Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "Manosphere"
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Yeah... I know my masculinity is the most attractive thing about me. The rough hands, the cool vehicles I built and drive, the things I do, the stuff I know, the places I have been, the muscle, my deep voice, the achievements in war and peace. All the ones who cheated or broke it off, wish they hadn't now that we are all in our 40s and 50s.
Doesn't mean they all get a chance, in my younger days they did.. not anymore, because I have better things to do than support someone who doesn't deserve it.
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@jodi2847 how ya figure? I have gamed since video games came out in the 70s. I have also traveled the world, been divorced twice, served in two wars, built my house, my shop, and the muscle cars I drive all summer. My life would be vastly improved if I had never married either of them, and did catch and release, test drives, and target practice. Women are simply not worth the effort, risk, and expense.
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The last one I hooked up with (I am 54 and never commit after two divorces) was cool, she didn't want me to be a dad to her sons, but she wanted them to see what a masculine rough hands male is like. She earns more than I do, and we are still friends 5 years after it ended. She is the ONLY one I am still friends with, because she earned it. She knows she isn't super hot, I like em between 4 and 7.
I got through to the younger one, and he is following the pursuits I followed.. wrestling, building vehicles, lifting, competence, capability, putting in effort to get what he wants. He spent a few weeks total in the 4 years I was tappin her, we played games together and talked about stuff, like what it is to be a man.
She and I talk a couple times a week, and the kid is a monster in his senior year just destroying kids in wrestling. I made a positive change in his life. Winning..
His mom decided to break it off because there is 7 hours between us, I would never commit, and she wanted someone closer to her who made more money. She cycles through them every 16 to 20 months. Thats how long they hit it before quitting it. Its a pity I didn't meet her 30 years ago when she was 20.
Avoid them, but if you want to live dangerously with an easy one... Hit it and quit it, but NEVER commit to one. Wrap that rascal, take it with you when you leave. They are broken, damaged, and far too much risk.
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@drawmaster77 I get those types hitting on me too, and then others who are attractive will as well. Then they start talking, and in trying to impress me they tell me all the unsavory things they have done.
They hit on us differently, they put themselves in our field of view and hope we approach them. If they come up and start talking to you without being employed by the establishment you're patronizing, then she is probably hitting on you. They leave themselves plausible deniability, so they can say they weren't interested and didn't do anything when they discover they don't like us.
I have older women hit on me (I am 54) when I am driving my old muscle cars, more often in the GTOs than the Cuda. Chicks all like the green on the Cuda, but its too effeminate or something for me to drive it. What they are interested in is obvious, my wallet, not me. So I play along, wind them up a bit, but never follow through.
They are not worth the effort around here.
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I try to look broke, wear my work on the car clothes when I go into town for groceries. That way when I get out of my sublime green 70 Cuda or pearl blue 65 GTO, they don't try to crawl in my wallet. I have been retired since 35, I am 54 now. Take home for me is over $60k, so just under $100k if I paid taxes. I live in the woods, on 13 acres of land, in a two story house I built myself, and I have 30 or so muscle cars and hotrods.
Zero debt and I just finished the build on my latest toy that has 700+ hp/tq NA, and when I throw some boost at it, 2000hp under 20psi is easy.. Occasionally I will give a woman a chance, offer to take her out. They are eager to hand out their number, but then they flake or don't want to do anything. They get one chance, only one.
So far since 2018 none of them have passed the test.
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About the 'manifestation' thing... They are not manifesting anything, what they are doing is trying to change their behavior and focusing on something. They put a bunch of woo into a rather simple concept to pretty it up.
I competed in combat sports from 14 to 21. Mostly wrestling, and I got good at it eventually. If you want to become proficient, you need to focus on that for a while. Started out I was 4'9 and very weak, due to a diet I was on that stunted my growth. I focused on getting better at wrestling, getting stronger by pushing myself harder in practice and while working on the farm. When I graduated at 17, a month before I turned 18, I was the strongest male in the school, including teachers. I was bench pressing 265lbs while weighing 170-175. I am 5'8 but I became more than everyone else through focus and effort.
I am big into old muscle cars from the 60s and 70s. Finding them and parts for them takes a certain amount of focus. I look for parts I want or need, and I change my behavior to make it easier to find those parts. I get to know people who have similar interests, and they pass along info to me about the parts I am looking for when they find them.
People know I am looking for Pontiac engines, cars, etc. So when they find them, I hear about it. I am known as the Pontiac guy because of how obsessed with them I am. I own four GTOs, 1965, 69, 70 and 72. I have eleven Firebirds, four of which are Trans Ams, the rest are Formulas which have the Trans Am engine but not all the bells and whistles, so they are lighter and usually faster.
When you focus on something you change your behavior and your thinking so that you can get where you want to be. If you are driving and you look at a chicken in the ditch, most people will tend to steer the car towards what they are looking at. Its a natural tendency. People steer themselves towards what they want and focus on.
If you want to make money, you focus on things that make you money. You learn what you need to learn, do the things you need to do to get the money, just like I do with the Pontiac parts.
Meeting women is somewhat different. The more interest you show in them, the less they are attracted to you. So to get them, you focus on other things, mainly yourself and building your body and mind. Get stronger, smarter, more capable, and more competent, all of which will make you more confident because of the effort required to attain those improvements.
They always whine about how we don't show emotion like they do, but if we show emotion like them, they lose interest instantly. They are solipsistic, they think the universe is here for them, rather than understanding they are just a part of it. They think everyone should be like they are, and if you're not then you are broken, all the while not understanding that they are not attracted to men who are like women.
They think they are manifesting things, but really they just focus a little bit and things happen for them. Its because they put themselves in a position to benefit from the effort a man puts into living. They sit around and wait for men to come to them, and they inevitably do come to them, then they can pick and choose which ones they want, and reject the rest. They are all about looking pretty and waiting to get noticed, which does not work for men.
Nothing in this world comes to men without effort, nobody gives us a damn thing. We have to earn it, we have to take risks and make an effort. If we do not approach women and speak to them with confidence, NOTHING HAPPENS. Women do not approach us unless we are showing we have resources. They talk to me about my GTOs all the time, and they hope I will provision them as well, but its not me they want.. its what I can do for them. If I do not get a number or ask them out, nothing happens. If I drive my winter beater truck that is rusted and has a red cab and silver box, they sure as hell won't be telling me 'nice truck' in an attempt to get me to proposition them.
They sit back and wait for things to happen, men make those things happen. they delude themselves that it takes monumental effort to wait for things to happen.
Setting goals is a means of motivating yourself. Some people need to work on self motivation more than others. Its not a weakness exactly, its more about interest. If you are interested in something, you will motivate yourself to do that thing. Why are all of you here watching this content? Its because you are interested in women, and want to understand them better so you can avoid the risks and hopefully meet one that isn't like all of them in these tiktok videos. You come here because you are changing your actions and thinking to align with getting what you want.
A goal only works if you have a deadline for when it needs to be accomplished. the deadline is the motivator. When the deadline is winter time and snow falling, you are very motivated to build your house so you can stay warm. The goal is build the house, and if its not done by the time the temps drop in fall, its going to be miserable trying to do it in the snow.
If you want to lift a certain amount, you have to set the goal to lift it. Then you work towards that goal, focusing on how you are doing, what you are eating, how much work you are putting in. Take it from a man who has lots of muscle and is VERY strong, you do not get there without a commensurate amount of effort. To get my 21" arms took monumental effort, more than most people would ever consider doing. I was forced to do it in 1990-91 during my first war.
I was not trying to get this big and strong, it was the result of what I had to do every day for nearly a year. 9000 calories in every day, and lifting then running with 200lbs most of the time, and pushing the equivalent of two F150s a mile or two on other days. My goal was to get the job done for that 12 hour shift. The result was I went from a 330lb bench to a 450 in less than a year spending zero time in a gym. If you have built any muscle at all, you know how much work that required. Imagine how much I was doing when I was 21 in 1990 to gain that much in less than a year.
Men are built, either by themselves or by the environment around them. We have a sink or swim life, even the soft coddled kids who were bubble wrapped by their parents who moved all obstacles out of their way. If they want more than what they are given by their parents, it will require work/effort.
You don't manifest a damn thing, you make it happen by focusing on the goal and getting there.
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I bumped into my second ex last week at the grocery store. I extended my condolences about her dad dying back in February, and went on about my life. She blames me for all her bad choices, which I find hilarious. The only times I have spoken to her in the last ten years was when she pulled up to the same gas pump one day, when I voted and she was there so I had her sign the title to one of my cars I used for collateral on a loan I paid off after the divorce, and last week.
She lives two miles away and I have to drive by her place to put my trash in the dumpster. Its a small community, so it takes extra effort to avoid her.
I have kids with the first one, so I have to talk to her on occasion, but I avoid it as much as possible. Talked to her maybe ten times in the last 22 years... and most of that was at divorce proceedings.
I am still friends with one chick I was seeing from 2014 to 2018, she is cool and the only non crayyyzyeee one I have found. We send memes to each other and pics of cars we both like. The 7 hour driving time to see each other was too much, but she was lots of fun. We went on adventures and she paid for most of them, lots of concerts with her she was really good to me.
Almost everyone else in my past, is not spoken to nor contacted. It depends on her and how she is, but most of them are not worth remembering let alone speaking to. I just fall off the face of the earth when I end it.
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@@allenbanks9034 funny you say that... I enlisted in 1988, with Reagan slapping around wannabe thugs with F111s and A6s, it did not look like there would be any conflicts. When the Berlin Wall came down in 1989 and I got a big chunk of it because I was stationed in Frankfurt, it looked even more like we would have no conflicts.
Then I woke up 2 August 1990 and the guy on the AFN radio station said "Iraq has invaded Kuwait, and Congress is talking about sending in US Marines along with the Airborne."
During peace time my job loading cargo planes and putting cargo on pallets is pretty laid back, uneventful with a few exercises here and there just in case a conflict begins.
10 August 1990 rolls around, and we go to 12 hour shifts, I am put on nights, 7pm to 7am. The C141s, C5s, DC10s, L1011s, 747s, and anything else they can find to move people and cargo start rolling through my base.. We handled more than 85% of the traffic going both directions... and I had to go to every plane that landed, and most or all that took off while they were on our ramp.
Germany is kinda north, so over the fall and winter months, the sun sets before 7pm and comes up after 7am, it was April before I saw the sun again... and I had to get more than one day off to even see it.
I worked every night from 10 August to some time in January or February, I'm not entirely sure when my first night off was, because I had no idea what day, week, month, or year it was, I was too busy working 60 to 80 planes in that 12 to 14 hour shift. Yeah, day shift would show up and keep sending me to airplanes.
The fun part... I went into that airlift being able to bench press around 330lbs, I the next time I lifted anything I did 450 like it was nothing. I became a muscle bound freak, more than 50lbs over my max weight, and capable of doing some really insane stuff.
Why did I get so much stronger than everyone else in my unit? Well... I was the one who seemingly always had females on my team, so I had to do ALL the heavy lifting. I was already big and stronger than most people, but Desert Shield made me even bigger and stronger.
When they can't lift 40lbs, and I can lift 400 to 500 and carry it, or push a 10,000lb pallet by myself, well it still needed done even if I was doing it alone with an audience.
Then September 2001 happened, I was in Kuwait that day.. and we sat around and spent time in the gym until planes started flying again. Camp Doha had a gym that Arnold had donated to the Army, we spent 8 hours in there every day out of boredom. I came back absolutely ripped and looking like a monster, and they put me on the weight program... which is where this name comes from. The USAF said I was morbidly obese, despite being 5'8" and able to bench over 500lbs and single handedly load cargo planes every day for months.
Then I went to Korea, which was a nice break to be honest. and when I got back in 2003 I was at the base doing 100% of the airlift to Kuwait, Bahrain, Qatar, UAE, the Stans, and Saudi. I was in the duty section doing the most work, again... At least I got days off in the second one...sometimes. I was an NCO for the second one, just an E3 in the first.
Just lucky I guess.
Now that my house and shop are built and paid off I can relax. Taking it easy in my mid 50s, building hotrods, milling lumber, and landscaping my yard. I just fixed my winter beater 4x4 before I came in and wrote this.. and in an hour I will be on a livestream talking about my ethanol project. Fun times.
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@stripedcollar335 my ex owes me over $10k.. in my home state $5k gets your drivers license, passport, and any professional licenses revoked, along with a bench warrant for your arrest. The judge started me out $10k in arrears, and on a $1740 base pay they were taking $1200 of it. Didn't leave me much after taxes, usually between $100 and $300 per month.
Are they going after her? nope. Is her credit taking a hit because of that? nope. Did my credit take a hit several years after the divorce when I had that $10k in arrears paid up, and she tried to evict herself from her meat suit? yep. They came after me for her medical bills, and then applied $8k of my child support to her bill at the regional center looney bin. All together the state owes me about $25k, but I will never see it.
If the world ever goes Mad Max I have some visits to make to the people who did that sort of thing. No need to visit the ex, she has done more damage to her life than I could have ever dreamed of doing, and I want her to suffer with her poor choices for a lot longer. :)
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@RodVonLongrod sure thing... they say that, but in practice its a way to punish men for being born male, and to reward women for anything they do, all while lining the pockets of the state and judges.
If my ex wanted to stay off welfare she could have not ben vi0 lent to the kids and I, not cheated with every rando she met, and not made my life a living hell, then she could have relinquished custody to me rather than the state breaking their own laws and hitting me with 71% of my gross instead of 68% of my net.
So you can keep women off welfare, but screw men. I lived on $100 to $300 a month from July 2001 to Feb 2004 while active duty in the US military. The only time I had a place to sleep indoors was when I deployed and the year I spent in Korea. I ate every other day, because contrary to what my state thought the military does not provide free room and food unless you are a low rank. I was E4/E5 and that rank could not live on base in the free housing.
If I got a second job, which would have been very difficult with the war that started in 2003, they would have raised my support to keep it at 71% of my gross.
So she does everything wrong, is rewarded with my kids after taking them 1500 miles away from me, hooking up with randos, several of whom thought my kids were they own tiny versions of her, and she gets nearly all my income...
Yeah its definitely about keeping them off welfare, WHEN THEY CAUSE THEMSELVES TO BE SINGLE! Its a reward for poor choices, simple as.
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I can read people through their body language, the nonverbal communication they display is something I am acutely aware of.. because I have PTSD. I can tell what sort of mental state people are in, what they think of themselves, and a whole lot more. That is a skill anyone can learn, even the current crop of spergs out there.
It served me well reading the intentions of females, I knew exactly which ones were interested, and which ones were not, then I talked to the ones who showed interest and ignored the others. Calling that 'emotional intelligence' is simply ludicrous. The whole notion of that is feminine, because they ONLY live in emotions, they use no logic nor reason, at best they have a facsimile of logic and reason, a veneer at best.
Sure I can tell what emotional state someone is in, but its part of a threat assessment first and foremost. Whatever they are displaying by how they stand or move, I can read it because I had to for a decade growing up while trying to not get beaten.
Men teach their kids empathy, it has very little to do with emotions, but women like to say they have empathy, when in reality they project all their insecurities and shortcomings on everyone else.
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@newparadigm907 my point is the term is made up, there is no intellect in emotions. Its a way for females to feel smarter while not actually being smarter.
Emotions lead to irrational behavior, anyone who has lived with a bipolar woman knows all about it. Anyone who has had a female in the military outrank them, knows just how irrational emotional people are and can get.
The way rick put it in the start of this thread makes it sound like being able to tell what emotional state people are in is somehow a form of intelligence, when its merely being observant. Most people go through life almost completely unaware of what is going on around them, they have no situational awareness, especially now since so many people are staring at screens while walking or sitting in public.
When it comes to intelligence, females have a bell curve where they are all clumped together with a narrow base to it. Makes have a very wide base in our bell curve, so we have more Gumps and more Einsteins where females have barely any. They are the epitome of mediocre with minimal variance. So they try to come up with ways to feel better about themselves, different in some way, and for some reason they think they need to compete with us.
They cannot compete with us in the vast majority of things. They are outclassed easily every time physical ability, endurance, intellect, or problem solving comes into play... and not by the top tier of men, but the moderately below average men are that much farther above them. Humans are this way for a reason, and its not to say that females are worthless, lesser, or inferior, because they have their own strengths. Physical strength and mental acuity/intellect are simply not where they have their strength.
So they make up emotional intelligence trying to set themselves apart, because they operate entirely in the realm of emotion, they feel rather than think. They can think and use logic/reason, but their default setting is emotion. When stressed they revert back to emotion. When faced with danger they revert to emotion. I've seen it happen hundreds of times in the military and civilian world. They break down, and the men keep going getting the mission done.
I am physically huge, very muscular because I had to work with females in my military job, which meant I was doing 100% of the heavy lifting, and the job was entirely heavy lifting. It sucked because anything you say around a female who feels inferior to you for whatever reason is going to be a source of contention and drama.
I stopped talking to them entirely unless it was mission essential, because their emotional default setting often resulted in them asserting I did something untoward, or was 'mean' to them. Can't speak to them like you can a man, you have to sugar coat everything and coddle them or they get butthurt and start complaining to people above you.
When I wanted to talk to or get with a female, I went off base and did not interact with military females at all, unless I had to. Acting like I was hitting on them when they were banging 10 guys a weekend...
There was a movie about 30 years ago where Jack Nicholson is asked how he writes women so well. He said "I think of a man, then I remove reason and accountability." He is exactly right.
They wanna feel special so they made up this EI thing.
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I have a female friend, but I am also 54... she is HUGE, like 300lbs huge, but she can lift heavy stuff since she grew up on a farm like I did. She is reliable, if I need a ride because I cut off a limb, she will drop what she is doing and come help me. Not hot at all, but she is useful and a good friend. Here is the interesting part... if she follows 5 to 10 feet behind me through a store, I get lots of female attention. If she walks next to me like she is with me, I get ZERO female attention.
I have lots of old cars and trucks, many of which do not run and having two people to move them is so much easier and less time consuming. She also helped me build my house, she takes care of my dogs when I travel sometimes, so I keep her vehicle running in return. She is also interesting to talk to because she isn't clueless and is aware of how things work, she has really come around on lots of things.
If she was hot or even remotely attractive there is no way she could be just a friend.
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@0QualityOverQuantity I have two kids, daughters that are 27 and going to be 30 in a couple months. The worst thing to ever happen to me was them being taken by their mother and kept from me. I will probably never be a grandpa. I know for sure with the first one, her mother made her life so terrible that she doesn't want to chance doing it to her own kids.
Bear in mind, I am a two war disabled vet who came back in 2004 almost unable to walk, will never run again, grew up on a farm being mistreated by my family and the kids at school, been run over by cars, and a lot more. Losing my kids was the absolute worst.
They are so self absorbed and unable to manage impulses, that they make life changing decisions that profoundly affect everyone involved in a negative way. Then they tell themselves its not their fault, they had no choice but to burn their lives to the ground, and they blame anyone and everyone other than the actual culprit... themselves... for their misfortune.
I've been watching them grow old around me, I see what happens when they choose poorly, and other than lamenting my kids are suffering from it, I laugh in amusement at all the others sharing their plight. They are so easily influenced by dishonest and nefarious people.
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@scottgarbs7761 yeah. like my two daughters.... that my ex exposed to some really fine upstanding guys, then settled for one who stopped doing things to them when they turned 10. They keep him away from me, and yes.. she knows what he did. When I confronted her about it she said "Well, that happens."
On the bright side, when I interact with someone who has kids, I am good to her and the kids, but I do not get attached to them. I am still friends with a couple of them, so I know I had a very positive influence on their kids.
One kid, who is a senior this year, turned his life around and started making great choices, taking care of himself, and his whole mindset changed when he hung out with me for a while. He was into sports but really picked up the effort after I gave him some guidance. Kid is going places.
Mentoring is usually better, more like a big brother to the kid than a father figure.
Are most guys like me and will be a positive influence in the lives of kids without dads? No, they aren't.
Most of them will get roped into being an ATM for her, and then discarded when a better ATM comes along. That is why I stay arms length from the mom, do not get attached to any of them, and release her to greater opportunity when she desires it. If I am not good enough, fine, be on your way.
I mentored people in the USAF, and I had 4 younger siblings, the youngest are 10 years and 13 years younger than me, so I know how to deal with kids exceptionally well.
Most people have no clue, like my ex. Its best they avoid the ones with kids.
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@jaxxbohol6475 most of them are complaining about the men who have the most options not committing to them. The 5% or so who are the tallest, best looking guys who use them as a side piece. They think they deserve the absolute best, and just because one of those guys will give her the Tab D in her slot C, they assume that raises their value.
So they are NOT talking about the majority of men, because even those of us in the top 20% don't have the options of the 5%. We don't get as many opportunities to get another one (or cheat), but these chicks do because they are good enough for damn near every man to be amenable to bustin one out with them.
The fact is women file for divorce the overwhelming majority of the time, because they think they have a chance at a man they assume is better than the one they have. Its only when he doesn't commit to them, or he is actually lower status, value, and quality than the man they gave up, that they start to whine and cry about it... and that is most of the time.
However when she cheats and leaves like that, she ALWAYS blames her ex, no matter what he does. He always mistreated her, always cheated, and always did the exact things she did, to hear her tell it. She does all those bad things, and blame them on him, because if it was so easy for her to do it, he just had to be doing it too!
There is no logic nor reason, its all feelings, rationalizations, justifications, resentment, and feeling entitled to far more than they warrant.
Society, the media, and all the apps like tiktok offer unfettered action on her part to do all of that. They agree that men are to blame, and the women are always victims, which is the rationalization women use to feel better about themselves when they just destroyed their own family and future. There is no immediate downside to her acting poorly and making bad choices, that all comes to fruition later, when she is 35+ alone, unwanted, and even the top 60% of men ignore them.
The narrative is men are always the one cheating and abandoning their kids.
The reality is women act poorly, throw fathers out of the family to get cash and prizes, file for divorce, and capriciously make the father's life a living hell.
What man in his right mind is going to leave a woman when he has to pay her 50% to 75% of his income, give her the house they lived in, provide everything to her she had when they were together, and never get to see his kids? Not much incentive to divorce there is it?
Now what woman will not take advantage of being paid by her ex, having him pay for all her living expenses, while she gets back on the CC to 'find herself' while society, the media, and their families encourage them to do it?
The narrative is pure fantasy that men are leaving and women are victims in all of this.
Men are not dating, not getting married, because of that dynamic. There is no benefit whatsoever for a man to marry. None. Even dating is risky as judges are starting to give everything he owns to her just because they dated for a while.
Then people wonder why the birthrate is dropping, men would rather sit around playing games with friends online, and women keep making these embarrassing videos about how 6'7 chad only used her as a side piece but she wanted to crawl in his wallet and set up camp.
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@musclecarenjoyer the rarest Firebirds are 1998 WS6 Formula convertibles. If you can find them, you have the choice of red or black, because there are only two of them. My 1972 Formula is rare also, 276 were built that year with the 455 HO, mine is one of them. It was special ordered by a gent in Alaska who wanted to pull his boat around. He ordered a one of one within the 276 with that engine.
I build these cars, usually from rusty junk. I can rebuild, repair, and/or refinish everything on them. I am trhe only one who works on them, rebuilding engines, transmissions, differentials, suspension, electrical, interiors... everything. The 65 GTO wasn't even a good parts car when I got it, and now its one of my summer daily drivers. The 69 GTO is even worse than the 65 was, I'll be starting on it this fall. The Cuda gets taken care of quite well, because its so expensive to repair.
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