Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "Why Nice Guys Turn Into Bad Boys" video.

I was the kid nobody liked, its a long story, but it was out of my hands for the most part. I got into wrestling and that changed my life, I got muscle and became a dangerous man. I was 17 when I had studied them enough to get some, that was 1986. I started out being not only unwanted, but everyone mistreated me. Never was a 'player' but I got a lot of them after gaining the muscle and learning what not to say and how to treat them. Out of the couple hundred, only 3 came out of clubs/bars. Most were cold approach or social circle. For the last 20 years most of them who hit on me have been married. Can't trust em.
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The one who cares the least is the one who runs the show in a relationship. They are strange like that, its playing on their massive insecurities. They have a need to be wanted, we don't.
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@Chizuru_Fan if it has not happened to you, and you believe how wonderful they are, yeah... you aren't going to believe it. Just like you wont believe that the most interest I get is from the ones who are 20 to 30 years younger than me.. and I will be 55 soon. Won't happen to you, most likely, but its happening to me, and has for some time. No I am not wealthy nor do I appear to be in any way.
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@nicky640 the point is they are NOT your priority, YOU should be your priority. The path you want to travel in your life, goals you want to achieve, things you want to do, places you want to go. They can follow along with you if they want, but they are NOT why you do things. If you make them your priority, they will not stay long. Its the rare one that will stick around anyway, most will take off and do whatever they feel is best for today, with zero concern for you or how it affects you. Why is that? Because YOU are not their priority, they are self absorbed and will do what is best for them with zero qualms about you. Sacrifice yourself to them if you want, but I prefer to live in doors, sleep in my bed, and not be subject to their whims.
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@briggsc4 it changed my life.
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@bpint695 its funny you say that, because I fake being nice all the time. Last week I was talking to one of the guys who works at the grocery store I frequent, and told him why I am so friendly and kind while I am in there. Its because if I show my true self, the military trained all business man, I get calls from the sheriff telling me not to go there anymore. So I am polite and kind to people, like letting someone with a handful of things go ahead of me in line when I have a cart full of stuff. Well one of the 33 year old not men, was privy to our conversation, and yesterday when she saw me, everything about her had changed. Her body language, her demeanor, her expressions.. she was showing massive interest, because now she knows I am playing a role (the nice guy), so the incongruency with how I look and how I act was removed. She had minor interest before, but it was ramped up significantly yesterday. However.. there is also a thing where they are far more attracted to me the week before their monthly thing. So she is probably starting that soon. During that time and the week after, they have the least interest in me. I learned that many years ago, and it has been a constant with minimal variables. The reason they like me in the first place is the muscle, deep voice, and the hyper masculine facial features.. even though I try to look like my name implies on here and I don't dye my beard, its mostly gray. Other people in line picked up on her reaction to me.. it was most amusing.
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