Comments by "Thump Er the Sweaty Fat Guy" (@SweatyFatGuy) on "The Pandemic of Unplanned Childlessness | Interview with Stephen J. Shaw" video.

  1. Stop punishing fathers and incentivizing mothers to throw dad out then keep him from his kids. Stop blaming men for the actions of women and encouraging women to make exceptionally poor choices in life. Stop giving incentives to women to eschew family for a 'career' that is nothing more than a busy work job. Stop no fault divorce, because it is essentially "His fault" divorce no matter what he does. He is punished, she is rewarded at his expense no matter what she does. Men are opting out in droves now, women are chasing after the tallest, wealthiest, best looking men which is 1% of the population as they ignore the rest of men. Also if a man who is not tall enough speaks to her, she will claim he S.H.'d her. They are told they deserve the absolute best, and the massive attention they get on dating apps has them believing they are far more attractive than they actually are. Then they can't figure out why men never commit to them, when its because the man she is chasing has the option to get with any woman, why would he want her or any other basic average female? The men who would commit to her and start a family are not good enough for her, as she thinks she is entitled to the best men, so 90% of men are invisible to her. Men are punished and maligned in movies, media, even TV advertisements, women are irrationally lauded and praised when they make bad choices and act poorly. Saying anything about this gets you labeled as someone who hates women. Women have all the reproductive rights, they can abandon, abort, or give up for adoption, while men have to pay no matter what she does other than carving the kid out of his first room with a vacuum cleaner. Men are disincentivized to have kids because they will be taken from him, then he will be blamed for abandoning them, but he is responsible for them. Do you know what it is called when you work but everything you earn is taken from you and given to someone who did not earn it with no benefit to yourself? Well the US fought a war to end it in the early 1860s... but its just fine when used against fathers. I am 54, have two kids in their late 20s. I am and have been in the top 20% of men, so getting some was moderate effort for me for most of my life. Its different for the young men, the are invisible, unwanted, and society maligns them. They have no incentive to do anything, yet people are browbeating them to achieve for the benefit of others. Its insane.
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  2.  @umiluv  every woman I know who has had their first kid after 32 or has their second after 36, has had disabled kids. My nephew is deaf, my fiancé from back in 90-92 has a disabled kid, my cousin's daughter has a disabled kid, and there are others, but you get the point. The risks go up the older you are. My mom had six kids, the first in 1967 when she was 21, the last in 1982. I think its criminal to misinform women that they can start having kids after 35, because of the high probability of defects. I sincerely hope your child is ok, you are lucky to even have any, and I do not wish that on anyone. I see my daughter is probably going to be the same, she is 26 and has no prospects for a father to even have kids. Her mother has scared off all the quality men, long story, but the short of it is she divorced me 22 years ago and raised my kids poorly. The woman I was engaged to 30 years ago is now 60, and she is unable to enjoy her life as she has to care for her 24 year old son. Her story is sad. I was engaged to her when she was 28, her mom decided we had to wait 5 years to get married, which meant we were not going to have kids. They were an Arab family living in Dubai, and it was random chance how she and I met when I was stationed in Germany. We are still friends and in contact after all this time, and she is profoundly unhappy with her situation. My sister had her first son at 19, he is 21 years older than his brother who is deaf. He is the least disabled of the over 35 mothers I know. I wish that on nobody. Far too many women are facing that life, or something near to it. I truly hope you beat the odds, too many women I know have not. You sound like a good sensible mom, something increasingly more difficult to find.
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  3.  @rebeccaconlon9743  really? The UK and Australia don't have no fault divorce, TV ads showing men as incompetent fools, and giving huge incentives to women to go to uni while affording men nothing similar? Really? Young men have no incentive to start a family, because the family can so easily be taken from them. That is fact everywhere in the west. Do not take this as an insult to women nor you personally, that is not the intent. My intent is to show the disparity in how males and females are treated by society, in the media, and in the legal system. I know divorced fathers all over the world, and somehow they all have eerily similar stories. Their wife cheated, filed for divorce, then she got the kids, most of his income, and the state helps her keep him away from his kids. Millions of men have been through this same series of events. UK and US are the worst about it. I am waiting for someone at LE to have it happen to them, I hope it doesn't but just one of them going through it would open their eyes. Its the last thing I would ever wish on anyone, but Carl would definitely see the massive disparity and injustice done on men if he were getting divorced. Steven Crowder has been going through it for the last two years, he is finding out the hard way what I have known for 20 years. Its the same in the UK as here in the states, but some states are much worse than others. I own my land, home, and vehicles, I have no debt, and I have a decent income. Its all paid for with the last debt being paid off in 2021. If I were daft enough to get married, when she decides she is not happy and wants to jump on someone else, the judge can and probably will give her most of my income, my land, home, and any vehicle she deems to be valuable. That happens here in the US and in the UK. it benefits YOU, so you will not want to change it. It shows women in a poor light, so you will deny it happens. Its not women per se, its the laws that encourage women to act in reprehensible ways, because they are rewarded for it. All she has to do to justify her actions is claim, without any evidence whatsoever, that he mistreated her in the smallest most minor way, and she is justified in the eyes of society and the law for ruining his life. UK US samey same.
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