Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "Has Feminism And 'Hoeflation' Destroyed Dating In The West?" video.
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I do not apologize unless I have done something heinously wrong, which I try not to do out of honor. I stand by what I say and do, and I mean what I say and do, though I often use sarcasm to get a point across.
I sure as hell do not apologize for being male, or being masculine. If someone doesn't like it, well that is their problem, I am who I am and I am not changing to suit them. However, I am not an unbuilt, un-accomplished, untested, average man. The just be yourself thing doesn't work, you have to be better than you were yesterday, and better than others.
Who I am is who I intend to be, not what I am by default.
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Its not worth the effort to bother with females. Buy land, build a house, get energy independent, the largest expense of your life will be energy. Food, fuel, heat. Far more people expire from cold than from heat. Learn skills, how to do things so you don't have to pay someone else to do it for you. Continuous learning, the more you know the more valuable and useful you are, and the less dependent you will be.
Live for you, care about you, because nobody else will. They will try to take what you have built, trust me... thats what they did to me.
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@masterblaster1502 its not just those guys. I saw this every time I was stationed overseas, going all the way back to the 1980s. Picture this:
You're in a country that does not share your language.
3000 to 6000 single men on base.
200 to 300 single women on base.
Most of the men are in very good physical condition.
The number of times an attractive man will say hello, flirt, or give attention to the females in a day is astronomical. Just from attractive men saying hi, she will get an inflated ego, and assume she is the hottest thing under the sun. Any man who does not measure up to her now lofty standards, is seen as beneath speaking to her.
That process takes less than a year to be complete, and every 2 will believe she is a 10, just from verbal greetings in passing. We called it golden kitty syndrome. Using the P word instead. (GPS)
The other thing is what happened in Korea 20 years ago, I was there 2002-2003. I hd stopped speaking to military females way back in 1990 after the first three asserted my hello was untoward.
During the process of briefings for the new base, the men and women were separated. An NCO from medical came out and told us men flatly. DO NOT SLEEP WITH MILITARY FEMALES. He said go off base and meet Russians, Filipinos, and Korean ladies.
The reason being is that all the women on base will stay on base, because they have ZERO value in Korea, nobody off base wants anything to do with them. They are relegated to the men on base, and they will forget they are married within the first two days of getting there.
Because of the GPS, they would ALL hook up with the same ten to twenty men on base, the tallest, hottest, most promiscuous men who can take several of them back to his room every night if he wants and have them all. Yes, that happens.
What happens when they are all sharing the same men who are the most attractive? Well one of those guys goes slumming off base, picks up a passenger that gets spread to the other females on base, who give it to the other guys who are daft enough to hook up with military females, and suddenly every female on base is in the medical building getting smeared and cured. Five or six guys catch it along with the one who brought it in.
Today its in the rest of the world. Women can get that verbal greeting from millions of men. A dating app is where men have to fling messages to hundreds of them a day just to get one reply.
Take 2000 men, making 100 to 300 messages a day, and suddenly the females are inundated with attention. Now make it the billion or so people on that app, sending messages. The 300lb mom of two I know gets 300 to 600 messages every day, and you can see on her pic she is not tiny.
Its not so much thirst as it is the way its working, men have to 'hello' and 'hru' thousands of them to get one to simply reply. They don't know any better, and they keep doing it because they have no other options. Every so often a 'female' will reply, but its usually a bot... just to keep him there and entice him to pay to be able to message more of them.
20 years ago I got lots of them on the apps, because not many people were using them. I haven't used any online thing since 2014. I met one woman on there who wasn't repulsive in person, and we saw each other until 2018. She and I are still friends, because she is cool. I got her because I was funny, didn't do the hey bb hru thing, and I knew the difference between innuendo and double entendre. Mastery of language really helps.
Now you could say its my age that makes it useless to use online dating, and in some ways thats correct. They see 54 and even worse 5'8", at which point they nope out of there. However, in person, I get a ton of college age women flirting, hitting on me, and wanting to get to know me. You should see old women's faces light up when I say hello or even acknowledge they exist in stores. I get LOTS of smiles and submissive looks.
The problem online is there are just too many people saying heybb too often, because eventually it might work.. sorta.
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@chrish2112 do you know what it takes to find yourself above average?
1 year of dedicated heavy lifting
6 months of going out and speaking to women to get used to it and build confidence.
Being clean cut and well dressed. (something I rarely did, the bad boy thing worked for me)
Don't act or think desperate, build confidence by doing physically difficult things.
When I want to avoid women, like I have for the last 5 -10 years, I dress so I look like my name on here, NOT so they can see the muscle I have. I wear baggy cheap clothes from Menards and Tractor Supply. I don't trim my beard. I try to look shabby. At that point it doesn't matter what I am driving, they ignore me.
When I want them to see me I wear a T shirt that fits tight around the chest and has short sleeves that let them see my upper arm. I trim my beard and shave my hair into a high and tight, skinning the sides and back. usually its black T shirt and jeans. Like I said, bad boy thing. Big arms and chest, big rough hands, driving a 1965 GTO that makes lots of noise, or the bright lime green 70 Cuda, then I get a ton of attention.
The cars are an extension of who I am, not a status symbol nor trying to be something I am not or by having a flashy car. I have built and driven those kinds of cars since I got my first one at 13 way back in 1982. I have a lot of them..
Build muscle, wear your hair so you don't look unruly or unkempt, and walk like you are the baddest mofo in the valley, because you KNOW you are, since you have been tested in competition. Trust me, they will notice you.
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