Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "How To Predict Divorce Or Failed Relationships With Near 100% Accuracy" video.

Damn right man, bring that hammer.
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Its not up to you. It doesn't matter so much what YOU do. The choice is not yours if she will stay or leave. Sure, date with intention, look for that long term quality relationship, and at any time she can decide to trade you in for cash and prizes... and those prizes and that cash is taken from you and awarded to her no matter what she does. In essence you are putting her in control of your future, finances, and life, because she can ruin all of them on a whim.
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My second ex wife was a 21 year old virgin from a two parent family that was rather well off. She was quite smart and could keep up with me in discussions we had. Her values and mine aligned a great deal, we were looking for the same things. She was very homely, but she stayed thin and I liked who she was so I overlooked her crooked teeth, flat hair, and how she wore flannel pants and hoodies most of the time. She was very good and adventurous between sheets, and she tried her best to make my life better. We never had fights, we argued about esoteric subjects for fun, and the spicy fun time was several times a week.. right up to the day she decided to step out. She tried not to spend my money frivolously, but it was still expensive to have her around, food, gas in her vehicle, insurance, etc. She was costing me about $2k per month just to have her around, thats how much I had left every month once I kicked her out. Other than her looks, she was wonderful for 9 years. We got married just before we were together 9 years, and just 16 months later we were divorced. As long as she knew I could leave her for stepping out or breaking the three rules I had, she acted right. Once she had commitment, she decided to eat a bowl of st*p*d flakes and ran off with a desperate sot who showed interest in her. The previous love interest of his was a 36 year old alone mom who at 5'4" weighed around 250lbs. Her brother and father had to run him off because he kept pursuing her despite her telling him to GTFO. He was 24, my ex was 30 and I was 44 when we divorced ten years ago. They lasted 3 or 4 years, then he moved to Montana and now she is alone, unwanted, and her mom pays all her bills since her dad passed back in February. My ex chose poorly.. there was nothing I could have done, or could not have done, to prevent what she did... other than getting married, which was more so she could get health care than anything else. Contrasted with my first ex, who was bipolar, the second one was very good to me, was vetted and proved herself for 8 years. The two could not have been more different, but they did the exact same thing in the end. The first was the doorknob to the town, I had no idea because I had just moved there. Her bipolar seeped out and after two years together it was a living nightmare. I don't date anymore, not looking for a woman at all. I dated a few hundred women in my life, before and between my marriages, both of which went 8-9 years. I find they are all running the same program, but they think they are all unique and different. The wrapper changes, the mind inside of it is still running that same narrow and easily predictable program.
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@oakinwol and here you are advocating that young men risk their livelihood, financial future, and the pain that comes with kids being kept from them out of spite. You are right that society will collapse without strong families. The problem is you keep blaming men for the demise of families and completely ignore the fact its overwhelmingly women who destroy families and toss the father out. She doesn't even need a reason to do it, she can just feel like it, and she will be rewarded. HE ALWAYS HAS TO PAY. She is rewarded for bad behavior he is punished regardless, and you want young men to just hop up there and place their necks on the block. How about ya fix the laws first? Work on that rather than shaming and blaming men for the shortcomings of women.
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@BoffinGrusky I am not disagreeing with you, I am offering a warning to men out there who think they are different, that it won't happen to them. You can try to mitigate it all you want. Prenups are thrown out all the time, and trust me the judge and courts will side with her far more often than with you. Nothing she does negatively impacts her, everything she does and everything you do negatively impacts you. I was held accountable for things my first ex did two years after the divorce was final. She had no money so they came after me, and they did not care that 71% of my gross was going to her, they demanded I pay for her poor choices when she was not married to me. If you want a wife, kids, family, and don't want to risk having your kids taken from you and kept from you by a vindictive ex who stepped out but blames you for all her bad actions.. then go to Asia.
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@BoffinGrusky I'm not on that one, I hang out with the guys who are doing their thing. I am too old to risk another one, not enough years left to rebuild again when a judge gives her everything I built. Since I own my land, home, and everything else without debt after great sacrifice, I am disinclined to risk it on a woman. Most of my stories are horrific or tragic, a few are amusing. Its like Forest Gump except he doesn't end up a millionaire, get the medal of honor, or receive accolades of any kind. The more intelligent shrinks I met through the VA have mentioned they are amazed I am still here considering everything I have been through, and the mistreatment inflicted by so many others. When I tell people about my life, they usually get depressed, or they feel a lot better about their own lives. Some have had it worse, much worse, but they don't talk about it. I share my stories to help others avoid the mistakes I made and the traps I fell into.
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@BoffinGrusky scroll down until you can see my comment on the video, rather than on other comments. If youtube allows it to be seen. That will give you a little more insight, if its not hidden.
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I am close to your age, I am 54. I've been divorced from my second wife for ten years, and 22 years from the first. I have stopped bothering to ask any of them out, but I get plenty of attention from them. There is a 27 year old and a 24 year old, both are average looking, the younger is slightly heavy, about 15lbs, maybe 20 and she'd be quite nice, who flirt with me and try to get me to ask them out. They will not stick around for 30 years. The women today are not like your wife and my sister's in law, they are not loyal, nor are they faithful, they will trade you in on a whim because they are told they can do better. Our generation is the last to have long relationships like that as the default. These young guys will never have that, and if they do have one stick around, it will not be without her running around on them, and they just accept it.
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@BoffinGrusky I've been overseas, starting in 1989 and the last time I was out of the country was 2004. Been around a bit. I can tell you how they are in Europe, both ends of Asia, mid east, Africa, and all over the US. Thailand, Laos, and the Philippines are your best bet. West Africa is second best, but they are willing to do about anything to get out of there, which means you can't trust them as much. Thing is you do not want to bring her back here. I was engaged to an Arab woman in 1990-92, she ended up married to a German, got divorced after 20 years, and she came to visit me back in August. The 20 years she spent in Germany changed her, she was no longer the pleasant, enjoyable to be around feminine woman I knew. She spent the first two days nagging and berating me like I was her henpecked ex. We were friends for 30 years, and in one morning she managed to throw all of that away. The west is the problem, because it has been infiltrated and subverted. That has made our women undesirable because of their attitudes and profound lack of loyalty.
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@oakinwol you're right, these guys don't know. Those of us who do know how relationships are supposed to work, and how women destroy them, are not dating or even asking women out, many of us don't even speak to them. I am not that far along, except military women, because saying hello to one and hi to another nearly cost me a stripe. However these guys are spot on 100% correct about one thing, women are not to be trusted.
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@oakinwol thats rich, you blame all men and completely ignore the fact that women file for the vast majority of divorces. You're the problem and all you want to do is cause young men to become cynical.
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@someoneelse9059 My divorce rate is 100%, it would be zero if I had never been daft enough to sign the paper. My life would have been a lot less stressful, and probably vastly more successful too. Since my kids were poisoned against me by their mother, its like I never had any except for the years I lost with them paining me decades later.
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