Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "How To Embrace Your Masculinity | Kids Shows" video.

  1. Respect is earned. It is not given. Being polite is not the same thing. Being cordial is not the same thing. Giving respect to people who have not earned it goes nowhere good. These days saving the damsel is a good way to get shanked, and often she will turn on you if she is involved with the person doing whatever it is. I have two daughters, I have armed them with good judgement and long distance hole punches accompanied by training in how to use them effectively. I am polite and will open doors for people. I will also extend a verbal greeting to others if they seem amenable to it. I am cordial and often try to make cashiers laugh, because they have a rough job and deal with irritable people every day. They still have to earn my respect like everyone else does. If women want to have the treatment they used to get from 'gentlemen' then they need to start acting like ladies. It does not begin with men, it starts with women being gracious, acting feminine, being polite as well, and not acting entitled. When they do things like the ones making videos in gyms lately to shame men, they prompt us to all ignore them. The legal system makes us VERY disinclined to be helpful or even acknowledge that ladies exist. Likewise the legal system is driving men away from women. If you want men to marry, you must given them positive incentives to do so, not threats and negative reinforcement. When they can lose everything they have worked to build and invested in, just because she decides she wants to divorce him, that is disincentivizing men. Change the laws and the application of them, or watch more and more men walk away, ignore women entirely, and leave civilization to circle the drain. Until the 'conservatives' grasp the fact that men are being punished for simply being men, none of this will make a difference. Because we are logical, and if we get our hand burned by sticking it in the fire, we won't put it in the fire again. The men around us who see us get our hand burned, will also not put our hand in the fire. To put it in a different metaphor. If there is a busy street with excellent ice cream on the opposite side of the street, but 40% of men are hit by a bus crossing the street, most men will forego the ice cream, no matter how amazingly delicious it is. When 80% of men get hit by a bus, the ice cream will only get the fastest men who are lucky enough to cross the street. The problem with this metaphor is that bus can hit you ANY TIME in your marriage. it can be a day into it, or several decades, he still gets hit by the bus and she is rewarded for hitting him with the bus. Lastly... Like JP said, a peaceful man is one who can inflict harm upon others, but refrains from doing so. If you're incapable of inflicting harm, you're not peaceful, you're harmless. This is lost on most people as they assume they are capable of great harm, when in fact they are harmless.
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  2.  @TheAnglicanFundamentalist  Jordan Peterson.
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