Comments by "Lorri Lewis" (@lorrilewis2178) on "You CAN'T HAVE ANY RELATIONSHIP with anyone: understanding the importance of selection" video.

Generally, a husband will say they were blindsided by their wife announcing she wants a divorce. The wife will say she tried to tell her husband for YEARS that there were problems. Her pleas were not taken seriously, or he promised to deal with the problems and never did. The wife is disappointed again and again. Most women will make repeated attempts to fix the marriage. If nothing ever changes, she sees the handwriting on the wall. The husband's disinterest is all the information she needs. At that point, women reject the "sunk cost fallacy". They'd rather not spend the rest of their lives being miserable. This is WHY women initiate most divorces. There are exceptions and sometimes the roles are reversed, but what I explained is the most common scenario.
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@orangeandslinky The fact that your answer focuses on vows rather than issues in the marriage is concerning. So I will ask . . . did your wife ever tell you there were issues in the marriage that bothered her?
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@orangeandslinky It's EXTREMELY unusual for a wife not to tell her husband why she's leaving. Most husbands will admit their wife had voiced her concerns, but that he didn't take her seriously. My best guess from your story is that she has MAJOR issues due to her upbringing.
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@orangeandslinky Okay. Listen, it is NOT a normal or usual thing for a wife to fall out of love with her husband when she has a baby. In fact, in healthy marriages, if she sees her husband is a great father, she usually falls in love with him even more. Granted, taking care of a baby is very demanding and many men don't realize how exhausting it is. But that has nothing to do with a woman falling out of love with her husband, unless he leaves all the work up to her. It sounds like your wife grew up with an example of a mother who put the children first to an extreme. If that is what she experienced growing up, she had a skewed understanding of motherhood and may have thought that was required of her as a mother. Still, when she told you she wanted a divorce, didn't she say anything?
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@orangeandslinky I wish you would use paragraphs because it's hard to read a wall of text. Women do not "always choose to be whores." There is no data indicating 40% of men are fathering babies that are not theirs. Women don't wish they were men. The rest of what you wrote is unintelligible, so I can't address it as it is written.
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@chad-9171 It should have explained it that way because that makes a lot more sense.
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@roses6564 Unless she's mentally ill.
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