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Back in October 2016: "Clinton described her rival’s refusal to accept the outcome of the election, which takes place in less than three weeks, as “horrifying”.
“He is denigrating and he is is talking down our democracy,” said the former secretary of state. “And I, for one, am appalled that someone who is the nominee of one of two major parties would take that position."
“Every time Donald thinks things are not going in his direction, he claims whatever it is is rigged against him,” said Clinton, adding that he has, at various times, accused the FBI, the Republican primary process and the judicial system of being corrupt."
(as reported by The Guardian and elsewhere)
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Carl,
What did I write up top? I SAID the parent should NOT have forced the child onto an 8-hour flight, because it was beyond his ability.
The signs of severe autism are not difficult to diagnose. Mild autism would be tricky to diagnose, but not severe autism. I was saying my niece was autistic a good two years before the doctors diagnosed her. The doctors could not possibly spend as much time with her as I did, so they weren't able to observe all her behavior.
The parents began to notice something was wrong the Christmas she was three-years-old. I saw the same behavior they saw, and thought to myself that it was almost like she was autistic.
Later, I picked up a book on the subject and my niece had every single sign. Diagnosis is based on observing behavior. It's not like there's a blood test. I tried and tried to tell the family that she had every single sign of autism, but they didn't want to hear it. Two years later, she was finally diagnosed. It was sad because early intervention is recommended.
Here are the signs I observed:
She had started out talking normally, and then over time began to lose all language ability. She stopped talking. She stopped making eye contact. She stopped answering to her name, yet it was plain she wasn't deaf. She started lining her toys up in rows endlessly. She was great at puzzles, but didn't play with toys in an imaginative or "role playing" way that normal kids do. She was given a toy farm and she only played with it like it was a giant puzzle. She didn't understand what a farm was or how the characters related. They were objects without meaning.
When she wanted something, she would grab a person's hand and silently take their hand to the thing she wanted --- autistic kids will often use another person's hand like a tool, instead of asking for what they want. She had no concept of physical danger or dangerous heights that normal kids develop by a certain age. She would only eat an extremely limited range of foods. She lived in her own world and didn't interact with anyone.
All of those are signs of autism. When a child has THAT MANY signs of autism, you don't have to be a rocket scientist or doctor to see what's right in front of your face.
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@nilswestman4013 Our cat was diagnosed with advanced kidney disease the very day she died. The vet said we could try to keep her alive by forcing medicine down her throat every day, but we knew from experience how much she hated that, so opted to put her to sleep. The vet was so relieved.
We were supposed to drive to the vet the next day to put her to sleep, but she had a seizure at the hospital and stopped breathing.
At the moment of her death, I was at home and I just started crying hysterically without being told what happened. A couple of minutes later, the vet called to tell us the news. When I told him I started crying so hard without being told, he said, "Your souls are connected."
I'm sorry for your loss and mine too. We will be with them again.
We have wind chimes that seldom ring even in strong gusts of wind - they are hung in an odd place. The week after Button died, they rang constantly, more than they have in the 8 months we've lived in this place. On Thanksgiving, the one-week anniversary of her death, it was like a wind chime serenade here.
It stopped the next day and the wind chimes are like they were before.
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@johncrow5552 I've never thought in terms of "men spending money on me."
My general rule is that on a first date, the person who issues the invitation pays the bill. It's better if it's not an expensive date. A coffee shop date followed by a pleasant walk in a public area is no pressure on either.
After that, if you're both still interested, now you're in the "getting to know each other" stage, which should be a fairly long stage. At that stage, you should alternate who pays and each should be extending invitations to the other. There are always inexpensive or free things to do, like going to museums.
As this goes further along and if there is real interest and chemistry, THIS would be the time to pull out all the stops with an occasional nice dinner out, but again, alternate it. If one can't afford that, they can cook a dinner or pack a picnic which is just as romantic.
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Studies are one thing, but you don't even talk about statistics that aren't faked. You never talk about the "assortative mating" pattern of today (men and women of similar educational and career status marry each other), which totally contradicts your insistence that women are eaten up with hypergamy. You don't talk about how different the divorce rate is between socioeconomic groups. College educated couples have a divorce rate in the twenty-something percent range.
You don't talk about the effect of an age gap on divorce rates - the less of an age gap, the lower the divorce rate. There is also research on the valid reasons women give for deciding to divorce - no one will hear it here, though the info would help the men in your audience gain some perspective.
You don't talk about the fact that a lot of dating apps are 80% men and 20% women, which skews everything in the women's favor. Your male audience needs to go outside and touch grass and meet real women in the wild where the percentages are even.
Your explanations of how women think are merely Red Pill memes. There are forums on Reddit and elsewhere for men who've left the Red Pill behind and found their relationships with women greatly improved because they realized most women weren't actually like the memes. They were tired of being angry and that was the impetus they needed to free themselves from Red Pill angst.
I know this will fall on deaf ears. I've had absolutely HORRENDOUS stuff happen in my life at the hands of men. I walked away. Same story for many many many women. When we are traumatized by men, we tend to just quietly build a life without them.
Men who have trouble with women seem unable to do the same. They create endless channels and podcasts about "evil" women and even worse, some incels go on rampages and murder women they don't know. Or they worship Andrew Tate, the guy who admitted to getting dozens of women to fall in love with him and once he was certain they were hooked on him, persuading them to do porn . . . for him . . . then he'd pocket most of the money the women made. He's vile and he's a Red Pill icon and hero to so many men.
Women are shouldering life's challenges and getting more degrees than men are, yet Red Pill guys are still whining that women have it easy. Way too many men are a mess these days.
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Adam Haye, you don't actually know what you're talking about. Most of the drugs invented in the U.S. are manufactured overseas for starters. India has become one of the biggest manufacturers because they had the technology to do it dirt cheap.
Also, even though the U.S. drug companies are saving money manufacturing overseas, they are not passing the savings on to Americans.
Furthermore, the reason drugs MADE BY AMERICAN BIG PHARMA are cheaper in Europe and other countries, is because those countries NEGOTIATE drug prices. America does NOT negotiate drug prices. It was even written into Medicare Part D that the government would not be allowed to negotiate prices.
Also, European countries can trade with each other and find the lowest price for any given medication. They are able to do this safely, while our own FDA tells us we can't shop around in a safe way.
To sum it up, American drug companies get their products made in the cheapest countries, sell those drugs to other countries at cheaper prices because those countries negotiate, and stick ONLY Americans with high prices and no ability to price shop among countries.
AMERICANS PAY THE HIGHEST DRUG PRICES IN THE WORLD FOR THE EXACT SAME DRUGS MADE BY THE EXACT SAME COMPANIES.
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When the water breaks before the baby is viable, the mother is at risk for SEPSIS, which is life threatening. Before the abortion ban, the "standard of care" for water breaking was an immediate abortion to prevent sepsis. Having her wait for a birth, put her life at risk because sepsis is more likely with every passing hour and day.
Because the abortion ban was written with zero input from obstetricians, it contains no medical terminology. Hospital attorneys say the law is too vague, so doctors have their hands tied. They can no longer perform a sepsis-preventing abortion as they used to do automatically. If a court decides a doctor intervened too soon, that doctor will lose their license, pay a huge fine, and go straight to prison.
When the water breaks before the baby is viable, the baby has ZERO chance of survival. They were NOT having her wait in the hospital in hopes of a healthy baby being born because it was too early. They knew the baby would not live and she was put at risk because the Texas law is stupidly written.
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@jonathancineus6424 Oh, is continuing a conversation now called "asserting one's supremacy"? In that case, you are guilty too for continuing to respond.
Name calling is the lazy way of attempting to shut down another person's thoughts.
For daring to express the true fact that cops of all races are guilty of police brutality, you have told me I'm in denial, that I'm blinded by white privilege, that I wish I could call the police on you, that you can't be expected to read my posts, but I'm expected to read yours, that I"m a "Karen", and that I'm trying to establish supremacy over you - because evidently you are the only one who gets to type a response.
I happen to be someone who is keenly interested in justice system reform, which is why I am aware that ALL cops of ALL races are implicated in police brutality.
But go ahead and keep slandering someone you don't know. YOU are the bully here.
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@31minutesago Had a guy in a class who was obsessed with me, though I didn't know at the time. He told me later he managed to get his seat changed so he was sitting right in front of me. He was always turning around to talk, but otherwise he wasn't on my radar.
One day, he realized we had a female friend in common and started talking about that. The girl in question and I both had a secret crush on a guy in our music theory class, and that guy was standing in the courtyard right at that moment. I casually pointed him out and said my friend had a crush on the guy, but didn't say I did too.
He immediately said, "Oh, she can do better than him!" I didn't understand why he was dismissive of the guy, but I ignored it.
That casual exchange prompted him to hatch a plot. A couple of weeks later he said he knew a handsome guy he was sure my friend and me would like a lot more than the guy we had a crush on.
He went on and on about how great this mysterious handsome guy was. Handsome guy had a boat and with his agreement, he invited my friend and me out on the boat. His real motive was to spend time with me, but he didn't admit that until much later.
My girlfriend ended up canceling and he knew I wouldn't go on a boat alone with two men, so he had to find another girl. He told me later, he chose the most promiscuous show off he knew, because he wanted handsome guy to go after her over me because she represented easy sex.
His plan worked. She was as provocative as he hoped for. It became clear on the boat that handsome guy was going for easy sex.
On the drive home we were in the back seat. My hair was in a million knots from the ocean winds. I started combing it out and he said, "Oh, let me do it!" He spent an hour combing out the knots. He told me later he was in Heaven, but I had no idea.
After that day, he kept up a relentless rush of getting me to participate in more "non-date" outings. They had to be "non-dates" because I never expressed interest in him and he acted like his only goal was setting me up with someone else. His secret goal was to wear me down with his continual presence.
Then he began portraying himself as the final arbiter of every subject - to elevate himself and make me question my own judgement. He was trying to create a mental dependency on him.
Without ever discussing it, he managed to incrementally slide into a situation where we were dating as a couple - though I'd never consciously liked him that way. I eventually got free, but it was like freeing myself from a determined octopus with eight arms.
I was unaware of his plotting and planning, but he later confessed it all to me. It never occurred to him that if he had to plot and be so secretive about his real intentions, the relationship was imaginary on his side.
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