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must be the UK
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She was with the man who did not care to confirm his feelings on a piece of paper. She was right to break up after waiting for 10 years. Guy who are 100% in it propose and offer marriage straight away.
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@Christian_Bagger This just shows overdiagnosis. Lack of social skills within overall normal functioning should not receive a diagnosis but a social disapproval prompting the parents of every socially unskilled child to work on social skills more. Nice excuse for every parent who did not do the job of raising socially competent person out of their baby: diagnosis for the big baby.
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The one who takes money for dnner frm a woman is not a man.
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@MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan The question is how determined the mother is. Actually, this relates not only to sons, but to daughters as well. All kids are different, so the mother must make different effort to ensure that each and every one of he kids gets to the good social skills level. She must not accept the child who is antisocial. However, modern psychologists (not Jordan, he is an exception) teach to accept a child whatever and however he is. This is wrong! The mother;s job is to mould a person, and the only way to do it is to withdraw love for antisocial behaviour (still loving, but this should be unknown to the child!) showering love for good behaviour. It is a tough job, to reject your child for 20 min is not a nice task, but sometimes a useful one.
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@MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan PAVLOV law applies to any mammal, let alone a human.Any dog, any cat can and should be trained to get social skills. Same with kids, and should be mastered by age 4. This is only done by reinforcing desirable behaviour and punishing undesirable. There is no other way to do it. A parent simply must create conditions in which antisocial behaviour cannot take place. Example: instead of giving earplugs for tantrums in noisy environment, placing inti such environment for long, without ear plugs, and wait until being there becomes ok for the child, several hours if required. I actually live in a real world and I brought up three lovely people, who did you bring up?
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@happybeach777 No, most are good. The proportion of bad parents equal thwe proportion of kids with ASD and ADHD together. As these are the result of the parenting exercises.
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how do you know he is fluent? Did you ask 12 native speakers to test him?
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@ if you are so knowledgeable, have you brought up a kid who CAN speak? To be able to decode the word, the child must have the enviroment where decoding this word is vitally important. For example, if a cookie will be given ONLY if the word is decoded. If the cookie is given anyway, there is no motivation to know the word.
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The fashion of raising kids entitled to everything, telling then that they can become whatever and whoever they set to, telling them they deserve everything - ruined all those people. Nope, a child cannot chose to be whoever he wants, there are strict limitations dictated by inborn qualities. A boy cannot be a girl, a stocky girl cannot be a ballerina, a person with brown eyes cannot have blue eyes, a kid struggling with maths cannot become a scientist, a slow child cannot win a race... It is time to put a stop on lying to kids.
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@naisyjohns Not "so". Autism is simply a name for lack of social skills, so it does not explain anything. You don't have social skills untill you get trained. If you mother refused or could not train you, you now have to do it yourself. Step one - Dale Carnegie How to win friends r ad and leart by heart and soent 1 year living by the book.
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@frequentlycynical642 Most parents have those skills. Look at any playground, find the nicest kids, come up to their parents and ask them how they did it. Not tolerating yucky behaviour from your child is all that is needed. NEVER tolerate from your son anything his girlfriend would not tolerate.
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@jomdizon6930 Never let your don do anything that would make him repulsive for someone else's daughter.
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@AegeanAzure Exactly!
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They throw tantrums about things they did not like for the single reason: because their parents allow them to. We all have things we do not like. However, good parenting is about training the child to react to whatever they dislike, within social norms.
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@ledacedar6253 The whole issue is that these are kids in families where no restrictions or discipline would be applied to a kid. They are allowed to eat what they want, do what they want, stim as they want, disturb others as they want, throw tantrums as they please. They would not even be forced to sit still for a hair-dresser. This is all because their mothers are scared to upset their treasure. So, by definition, no diet can be sustained in such a household, as if the treasure demands candy, candy will be given.
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His stylist badly needs to be fired... Otherwise, Jordan is great!
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As soon as you leave him hungry for a couple of days, his balance of importance of things will magically change: he will notice his mum, what she is doing, where potatoes are, and how to peel them.
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@Gokiburi777 in a straight relationship, a woman gives her life, her health totally to her man, she risks dying, risks becoming incontinent, risks being left alone and ruined, to love the offspring of the man who left her, for the rest of her life, care for that offspring. What is equal in a relationship with a person who is prepared to die to give you your offspring? Nothing less that ALL you have. So, unless you are prepared to give everything, it is not equal, as your health stays intact, and woman's health is always given to a man.
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Specific language impairment, when not compensated, leads to auti. signs and the diagnosis then is incorrect. This is at least how it is in the UK. The child has secondary withdrawal, behavioural issues, ets.
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So , you automatically assume that this is not a case of lacking intelligence, but a diagnosis? So you persuaded the businessmen docs abotu it, too? They are only too happy to register one more.
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@DrRenee1 People with better drawing abilit always get confused by ugly drawing in tests, don't worry, every artist has that.
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What is the exact title? How to find it?
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Nobody cares whether a mere noob agrees with the great man Peterson.
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this means misdiagnosed.
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Exactly. And no punishments for stooopid behaviour and freedom to throw tantrums.
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you are not autistic, but misdiagnosed, it is a disorder
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Perfectly put. This all starts with the mother telling her boy "you deserve everything" and trying to make him always happy and always with high self esteem, irrespectively of how poor his actual performance/achievements/behaviour is. It all starts with the mother trying to protect her male baby from "trauma".
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I left a separate comment for you. Anyone who IS INVITED deserved the inviting party to pay for the event. I hope, when people invite you for a birthday party, you do not offer to pay your share for air balloons and sausages? That's why some losers cannot ever find a woman, as they do not understand the basics.
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@galenschultz3239 No, it is the parents' job to create an environment for a child where breaking any social rule will always consistently result in a very unpleasant outcome of the child who broke the rules.
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@ phrase: That means children have to learn the underlying rules themselves. NO. PARENTS ought to MAKE THEM LEARN
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Dale Carnegie book - how to win friends, memorise it and learn to live by that book.
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nobody should put a chair back for the whining little boss.
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@georgehancock2307 Nope, he must voice what he wants or will not receive anything. This is how it should be.
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@johnrickard8512 Reading to them when they don't understand the meaning, is not useful at all. Echolalia is only fine up to age 2. No, a person who does not understand speech, cannot have any ideas.
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@chilloften Thank you!
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This means insufficient guidance on behaviour from the mother. The child is not allowed (NORMALLY!!!!) to move things without permission. Should NOT be allowed.
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@gg_ingy If you do not teach the child that he has no right to a particular object, the child will have to end up autistic, as he will be totally afraid of the outside environment where he is not the boss and cannot pick and choose things., timings , activities and communication. Any unhealthy routines should be immediately broken by the loving mother: no chance to put toys in lines (never give more than two objects available for play, unless the child uses them in a constructive healthy way), any rigid (so unhealthy) preferences must be NOT satisfied, and the child should be firmly steered towards normal behaviour. The best explanation is given by Jordan Peterson in his videos about parenting. By age 4, the child must be trained to be likeable and a joy to be around. This is the parents' job. Failing this job, the developmental pathological pathway is ensured. It is not yet too late for you. Remember, all the behaviour of any 3 y old is exactly what the parents allowed and affirmed. Take every behaviour that you think is abnormal (you call it autistic symptom) and weed it out in accordance with Pavlov law.
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Bad parenting. Punishments are not organised properly.
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Absolutely right. The whole diagnosis is.
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Have you got kids?
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@laraedreira7780 Yes, of course it does. Because real commitment is only checked when the woman gets pregnant, has consequences such as infections, incontinence etc and is then bound by 2-3 kids and ill health often, but the man is free to go. Before you have kids it is not even a relationship, it is a childs play.
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@laraedreira7780 I am not saying that it is easy. But you have no idea whether your husband is committed to you, until you successfully conceived, gave birth and breastfed his child, until that child has been ill ... You simply have no idea.
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@laraedreira7780 You will see. I am not saying that your man will necessarily leave you, he might not. However, you simply have no idea whether your bond is one of strength or of convenience. If you are together for 17 years, it means your fertility is already next to 0, and when you both try, you are likely to have to face tragic disappointment. Then your odds of having a mutation are extremely high. How do you know how your man will meet having to console you aborting the second or third trisomy baby? And so on and so forth... life together has not yet begun? sj far you two are rehearsing only. It might be all right, however if a woman is nearly 40, the likely hood of happy life with a kid is vanishing... More divorces happen with kids than without. If your relationship already made a choice of being able to withstand the nature for 17 years, it is not promising at all? A truly loving couple would not be able t be together for so long without longing to have a little copy of their love.
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@laraedreira7780 You don't have data to have such an opinion. Wait until you are 55 and rethink our dialog. Eclipped logic does not help yoy. No, I do not think family and reproduction is the main thing, same as oxygen is not the main thing in your life. But without motherhood a woman is like without oxygen. And no man who truly loves his woman would not want to jave a child by her. The relationship between a man and a woman is not real and not full when they are childless. If he did not want to see a child born by you, for 17 years, it is not love, it is free sex.
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@laraedreira7780 No, not at all. Of course you are entitled to your own WRONG opinion, it does not make it right. .I know what motherhood is and you don't. You also don't know the love of a man who wants to have grandchildren with his woman. Like someone who is blind from birth, and of course does not consider his life handicapped or unhappy but other people who have vision know what he is missing, you just cannot understand how narrow and shallow your life is, and of course 20 years on the pill change a woman psychologically into an not-fully-woman. No, a true heterosexual love is not the relationship between two people, but two people who have offspring. If a woman is childless, her use by date for any woman come at about 45, then she will be discarded. You will see it for yourself. First you need statistics for oncological diseases in childless women, then make a list of all childless women ofer 55 you know , and count how many are married and how many are single. You also do not have any childless close friends over 55, who would open for you the tragedy of childlessness in marriage. You need data. Find 10 old ladies who would confirm that they are happy to have been childless. It is not possible, every old woman will tell you what the reality is.
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@laraedreira7780 I have far more data, because I can compare the state of being a mother of my loved man children, seeing them blossom into loved and cherished men, with the state of just a woman who is in love. You cannot make such a comparison, so listen to more experienced women: if love+motherhood is 100%, then just chldless love us about 3%. NO woman who raised a child would want to be childless. Same way as who has vision will never want to cover his eyes forever, even if he has to see good and bad scenes. No, love about a man and a woman is loving, living, having offspring. A childless living together is not a full relationship. As you are too young to have your close friends being over 55, you yet have not heard them confessing in the tragedy of childlessness to you. So far your husband's empty mate is still attractive, but not for long.
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@laraedreira7780 I have far more data, because I can compare the state of being a mother of my loved man children, seeing them blossom into loved and cherished men, with the state of just a woman who is in love. You cannot make such a comparison, so listen to more experienced women: if love+motherhood is 100%, then just chldless love us about 3%. NO woman who raised a child would want to be childless. Same way as who has vision will never want to cover his eyes forever, even if he has to see good and bad scenes. No, love about a man and a woman is loving, living, having offspring. A childless living together is not a full relationship. As you are too young to have your close friends being over 55, you yet have not heard them confessing in the tragedy of childlessness to you. So far your husband's empty mate is still attractive, but not for long.
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@laraedreira7780 When you see a person standing on the edge of a cliff unaware of the imminent fall, would you not share your opinion that he needs to immediately step away? I know more about life, we are not equal. My daughter is happily married, she is the fruit of my love for a man. So I am in a position to tell you now to live to avoid tragedy, and you are not, simply because of age and experience difference. No, no woman regret having kids, but they feel sorry for you so keep the truth away from you, same as you are not going to brandish your good 20-20 vision in front of someone who has never been able to read the optometrist/s table. I do listen to advice of more experienced people, solicited or not. These are people professionally fulfilled and who have grown up happy grandchildren. Maybe 30 years later you will be able to tell me something helpful, but now now. Keep learning girl.
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When you see a person standing on the edge of a cliff unaware of the imminent fall, would you not share your opinion that he needs to immediately step away? I know more about life, we are not equal. My daughter is happily married, she is the fruit of my love for a man. So I am in a position to tell you now to live to avoid tragedy, and you are not, simply because of age and experience difference. No, no woman regret having kids, but they feel sorry for you so keep the truth away from you, same as you are not going to brandish your good 20-20 vision in front of someone who has never been able to read the optometrist/s table. I do listen to advice of more experienced people, solicited or not. These are people professionally fulfilled and who have grown up happy grandchildren. Maybe 30 years later you will be able to tell me something helpful, but now now. Keep learning girl.
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@laraedreira7780 When you see a person standing on the edge of a cliff unaware of the imminent fall, would you not share your opinion that he needs to immediately step away? I know more about life, we are not equal. My daughter is happily married, she is the fruit of my love for a man. So I am in a position to tell you now to live to avoid tragedy, and you are not, simply because of age and experience difference. No, no woman regret having kids, but they feel sorry for you so keep the truth away from you, same as you are not going to brandish your good 20-20 vision in front of someone who has never been able to read the optometrist/s table. I do listen to advice of more experienced people, solicited or not. These are people professionally fulfilled and who have grown up happy grandchildren. Maybe 30 years later you will be able to tell me something helpful, but now now. Keep learning girl.
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@noob19087 Peterson is no guru for me, but he is right and he is a great person. You are not, and no equal to him, so his opinion matters and your does not. I an not your enemy, I like cattle, they are funny.
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This is because he knows and understands too much about the real nature of autistic behaviour. Saying the truth would have him cancelled.
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@gabeguzman9478 One of my main goals as a parents was to ensure that my boys are a pleasure to be around. This helped them a lot, the older one already has a lovely relationship and the little one is loved by girls :)
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@thijsjong I hope you know that puppies are far more sensitive to sound and light than human babies. Read on what dog trainers advise to owners, how to desensitize their puppy. Sensible parents do exactly the same. No all parents follow through , not all know what to do, hence "sensory issues" - the non-trained puppy syndrome. Say thanks to your mummy, you are as you are because she inflated by training, by cherishing, and raised to grow all bad features in her kid.
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@thijsjong nope kid. Empty fortress still applies 100%.
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@infotrad What makes you dislike Jordan Peterson, apart from his silly stance on Soviet Union?
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@cloisonnegreen How old are they? I don;t think something went much wrong. Why would someone have a greatest self-confidence? Self confidence should match achievements. First of all, your job was huge, 4 kids is a wow for a mother, so already well done, even if the result is less than perfect. You gave four lives, at the end of the day.
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well put
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Hence they marry leftovers, and procreate making even worse offspring, who they grows up and can only get a similar quality partner, and that's how "breeds" develop. It was a very interesting process to see in the Soviet Union where all social hierarchy and class system was broken completely, giving clean slate to people who had attractive qualities and enabling them to cluster together creating the new class system in three-four generations... then it was broken again and the bottom males, criminals by nature, got to the top.
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totally incompetent. He is as far from autism as one can imagine. What a fake disease.
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@FrankJmClarke it is a social condition, socially defined. Not medical. It is only handled by medical professionals because it is the lol-judicial control of freedom a d imprisonment.
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@gulanhem9495 Autism is a disorder by definition. Someone who is well functioning enough to have a job that is about communicating with people, finding their problems and treating these for their well being, should not ever be diagnosed. It is a social religious construct of subjective nature. Peterson knows that but keeps quiet not to get cancelled.
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@ENSO-wildsound Absolutely agree. This soon shoukd stop being a taboo theme : the devastating role of the parent.
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not great at all. it is a deficit, disorder.
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A loser cannot get out unless he digests the fact that he is a loser. So only a psychologist who cares about the truth and about getting his client out, rather than about keeping a loser client happy in his state, can help really. Kind men keep losers losers. It all starts with a kind mother who is too kind to tell her son the truths as he is growing.
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You are mistaken: autism is a disorder by definition, not a difference. You need to compare not dog with cats, but dogs with disordered dogs.
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@Catfarm42_1 Dreams about changing the world is all nice, but reality stands: by definition, autism is a disorder, disorder and disorder. Non-disordered people cannot and should not be diagnosed. It is a social invention not a real diagnosis, because it simply compares behaviour to what a particular set of middle class white people consider a norm, and those people and this society issues the verdict: disordered. So, anyone brandishing their autism as a "difference", needs to be reminded that this is not simply a difference but a disorder in the eyes of the current society. One needs to choose: have your cake or eat it. Cannot have both. Either their diagnosis is a sham, or they are psychiatrically disordered people whose opinions matter less.
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A response to a loser: Info for Jonathan Stettler Why a man should pay for a woman he asked for a date with: It is HE who wants to meet with a woman, it is HIS invitation. If a woman invites a man for tea at her home, she does not ask him to pay for cake that she bought. The inviting party pays, this is what an invitation is about. If they met for other things (for example, they together attend an exhibition) but then casually went to eat, well, each can pay for themselves, which translates "we have nothing to do with each other". If you invite a woman to a restaurant and do not pay for the event, expect her to invite you for a night and then charge a hotel rated rent, plus the cost of tea, cake, use of tea cup, toothpaste etc. If one wants to attract a friend, he pays for whatever he organised. If you invite a frend, do you allow to use your wifi without being charged? Because it is your wifi, right? As a date is when "we are not yet friends, but I want you to be my friend" it is up to you to attract her or send a message "I will not do anything that cost me, I just want to use the opportunity to enjoy your body for free, without trying to become your friend and defender". I left a separate comment for you. Anyone who IS INVITED deserved the inviting party to pay for the event. I hope, when people invite you for a birthday party, you do not offer to pay your share for air balloons and sausages? That's why some losers cannot ever find a woman, as they do not understand the basics. Gokiburis will spend their nights alone. in a straight relationship, a woman gives her life, her health totally to her man, she risks dying, risks becoming incontinent, risks being left alone and ruined, to love the offspring of the man who left her, for the rest of her life, care for that offspring. What is equal in a relationship with a person who is prepared to die to give you your offspring? Nothing less that ALL you have. So, unless you are prepared to give everything, it is not equal, as your health stays intact, and woman's health is always given to a man.
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@noob19087 Of course, on the actual understanding and experience. Give me any aut.3y old, and a year later it will be a model polite socially competent child.
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@noob19087 Obedient child is the happiest child, they are happy with what they have, they will be a fully functional adult. When someone has a spending spree on a credit card, they are happy. However, they will pay dear for that false happiness later. Same with childhood. Childhood is a hardworking time, learning time, time to acquire what is necessary for happy adult life. Kids who have been kept "happy" by their permissive parents, pay for the rest of their lives. The peiod of two weeks - six month of instilling total obedience will not be technically happy, same as goign to a dentist. However, later the new skills of obedience will allow the kid to be tolerated by stranger adults who determine the child's future.
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So Jordan makes it clear that "autistic" kids are just those kids whose parents failed miserably to do this job.Then all their development goes wrong way.
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@Gokiburi777 HE wants to meet with a woman, so it is HIS invitation. If a woman invites a man for tea at her home, she does not ask him to pay for cake that she bought. The inviting party pays, this is what an invitation is about. If they met for other things (for example, they together attend an exhibition) but then casually went to eat, well, each can pay for themselves, which translates "we have nothing to do with each other". If you invite a woman to a restaurant and do not pay for the event, expect her to invite you for a night and then charge a hotel rated rent, plus the cost of tea, cake, use of tea cup, toothpaste etc. If one wants to attract a friend, he pays for whatever he organised. If you invite a frend, do you allow to use your wifi without being charged? Because it is your wifi, right? As a date is when "we are not yet friends, but I want you to be my friend" it is up to you to attract her or send a message "I will not do anything that cost me, I just want to use the opportunity to enjoy your body for free, without trying to become your friend and defender"/
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@Gokiburi777 We just celebrated our 28 year wedding anniversary with my husband. Our kids have been very successful and happy at a dating market, finding great partners. My son always paid for his date, I taught him so, with brilliant results. Please recalibrate your feelings , your prediction skills are below zero.
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We just celebrated our 28 year wedding anniversary with my husband. Our kids have been very successful and happy at a dating market, finding great partners. My son always paid for his date, I taught him so, with brilliant results. Please re-calibrate your feelings, someone's prediction skills are not good at all.
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@Gokiburi777 Wow, personal negative insinuation in a dialog instead of a valid argument... the sign of a true loser. Yesterday I celebrated 28 years of my marriage. My kids have partners and are happy with them, they did as I advised them..
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@Gokiburi777 my husband is rich and generous, and my son as well, he won't ever think of withholding £20 from a woman he likes. Is your wife dead a;lready, or in the process? Such life conditions are really dangerous, very sorry for her.
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@Gokiburi777 I don't believe you Plyushkin
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@Gokiburi777 Stingy chaps never become rich.
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@Gokiburi777 True, so they don't waste their time on unsuitable dates, when they meet a worthy woman, they go on a date and treat her well so she feels invited and cherished. I have no interest in further dialog with a loser.
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exactly
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@stefanisilva2493 My grandmother married after 13 days. Happy 46 years together.
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@stefanisilva2493 Nonsense. My grandma married aftee 13 days and lived happily with my grandpa for 46 years.
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@stefanisilva2493 Wow what nonsense. Divorce is easy in Russia, and always has been since 1920s, no inheritance or gifts can be shared, split is always 50:50 and child maintenance is always 25%, so no need to hire lawyers. Many people divorced, but many people were happy together, including my grandparents. My parents also had about 6 months only before marriage, they are still together happy. Looking at your comments, and being a married mother of three lovely people, I can tell that no person will find himself compatible with you. Too grim, too unpleasant, and lacking admiration for other people - we would say about such a woman.
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@stefanisilva2493 Well you might think you are happily married, but I bet your husband has another view. have you got kids with him? are they happy?
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@stefanisilva2493 I can assure you no man will be happy with a childless 50y old woman. Wait and see, and if my 86 he is still "happy" with you, then tell us. There are NO childless happy couples , They are either unhappy with each other, or unhappy with infertility.
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@russianbot4418 The vast majority of parents get this exactly right, and so their kids grow up free of diagnoses. Those parents who cannot get the balance, they seek ASD diagnosis for their either gravely spoilt or hopelessly suppressed kids. The mistakes of parents are not taken into any account when diagnosing the object of wrong actions.
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@galenschultz3239 Arguing with Pavlov law is silly. The vast majority of parents manage to train social skills in their kids as to prevent any psychiatric diagnoses. The failed ones go and seek diagnosis. The rules are very simple: to follow hierarchy, to obey adults who have been entrusted the responsibility to care the child, to not take others' things without permission etc. Very simple rules. When the skill of obeying those rules is not parented into the kid, ASD follows.
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@ First learn the book really really by heart, spend a whole year living literally by the book, it is fun and will feel very new and not easy. But the new skills will propel you so much into the different kind of existence. Try, it is free from every library.
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You simply do not deserve a really loving woman.
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Totally true!!!
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@thisisthetruth9868 It is always lopsided, and has been lopsided ever. But always against the woman. A woman commits her health, her body, her life. Giving birth to the man's child is risky and she can die, be left incontinent, lose her beauty and health forever. Then she is bound by maternal feelings towards the offspring of the man for at least 25 years, just for the fact of getting pregnant by him. Hes commitment is absolute. If a man does not want to take his share of absolute risk (poverty is much nicer than death as a risk), he is not worth committing to.
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@OnlyOneTruth25 wow, you were so prejudged about how other children do things... one more mum who wass desperate to diagnose her not very well parented kid... good mother simply teach an abrupt lesson to a brat who objects like that : your opinion has not been asked, don't you dare to argue with an adult - it is SHOES, and put him on a naughty step for 10 minutes min.
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Why cannot you choose a virgin from some best uni instead? But you really have to be good quality material yourself for such a girl
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What a disaster. Total incompetence, and shows what fraud this diagnosis is. A mentally disordered person allowed to work with children! Disgrace!
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EXACTLY
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For s woman this is true, but for a man... selfless work is great but it is still remunerated usually for men
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of course not doomed.
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Well, you failed to understand the idea. The self esteem of an unpleasant person can be never higher than 0, unless self-deception goes on.
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Yes, it is a sham diagnosis, a business model.
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Nonsense. He celebrates life as it is, without hiding behind rose tinted glasses.
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It's a training difference, skills difference, as the result of inefficient parenting.
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Your partner is committing all her health, life, beauty, youth to bear children for you. So you can procreate, she is prepared to endure pain that you will never experience in your lifetime unless you are a war veteran. From your side however it is just a piece of paper. Wow.
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@mekbebtamrat817 17th or 21st, woman's body is the same, and pregnancy still gives stretchmarks, spoils teeth (I personally lost 12 pieces of my teeth just braking off randomly during pregnancies), incontinence (absolutely humiliating) in a huge percentage of women, dilated stomach muscles diastasis (I personally suffered this), breasts infections with surgery and huge scars and lots and lots of other things, pure health risks, and EVERY woman who is a mother would tell you, if you ask, a health issue that she got in connection with giving birth, it is the norm, as much as the norm is for men to die in battles of war. Well, my grandfather came intact after WW2, it still does not mean that going to war is safe. Therefore any woman who lets a man's penis into her vagina, commits her health fully and wholeheartedly to the relationship. Think!
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the deep underlying reason is LAZINESS, and eveyrone knows that. People do not do anything unless they either 1) interested and are looking forward to something 2) must. If your mum created for you a situation when your room is not clean but you are still fed and homed, you have a problem. It is so easy and simple and doesn't require explanation.
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@harryhoudini714 Lol, first of all you don't know whether I am a psychologist. You have a three storey tower of defences to explain yoyr laziness buddy. First of all, why do you think that psychologists own common sense? They don't. This is a self-proclaimed profession, the only profession where the result is not a measure of success. Jodran just happens to be a talented person and a good parent, who can apply whatever knowledge he received in his useless profession to put it at good cause. But psychologists' bread abd butter depends on soothing losers for money. When a lazy loser comes and pays mummy's money, a psychologist will not shoot themselves in the foot and say "just lazy", they will say whatever will keep the lozer clients soothed and coming back. Laziness existed and exists and will exist and it is a human nature, we won't do anything boring or hard unless we have to, same with cats, bears, tigers. When a child is brought up being valued for being useless, being coddled and defended against common sense by mummy, a growing male will have developed laziness as an intrinsic feature of character. Show me a psychologist who brought up two or more good productive people (OK Jordan brought up two and he says the right thing all the time)m as I brought up three. The proof is in the pudding, a person is an expert if he/she can bring up a winner not a loser. A cook who never baked a cake but spent 5 years reading books about cooking, is no cooking expert. No, playing computer games for three days is not comparable to any competition, because it is safe, profects self esteem, not dangerous, easy (all computer games are designed to be mastered by an average << intelligence chap, I taught computer games creators as a pro!), does not require physical strength and exersion of muscle force, has undo and escape... When even an average Czerny etude on a piano takes real effort but also ONLY doable by no more that 1 out of a hundred!
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@ But you did not have a tablet and a sworm of greedy experts to diagnose you.
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@laurahano2587 If my mother had such an avatar and called herself "THE ONE" on youtube, I also would not be speaking until 10. These are all children of mothers with issues.
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@johnhpalmer6098 Autism is an invention, bad parenting seems to not exist any more, it is a taboo. If achild just draws differently, nobody will diagnose. It takes a mother who is unable to instil certain proper behaviours,, and in frustration that mother goes to diagnose her kid.
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@johnrickard8512 Not all kids listen and books read aloud, not all kids are keen to speak.
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@Highontheholyghost Well, if you don't like reality, it is your problem. Deal with it. What ai said it the truth and is entirely forrect.
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@eithne9126 "ligetimately"??? end of story.
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And then such mother get their victims a diagnosis of ASD. It clear them from any responsibility for the unlikeability of their child.
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Well, I raised three lovely kids. In your story, there is one key phrase that contains the explanation of what is going pn: "throws tantrum UNTIL I HOLD him", so it is clear that bad behaviour is rewarded in your home. How do you reward him? For each particulatkyling and insistent tantrum you hold him. It is in his interest to keep tantruming. You need to radically change your ways. When he throws a tantrum, he needs to immediately get something unpleasant ( such as a glass of water poured over his head, or being pulled into a utility rom and left there for 5 minutes). And from today, if he started his tantrum, it should mean for you that NO WAY would you hold him, satisfy his wish, or do anything pleasant for him until he stops and demonstrates respectful behaviour for the next several hours. He needs to learn that him starting a tantrum equals losing any chance of satisfying his want. This is a quick and easy process as age 3. Listen to Jordan Peterson and John Rosemond.
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