Comments by "Michele Lyn" (@HRPFayetteville) on "Jonathan Haidt: The Case Against Social Media | Lex Fridman Podcast #291" video.

And kids and teenagers are left by themselves or with strangers way too much more than they have ever been before I'm 50 my mom worked we never saw her except to run into her job she was never home it was me and my sister running the streets my sister hated me still hates me today because of itoday because of it and on top of the Internet and social media Kids being able to have cell phones which nobody even talked about before they started having the multiple cell phones for families
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And then once you are old enough to stay by yourself. Then you sure are by yourself at the age of 11 12 13. And on you're basically living your own little life cause you still hardly ever see your parents and when you do they're wrapped up with whatever they. Gotta do I mean the whole parent? Cow dynamic has just shifted and we pushed our kids into these adult roles adult issues where when we were kids. Our parents were like that's a grown up issue you don't need to worry about that. And there was a whole list of things that came up on top of not even being with your children for the 1st parts of their lives for all of their. Lives if you're a person who works 40 plus hours a week right? But yeah I think the biggest thing is mom's have left the job. That's the most important job on the planet they've outsourced it. And we glorify this whole I'm gonna be independent. I don't need a man I can do it all. I can have it all and 80 of overemotional confused probably multiple personality levels in our young society. And the funny thing is every time you hear anybody talking about this situation. Nobody asks how. This? Person grew up. So? That they can get an idea from infant. To Yahoo took care of you as an infant did your mom work? Did your dad work what did they do they work? 2 jobs were you in daycare? I mean all this adds up to what's going on on top of social media?
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Yeah but I don't think it's the students complaining I think it's outside organizations who are activists and who are coming to the schools and who are implanting this into the campuses and bullying the administrators they lie the most thing they do is lie many times no student has complained they lie and you can't fix any problem based on lies
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Oh my gosh here goes a misinformation term. We cannot accept the stupid. There were scientists who didn't agree so who's misinformation are you talking about and that's the problem with the term misinformation right there
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Well maybe social media needs to stop allowing any politics or religion discussions. It's. Just like we do at the bar at the bar because all it does is cause outrage what's the point of social media when all the mainstream media politicians law enforcement and everybody that is not an individual is on social media?? It's no longer social media
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And I was the 1st generation of working mom's and it ended up. My sister hated me cause you had a babysit me. I have no connection with my mom because we never made onow. I'm 51. I have a dysfunctional family that I really don't even talk to and there's And we were always a burden and we heard I can't I gotta work I can't I gotta work I mean we couldn't do anything. Couldn't get into any after school things? I mean I started doing things on my own when I was old enough and I literally was on my own. After I was old enough where my sister didn't have to watch mean I became the neighborhood latchkey child and I was smart I hung out with kids. That had stayed at home mom's to be honest
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Well you know what as citizens of the United States of America who live in operate under the Constitution of the United States have a responsibility too and their responsibility is to not be attacking people on social media calling their job calling their sponsors calling their advertisers trying to run a big ass mirror campaign that is not their job they're in violation of the Constitution of the United States nothing United States
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I'm actually starting to wonder if social media shouldn't be like a bar when I've. Used to bartend number one rule no politics no religion are maybe they need to separate politics and religion out of the main lead and I don't really like. That our authorities are posting on social media either. I mean that's weird I thought social media was supposed to be for like individual people to communicate. And if you remember mainstream media was very slow to get on YouTube. They weren't reading people's tweets and Facebook posts till long after YouTube and that was established. And I think we should have done one phone line for 1 valid 18 over. ID because this given you're a 9 year old of full access to the internit's just not right. I mean they didn't even debate about any of this before allowing children to possess these smartphones. And you got kids right now. We're going to bow up and beat up their own teacher for taking away their cell phone because they didn't follow the rules about the cell phones. That's a scary place to be
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Yeah because now we have like 3 generations of too. Many single mothers who are trying to work and go to school and guess? Who doesn't get raised by their mother. Anymore because your kid is always in day care. These kids are spending so much time in day care and babysitters from infant to 5 years old. It's astronomical every child is in daycare. Most kids are not being raised by their parents in the beginning of their lives. And what do you think all these multiple belief systems being pushed on your child in daycare? It's the teachers on top of the kids next year. You go to the one year up room so it's a whole new set of kids new teachers. This is not what infant to 5 year old child life is supposed to be? They're supposed to be with their mother they're supposed to be learning their. Mother's values their mother's morals how to move in the world. These kids aren't even in the world they're in daycare classes. They're not going with their mothers to the park to the libraries to the grocery stores to the banks to the Post Office. Is? And then you wonder. Why? We're sitting here with. Young adults who are now even have the basic civility eat an understanding of your place in your own country by the time you in kindergarten. And I worked as A-day care teacher with 2 year olds I was only there 8 hours A-day. Those kids were there from 6 AM to 6 AM to 6:30 PM on top of the parents had babysitters on top of the kids. Are basically ignored at home because the parents are so stressed out? There is not enough time to have 2 working parents and raise children and daycare cannot instill what needs to be instilled in your child and the. Progression your child needs to make in day care. And that's a whole another story. And it's really not the daycare's fault because they're basically just babysitters and your kids just you. Know being part of this group and you can only get a group of small children to do so much so all of them end up not progressing the way. They need to progress especially emotionally. I need imagine being an infant to 5 years old and having to deal with multiple different kidsummer night summer. Mean some have bad parents and your bombarded with this every single day. You have to deal with these other human beings that aren't even related to you. I mean it's not the same when you go to kindergarten even kindergarten. You go half day to ease into it. And then in the end we're ending up with emotionally immature underdeveloped. Not very smart young parents who now have 67 to 16 year old. Mother is now a 30 six-year-old parent to a 16 year old right? I mean these kids are not having a family connection that they're supposed to be having by the time. They go and they don't even really know how to move in the world because they've been stuck in A-day care center. I mean you literally don't go anywhere with kids when you're in day care. It's And so in my opinion I think we have a bunch of like multi dimensional disconnected lonely kids with no grounds in their values were morals because they. Didn't get that and a lot of it is empathy they don't have empathy. Look at all these shorts and TikTok so these young kids usually boys like 1718. They're literally physically touching strangers in the store video. Without them knowinot even caring about the person and how they feel about this happening to them? How could they just do it look at the kid who just walked in to somebody's house to stream it for clips in money? I mean honestly I think they need to demonetize this social media on these individual levels. I mean I'm on YouTube and I get flagged something. That says hate speech policy violation but these kids are walking up to complete strangers doing stuff to they keep running these videos. I am sitting here I don't even know what. Call man I made to get the warning flag cause they don't tell you right
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I don't think really people comprehend the damage that Barack Obama's administration did to America.
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On top of all the different kinds of chemicals that were exposed to too the drugs are giving children that they would never give before all the mental disorders disorders all the allergies of the eczema the asthma all these problems on top of not having a parent at the home to take care of their children they're stuck in school like settings as early as 6 months
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And ues food is part of it to of you research a package of luncibkes it's all there look up the ingredients in tje packaged foods you Gove your kids the info is oit here look each one up Sugar too etc is messing our flight amd flight modes amd they say it's chemical imbalance amd outs u on tjese drugs that are not good
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Yeah but nothing just hits things are usually coming up before they hit. But I do definitely believe social media has accelerated but really kids do feel alone. They have no real guidance their parents have no real control over what they do when the parents at Burke. The parents don't have time to even address any problems because they gotta work and if they're not at work they're working at home. Because the reality is there's not enough time in the day and raising children is a full time job. I mean at the very leuntil they go to kindergarten or first grade
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And in fact there was a time when Congress would never dare to use any news articles as any evidence in Congress they would actually do their own homework and have their staff do their own follow up in fact checking they wouldn't rely on opinion or news articles
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In all social media was much better when it was self reporting if you came across the post that was obviously non free speech then you would report it and they would review it and if you were being stopped or harassed you need to report that to the proper authorities if somebody's disabling you you need to get a lawyer and sew them just like in real life and social media is not allowing for any of this they're picking and choosing
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There's your problem you're saying contact moderating OK it's pet moderating OK that's not what it is it's content censoring picking and choosing winners are losers that is not monitoring that's not it's not watching to see if people are inside violence are are doing things that are do not align with free speech there's a big difference there
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And if you notice on social media the more problems you have the more popular you are. I mean I've met people I've heard I'm talking at stores like the cashiers and they're literally pretending to have mental disorders so that they. Can get disability cause if you don't have kids for welfare? Then you want disability for free money free housing? Call fine for all the freestyle so people are purposely becoming mentally ill to be diagnosed so that they can in turn file for disability because they. Can't work.
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And all these platforms were fine in the beginning because guess who wasn't on them? Media and politicians were not reading tweets on their news on their news shows and Congress wasn't pulling up tweets and congressional hearings
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It is the fake offense the fake outrage and it's just the fact that they have easy access because of social media where they didn't have such easy access to company and public figures as as I do now so the companies and public figures need to figure out how to stop allowing them to you stop allowing the mob to dictate what they do because the mob moves on to some other target and you're left hold in the bag
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And you call it coddling but I just don't see it as coddling when most mother's work if it was caudling you'd have a lot More mom's or dad's staying at home because this is getting put into these kids's's head from the public from the society at large not from. The cataline parents and I think it does boil down to a lot of policies on top of it but the bottom line is if you don't have a. Family and kids as a unit. I mean you're surviving at best.
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And actually the media who has been lying and faking stories should be banned from producing media they should not be protected under the Constitution
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And Hillary is the one who started this all off by attacking trump voters the regular citizen voters no key voters no candidates ever do that they say Hey vote for me that guy is bad come with me they don't say oh you're a piece of crap demon horrible person if you don't vote for me you're a deplorable you're a racist you're a sexist you're a Islamic focused you're every freaking name in the book if you vote for trump citizen voter And the media is still doing it today
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Yeah and in the last 30 to 40 years what's the only thing that's really changed in our country women are working instead of being mothers kids erase by day care they have no connection with their mothers that they used to I'm I mean even in doggy day care they realize this with animals smalls you stick your dog and day care for 12 hours A-day they really have no interest when they're at home and anything at home
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