Comments by "Ian Arn" (@ianarn) on "Lise Leblanc" channel.

Very hard to do as you take on the role of being her saviour and trying to regulate her emotions. yet she’ll drop her pants at the drop of a hat with a guy only out for a one nighter! Meanwhile you’ve done something very trivial like go home and they just freak out on you block you and give you the silent treatment. She grooms you as a candidate for taking on the hero’s role from the beginning so you’re bound to be ultra upset when the relationship inevitably fails. If she’s got any narcissistic traits to her condition then she won’t apologise to you! It’s all your responsibility not hers and that’s a bad sign for any relationship. If you don’t care she’ll just tell her flying monkeys that you were only with her for sex and spin the narrative that you’re the irresponsible cheater not ‘man’ enough to commit to her.
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@zandig666 I refused to give her a baby after 10 months of on/off dating! During one split after a devaluation by her she contacted another man to meet up with rather than try to make up with me. Needless to say she went absolutely nuts when i refused and is not typical of couples who do not live together when this subject is broached!
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Unfortunately her emotions will shift which she seems to have no control over and as her feelings are taken by her as absolute gospel facts the new man will face devaluation much sooner probably half the time it was with you. The best case scenario is if you don’t have children with her. If she has baby rabies (like my 35 year old ex) the new guy will have a much shorter time window to ‘produce the goods’ or he’ll face a much quicker discard than you regardless of how much she said she loved you two days ago! Of my 10 month on/off relationship with my ex I’d say the new guy might at best survive 4 to 5 months tops
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Hmmm she said she wanted a relationship and was soo jealous if i even liked an influences photo yet was always pursuing other men in real life not a very fixed image of me inside her head. Always saying we’ll be together forever before flirting with some total stranger very suggestively. It was just too disrespectful i had to walk away for my own peace.
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She probably acted out with manufactured drama to force him to walk away so that he could be framed as the blame holder. Sadly because of inadequacies in the law some women are able to abuse children by alienating them from their father and taking him to court for exorbitant child maintenance payments which are often spent on other things than benefitting the child.
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It’s the sex bomb at the start in particular where you lose much of your critical faculties about that woman.
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@cambell9 My ex GF was messaging a guy the following week and even when i got back together with her in order to triangulate me with him so that i would “save” her from him taking her home with him which could well have happened given his eagerness and confidence on a previous occasion.
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My ex girlfriend didn’t tell me that she had some type of cluster B personality disorder but her behaviour which was different from anyone I’ve had a relationship with kind of gave it away. She used therapy type of language so it’s obvious that she had tried it but without her honesty I could not help her! I suppose she felt a deep sense of shame as she had no object constancy so would cheat and triangulate other men even though she said she wanted a stable family with me!
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Well…., you have to weigh it up over a bit of time! If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it probably is a duck! Dead give away is the screaming performative tantrum when you inevitably have to say ‘no’ to them over something quite unreasonable demand. The determined silent treatments and need to ‘punish’ you! Flirting inappropriately with strangers in front of you and walking ahead!
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@dave smith 100% correct! He is being setup to “save” her. My ex did this to me, aggressively flirting with strange random impulsive type of men and then I was setup to “save” her from sleeping with them. She wouldn’t be brushing those men off saying I’ve “got a boyfriend” in a monotone disinterested way! All the time she would look for my reaction and horror. My previous girlfriend was blonde big butt and very large breasts and I didn’t have a single incident like that with her despite the fact that she lived in a ghetto full of uneducated impulsive men for about 7 years.
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One week she’d tell me “we’re going to be together forever”. Next she’d be cuddling up to another man while looking for my discomfort or threatening to end the relationship which she ended up doing as i wouldn’t try out for a baby after only knowing her for months!
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My ex girlfriend would stage herself as the martyr of the relationship saying very publicly in social media posts that although she didn’t get the apology to the perceived wrong she is willing to forgive. But then my ex is calculating and would break up in order to sleep with other men on the premise that they would be foolish enough to impregnate her and coparent while she continues chasing more men. If she gave you an indication that she’s planning a breakup she may try to hoover. But obviously still blaming you for the split.
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@wango556 my ex will never find the right one! She knit picks all sorts of nonsense in your speech you have to really measure your words! Violent attacks while you sleep, silent treatments, threat of breakup all over the most trivial things! Same with her female friends.
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If it’s a romantic female partner you forgive then she will immediately triangulate you with the new supply they’ve been grooming as happened to me! She then proceeded to tell me that he is a “Real Man”.
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She intentionally created a drama before my first Birthday with her and I was deleted from social media and unfriended on another account on my actual Birthday! No admission of wrongdoing from her or being able to talk things out! Just give me what I want or you’re gone! A smirk on her face at my discomfort!
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She’s fine with her own plans and meeting her friends over you! But you can’t go out for a night when she wants to see you! That just triggers her abandonment issues.
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My ex actually screeched at me like that lady at 10:08 in a packed pub diner! Actually she was much louder than that! It was at the end of a week long devaluation of me. She even screamed at me are you emotionally stable? Because I need a man who is emotionally stable!
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@Dinoslay So true I’m afraid! During the fake breakup which she initiates it is important to go no contact! If possible forever!
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These are better than so called red pill videos as I believe many of the men watching them have been the victim of female covert narcissists!
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@Laura-nl8df some of us just attract these cluster B type of women into our lives by being codependent and setting ourselves up for the impossible task of regulating her emotions for her. We then claim all women are like that! The same as a large number of women seek only ratbag men as romantic partners and say all men are like that! I believe over generalisation in mental outlook is not healthy or helpful.
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