Comments by "IgorTheLight" (@igorthelight) on "Why It's Your Fault You Got Ghosted" video.

  1. I would talk to the person instead of ghosting. But that's just me ;-)
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  2. Sometimes, people DO get busy. But they would try to text you as fast as they get some free time. If someone is not texting you like a week (without some really serious reason) - forget about them.
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  3. Agree about when the ghosting is started - you are in big shit. If you send a few messages- wait for a response. If there is no response - he/she is dead (less likely) or don't want to respond to you (most likely).
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  4. So don't ;-) If you are disagree with some rules - find someone who don't like them too ;-)
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  5. Most people are the same. But not all. So you are filtering everyone without even giving the chance. Of course you will not find anyone this way. Most likely - you don't even want that anymore.
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  6.  @violetvalentine999  Agree! But answering the question why parents do that - some parents have UNWANTED children. They can't kill then after they've been born so they just d anything to shut them up and make them behave. That's really cruel.
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  7. Glad that you are free now! :-)
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  8.  @jeremiahlarkins618  Well... Noone is ghosting me right now. But I was quite heavily ghosted with my first gf 11 years ago. She found a new guy at that time and just didn't want to explain that to me :-)
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  9.  @jeremiahlarkins618  Fair point. Those reasons were quite stupid- I agree :-)
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  10.  @felisasininus1784  Ha-ha true! ;-)
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  11. Avoiding the problem != solving the problem. You would still don't know how to talk to someone properly. If you don't know how to use elevators - learn that and not just avoid using them ;-)
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  12. To be successful you would have to try and fail at the start! Ask any successful person ;-)
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  13. Those people are messed up. They didn't really wanted that child in the first place so they would do anything for him to shut up and behave. That's cruel.
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  14. Talk to a girl is not hard. Make her talk back to you is harder ;-)
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  15. Looks like you are in depression. Try to check that if possible. Or maybe you have too little red blood cells or iron (I'm not a doctor so those are just assumptions). Or maybe everything is good with you and you are just very introverted and you don't need too many conversations - try to find someone introverted (and say that you are not talkative to any new people). Hugs ;-)
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  16. I think that this is irrelevant: you should do what you think is good for you. If there will be just 1 people or even none - that's fine. You are living your live for you - not for them. By doing something interesting for yourself someone would start top appreciate you and walk besides you ;-)
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  17. True! But you are "asking" too much from a person. He/she start feel himself trapped and wants to run away.
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  18. You are not meant for each other - it's ok.
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  19. There could be a lot of reasons: * You want people to entertain you and when they don't - you get bored and ghost them * They are trying to start a relationship and you don't want that (maybe fear?) and ghost them * They get clingy or needy and you ghost them * They are trying to get something out of you and give nothing in return * ...
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  20. True! And that's a good rule!
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  21. True! You still may break up tho - but you BOTH would know WHY exactly :-) In most cases you will be fine.
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  22. May that would help you: You was not ready for the relationship at that point. That ended as it should've ended. You learned something so the next one would be better and healthier ;-)
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  23.  @johnvermintide  True! Sometimes it's hard to see what's going on when you are in the middle of it ;-)
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  24.  @johnvermintide  True!
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  25. You may still apologize and say that you will understand if she don't want to talk to you anymore but she must know that you are really sorry. Don't expect a happy ending but who knows ;-) Just DON"T get angry at her if she will not respond or will say something unpleasant - she may still be mad at you.
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  26.  @goutham1662  I get that. That really may be the best choice - it's for you to decide.
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  27. You could learn something from that failure and move along ;-) To succeed you should fail a few times. Ask ANY successful person!
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  28. You may try to text her again but if she keep her attitude - you would have to leave her. If that is an anxiety - you may say that you are always here for her (if you WANT to be really here for her in the first place) and that you understand that she needs some time alone. So: helping her would be a little bit hard but you don't HAVE TO help her if you don't feel doing that.
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  29.  @Azurvix  100% agree!
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  30. Agree. It's like saying to a child "Shut up or I will kill you!". Yes - they will be quiet. Yes - that works. But they would be scared for their life and traumatized. That's just top level cruelty.
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  31. With every mistake smart people became smarter Understanding your mistakes makes you wiser ;-) I wish you luck!
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  32. No-no - he is fine with that! He even does some "Indian parents" voice ;-)
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  33. That's VERY unhealthy! Please stop doing that! Find a friend or a doctor and tell what is in your mind. Even telling that here is not a bad idea ;-) (some people will try to help you).
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  34. True! Just don't detach from literally everything because it's just easier ;-)
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  35. But now you will not do that again so lesson learned. Failed lesson teaches you more ;-)
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  36. "But in situations that had seemed at least to being going alright before, it wouldn't hurt to be polite." - I agree. Ghosting happens in those situations because it's too scary to talk properly for some people.
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  37. That's called "stream sniping" ;-)
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  38. Maybe you are being in a subculture where it's a norm. Like a nighclub culture. Kissing so soon is strange for me a little bit so maybe that's a part of this type of culture too ;-)
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  39.  @captainobvious.29yearsago70  People hear what they want to hear. "So you are saying that I'm shit - I get that!" :-)
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  40. You may get ghosted if she finds someone better - that's true. But you also may be ghosted if you are too clingy, too annoying and if she has some mental problems... She may get scared for some real reason. Or for some stupid reason... A lot of things could go wring :-)
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  41. @Benjamin Allison +1
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  42. Test for you: One day just drink coffee instead f tea. Congratulations - you are ABLE to change! Not start analyzing what you are doing wrong and start changing. It will be difficult. You will fail a few times. But you could change ;-)
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  43. I think its the "power" of it.
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  44. No. But watch what that person would do after he/she comes back. "Sorry, I was on a vacation for a week and could answer! Can we meet up and talk?" - good answer. Nothing or "I was on vacation - why did you bothered me?" - bad answer (if that is not your boss).
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  45. Do just part of it ;-)
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  46. I really trying to help and not being rude - try to find a good psychologist. Childhood traumas could haunt you for a LONG time if you wouldn't address them. You are not weak if you want to get help - you are just a responsible person ;-)
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  47. I thing psychologists just call desires "needs" too. That's just their jargon ;-)
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  48. Some ongoing relationships may get pointless. But relationships OVERALL - don't think so. It's like saying "I crashed a car a few times - cars are shit!" ;-)
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  49. That is harsh :-( Try to analyze you and them - maybe there is a clue. Watch some more videos like that and learn. I don't think that you are SO bad ;-)
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  50. :-)
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  51. Never. He didn't started anything so he will not end anything. But you could wait for that instead of living your life - it's your choice. I'm ex-Christian btw. I really wish you luck and understanding ;-) P.S. I'm not evil - I help my friends and relatives. I'm not worshiping satan of chtulhu or whatever - just using my brain and live a relatively happy life :-)
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  52. Nope! You just hear what you want to hear. If ghosting is started - he/she doesn't care about you or what you are saying anymore. Let him/her go. But it the new relationship you could do some things that would not want another person to ghost you.
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  53. Glad that you get over it and learned something new ;-) We always learn something new (unless you would say "I already know everything!" which would be a very dangerous lie).
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  54. Fair points! Truth hurts sometimes
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  55. In a face to face conversation you interact more "fully": body movement, smell, touch. Distance relationships could only give you text, voice and image of a person. It's a good start of a relationship but not the WHOLE relationship. I'm 31 y. o. btw ;-)
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  56. That's more of a "small group politics" than ghosting itself.
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  57. Hard to tell. Try to analyze after what action they start ghosting you. And what kind of people are you talking too most of the time.
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  58. Yep ;-) It serves like a real therapy and an add for his non-free therapy (as far as I know). Plus he gets money from Youtube ads. So he helps us and we - him ;-)
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