents even maintain relationships“ Not really. My dad basically doesn't have any friends. And my mom has a few friends, but most of the time is happy if she can stay at home alone.
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  4. 32:50 I don't even have a smartphone anymore and don't really get into conversations at parties or alike.
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  5. 20:00 I instinctively do it correct. I normally think "I'm fat. I could do a bit more exercise (some day)." ;)
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  6. The initial meme describes me besides of three points: - I don't have any self esteem issues, I'm pretty confident in myself most of the time - I still care about where my life is going, there are a lot of things I want to accomplish - I'm already 27 Everything else is pretty much on point.
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