Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "Women Have Made Dating UNBEARABLE For Average Men | The Rise Of Sexless And Lonely Men" video.

  1. Some of them are. While doing my old car thing I meet lots of guys in their teens and 20s, and most of my friends are 30s and up. I am 54, and have watched all of this go down over the last 40 years. Men are checking out, they are not playing the game, and the number of them doing that is growing. It might be a correlation with those of us who have a mind geared towards machines and vehicles, but the more guys I meet the more of them have almost no interest in dating. When I run into a 19 year old guy and he is saying the same things 40 to 60 year olds are saying about women, and he has never heard of the red side of anything, its obvious that its a problem with the females and men are merely reacting to how females are. The guys still playing are the ones who haven't heard any of this we are talking about AND have not had any experience with females. Those guys are desperate and thirsty, and believe the narratives they have been fed about women. Its similar to the guys who have been married for 20+ years, they simply do not know how women are now.
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  2. @@ConontheBinarianI know you're not directing that at me, but I'll expound a bit. They look at me and smile, then look down and away, if you know what that means. Usually I make eye contact and no facial expressions. Then they will start a conversation with me, and I am polite, friendly, and keep my profanity to a minimum. There is this thing that happens often if I am not like that, I get a call from the sheriff telling me I can't go there anymore. Its my physical size, despite being relatively short at 5'8" plus I have lots of muscle and am built like a gorilla, also my military bearing/demeanor terrifies people. Staying quiet agitates people, so I talk to them in a soothing voice, crack a couple jokes, and treat them like I have known them forever. So I am polite and friendly to everyone. If you act 'nice' it usually makes them lose interest. I had a great many assertions made against me without reason or evidence in the past. I've pretty much figured out how to avoid that, and still be allowed in public. Going to jail for things you did not do sucks. Which is also why I don't date.
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  3. @@ConontheBinarian three times in the USAF, all of them in 1990, I got in trouble for saying hello and hi to females who apparently felt I wasn't good enough to speak to them. A beta, who was my boss on shift, had a habit of screwing me over. He overheard me talking with one of the cool females I worked with at the start of Desert Shield. She and I ripped on each other while working, she was hilarious and burned me often, she was married and I was engaged so we were friends. He overheard a retort from me and decided to make a federal case about it. Then three other females said I spoke to them. Its military custom and courtesy to extend a verbal greeting, in uniform or not. My solution was to stop speaking to them unless it had to do with the mission or work. I was never alone in a room with military females, and did not consider dating any of them. Not even when a seriously good looking one was trying her best to get me to give her the smash in Kuwait back in 2001. She did everything except come out and state she wanted me or start removing items. Then of course the two ex wives making things up, which is par.. the second one had me thrown in jail for two weeks based only on her assertion with her new boyfriend. The first financially destroyed me, and still blames me for all her problems and we have been divorced 22 years. I keep females at arms length now, but if I find one that seems like she won't do that to me, I will spend time with her. The last one was 2015 to 2019, she and I are still good friends. She wanted me around to teach her sons how to be more masculine, and the younger one made good on it. That kid is a monster now, senior in high school, two time state champ wrestling, and he won a tournament in another state over the weekend. She earned her place in my life, she honestly did, and I enjoyed teaching her kid how to be a better man. The only woman to ever treat me well the entire time we were together. She didn't know my real name for over a year, she understood why I was reserved about it. If she wasn't pudgy and 7 hours away, it might have turned out lasting longer. So I know good ones are out there, but they are so freakishly rare that I don't bother looking for them.
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  4.  @SartorialisticSavage65  yeah some of them do, I usually do depending on the expression they have. If they are afraid, I talk to them and make some jokes, put them at ease. I live in a rather rural area, largest town within 3 hours driving time is 26k people. I did the same thing when I was stationed in Charleston SC 20 and 30 years ago, and in Germany 30 years ago. If I don't want to be bothered, I don't start anything. Also, probably same as you and every other man in the world who isn't a 6'5" millionaire, if we don't open them, nothing happens. Here's a curious thing to ponder. If I were over 6' would I have developed such a high degree of being able to talk to them? If I had my ability to talk to them that I have now, and I was over 6' then just about any female that doesn't have more money than me would be like putty in my hands. I developed the ability to talk to them BECAUSE I am just under average height. My massive confidence comes from competition, wrestling, warfare, military, drag racing... I've done things many people can't, and I know what I am capable of. That comes from having a difficult and arduous life, and most tall guys don't have that. They don't have to work for some things, whereas we short guys do. Chicken and the egg... Its interesting to think about though. I watch these channels for something to do and think about. I've had my share of poooooon, several times over. I share my experiences so other guys know that they aren't the only ones dealing with this, that all this stuff can be overcome, and that persistence with determination pays off eventually. Keep slogging through hell and eventually you come out the other side stronger than you were before. I'm a gearhead, I like to build cars and trucks, then go racing. Thats why I am not leaving the US, tuna scented whistlesacks aren't enough reason for me to stop doing the car thing.
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  5. Its difficult to trust them when the majority of women who want you are married or have boyfriends. Having them facetime their boyfriend while riding me, trying not to laugh or cough, but making her roll her eyes back a little. Watching them text their guy as I'm behind her, telling him how much she loves him and wants to see him later that night... I was looking for the long term thing, family, memories together, and improving our lives and that of our kids. I was NOT looking to have 150 to 200 of them open up for me. That kinda happened, because I was always looking for one to be with me on my life journey. Didn't have the internet 35 years ago, didn't have anyone telling us all this stuff until ten years ago. You guys get the benefit from us old guys who learned all this the hard way. What the guy with the clipboard says is exactly right. Apparently for 30 years of my life I was a 7-8, surprising for a 5'8" guy without much money. It was relatively easy for me to get women, but very few of them wanted to keep me around for any length of time. I was the 'fun' man, checking off boxes for them, muscles, uniform, bad boy, etc. The gray blue eyes and deep voice really helped too. In my 30s the hotness of what I could get jumped up by a lot. In my 40s it went up again. I was getting 20 somethings all the time in my 40s, and I had a soft harem of 5 to 8 I could call up and get with. The 2.5 years between my LTRs/marriages I had that going on and before I got married to some extent. Having some smoking hot one eyeing me as I walked around with my daughter when she was a teenager was a new thing for me in my mid 30s. My kid is same height as I am, and got a rack from her mom, long blond hair, so everyone thought she was with me. The 40+ crowd of females gives me dirty looks when I am out with my kid, I smile back at them, they could have had a kid this cute too... if I was the father. heh... I was surprised by it to be honest, since everyone said men over 40 are unwanted. Now I am 54, I try to NOT be attractive to women by keeping my belly, but now I need to get rid of it so I can fit between the bars of the roll cage in my drag car. That and the blood pressure and how much my feet hurt after standing/walking just needs to go away. Still get 20 somethings flirting and hittin on me, the 30 somethings are looking for a wallet to plunder and they can tell I am not that guy, then the 40 somethings and up smile at me in public and hope I will talk to them, judging by their body language. Then they see I am wearing the clothes in which I work on my cars, oil stained, ripped up a bit, and they assume I am broke. The $300 redwing boots are completely overlooked by most of them. Then if its summer they see me get in the 1970 Cuda or 1965 GTO and I bet they wonder what the hell is going on. My winter beater 2000 Silverado is the perfect disguise. Its maroon with a silver bed, because the maroon bed rusted away and I put on another one. Its beat, rusty, and loud. Runs great with 196k on it. They don't see the other 25 Pontiac muscle cars I own, the 3 vintage Fords (two mustangs and a Cougar), and the vintage trucks, like the 1950 chevy, and 76 and 84 C10s. If I hook up with one, I lose time and money I could be investing in my vehicles. Can't be having that, I need to get things done before I reach my expiration date. Can't trust them as far as I can throw them. I have been the side guy far too often so I know better. However, I really enjoy getting busy, and when I get a hot one I want to keep doing it with her. Can't trust myself sometimes, I will drop what I am doing and go get some, its a lot of fun when you're 50 and nailing some chick 3 years younger than your 27 year old daughter. My kid laughs at me, and she sees how women react to me when she is with me somewhere. The strange thing is I never have and still do not think of myself as attractive. Yet here I am gray and pudgy with lots of muscle being obscured, and I still get attention from them. Its never made sense to me.
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  6.  @Victor-it6bv  cope with what? Knowing females are delusional and encouraged to be that way? Sure, I guess. Its more productive to simply ignore it and go on with your life and build something.
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  7.  @davidli7829  good luck to ya, I'm not telling anyone to give up, but they need to realize women here cannot be trusted. In the US, you are going to find it difficult, the only demographic with lower general smv than Asians is basketball females. I think that sucks, a lot of my friends have been Korean and Japanese, wonderful people. Have had lots of Filipinos for friends too, along with the guys from Guam they were the best people to have around in the military. Most loyal bro's I've ever had. Get jacked, it helps. Get a wife from Asia, thats even better, and don't bring her to the states.
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