Comments by "avery intelligence" (@averyintelligence) on "Boundaries Don't Work - Here's Why" video.

  1. my narc mom spent her life saying "im ill, i been working really hard, my back hurts, im so tired" whenever anyone would mention that her behaviour has a negative impact on others could be like me: "mom, me and u had a conversation last week that you agreed to wash the dirt you left on the bathroom today" my mom: "please leave me alone, im so tired, i have done shopping and errands today" (guilt tripping) me: "we made an agreement, can you offer any solutions as the dirt is still there" mom: "oh go away, i do so much for you" took me years to realise how emotionally immature she is. theres never any acknowledgement of how others feels. people are confused why i and others can be so 'sensitive' to small issues. when the issues are about trust, respect and transparency. without those 3 things any relationship will be superficial, surface level and never that meaningful.
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