Comments by "Sigrid Marie Refsum" (@SigMaQuint) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

  1. Really useful. I think I know what you mean about valuing other people for their uniqueness.. I have noticed one thing, that I rarely get exhausted when doing photography, its more like «now its time to stop»-thing. I am doing a course in taking photos of people, and I notice that it invigorates me. The approach is essential. To observe and take photos can be a pretty introverted thing, so I feel kind of more in place. Still, when taking photos of living people, I need to connect, and I found your little video here very useful. Thanks.
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  2. A good overview, it seems. Someone i know insisted on marrying a woman working in a shop nearby, She had been friendly, and helpful. And she was clear about being happily married. She died from some vicious disease, and I wondered if the stress of being stalked contributed to her illness. And the stalker? Maybe in a hospital. He had problems and delusions.
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  3. People in Paralympics have motoric talent. I thought I could do a major in analytics of congruens in my native language, but I ended up crying in the library instead. .. finally I let go of academics, and turned to what brought me to youtube., creating songs.. I could use what I had learned about poetry during my academic years as well as fellow music students who needed to practice as teachers. Experimenting is necessary, yes.
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  4. It is good with nuance. Yes, I think that is a good guideline. What would you do in real life? Actually you might not relate to a well known person in public, while some decent interaction would be OK on the Social media. Discernment is key.
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  5. I am thinking of a Russian speaking vlogger I am following. Her daughter appears from time to time, but it seems to me that she is showing discretion. When her daughter is performing or wants to talk on camera, she is there, but embarrassing moments are not part of it. It is everyday life, not the daughter. Should it be forbidden? I am not sure. Anyway, being present in the moment is very important in life.
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  6. A counselor telling you that you are «strange» with a touch of disgust, is a lot worse than a thoughtfully explained confidential diagnoses. In my experience, when in a vulnerable position, it is not so easy to find the right help, or even sort through what is available.
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  7. This really made me happy, as I need this approach when facing so many difficult black and white assumptions. I am so glad you could discuss this in such a respectful manner.
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  8. A good thing that you exemplified what science is and is not. Is it just because I had a father who was a scientist, and also a believer.? We had a lot of discussions around those themes. So, despite not having the credentials, I agree with you. I would think that believing is quite another way of searching for meaning in life, different, totaliter aliter.
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  9. A fast runner, is something my body simply is not built for.
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  10. I think it was exactly what I needed right now. I need to focus on the possibility that I can fix my economy and do the right thing, and that I can manage the requirements of an upcoming travel.
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  11. Test a variety of things. I found that out after a doing multippel tests. I have to try, because, otherwise I would not know what to answer in quetionnaires. I have tested math, linguistics, teaching, nursing, working alongside lawyers, but something that was pointed out to me when I was you, was writing and music composition, as well as theater. I came back to that pretty late in life, and I have created good things that have been acknowledged by people who are really into the field. I could need more perseverance and confidence in persevering.. and I am still working on it. I also need to work more on finances, because that is a big part of it. Not as fun, but necessary.
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  12.  @WynneL  She had been considerate and thoughtful, working in a neighboring house. Could we have done something to stop it? Not just being annoyed by our friend’s delusions?
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  13. About moving on from faults.
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  14. Reaction formation was something to think about. Also noticing my BSreaction-detection.
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  15. In a way I realize I must have been considered attractive at some time. Am I guilty myself? I know the feeling of jealousy. That definitely does not bring out the best.
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  16. I tend to agree with you. I am proud of the fact that I have social media friends with different opinions and values.
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  17. Thanks for your generous sharing of knowledge. It means a lot. Good quality stuff.
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  18. I think imagination and special experience and unique choices. Some i individuality.
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  19. My greatest fear at the moment, is practicing my music, and not be any good anyway.
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  20. I have a very smart daughter, so I have never ever questioned your qualifications. Your are smart and a good student. Yes, there are people like you. I have met some. I do appreciate your humility, and the fact that you see yourself as a human like any other.
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  21. I am happy that I can follow you safely, for ny soul.
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  22. Learning to play new music by heart. It makes for a much more expressive performance.
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  23. You gave a lot of nuance. Deep emotional connection, whether it be a therapist, a counselor has always been valued, I think. Old people had some of that role in previous days, but they did not have research to back up what they said, only life experience and tradition, somehow. Bashing a whole field of work makes me sceptical. You might have thoughts about what it is and what it is not, is something more valid. A musician I know, says that music is the best there is. I myself, am into music, but I do see that we have different roles that may enhance society as a whole.
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  24. I am interested. My children are parents themselves. I am learning. I want to give them reason for staying connected, and for that to happen, I need to have my own balance and supportive people.
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  25. Going public comes for various reasons. I think you have mapped quite well how not to be taken down by irrelevant comments. At first I thought: I don’t watch TikTok, why watch this vlog. But I am glad I did.
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  26. Excellent advice. Not always followed, but you make sense of my experience. I can think of examples. . Asking a workmate not to constantly hurt me in vulnerable places, ended with my sick leave. . Yes, my workmate could be disrespectful, but she could not change.
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  27. Put my glasses on top of my phone when I go to bed so I won"t misread the time when I wake up. . Make sure that I have warm footwear with me, like wool socks. . On New Year's Day these two things popped up as important for staying healthy and take care of myself.
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  28.  @frog6054  Seems there are more things that need to come into place and flourishing in life.
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  29. This is a good suggestion. I was part of getting parent consent for a music video. The children performing all had consenting parents and they were proudly taking part. Yet I noticed that the angles of some of the footage might be attractive to pedophiles. After posting the video I was befriended by someone who started messaging me suggestive photos with a baby resting on a grown man`s thigh. This was confirmed to be CSAM - material by an investigator.
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  30. Good to get that clarification and reminder. It can be tempting to misuse it at times.
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  31. Some children love to perform, though.
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  32. Performing is a craft, and some children love it. Like I enjoyed learning song lyrics. My mom taught me, but I still do it.
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  33. I was thinking of dating together. That is actually a way of turning towards, sitting face to face.
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  34. I meant eating.
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  35. No ❤
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  36. I once knew an estranged parent. She could be cutting in her remarks. On the other hand she was a caring person. But she also had testified in court against her daughter’s boyfriend, who had been hiding illegal weapons in her flat. Yes, she missed her grandchildren and was not memorized when she died. No reception, no informing acquaintances. I am sorry about her destiny. I have not heard her daughter’s version, though. And she did not make public fuzz about it. There was a lot of uncaring in her family of origin. Your words bring me relief, as I do search myself whenever my children put some distance I did not expect. We grown ups and elder ones need to create reasons for trust and relating. We are responsible for doing that.
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  37. I sit here today regretting that I have been trying to sort out a conflict between two close people in my life. It turned out harmonious on the surface, but both involved confided with me that the situation was hurtful to them, even afterwards. I feel bad and I think I need to tell them both that this issue must be sorted out with an outsider who can mirror you. Since I know both, and care about both, I feel hurt.
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  38. I don’t like fictional crime. There is too much drama. DH doesn`t like true crime, which I follow intensely. I can take my guitar and watch together with him, and play a little with the music. I will try some more.
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  39. True. I do get the logic of this. Stopping, happens with a stopping force. Beautifully put.
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  40. I don’t agree with you 100%. It is refreshing to be challenged sometimes by someone like you. I also think polarization harms us and makes us lonely. That is because I have suffered from it.
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  41. I think Brian was kind of tight shouldered when talking to the police. I keep wondering if the park ranger would have been more succesful, if she had focused on de-escalating, and the need for de-escalating, and the need for that, it may have been easier for Gabby to act more in her own best interest. The thought of splitting up may have been too drastic to consider.
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  42. I have one objection. Finding things through Google, is not satisfying to me. I would rather go into some associated database or library deep dive. Eduroam is also a place to search. That is my experience from researching specific topics based on my educational knowledge, that is pretty specialized narrowed down topics.
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  43. Describe: I am in the process of letting an accomplished musician and producer create a video track for a song I have created. Also, this will cost money that I do not have at present. Others expect me to ask people to work for free, because this is about a cause. Express: I feel it in my body, and I get a headache when an additional musician is introduced to the production, although I know that musician will add to the production. I feel pain and no optimism, like this is going to crush me, even though I want it to be done, and I think that Assert my request: I really need to get into a more optimistic route. I want to preserve my health without going completely broke, so I need to find ways to get this project done with financial balance. Reinforce: Yes, I need to reinforce the need for getting this done without going broke or loosing my health.
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  44. Marinating until deadline is due.. I like that. Building for å peak performance. .. So, better, with less desirabel tasks that are put off, like sorting out everything I have piled on a round table. That is definitely lack of confidence: «What if I never get it done?»
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  45. I think people want more out of life.
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  46. Temperament, no. Sense of responsibility, yes. But, how, I am not sure.
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  47. Sooner or later this affects our needs.
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