Comments by "Jennifer Washburn" (@thehappysheep2023) on "Elderly Wisdom"
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@paulespinoza974 You sound like my kind of people Paul. I know there is a huge debate between Pre-trib, Mid-Trib and Post-trib. I was raised pre-trib and now that I am 64 and since 2020, I have gone back to restudy what I thought I knew about Revelation and prophecy or what have you. I heard some plausible teaching on Mid trib but I still lean toward Pre-Trib. That being said, regardless of how this all fleshes out in real-time, all I know for certain is that I want to live with Jesus for eternity. So, whatever shtf before I leave this life, since my body is not what it used to be I figure I will do like they do in the movies. Remain behind and give interference for the young-uns so they can escape whatever foe may exist at the time. All said and done, my hope is in Christ alone. No president, no government or no man/woman. (huge smile) I have tasted of the Lord and have found Him to be extremely awesome, an ever-present help in times of trouble mighty, loving, long-suffering to me over the years.
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Another hard reality about NH. There is a reason they call them NH "communities". The pr paints a picture of which to a point is true is that this is a place where the people living there are not considered patients but rather residents. And that's because it is their home. I'm sorry but home is never like that. Or at least shouldn't be. Another hard reality. I can't speak for all but for us. My husband was placed in an NH in an adjoining city to our own. So, when it came to our brick/mortar church system (not true Christians we knew) had zero contact with my husband. He lived 5 miles out of our home city limit. Our brick/mortar church had an on-going ministry @ the NH located within our small city. The volunteers would go to that NH weekly. Do you think they ever had anyone to go 5 miles down the way to see my husband? No, Zilch! And it was not for lack of knowledge, nor a lack of being inactive in the church nor being a new member, we had been attending that place for decades. Family started out w good intentions, but the hard realities soon kicked in and those visits I can count on both hands within the stretch of a five-year period until his death. As for myself, I would visit every other day or more when issues arose. And brother, let me tell you there were lots of issues. I must admit that I felt the pain of the aloneness that he experienced and the utter feeling of being forgotten and or cast aside feeling that were very hard to combat even though that was not necessarily always the case. Lord has mercy. Again, I state NH is not for the faint of heart. Certainly not for the one living there nor for those who love that person. As for the church, hey that deserves a YT channel all its own and there are plenty of them out there that deal with church system abuses of any and all levels. To which I say this, don't equate God with how your brick/mortar churches treat or not treat you. Read that Bible for yourself. Cultivate a real personal relationship with Almighty God. I kid you not, He indeed, is a rewarder of anyone who diligently seeks Him. It is THE one stabilizing person, who truly walked and literally carried us through that extremely difficult and dark 5 years stretch of our lives.
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@carification Yes there are activities and hobbies, and yes, they can be fun to participate in. The catch is, it is activities that the NH decides and the NH dictates when, where and for how long they take place. When I would visit my hubby in NH. There were times when the residents would get crosswise with each other over a game. One time I had to break up one nasty verbal argument going on because no one else was available @ that moment to intervene. Also, an issue of if you meet anyone that lives there that you really care to get that friendly with. There were 2 separate incidents where that one resident assaulted another resident, and the police came out to talk to the parties involved. Now, who called them? I'm not certain. I think it was one of the residents themselves that called them. Why? Because if you tell the administrator of the NH, they goanna do everything to keep whatever thing would be considered scandalous out of the public eye. (That is a fact, and usually the rule vs the exception) I don't know about all NH's but the one where my husband was at, you could not have scissors in one's possession due to risk of injury by the resident themselves or by other residents that might be in room partner or other residents that wander about.
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Everything in this video is true. Everything. There came a time when my hubby had no other choice but to go to a NH. His physical as well as his mental issues were more than I myself nor our children were able to address. We had no money outside of SSA, so the ability to choose a NH was highly limited as well. I can't emphasize enough, that if you still have a sharp mind and the ability to maintain the physical aspects of the bare minimums of caring for yourself, I highly stress that you and your family look into any and all possibilities of other ways rather than an NH to utilize. Such as in home care, assisted living or dependent upon the family that have positive strong relational structures already in place to consider considering having a granny flat installed in the back yard of one of your loved one's residences or a house that could afford you an area of their homes that would afford you a measure of privacy to yourself. If a person has issues with incontinence of urinary and or bowel issues. Just know that in a NH, the staffing is lousy and even in the best of situations the fact that you will always be subject to having to lay in or sit in "it" from anywhere to 15 minutes if you are fortunate to hours on end. And then of course by then will have to pretty much get a sponge bath or sometimes a full out bath and essentially be hosed down. And the reality is all true, there is no privacy. Also consider, there are residence there living with you that have all manner of diseases. Many who have lost their minds to the point that they wander. They go into your room thinking that it is their room when it is not, not to mention those who suffer from kleptomania issues. And you really cannot have anything that is nice nor of value because they are highly subject to being damaged or stolen. When I mean stolen, this could be due to again people who have kleptomania or flat out do not have their minds enough to know or it could be other people's visitors or even employees that will steal your stuff. When it comes to clothes. No more nice clothes. I can't tell you how off putting it is when you go see your husband and you walk past a resident who is wearing your husbands' clothes. Usually not due to their fault of the other resident but because the employees are working in understaffed and hectic and highly stressful and unrealistic expectations from those who are their bosses to do their jobs on an assembly line rather than actually have a moment to actually care that Mr. George or Mr. Smith gets their correct clothing back from the laundry room. I could write a book, but I digress. My heart goes out to anyone who have no other options other than going to an NH. And I have told my kids, should the time come that I really really do need that level of care? I have directed them that sometimes we have to do things even if we don't want to do. This is a situation where people need to do well to consider their spiritual lives and get that taken care of way before you end up losing your health and your mind. NH is not for the faint of heart. If you got half a mind left, please please please consider other alternatives first!!!!!!
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So glad you got him away from there. Sadly, my hubby had both mental and physical issues and there came a point where I could no longer care for him at home. Needless to say, he became increasingly difficult to deal with for me and I was the one that loved him. So, imagine how things went while he was there. It was hell. I found out that when it comes to dealing with difficult patients that there is little to no training at all to the staff in how to handle the various issues that arise. And let me tell you the list of issues are massive. The staff would call me and or my son at all hours of day and night because they could not deal with him. For that I am grateful for because one staff member, had a literal brawl down in the floor with him per his roommate's testimony. My son and I continually would be telling them when he had a mania attack, to leave him alone, if at all possible, regardless of whatever they needed to do, like change linens, give him a bath, pretty much anything and everything. He would get that bad at times. Which was due to his mental illness. He also had several physical issues as well. 2 female nurses decided one day they were going to give him a sponge bath against his will. He ended up falling off the bed and the two nurses down in the floor with him. Mind you my husband b4 he became ill was physically fit for decades, and even in his 70's and weighing 90 pounds he could still wipe the floor with people if/when he had a mind to. NH is a nightmare for compliant individuals. So, for the difficult patient, it takes it all to a whole different level. Not for the faint of heart most definitely.
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