Comments by "Bill Petersen" (@billpetersen298) on "Unsolicited advice" channel.

  1. How is your dad doing now? We can be simple creatures. We will do all the necessary basic things, for our loved ones. Then we are shattered, for not being enough. I will work long hard days, for you. Shorten my life, break my body. All I ask in return, is for you all to thrive, your quiet appreciation, and some affection.
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  2. If we can just learn to be open and vulnerable to our partners. Actually understanding ourselves well enough, to know our desires, and triggers. We don’t understand our childhood trauma. Created by our parents, and their parents. When we are young, 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, ect, these feelings are so urgent, desperate, confusing. Yes be married to someone. Fight for them, and yourself, we are all capable of real love. It may take a lifetime, or two, or three, it’s the journey.
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  3. Identifying as a non believer. Can we rephrase that, in some way? Not constrained by one prescribed view, but open to all possibilities,
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  4. Right off the start, with these conversations. It is often assumed, that god has gender. How can a singular, omnipotent being, have gender? Where the H, does that come from? Oh, full circle, men wrote the texts.
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  5. My argument for religion, doesn’t get beyond the self, and one’s community. Because we are self aware, we have to be important.
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  6. Society is so unforgiving of adultery. Why can’t we ask, why are you acting out? This is against everyone’s best interest, and you know it. But you do it anyway. Let us heal together. Especially the avoidant personality, that wants real connection, but is scared of it. So make’s sure, it doesn’t succeed.
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  7. Our innate desire to be good? Take it back, way back. As far back as we can find. We have lived in groups. We are a social animal. So, wanting to fit in, to benefit the group, is innate. We don’t do well in the wild, as one individual. It’s in our nature.
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  8. Our earliest groupings, would logically predate religion. That would come with, analytical and language skills.
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  9.  @roses6564 How long is the list of “important things”? Still sounds like failure. We all are weak, we all fail. As long as both partners, want the best for each other, it’s a win.
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  10. Mao,,, the master of this concept.
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  11. It works, if you have a sense of wonder and gratitude already. There are lots of bitter hermits, shunning society. I learned that, after living on an island.
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  12.  @WONMARK Life is full of wrong turns. That’s what makes it interesting. How we learn, or don’t.
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  13. Wow, now think of yourself as a Tibetan or Uighur. In what Mao and his successors have created.
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