Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "This Guy LOST IT "I spent $20,000 on OnlyFans"" video.

  1. What you're seeing is guilt. He was trained to feel guilty about nearly everything by a strict religious family. Not exactly a bad thing, but it can have consequences and there are better ways to raise kids than instilling guilt as the prime mover for obedience. Want to know who were the wild unrestrained people who made lots of poor choices when I was in the USAF and living around the US/world? It was the preacher's kids. Every PK I have known has been through a period of their lives where they rebelled against the parents and religious rules. Some Amish communities push kids out to the world without support so they can see what its like, and that usually removes any notion of wanting to stay out here, but they don't seem to be like the evangelical types who seem to have this problem in droves. If the family is strict, the chances the kids will fall prey to things like online spicy stuff is higher. They don't have the skills/tools to deal with it, and they are the ones who find themselves compelled to engage in the illicit behavior. All they have is guilt, and it crushes them. This kid is messed up by what he has been doing, that is plainly obvious. But he has the added guilt, that is making it worse for him. There is a strange euphoria that comes with doing something illicit and forbidden when you're in your teens and twenties. I remember having it when I was about 12, and learning how things worked and the obvious reasons for spit tails. The kid in this vid was kept away from this sort of thing, and told he would be thrown in a fiery lake for eternity if he looked at it. There are better ways to keep your kids from engaging in less than brilliant activities. He needs to deal with that guilt first, because if he doesn't he will relapse over and over and have a miserable life. If you're one of these young guys who found the spicy sites early in life and have a religious upbringing: Deal with the guilt first, until you have the skills to handle that, you will not succeed. After the guilt, you need to work on discipline and will power. You do that through self talk, mildly chiding yourself when you have errant thoughts. I used that method to deal with my PTSD, to keep me from getting irrationally enraged at perceived thrteats. It works, but its difficult. For somewhere around 3 years I worked on rewiring my mind so it didn't go down the rage path under stress. You retrain your mind to go to better places, and like Bo said, physical work helps with that immensely. Work out, lift heavy stuff, go for hikes in nature and retrain your brain. The spicy stuff is just the symptom of much larger issues, and its entirely in your head. Some people catch bad habits easily, smoking, drinking, other harder things, this subject.. whatever. Some of us are not as prone to it. The more you deal with early in life, the easier everything else is later, aka been there, done that. The easier and softer your life is, the harder it is later when you run into that problem for the first time. My family never had a hang up about that part of life, mom and dad had six kids so they were gettin down often. When dad passed in 2020 we found his 'stash' of rather interesting things, think leather and rope. All of us kids are well adjusted, my parents didn't try to keep everything away from us, but they also did not over share. We were never made to feel guilty about that part of life, never told it was bad, just that it was private and not something you want to spread around and flaunt. The oldest three of us don't smoke, but the younger three smoke. The oldest and youngest have issues with drinking, the rest of us don't. The two of us who went to the military have PTSD, mine is from the oldest trying to delete me, so I have other issues and am far from perfect, despite having very few vices if any. I've never felt guilt. Thats because of how I grew up, lets just say it wasn't pleasant (daily terror for most of it mostly due to my older brother), and I have been twice diagnosed by VA shrinks as a sociopath. Its not as bad as it sounds, we just have to try/make an effort to feel empathy, we have no remorse nor guilt, but I have a code or set of rules I live by, and it overlaps with society to a large extent. Also have PTSD which brings its own set of 'fun' things. As such I do not have an issue with spicy stuff, no guilt dragging me down, no problems with the equipment not working, I VERY much prefer the real thing. I had an exceptionally high spice drive from about age 11 to 37, and it caused me to make some bad choices in who I got with, and what I would put up with. Thankfully now I don't have much drive, almost no interest and that whole system is now a 'maintenance' issue more than an amusement park. It works flawlessly though, which is the maintenance at work.
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