Comments by "Lorri Lewis" (@lorrilewis2178) on "MEN need to have a PLAN WITH WOMEN: preventing relationship creep" video.

  1. 1) If you think men don't subject women to "relationship creep" you're crazy. There's a lot of men who attempt to corral a woman before she even has time to figure out if she likes him. Ask me how I know. 2) If you avoid being EXPLICIT about not wanting a relationship, you are an immature coward with no communication skills and worse, no integrity. Plus, being explicit from Day One means you can exit at any time with your integrity intact.
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  2.  @31minutesago  Because men have done it to me. They thought because they were determined to have a relationship with me, that meant it was a done deal.
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  3.  @Nah-ah  They need to go outside and touch grass for starters. Then they need to be the best person they can be, get off social media, quit taking stupid advice that frames women as subhumans out to destroy men instead of just living their lives. Then, they need to lighten up and get involved in group activities they love and meet women who love those same activities. Then get to know them as humans instead of the one-dimensional cartoon characters this channel portrays them as.
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  4.  @31minutesago  Had a guy in a class who was obsessed with me, though I didn't know at the time. He told me later he managed to get his seat changed so he was sitting right in front of me. He was always turning around to talk, but otherwise he wasn't on my radar. One day, he realized we had a female friend in common and started talking about that. The girl in question and I both had a secret crush on a guy in our music theory class, and that guy was standing in the courtyard right at that moment. I casually pointed him out and said my friend had a crush on the guy, but didn't say I did too. He immediately said, "Oh, she can do better than him!" I didn't understand why he was dismissive of the guy, but I ignored it. That casual exchange prompted him to hatch a plot. A couple of weeks later he said he knew a handsome guy he was sure my friend and me would like a lot more than the guy we had a crush on. He went on and on about how great this mysterious handsome guy was. Handsome guy had a boat and with his agreement, he invited my friend and me out on the boat. His real motive was to spend time with me, but he didn't admit that until much later. My girlfriend ended up canceling and he knew I wouldn't go on a boat alone with two men, so he had to find another girl. He told me later, he chose the most promiscuous show off he knew, because he wanted handsome guy to go after her over me because she represented easy sex. His plan worked. She was as provocative as he hoped for. It became clear on the boat that handsome guy was going for easy sex. On the drive home we were in the back seat. My hair was in a million knots from the ocean winds. I started combing it out and he said, "Oh, let me do it!" He spent an hour combing out the knots. He told me later he was in Heaven, but I had no idea. After that day, he kept up a relentless rush of getting me to participate in more "non-date" outings. They had to be "non-dates" because I never expressed interest in him and he acted like his only goal was setting me up with someone else. His secret goal was to wear me down with his continual presence. Then he began portraying himself as the final arbiter of every subject - to elevate himself and make me question my own judgement. He was trying to create a mental dependency on him. Without ever discussing it, he managed to incrementally slide into a situation where we were dating as a couple - though I'd never consciously liked him that way. I eventually got free, but it was like freeing myself from a determined octopus with eight arms. I was unaware of his plotting and planning, but he later confessed it all to me. It never occurred to him that if he had to plot and be so secretive about his real intentions, the relationship was imaginary on his side.
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  5.  @jensen4993  My experiences with men are not unusual. I have much worse stories - one experience could have been made into a movie. 😔 I view men as creatures that require one to exercise extreme caution and extreme vetting. The sad difference between men and women is that men who get hurt seek to hurt other women who did nothing to them. Whereas most women don't seek to hurt other men because of their experiences. We just become skeptical and guarded.
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