Comments by "Leanne Hartford" (@leanne123) on "Dr. K Explains: The Science of Self Control" video.

@misanthrophex Who said you have to get somewhere in life ? Life is for living not competing. It's the simple things that make life worth living. For both rich and poor people. A friend that you can laugh with. A warm, comfortable and safe bed. A sunny day after the gloomy ones. A phone call from someone who was thinking about you. Time spent with your parents. Having a goal. (The best thing about a goal is not the achievement of it, but having something to get out of bed for every day.) Being of help to someone in need. I was frustrated like yourself at one time. I slowed down and started to focus on the things that are an integral part of life to hat we tend to take for granted. If you can enjoy every small moment of just being alive then you are successful. Once I relaxed and stopped pushing myself to have more and more, I found that I enjoyed what was all around me so much more. Life was a happier experience. Life itself is amazing. 🙋💜
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@PSTNH_D_DNT I have heard that journalling is writing down experiences you have had that have produced in you strong emotions. If you experienced painful emotions by journalling about them what happened and how you feel about it will help you get in touch with feelings that you have suppressed. If these feelings are strong they should be expressed by writing about them or crying. If they are good feelings you can write about the experience to get in touch with your happiness, joy of living, pride in yourself etc. Emotions that you may have overlooked that should be enjoyed and appreciated. Our feelings are messengers. You need to let them deliver their message and in receiving the message you should express it. In this way your feelings won't be suppressed and go unfelt. People can lose touch with how they feel about things by not allowing themselves the time or place to reflect and really understand the message that your emotions are giving. If you ignore your feelings enough you will lose the ability to feel anything. You become numb. 🙋💜
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@Killer007X1 Writing down your experiences that you have strong emotions about helps you to really get in touch with those feelings and experience them completely. Painful emotions will bring tears and happy feelings will bring joy. In this way your feelings will not be suppressed and stuck in your system, coming out in inappropriate ways and times. Feelings don't go away until you have really felt them fully and expressed them in tears or joy. If you suppress your emotions you will eventually have emotional problems such as rage, substance abuse, abusive behavior and other manifestations. It is healthy to process your feelings so they can be released and you can have peace. 🙋💜
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@Jhawk_2k Writing about your experiences helps you get in touch with your feelings about them. Once you are aware of how you feel, you can grieve the sadness or celebrate the happiness. Feelings need to be expressed or they don't go away. They will haunt you until you do. Coming back to your mind again and again over time. This can cause problems in your life. 🙋
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@kuskie3816 The problem is those feelings will come back until you finally feel them. Feelings can haunt you for your whole life if you don't feel them and get them out of your system. Ignoring them only surpresses them for a while. They always come back and not always in appropriate ways.
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@misanthrophex That is how I feel too. I've done it all and see no improvement. I must be just doing life wrong or just not in the right environment. Or maybe this is just the way life is for everyone. I really don't know. Maybe I'll just work on accepting that I won't have the life I've always wanted because I don't have access to those resources. 🤷
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