Comments by "Kyle DeVane" (@kyledevane8782) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

  1. A closed hand can't give, nor receive.
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  2. Definitely had issues with the "law of attraction" as it assumes everything is your fault. I even challenged this with looking at what some philosophy says about freewill. Which is why I asked you to review Dr Saplosky's book Determined. I was seemingly ostracized for weighing the two arguments.
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  3. Us vs them: both sides believe they are right.
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  4. As a father of a child with a narcissistic, my child couldn't run away and live with me because her mother enforced the court order of custodial parent. Threatening police ect. It was absolutely horrible.
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  5. I would look into whether we are easy targets for those predatory people, like you mention in another video, and how we can be open to new relationships without being over invested too early; or, atleast build some healthy boundaries that don't require constant guard because someone attempts to push them frequently.
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  6. Another phrase that's common is one by Vicktor Frankel, "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom". Love to here your thoughts on this as it pertains to a controlled behavior.
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  7. Betrayal can be difficult.
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  8. I pushed my grief down since I was 4
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  9. You break this down well! This "derogation of rivals" strategy instead of the "self promotion", probably can be seen in other situations than para social relationships and females too. I think of custody battles and work places because of my own experience. I appreciate you trying to find compassionate advice for each position.
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  10. Jobs being short handed and still vast is hard to believe for this day and age.. The side hustle seems prevalent. Also, thanks for highlighting the reasons to stick it out while building something passionate and creative and useful. That's where I've been stuck for awhile, in the passionate and creative department. "For he who has a why". Nietzsche
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  11. I had many premonitions as a child. I dreamed events before they played out. Some just random things that made me question whether I had lived the identical experience beforehand. Odd to say the least. As far as paranormal, there was always a dark figure in the front window of an abandoned mobile home behind my house as a child. I felt it watching. 5 of us kids messing around with and ojui board one afternoon, the piece moved on it's own and sent us scrambling for the door as a pair of scissors fell off a book case and stuck themselves standing straight up in the linoleum floor. Frightening to this day. My grandmother passed in the house before I was born, I felt her presence. My dad died in the shop below the houses, I felt him many times. Also, I have the same thoughts and ideas as others, at the same times, as others I've felt deep interaction with, almost communicating at a distance. At time when I was alone, I've felt loved ones with me.
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  12. Never reached acceptance until I learned: •that anyone who ever truly loved you would never want you to suffer. •that everything in this world is made of energy, including you and your soul. Energy cannot be created nor destroyed, only changed from one form to another. Therefore, they still exist in a different form. Or in the zero point energy we're all entangled within. •that the only constant is change. •in a technique mental regression self therapy, I sit and comfort my child self.
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  13. Thanks for standing up and speaking up!
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  14. I thought ED was lifelong, and I am glad to hear that there are full recoverys. Glad to hear that these triggers and perceptions can and have changed in many people. Thank you for sharing your story Ana. I pray for those that need hope learn that there is possibility of full recovery. ❤
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  15. John B. Watson, the founder of behaviorism, was not directly paid by John D. Rockefeller himself, but he did work for the J. Walter Thompson (JWT) advertising agency, which had major corporate clients, including those associated with the Rockefeller empire. After leaving academia in 1920, Watson applied his behavioral psychology principles to advertising, influencing consumer behavior for large companies. While there's no clear record of Rockefeller personally funding Watson, it's possible that some of Watson's work in advertising indirectly benefited Rockefeller-affiliated businesses.
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  16. Jung mentioned synchronicity in his work as being mysteriously correlated as confirmations.
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  17. I figured the strict ruling parents, if narcissistic, would enforce their children to emulate their ideal persona. And, this entitled permissive style must mould with simple inflation, not an enforcement.
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  18. I have so much to learn.
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  19. COL, cost of affordable housing, and hypergamy were low at the time. There was more of a collectivism family dynamic where families considered themselves as a cohesive unit. Nowadays, individualism has become the prominent culture. I think that men are fearful of having children due to the fact that they stand to be put in financial jeopardy, and the popularization of using children as a paycheck reinforces that. Also, there's the trend of cohabitation rather than marriage, for those who begin with the end in mind. Many of the values and beliefs have changed; for instance, marriage itself was once believed to be a covenant between the two and God. Not so much nowadays.
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  20. All this is true. Scary, and true. Will the victims ever heal?
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  21. Agree that it's a misalignment that cause cognitive dissonance. When we do something against our values we become insecure and seek validation that a particular act or way is socially prohibited. Conformity causes to maintain the status quo. Authenticity prompts us to stand on our values.
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  22. The yin and yang comes to mind when you mentioned bits of truth sprinkled into teachings.
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  23. Hey, I think that you should read Determined by Robert Saplosky because he speaks to the gestational period of human development. Along with those factors that you mention, socioeconomic, parenting style, human behavior, constructs ect. I wish to hear your review sometime: ) I enjoyed this video, thanks and be well!
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  24. Thanks!
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  25. Do self conscious people experience higher neuroticism?
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  26. Thank you! I loved your work here on Jung! You did a great job!
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  27. The more I watch your videos, the more I love how knowledgeable and informative your are. Some of the best content out here, thanks.
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  28. He who has a why could bare any how?
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  29. Cohabitational relationships typically don't lead to fulfilling relationships.
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  30. I can't do it any longer!
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  31. Aren't we all subject to some sort of condition? I mean it's not a child's responsibility to fix a parent, and we as humans age we become aware that we are limited or hindered to biological factors. It's hard to love people who are vulnerable or even plagued by them and fleeing for quality of life is expected; in retrospect we want to love and be loved in spite of our difficulties.
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  32. Steve 😂
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  33. I think you just explained my life.
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  34. Thanks!
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  35. Arrow toE mania
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  36. This mirroring abuse is not good..
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  37. If they are true, they are no longer conspiracies. If a hypothesis is formed, then proven, is it still a hypothesis? Will you also do an analysis on the psychology of psychologist 😆 loved the video!
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  38. I am increasingly amazed at how intelligent you are.
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  39. Aura
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  40. You're like the smartest person I've ever heard.
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  41. Unrelated: Dr Anna, I just heard about weaponized incompetence. And this put a name to the problem at my work for 20 years🙁 Even the management rationalized the behavior because they didn't directly have to carry the extra load. Can you do a video on a dynamic like this?
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  42. Why are we everything we wish not to be (the shadow self)? That itself implies this innate contradiction doesn't it?
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  43. I read about this once but couldn't remember what it was called. Thanks ❤
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  44. Object of an idea..
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  45. Integration
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  46. "De-catastrophize the fear". Good idea!
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  47. Here's an idea: an evidence journal notebook for parents battling custody. Another journal for exchanging between parents during visitations. Another for estranged children. Include prompts.
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  48. People do leave you, hurt you, and not protect you.
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  49. Is being stoic being more observant, like being passive?
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  50. Quit shoulding all over yourself lol😅
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  51. "Predatory people see you as an easy target" Dr Ana sharing the knowledge! 💯
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  52. I'm excited for this series!
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  53. You're very smart.. I love your thoughts!
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  54. I need a planner to come with, my planner?
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  55. @Anapsychology have you read Dr Robert Saplosky's work? Specifically, his book Determined.
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  56. Thank you Dr Ana! Can you sometime talk about this new book Determined by Dr Saplosky please? And, this is a best video! Saving it!
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  57. Good to know, thanks!
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  58. The stress of being poor
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  59. How the h e double hockey sticks are you so smart! Thanks for sharing though!
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  60. Good tips!
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  61. The term laissez-faire means, in French, “allow to do." It's a passive management style.
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  62. This is an amazing video
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  63. Attracting someone who won't meet your needs by pretending things don't bother is the truest thing that you could say to anxious attachment people. I did that and ended up with a parasitic narcissist. Not a good way to go.
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  64. Good video!
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  65. Alcohol is not the answer.
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  66. I've found myself watching all your videos..
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  67. Love the way your mind works!
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  68. You did a great job! It was well worth it to watch to the end! Thanks!
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  69. Is this akin to Adler's work?
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  70. Lenox Mall. Atlanta! That's where I am!
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  71. Can you be my therapist?
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  72. I understand locus of control now!
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  73. Hey, I didn't know you came from humble beginnings! Me too❤
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  74. Love Dr Ana! ❤️ thanks!
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  75. Oh and please speak your mind on the broader and specific!
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  76. Most of America's jobs have a bureaucracy of manipulation
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  77. So, I need to take your class!
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  78. Protect me from ideas? I think Jung said man doesn't have ideas, ideas have man.
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  79. Boundaries convey a need of health preservation.
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  80. Got it
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  81. Thank you for educating us in the public! Sometimes these happenings are complex, so I really appreciate teaching us to articulate too! Dr Ana, you've risen to a favorite of mine here on YouTube! I watch all of your content now ✨️
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  82. Being an introvert and working for a mach is a rough situation.
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  83. Can you talk about the Biopsychosocial Model, what it is, and how it pertains to our well-being?
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  84. I pray that child watches this video 🙏
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  85. As an introvert, I tend to go over scenarios to discover how I can act to prevent certain outcomes, like homelessness for example. This stoic philosophy would have me accept the inevitable, and not worry. Am I correct?
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  86.  @JustFollowingOrders12  to me it means the opposite of black and white thinking. That said, we can see that nothing is without some of it's opposite.
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  87. Is this the Dunning Kruger effect?
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  88. Hi, I have not read this book; although, I have heard of these memory regression therapies in other coaches work. I like what you said about acceptance of painful memories rather than trying rewriting them. I agree with positive visualization as an adult of your child self. Also, I haven't heard of infantile amnesia; however, I think that I read something to the idea of pre verbal memories existing in Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse (4 books in 1) by Linda Hill. If you can find that info, she writes about it in the beginning of her book. I say that because I've also of others talking about pre natal memories. But, I am not educated formally, and have only watched some videos on it myself. At the time of finding Spirituality, I thought that I meditated and remembered as far back as I could and remembered a couple of memories from birth, even through age 5 and after, that typical adults wouldn't remember. I had experienced the death of my father at age 5, so that could explain my recollection. I love your work, thank you so much ❤️ Oh, I have been following some of the practices that Gabriella Kovalenko teaches, and she recently wrote a book called Falling Up. It's a short book, but I would really like to hear your review, thanks again.
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  89. Are insecurities communicated in the relationship as something they are working on? Is that knowledge of the others insecurities weaponized?
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  90. I have skizo personality type.
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  91. Remotely attached to the kitty
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  92. We have to understand that people get hurt and build maladaptive personalities as a result. Hurt people hurt people.
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  93. Doc, that's why I wanted you to go over the biopsychosocial model. To show how all the elements in our life can contribute to our development.
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  94. Doctor Ana breaks the internet! 😂
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  95. Praying for our fellow humans 🙏
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  96. Over controlled hostility.
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  97. @anapsychology can you create a page where we can pay to ask you questions?
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  98. The red looks good!
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  99. Walk with me in my underworld please?
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  100. I don't fit in the political boxes.. I thought I was a libertarian, but then I realized that I don't like the way our world has put labels on us.
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  101. I assume collectivism in a family dynamic is appropriate.
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  102. Disorders of resistance...not of pain.. agreed, wow
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  103. The cats fight right out of the gate lol
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  104. Yall are a really good couple! Glad you bring your other half on for real life insight!
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  105. Lonely....
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  106. I always called them pseudoships.
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  107. Treat each day as your last; live like it's the first day of your life.
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  108. Highly industrious
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  109. Tell me what you think about the journals I listed below in the comments.
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  110. When beautiful people receive support, encouragement, and validation it generally does have a positive effect on them. The opposite is true.
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  111. I took interpersonal relations and this sounds alot like that.
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  112. Good video. I respect how knowledgeable and confident you are. I wish you were my therapist!
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  113. Can you be cluster B personality without a disorder?
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