Comments by "Sammy B" (@sammyb1651) on "Men's romantic fantasy: why men get married" video.

Awesome testimony! And really good to see you appreciate the rarity and value of it! Genuinely happy for you👍
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Incomplete analysis. 1. Because they marry for gain 2. Because they are likely to break their vows in the absence of (continuing) gain. That about covers it. A prenup violates this strategy.
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2:28 "Power couple" gives me the man-ick. Honestly, when you hear that phrase uttered, you realise how different men and women are. No part of it appeals to me whatsoever. It's so utterly irrelevant to anything I desire in a relationship, they might as well be describing another concept completely. When you hear how important it is to a woman though it's a massive 'tell' about how discordant we are as a species.
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No offence, but you just spectacularly missed the point. The point was that men commit and love in the absence of this support. It's what distinguishes "love" between the sexes. You did feel a profound need to make your comment about you though. Ironically.
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@hmurchison8123 Women have a variety of ideas about where power comes from. One of them is their job, certainly. Other categories include things like whatever might happen to make a friend envious. And thats principally what they're hinting at when they say "power couple". They want a man to have a certain profile that would make their friends wish they had him instead. If they see their friends/other females being attracted to him this heightens their own attraction because they're so hive minded. At any rate though it's just antithetical to how I think as a man. I don't care what power or status she has. I'm FAR more interested in her not being an utterly insufferable, selfish person.
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@hmurchison8123 I agree. Positive steps would include men understanding that endless sacrifice for a female is not the way to live life. Also, that you don't exist as a man solely to make womens lives easier. Both of which attitudes are a genuine problem btw.
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@manifest2203 It's not "as simple as that". Far from it. Bringing in resources for the family is just basic adulting. Beyond that, anyone placing focus on being part of a 'power couple' is telling you they have a preoccupation with how the couple is perceived by third parties. Rather than how well that couple functions as a unit, how they co-operate with one another, how their values are aligned etc. They're also (essentially) putting you on notice they won't be tolerating any bumps in the road where you may experience downturns or hardship. Now, I actually don't have a problem with this-people are at liberty to negotiate the partnership they want-I just don't believe it's compatible with certain forms of relationship. It emphatically is NOT an acceptable basis for marriage for instance. The marriage vows quite clearly disqualify it. But PROBABLY it's not compatible with any sensible form of LTR either.
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@manifest2203 It's not "as simple as that". Far from it. Bringing in resources for the family is just basic adulting. Beyond that, anyone placing focus on being part of a 'power couple' is telling you they have a preoccupation with how the couple is perceived by third parties. Rather than how well that couple functions as a unit, how they co-operate with one another, how their values are aligned etc. They're also (essentially) putting you on notice they won't be tolerating any bumps in the road where you may experience downturns or hardship. Now, I actually don't have a problem with this-people are at liberty to negotiate the partnership they want-I just don't believe it's compatible with certain forms of relationship. It emphatically is NOT an acceptable basis for marriage for instance. The marriage vows quite clearly disqualify it. But PROBABLY it's not compatible with any sensible form of LTR either.
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@jonrazo7912 What this guy said, too!👍
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@lhistoireenvideo5877 Fair comment! Your move, Monster rat!
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@JohnSmithEx I think you're confusing "sour" with realistic. It's not that deep. The OP's comment is self serving. Beyond that we've no idea of it's veracity. Orion literally says men love women even when they don't get this support (and typically they don't). This confuses women into imagining they must be a very helpful and supportive partner. After all, why else would their husband love them? They can only process the thought through their own experience of the world....ie if their partner wasn't supportive of her she would withdraw her 'love' from him. Ergo the fact he loves her must be evidence she's really supportive. Nb their delusion typically goes one step further than "supportive" and they believe they "always putting themselves last". Thats what you'll hear a lot anyway. Usually none of this is actually true though.
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@JohnSmithEx Not a very thoughtful response I'm afraid. It also demonstrates a very high level of naivety. I won't develop the argument further in light of that second factor. Trust you understand. 👍
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