Comments by "Banana" (@439bananas) on "Darius M" channel.

  1. Some of these things are simple rubbish: 1] I ask people what they do for work to ensure that I am not the only one in the relationship that works and to establish common ground. I am likely to assume that as a guy you're into sports and I have NO interest in sports, so asking that is a non starter. 2] People have tight schedules. You never met a female criminal law solicitor, doctor, surgeon or scientist, our schedules can be tight. When you are ill or in trouble with the law you need someone NOW not in 12 hours time when a standard working day starts. We might work shifts or frequently, as in my case, I used to work long hours and had to do on call work 1 week in 4. 3] Lots of women do not have sex with guys on a first date. Women like some emotional content in the relationship before it moves there and just a few hours is not going to cut it for most women. This also forgets that women menstruate and are often shy about it. 4] Reschedule likewise is not a negative sign, it can just be that something comes up at work that you are expected to pull the rabbit out of the hat. In one job I had the drinking water inspectorate used to come in and the boss would simply say that tomorrow you are all going to be working late and we would be there from 7am to 9pm at least and the following days inspection would be gruelling too. Really you would not have wanted to date me that week. Likewise, ill relatives, my uncle had lung cancer and visiting him each weekend was a 300 mile round trip, now if you really want to drive me there, but I might not be the greatest of company. Sometimes an excuse is valid and true and sometimes it is not, just try to be decent with people.
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  2. OK some of what this guy is saying is untrue and anyone that plays games male or female is a narcissist. 1] When a woman is saying you are moving too fast, she is saying 'please value me as something above merely being an object for your pleasure'. Society says that if a woman jumps into bed right away with a man then she is a slut, a slag or a whore. If you are a gentleman would you want your woman's reputation to be damaged, if you could not care less then do women that do not want every one saying this a favour and move on to the type of slut you want. 2] Let's be friends, that is fine it means that you can have as many women as you like, because all you are is friends. I am female and I have had loads of male friends in the past and I do things for them, made birthday cakes and outfits for their kids and got flowers and presents for their girlfriends and partners and they do stuff back for me, tyre changes and that sort of thing. 3] Sarcasm,well sometimes it can be well deserved when there is no other way of communicating with a guy who is not respecting our personal boundaries. 4] If we are saying that a guy has got back in touch it is so that you do not hear it from anyone else and think that we are having some sort of affair. 5] Women wear make up because that is what is expected of us, perfectly happy not to wear make up, unless going to work where it is going to be expected. 6] A relationship is about 2 people and if she does not have kids then she can work just as well as you can, but in many instances women earn less than men so in that case you may need to pay a little more than your fair share. He says take care of her children they are his children too, if not then their biological father should be paying for them. If they are your children man up and pay for them and she can get on with the feeding and nappy changing. 7] With regard to texting my rules are simple don't text me when I am work unless it is urgent: you are ill and have been admitted to hospital or a parent, child or sibling is critical or dead, anything else tell me when I get home and as long as I have not gone to bed then I will reply promptly. 8] If someone is saying that you are not spending enough time then a compromise needs to be made. Your or her job, education etc, should never suffer, but you should and she should expect to make reasonable sacrifices. So the weekly guys or girls night out might have to move to being a monthly event. Relationships need work to work and if the person is not there for mutual fun and support, what sort of relationship have you really got at the end of the day? Nothing can go all in one direction there has to be reasonable compromise or one person or the other IS going to get pissed off and dump the other. 9] You need to know whether you have an exclusive relationship with someone or whether this is something far more casual. If you are saying that someone does not want to hang out with you, that is your cue that they are not that into you, they have better options than you and you should be looking out for better options than her is the simple advice, but if you have been refusing to devote any time to her [8] then she is just mirroring your behaviour back to you and it serves you right. 10] If she switches the plans and wants you to spend more money, simple answer, " I'm a bit short this month, so we we'll have to go Dutch on that one, I can just about manage Starbucks". She may genuinely have been busy that day and not had any lunch, if that is the case she won't have a problem with this approach.
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