Comments by "Leanne Hartford" (@leanne123) on "HealthyGamerGG" channel.

 @imCyanne Most people grow out of it when the become more mature thankfully. Unfortunately some work places encourage it. 😢
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@firerams_and_arisinglion Note taking is just a method of remembering something. If you find some information valuable then writing it down will help you to remember it. If you are just watching for entertainment then there is no need to remember it. When you read a book for its entertainment value there is no need to remember it. When you read a text book it is valuable to write down the information you want to remember. That's all. 🤷
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There was never anything wrong with you. The most beautiful flower cannot blossom in a dessert. We are intimately connected to our environment where ever we are. It effects us in body, mind and spirit. To thrive, be happy and achieve our potential, we must find fertile ground. That means a supportive and caring community. That means an occupation that values your contribution. It is the most important thing in your life and is the basis for everything else. I just wish I had known this sooner. I have had my own experiences with bullying too. I am in the process of rebuilding at the moment. I was bullied at work. The first 5 years were great. Then I was targeted by a supervisor and the rest joined in. I fought for 5 more years until I couldn't take it anymore. It wasn't worth it. I should have moved on sooner but I was naive. I couldn't believe people could be so cruel for no reason. I thought sanity would eventually prevail but it didn't. I had to quit. I'm homeless now because of rent prices and no job. I'm unable to work because of my mental health. I am recovering but I am becoming myself again. Older but wiser. I will find fertile soil again. 💖🙋🏼‍♀️
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@kronieno.2757 It's because that is what was taught in church. Nothing wrong with being honest as long as you learn to spot people who are not. Sometimes, you have to let people go because they can't be honest with you or anyone. They might be great in many ways but if they are not honest, they are not respecting you.
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@johnhunt2390 There are also critical thinkers who have religious beliefs. They are not all dummies. I think there are a lot in Texas that have never challenged their beliefs and have just gone along with the group in order to feel like they belong. Consistently many Texas church goers have become MAGA people. That is another group where they can feel like they belong. They are not there for actual spiritual enlightenment but just to belong to a group of nice people. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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@Melatonin206 You can't be too "nice" or too "polite". You have to set your boundaries with people right away so they don't take advantage of your good manners. Learn how and when to say no instead of going along to Be"nice".
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 @ChaosGodEnerjak My family too. They are always in the right and everybody else is to blame or not as good as they are. I have a whole narc ex family.
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@OmegaIsBack64 Don't try so hard. You are not different than anybody else. We are all; young and old, trying to do better. Coping with life and people is a life long challenge. Every situation is different and every person is different. Don't expect too much from yourself. It is a natural process that evolves over time. I'm much more comfortable around people than I used to be. I was super shy when I was younger. As long as you are aware and learning, you will succeed. Try to be patient with yourself. You probably have lots of stress already so you don't need to add more from yourself. 💖🤷🏼‍♀️
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@misanthrophex Who said you have to get somewhere in life ? Life is for living not competing. It's the simple things that make life worth living. For both rich and poor people. A friend that you can laugh with. A warm, comfortable and safe bed. A sunny day after the gloomy ones. A phone call from someone who was thinking about you. Time spent with your parents. Having a goal. (The best thing about a goal is not the achievement of it, but having something to get out of bed for every day.) Being of help to someone in need. I was frustrated like yourself at one time. I slowed down and started to focus on the things that are an integral part of life to hat we tend to take for granted. If you can enjoy every small moment of just being alive then you are successful. Once I relaxed and stopped pushing myself to have more and more, I found that I enjoyed what was all around me so much more. Life was a happier experience. Life itself is amazing. 🙋💜
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 @SolDizZo Did it really take being treated like shit for you to realize that ?
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@SolDizZo Through what you said I can understand a little more about what people find so valuable about being in the army. I may be wrong but in my world things aren't that mean. I realize that people can be straight up horrible and nasty to each other but I avoid those kind of people if I identify them. Maybe when dealing with ruthless business people or in other kind of competitive field there is a genuine need to be prepared for abuse but I thought in society it is generally frowned upon. If I expect others to treat me like shit how can I make meaningful connections ? Myself personally can't reach a level of malevolence that I have experienced in some people. It is beyond me. I deal with it purely by avoidance and maintaining my belief in doing good for myself and others. Being beaten by an asshole hasn't made me more prepared to face another one. I will probably always be shocked by someone who abuses another. 🤷 I'm glad you have learned what you consider valuable lessons in the army as so many men do. I usually hear the lessons were more about valuing discipline and routine. If you were undisciplined and disrespectful as well as immature like so many young guys are I can see how it would be an eye opener. I'm happy you are finding success through your military training. That's fantastic but there are other ways to get there. I've heard of many men treating their children with military strictness and it is not a healthy parenting strategy. Children need love and respect from their parents in order to learn love and respect. They can join the army later. 🤷🖖👍
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@SolDizZo Thanks for responding. I can see now how our life experiences have differed immensely and the training you have had would be necessary for your chosen occupation. I want to say thank you for protecting us from the kind of horrific behaviour I have seen that others are able to perpetrate. I believe that any form of abuse is wrong and unnecessary. The people you mentioned that cannot be rehabilitated are people who have experienced abuse and emotional neglect since childhood. They learned their pattern of thinking and behaviour in order to survive. They don't understand that they are maladapted because they think everyone else thinks the way they do. They don't change because their disordered thinking has always worked to get them what they needed. It is ingrained deeply into their personalities since they have developed this way of thinking since early childhood. The fact that they have a deficit in empathy or disregard for it is evidence of a missed milestone in personality development. I admire your inclination to work with these people on a daily basis. It must be strange to observe the behaviours of these people who can act so normal yet are so far from it in their twisted thinking. The personalities they present to the world are a facade of normality under which indeed lies a "monster." It must be so difficult not to believe their lies. It is one thing to deal with normal people doing bad things but delusional people with disordered thinking in a prison is a whole other level. I don't know how you kept your own sanity. What kind of training can prepare you for that ? Sincerely. L
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@hugono3938 Part of being an adult is doing things you don't want to do so this will prepare you to be able to force yourself to do things that every ounce of your soul say you don't want to do. It's a hard lesson.
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@miranda.cooper Wise words. Don't let other people impose their shit in you. They may think their intentions are good but it doesn't mean they are correct in what they are doing. They way you are approaching it is the best way. I learned that when you feel pressure to hurry up you should slow down so the pressure doesn't overwhelm you and cause you to screw up completely.
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@Heyu7her3 Wrong. You are always human so you will always fail sometimes whether you are old or young. Expect failure so you will always be prepared when it happens. It doesn't mean that life is over. It is a step towards even greater achievement even if you can't see it at that moment .
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@iRobins. Yes. I'm much older and schools have become more enlightened since I went. People who "flunked" were looked on as losers at that time. It was so ignorant. I'm glad you don't look at it like that. Failing is just a stepping stone to greater achievement and teaches you humility and compassion which are big lessons for a successful life. I had to figure that out alone through emotional pain. Not a good way.
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@franciscodetonne4797 Will power alone isn't sustainable for anyone. In order to focus on anything you have to put yourself in the environment that supports it. If you like art take some classes or even go to art school full time. Meet other artists and see how they manage to stay motivated. Don't associate with people who don't value art. Jump in the deep end and you will learn to swim. Lol 🙋💜
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 @Entropy67 No way. I just commented the exact same thing. 😅 I honestly had to check to see if it was my own comment. This was a first ! 😅😅😅😅 🙋🏼‍♀️
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@PSTNH_D_DNT I have heard that journalling is writing down experiences you have had that have produced in you strong emotions. If you experienced painful emotions by journalling about them what happened and how you feel about it will help you get in touch with feelings that you have suppressed. If these feelings are strong they should be expressed by writing about them or crying. If they are good feelings you can write about the experience to get in touch with your happiness, joy of living, pride in yourself etc. Emotions that you may have overlooked that should be enjoyed and appreciated. Our feelings are messengers. You need to let them deliver their message and in receiving the message you should express it. In this way your feelings won't be suppressed and go unfelt. People can lose touch with how they feel about things by not allowing themselves the time or place to reflect and really understand the message that your emotions are giving. If you ignore your feelings enough you will lose the ability to feel anything. You become numb. 🙋💜
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@Killer007X1 Writing down your experiences that you have strong emotions about helps you to really get in touch with those feelings and experience them completely. Painful emotions will bring tears and happy feelings will bring joy. In this way your feelings will not be suppressed and stuck in your system, coming out in inappropriate ways and times. Feelings don't go away until you have really felt them fully and expressed them in tears or joy. If you suppress your emotions you will eventually have emotional problems such as rage, substance abuse, abusive behavior and other manifestations. It is healthy to process your feelings so they can be released and you can have peace. 🙋💜
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@Jhawk_2k Writing about your experiences helps you get in touch with your feelings about them. Once you are aware of how you feel, you can grieve the sadness or celebrate the happiness. Feelings need to be expressed or they don't go away. They will haunt you until you do. Coming back to your mind again and again over time. This can cause problems in your life. 🙋
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@kuskie3816 The problem is those feelings will come back until you finally feel them. Feelings can haunt you for your whole life if you don't feel them and get them out of your system. Ignoring them only surpresses them for a while. They always come back and not always in appropriate ways.
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@misanthrophex That is how I feel too. I've done it all and see no improvement. I must be just doing life wrong or just not in the right environment. Or maybe this is just the way life is for everyone. I really don't know. Maybe I'll just work on accepting that I won't have the life I've always wanted because I don't have access to those resources. 🤷
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 @IAMSTRINDOM Sorry man. That's abuse. 😮
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EVERY MAN I'VE EVER MET IS ONLY NICE TO ME SO THEY CAN GET ME IN BED. Otherwise they have no interest in me.
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@lainiwakura6903 The "failure is bad" mindset was sincerely pushed on children by teachers and parents until they became more enlightened, relatively recently. I'm 60 and anyone in my class who failed was considered less than the ones who passed. I failed math 30 in my senior year, because of family problems, and felt like a "failure" for that. It was only years later that I found out that many many people fail math 30 the first time they take it. It is a very challenging course with an enormous amount of content. Taking it at the same time as Physics 30 was too much for me and very understandably overwhelming. It was not right to make me feel like I was less than others because of my one failure. I was not taught how to deal with failure what so ever. I'm very glad that people now understand that failure is part of the road to success because that was not a belief I was taught at all. I went to public school like everyone did and further to college. Failure was never thought of as acceptable. Even today my brother looks down on me for failing that class. He's an ignorant asshole but that is another story. 🤷😄
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 @sallyjrwjrw6766 I think that's a fantastic idea ! Where would I get cards like that ? Thanks. 🙋💜
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@DiamondEyez456 I understand. My brother has convinced my mother that I can't be trusted. She has therefore been dishonest with me and defended my brothers lies and theft. Pretty sick. I just want to get away from all of these assholes I thought were my family. I trusted them and they betrayed me.
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