Comments by "Yerris" (@yerri5567) on "Mixed reaction to proposal allowing single women over 30 in China to have children on their own" video.
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@Flora-vo2cb "Let's say you' got married early, had an accidental pregnancy, now you have a child to care for that you didn't plan on having"
Again, planned or not planned is irrelevant. It does not affect the child any differently. You are making the assumption that EVERY SINGLE PARENT does a hefty amount of "research" to "prepare" themselves to be a parent. Youre also making the assumption that a couple does not do any research in the 9 months prior to a baby being born. If they didnt abort the baby, although unexpected, it eventually becomes "planned".
"To make the situation worse, your partner either dies or leaves you to care for the child alone"
In almost all cases, its a partner that separates, leaving child with mother.
"made worse because now you lost support and financial resources that you thought you would have had"
No? Theres still child support, whether from father or from welfare payments.
"That is the kind of situations that single parent who did NOT have a choice find themselves in...Whereas single parents by choice plan to become single parent right from the start, planning BEFORE they have a child"
Every choice theres a risk. And as adults they understood theres that risk.
They also had a CHOICE of abortion, but CHOSE not to. Therefore, even though it was not originally "planned", it became "planned" afterwards as they made preparations towards having a child. Thats why I said "planned" or not "planned" is irrelevant, as in the end its the same for most cases.
"They do research on child rearing, they make sure they have the financial ability to care for themselves and their child, they build a support network, they ensure that they have a job that is family-friendly and flexible etc"
Youre making a bold assumption that every parent, or single-parent in this world is responsible. That is not the case. We dont live in such a perfect world.
"Single parents by choice put a lot more work into preparing because they intend to do it alone"
I beg to differ. But even if true, your point does not address the negative social issues.
"And yes, single parents do not have to be super wealthy but they are typically in situations where they are financially sufficient"
I would like to see the stats on that. As far as everything is concerned, that is not true. I myself have a single female friend that wants a child and is "prepared" to have one, even though shes not financially able to comfortably raise one herself.
"However, from your tone you appear to have a moral personal bias against single parents for whatever silly reason"
I raise the moral/socially superior point as means to say that just because a child is "planned" to be raised by a single parent, does not mean they will not face negative social impacts, like a child having "daddy issues", psychiatric illnesses, alcohol abuses etc which are more prone in children raised by a single parent.
"Additionally no, there are many people who live together and don't marry because it's just not necessary. Marriage is not necessary to build a family"
Context is important here. This video is about China. Marriage IS about building a family in Asia.
"and people are raising families with their significant other without getting married"
Not in Asia.
"Thus, child out of wedlock does not equate to being a single parent"
Children born outside of wedlock have astronomically higher rates of ending up being raised by a single parent.
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