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  1. Marriage and having kids is important. However, in this day & age, it's not something that a lot of people find too important. A lot of people these days are more concerned with working. Even if you marry, both might be working to the point where very little time is spent together. If they have kids, then they might spend little time with the kids and depend on like a babysitter or a family member to watch the kid most of the time. Besides that, if people just go straight to dating, it's not a good idea because it's essentially an arranged marriage. It might seem socially or financially a good idea, but emotionally there might not be a connection. If both parties in a marriage are not emotionally connected nor trusting of each other and understanding and accepting of each other's pet peeves, behaviors, etc... That's just a marriage that will likely end up in divorce or just one that is a miserable one. Dating is important because it's basically like a means to gauge each other; see how the couple functions in a public setting. If that goes well, then you'd want to maybe live together for some time to see how the couple functions in a private setting. This is where you really get to know someone for who he/she is; pet peeves, preferences, etc. Everyone acts and does things differently in public. In the privacy of your home, that's where we most likely relax and act 'normal'. If the couple is okay with the 'act normal' part of living together, then the next step is pretty much marriage. Skipping the whole dating and then living together part is just drastically increasing the odds of divorce. In that time, if a child is made, then that just makes things more complicated in regards to child support, and explaining to the kid later when he/she is more able to comprehend things; why his parents are not together. So IMO, going straight to marriage is something I'd rather not do. If it was offered or encouraged, I'd rather not marry and risk complicated things for me and wasting a lot of money & time.
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