Comments by "May L" (@MeiinUK) on "Hoarders: “I Hate It” Hoarder Upset Over Cleaned Up House | Au0026E" video.

@janesmith9024 : I disagree with that... I am one of four children as well and my mother is now 80.... I used to think that, it is hard to actually help run a household until I ran my own home... It is a lot of work as well. The kids... if they could help her out a lot as well... and do their parts as well... and keep things to a regular thing. Then everybody would find that "more hands make lighter work".... Which is a better thing. In the UK.. when I was growing up.. when kids are around 18, most have a saturday job and bring home some money to their parents, to help out. And this is how we help one another in a community really. And what goes round, comes round.. and helps another family too. Just something to ponder and think about as well. Into the future... who would be working with each other? Your kids, with your neighbours' kids are going to be part of the futures too....
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I bet she doesn't like it, cos it costs a lot of money... as well as actually, her doing the work of putting up the trees and then having to say "no" to some pressies etc... Maybe this is why she is upset ?....
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I feel for the mom... she must've given a lot of herself.. in hope to actually help her kids and to raise them..but this giving away a lot of herself, must mean that she wants to retreat to a very very small private space. And now, this is gone. Even I wouldn't throw away my mom's items... I make sure that, I would have some of her legacies... and something like a continuities as well.... Her kids need to learn to love her... as a mother.. and put her on a pedestal as well. i.e. Follow her style... her memories. As much as we have TVs, and we have cultures... sometimes, that tiny bit of intimacies... within a family tree, from generation to generation.. is what your parents set for you. I hope her boys... learn to genuinely say "I do love what you have mom, let's change it for the better".... This is very emotionally upsetting to watch in a way.
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It's very very harsh to judge her like this... even if she is a mother... She is also, an actual genuine human being as well. Mother is just a role for her in this lifetime. She also has feelings as well. This is whereby, that famous book by that Japanese nun..... It mentioned the importance of "each person in the house, keep a section of their private space. When and only when the individual.. is ready to throw out their belongings.. only when THEY are ready, then should it go. And for this mom.. maybe her compulsive buying is a kind of..."I bought it for the kids".. Maybe it is not what the child likes as well ? So it then goes in cycle. If they did a Marie Kondo, a slow version of decluttering... it might have been a lot better for everybody. Cos then, they are also ready to be both collective as a family.... as well as actually.... be individuals as well.
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