Comments by "Liam" (@1495978707) on "HealthyGamerGG" channel.

  1. The main thing that’s made it suck for me is that with all the therapists I’ve talked to, it’s mostly just me telling them what I’ve been doing and feeling. There’s no analysis or trying to help me understand or working towards feeling better. Talking to regular people, introspection, reading, and looking for advice like yours has generally been more helpful than actual therapy. Which btw costs an arm and a leg, and you can’t get an appointment when you need it a lot of the time. I’ve talked to both male and female btw. You’re absolutely right btw about solving problems
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  2. 4:50 But if we do tell you and you betray us, then what?
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  3. Damn I feel so called out… haha. Problem is that it’s a really hard cycle to break out of. And frustratingly, none of the several therapists I saw helped me figure this out
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  4. The reason many men are reluctant about couple’s counseling I don’t think is because of feeling inferior at making a case, it’s because you feel like the counselor, who most of the time is a woman, is going to be biased towards the woman, take her side. Productive couples counseling usually involves trying to change behavior, and this often ends up being one sided. Like “why don’t you do more housework?” And not to the woman “why don’t you see the value in what your man is doing for you?” Consider that most of the time couple’s counseling is initiated by the woman, and why she would be initiating it. Is she doing it because she thinks a mediator would be mutually beneficial, or because it will give her more power to benefit herself? Also consider this: as the man, how can the counselor help you? If you need therapy, you’d go to an individual therapist. If you’re lazy, you won’t want to go because you might have to change. If you’re actually fulfilling your role, then it’s the woman that needs counseling on how to feel ok about fulfilling hers The most common complaint that I hear about that instigates couples counseling is that the man isn’t doing some of the woman’s role in addition to the man’s role. I never hear of counseling happening because the man doesn’t want to protect the woman or provide for her. Seems to me that most of the time it’s because the woman also wants to do some providing, and for both partners to both work and split chores down the middle. The man understands that specialization is more efficient, but also recognizes his woman’s wants and goes along with supporting them verbally, but then instead of focusing on working, he’s gotta spend his evenings doing things, and his woman’s gotta do that too, and so she’s always exhausted and doesn’t want to be intimate. It’s not generally about the woman feeling unsafe because the man isn’t getting the bills paid and keeping her safe
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  5. I would appreciate it if you put doi links to papers you refer to in the description
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