Comments by "Sammy B" (@sammyb1651) on "The $50,000 beer: why very attractive women aren't on dating apps" video.

2:31 a lot of female "intentional dating" is like this. It's not as ill founded as you claim so no injunction for them to "act fast/leap into bed" is going to resonate. They're determining how biddable the man is. For this type of relationship (long term/kids) they're actually seeking out someone who will put her first and prostrate themselves. They're contemplating a 5-10 year relationship timespan so they're not going to be with someone who won't do as she wants. She only thinks like that for flings.
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Bad take. Thats a horribly naive view to have if you're a man. Ie lots is being expected (in fact demanded) of you by women, so you'd be very ill advised to go around expecting/demanding nothing in return. Indeed that would only set you up to be used. Sad but true.
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That doesn't really disprove what the video is saying though. The video basically concedes that it's the norm for women in your age group-so obviously you won't get pressured. The point of the video is that it may be sub optimal as a strategy. You're still single so that may indeed be proof. I think it's a bit of a pointless topic though. The video fails to acknowledge it serves a purpose. Women who do this are determining how biddable the man is. For a longer term relationship the woman is screening to make sure the man will prostrate himself and put the woman first. Or as he says: one side getting what it wants at the expense of the other. It's fairly standard female stuff.
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@katarinacestmoi I don't doubt it. I'm just saying your argument doesn't really falsify the message of the video.
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@katarinacestmoi And clearly the implication is that "natural pace" for you is longer than it is for him. It's pretty straightforward to understand. As I say, it's just wanting it on your own terms. One side getting what they want at the expense of the other. This is all pretty much central to the video. I'm not criticising you. I said from the outset it's pretty standard female stuff. Women will do what they want first and thats all that matters to them. I'm just explaining how-like so many other things in life-selfishly doing what you want to do doesn't always get you what you want to get. That's essentially what the video is saying too.
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@katarinacestmoi No, sorry. My comment is exactly tailored to the subject of the video and specifically addresses your comments in response. It isn't a projection of mine. The fact you can't see that is entirely consistent with your inability to see anything other than from your own viewpoint. You've presented as very solipsistic in all the comments in fact. ☺
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@snowbear163 Yup. Unless they're backing it up with lots of personality. Which frequently isn't the case. They literally never give a thought to how their laundry list of qualities a man must have: "be interesting, make me laugh etc etc" results in a complete nil balance in their own personality as they just sit there and passively consume. But that's our fault too of course. We're supposed to just be bowled over by them and overlook absolutely desolate (or horrible) personalities.
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@katarinacestmoi You're changing the formula somewhat now. I didn't say men wanted a woman "forcing herself on them". I was just pushing back on your idea that expecting men to wait was completely in line with their preferences and yielded optimal results for you. I doubt that's the case and suspect it's just what you want. And no doubt that will be all that matters.
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You were determining how biddable he was. You will have acted differently for other men when you were just contemplating flings etc. For a longer term relationship you will have been screening him to make sure he would prostrate himself for you and put you first. It's fairly standard female stuff.
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@neohermitist 🤣 Now THAT's how you do satire!
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