Comments by "buddermonger2000" (@buddermonger2000) on "Avoiding School Shootings and the Boy Crisis | Dr. Warren Farrell | EP 261" video.

I honestly don't have much to relate here besides my mother having been a single parent. However despite my father being mostly absentee, I did have versions of a father figure from young. And in fact arguably my hardest time was around 8 when I lost any semblance of one for years until my current stepfather. By which point the relationship never really took off and we've always been kind of distant. In my household my stepbrother and I have a very good relationship, we have good relationships with our respective parents, our parents have a relationship we're mostly not privy to but doesn't seem too troubled (however I've never had that ability to sense the nuances of relationships), but the biggest friction are the children with the opposite parents. It's worth noting that my stepbrother was 17 when I was 11. I'm not quite sure how that has affected my development looking back as I developed social problems after having to change schools and now have a very barren social network. It took me a lot of time how to learn how to socialize again after about 6 years or so of effectively forced introversion (due to my poor socialization skills I didn't make bridges very easily and burned them later due to mistakes I wouldn't have made had I been better socialized, and in addition to this i had no way to attempt to even meet with people outside of school). And thus I've been behind on that front. And honestly I may even be misattributing the poor socialization because well I don't really know. All I know is that I seemed to have been missing components in my social skills and it hampered me for a great deal of time. I'd imagine it likely relates looking back at that fact but I'm not sure to what degree it makes sense. Would likely need a professional for that.
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