Comments by "Sammy B" (@sammyb1651) on "The Divorce Expert: 86% Of People Who Divorce Remarry! Why Sex Is Causing Divorces!" video.

@lilboosiedralls6813 It's actually the exact opposite. It's demonstrating he understands "how women operate". Just because thats "how they operate" it doesn't mean it's right. It's needy and shows you have to constantly validate them by showing you're thinking of them. Women typically place themselves at the centre of a relationship and make the relationship about them and their happiness. That isn't a generous or thoughtful act. It's quite the opposite in fact.
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@imconfused1237 Brilliant response! Absolutely no comeback to that. Completely reasoned and a laser-like insight into the psychology behind it. Expect nothing but further ad hominems as they flounder trying to defend their fragile world views.
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@kathleenphillips7145 Yeah but basically thats the exception rather than the rule. Typically women just leave and take the kids because they'd rather do that, not because they're being abused. I think that's the point that needs underscoring in terms of general learning.
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You're definitely right to feel guilty about up-ending your kids' lives. It was a selfish act and very clearly put your needs before theirs. It's very, very common though as all the statistics on divorce prove.
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@CatalinaFOIA I don't think it does. It sounds like she did what was best for her and she decided that was therefore best for her kids too. Which is a fairly common position women take in divorce. Nothing noble about that. Just selfish. Not saying it wasn't her legal right to do so, but the two things can both be true at once. Still selfish and put herself first.
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@vaska1999 Profoundly silly comment from a silly person.
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@lilboosiedralls6813 Thanks for the well wishes. Of course relationships are about giving. And-by dint of how a relationship works-they're about receiving. That's the bit you're deliberately (and dishonestly of course) leaving out. Women are, by nature, set to: 'receive' mode. They have resource demanding instincts that men simply do not have-whether that be money, time or attention. And ultimately unless they're receiving significantly more than they're having to give, they feel the relationship is 'not working'. Just stating facts I'm afraid. Women's nature isn't as loving, generous or thoughtful as you're trying to make out. Incidentally, "wanting to feel someones presence all the time" is a controlling and possessive instinct. Again, it isn't generous; it's demanding and extractive. That's certainly how it would be described if a man said it anyway. It should be enough for a woman (a grown adult for heaven's sake) to just be happy they have a bond. And be more secure in that. Women are not children. Men can't be expected to look after adult children as well as actual children. ☺
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@lilboosiedralls6813 Thanks for the well wishes. Of course relationships are about giving. And-by dint of how a relationship works-they're about receiving. That's the bit you're deliberately (and dishonestly of course) leaving out. Women are, by nature, set to: 'receive' mode. They have resource demanding instincts that men simply do not have-whether that be money, time or attention. And ultimately unless they're receiving significantly more than they're having to give, they feel the relationship is 'not working'. Just stating facts I'm afraid. Women's nature isn't as loving, generous or thoughtful as you're trying to make out. Incidentally, "wanting to feel someones presence all the time" is a controlling and possessive instinct. Again, it isn't generous; it's demanding and extractive. That's certainly how it would be described if a man said it anyway. It should be enough for a woman (a grown adult for heaven's sake) to just be happy they have a bond. And be more secure in that. Women are not children. Men can't be expected to look after adult children as well as actual children. ☺
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@lilboosiedralls6813 Thanks for the well wishes. Of course relationships are about giving. And-by dint of how a relationship works-they're about receiving. That's the bit you're deliberately (and dishonestly of course) leaving out. Women are, by nature, set to: 'receive' mode. They have resource demanding instincts that men simply do not have-whether that be money, time or attention. And ultimately unless they're receiving significantly more than they're having to give, they feel the relationship is 'not working'. Incidentally, "wanting to feel someones presence all the time" is a controlling and possessive instinct. Again, it isn't generous; it's demanding and extractive. That's certainly how it would be described if a man said it anyway. It should be enough for a woman (a grown adult for heaven's sake) to just be happy they have a bond. And be more secure in that. Women are not children. Men can't be expected to look after adult children as well as actual children. ☺
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@lilboosiedralls6813 Thanks for the well wishes. Of course relationships are about giving. And-by dint of how a relationship works-they're about receiving. That's the bit you're deliberately (and dishonestly of course) leaving out. Women are, by nature, set to: 'receive' mode. They have resource demanding instincts that men simply do not have-whether that be money, time or attention. And ultimately unless they're receiving significantly more than they're having to give, they feel the relationship is 'not working'. Just stating facts I'm afraid. Women's nature isn't as loving, generous or thoughtful as you're trying to make out. Incidentally, "wanting to feel someones presence all the time" is a controlling and possessive instinct. Again, it isn't generous; it's demanding and extractive. That's certainly how it would be described if a man said it anyway. It should be enough for a woman (a grown adult for heaven's sake) to just be happy they have a bond. And be more secure in that. Women are not children. Men can't be expected to look after adult children as well as actual children.
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