Comments by "JustAThought!" (@JustAThought155) on "The Shame of Deception | Chandler Halderson Case Analysis" video.

  1. I learned of this case from the CBS show “48 Hours.” I am baffled by this guy’s deceptive behavior. Therefore, I wonder if he was taught from an early age that success was obtained by your position in society? According to the “48 Hours” episode, Chandler was at one point, a very successful swimmer, possibly, for years. Also, a letter written by his mother was read by one of his mother’s relatives, on the show. The letter shares many of the successful positions and accomplishments her two sons had achieved, but there was no mention of the mom sharing how pleased she was to simply spend time with her two sons who have grown into great men. Of course only a portion of the letter was read. However, based on the limited information available through that one episode, and the personal accounts shared: e.g., the letter; it seemed easy to assess how the sons could have had an expectation of socially acceptable success being instilled in them throughout their lives. In reality, every deceptive item on Chandler’s verbal resume was associated with being highly successful, socially. And each of the deceptive positions he shared about hinged on the items that made it into the mother’s letter to her family members. This is telling, in my opinion. Thus, it is easy to see how non-verbal signs and actions lead to outward behaviors, as your assessment suggests. And in this case, it seems as if Chandler sought to achieve family worthy success, but knew he failed at doing so, and basically decided to destroy the source of the pressure rather than trying to live with the fact that he did not have to or that he could not measure up to the expected social standards set by his family’s expectations. This is not an excuse nor sympathy or empathy for this killer. Chandler is a criminal. He could also easily have mental issues that fail to provide him the tools of facing life on life’s terms. But was this natural or was this nurtured? Relying again upon the CBS “48 Hours” episode, Chandler was successful in his parent’s mindset. Yet, another telling fact was shown about expectations in that family. The sons were both in a relationship with their girlfriends. However, Chandler’s union as built on falsehood, hiding, him returning home to live with his parents as he agreed to eventually be “traced” via Snapchat by his seemingly long term girlfriend. However, if you hear the read letter from his mother, notice how that aspect of the story did not appear in the news sent to the family, for the mom simply wrote in the letter with an image of her sons standing next to their girlfriends, how successful the boys were and how “the boys and their woman” stood perfectly smiling for the picture. The mother could have easily shared how her sons are growing up rather than the schooling and workplaces are even topped off with her sons having “their women” as well. Overall, it seems as if hints of deception were common in the family as an attempt to keep up the appearance of one happily united successful team. And honestly, we are seeing how not everyone can live like this, hence the upswing of the many other family annihilators are making the headlines, sadly.
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