Comments by "Lorri Lewis" (@lorrilewis2178) on "Why modern DATING DOESN'T WORK, or: privileges and responsibilities" video.

These men are BLIND to women's realities in marriage and what they go through physically to become mothers, the day-to-day demands of being mothers to dependent children - not to mention that many also hold down a full-time job. More of the housework is on them too. Unless the husband takes some of the load off, the women are essentially working two jobs, yet expected to be sexy and pay attention to their husbands. The husbands don't get what they want because they ignore that their wives are drowning. Studies show that women are more unhappy in marriage than men are specifically because of how much labor falls on them, but this psychology professional is unaware of the studies?
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@nativetexanful Since most wives work, how is she taking half HIS wealth? And even if she wasn't working, do you think her contribution of running a household and raising children is worth nothing? No one "gets" a house for free if it still has a mortgage. They have to pay the mortgage on a reduced income. Your statement that women divorce because they have so much to gain is bonkers. If they were only concerned about gain, they'd stay married and keep access to 100% of the savings and the higher income from being married. Typically, men still have more money after a divorce than women - or they did historically. Nowadays, women in their 20s are earning more than men in their 20s, so the women have more to lose. The better question is why women are driven to give up so much to get away from their husbands. You should Google the top reasons women give for seeking a divorce.
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@nativetexanful I'm not trying to insult you, but you have a poor understanding of divorce law. Anything a person owns prior to marriage is not considered community property. A house you bought before marriage is yours alone. It can't be given away in divorce. Any money you had before the marriage is not considered community property as long as you don't co-mingle it in a joint bank account. Most divorces don't include alimony and when there is alimony, it's usually temporary alimony meant to tide the person over until they can start earning. Permanent alimony only happens after long marriages when the spouse has no way of supporting themselves after being home so long. You can do a prenup and as long as your attorney makes sure it's valid (it must meet standards), it dictates who gets what no matter what state law says. A prenup can specify no alimony. The one exception a prenup can't address child support.
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@nativetexanful You are absolutely wrong about prenups. There are requirements that must be met at the time a prenup is signed to make it valid. A decent attorney makes sure the prenup meets those requirements. If all requirements are met, which is easy to do, then prenups hold up in court. If they didn't, no one would bother. California, being California has a situation that without a prenup, everything the spouses owned before marriage becomes community property at the 7th year of marriage, BUT that is NOT the situation in most states. Even in California a prenup avoids that situation. Even without a prenup, no judge will hand property you owned before marriage to your spouse in a divorce. However it's still crucial to get a prenup. Once you have a valid prenup, the only wild card is child support, which a prenup can't address.
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@Clownsallaround My ex-husband decided to stay home and do some day-trading while I was working full-time. He said, "This doesn't mean I'm a house husband." So he did zero housework, including the weekends. The prior year I endured the most severe bout of bronchitis in my life - needing two rounds of antibiotics to cure it. It felt like I was trying to breathe underwater and couldn't get enough oxygen 24 hours a day. This made me exhausted. My husband came home one day while I was lying sick on the sofa struggling to breathe. He said, "Couldn't you have cleaned?" Of course, now that he's single, he does all his housework because there is no woman in the house that he expects to do it all.
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@Clownsallaround They can be so unconscious of what is happening right in front of them. Even John Gray, the man who wrote the "Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus" books missed the mark. He talked about how stressful his wife would feel about all the tasks that had to be done. He described them going for a walk one day and he wanted them to relax when they got home. She told him the kids needed help with their homework and the kitchen had to be cleaned, so she couldn't rest. Did he offer to help her? NO! He went and rested while she ran around doing everything, and then had the nerve to imply it was her fault she couldn't rest!!!!!!!
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@Clownsallaround I hate to say it, but most of the time (not all the time) when a man jets off to the Philippines to get a wife . . . well lets just say they aren't necessarily the most mentally or emotionally stable men. I do know one man who doesn't fit that. He's in Canada and lives in a remote area where he doesn't see many people, and he's a widower in his 70s. He had a great marriage before his wife died and he's been alone a long time. He's considered the Philippines, but hasn't made up his mind. He's old, but he's very very kind.
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@Clownsallaround A man I know showed me a YouTube channel of a man who went to the Philippines to find a woman. He moved there. He did a whole video on watching out for Philippine women who run scams on these guys.
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@Clownsallaround A womanophere? I have seen a huge shift in women's feelings about relationships. Never have I seen so many women of child-bearing age deciding to opt out of relationships. The other thing that is hilarious is the channels with guys who give relationship advice to women on how to deal with men. It used to be that women would watch those videos in hopes of learning something. Now? You would not believe how many women watch those videos and say, "Frankly, I don't care what men want." "I'm not interested." "All the advice is for women to do all the work and where are the channels for men explaining what women want?" A lot of ladies are done. They want to focus on themselves and their career. They have learned that it's a much more peaceful life without a man in it.
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@Clownsallaround They are blind to what marriage with children is really like for women. After pregnancy and childbirth, if the wife/mother holds down a job, she is working two jobs. She is also the one doing most of the housework, cooking, and keeping track of everything. She plans holidays and executes them. The man wants a medal for doing the dishes once in a while. For these guys to act like they're the plow horses in marriage is a big joke.
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Women initiate the majority of divorces, so your conclusions are faulty. Studies have shown men are happier in marriages overall than women. It's almost a moot subject because so many women don't even want to get married now. You could substitute the word "men" and change it into "women", and every word he said about the disadvantages of a serious relationship apply to women too.
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@Clownsallaround I don't think these men are ready for the discussion about how many young women are now avoiding relationships with men. I don't think they're even aware this is happening.
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@nativetexanful Should I believe you, or should I believe James Sexton, a prominent California divorce attorney who deals with wealthy clients? No one gets to claim they signed a prenup under duress without proving it. When a prenup is written correctly, it is written in such a way to prevent claims of signing under duress. Look up James Sexton. He's all over YouTube discussing divorce and prenups. Judges HAVE TO honor them if they are valid and it's easy for an attorney to make sure they are valid.
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