Comments by "SK ONTHEROAD" (@skontheroad2666) on "Hasidic Rabbi (Manis Friedman) Teaches Me About Relationships (BIG Episode) 🇺🇸" video.

@lucyf9034 His point is that you want to see your partner now, but are you looking at his body, or him? Bc after 20 years if he doesn't look as good as he used to, if you notice something and think "Hmmm, he gained weight"... it is all downhill from there. It is more intimate when you focus on each other. Not what you like about that person. As the "things" about him will change. Don't get attached to his attributes, get attached to him. Peter seemed to have a hard time grasping some of what he was saying, likely bc he just got married for the first time. But Rabbi Friedman is right--Familiarity does breeds contempt. And he wants people to realize that early in the relationship, rather than once it is too late!
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@BPqw Good!! I taught my kids from a young age not to scream across the house. If they need to speak to me, they can come to me. As teens and young adults, they still come into our bedroom while we are watching TV or whatever, to ask us a question. They don't even realize that they are doing it bc we trained them to do it! lol! Maybe I should point it out so they understand why they are doing it?? I don't think they even realize...
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@stephanief7832 There are many Manis Friedman articles and videos available online. He is a very famous relationship expert and very well respected in the Orthodox Jewish world (not just Chasidim). I haven't heard him in a while, yet after a year of Corona and everyone on top of eachother, it was good to hear this! I want to look up other Manis Friedman talks or videos and listen to more!
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@PeterSantenello You mean the intimacy in the dark tip? BTW, Also, FYI--There are Lubovitchers in SF!! I can hook you up with them as we are close friends for over 20 years. Even though we are Modern Orthodox, we were there bc of grad school and became close with the Chabad Rabbis in SF (in the Richmond. Although we "shul shopped" first, Rabbi Zarchi and Rabbi Langer became close friends during our first years. And thru that experience, the Zarchis (gesher Lubovitchers), and the Langers (ba'alei tschuva Orthodox Jews--yet neither knew anything about Modern Orthodox Jews until they met us). So we all learned thru the experience! And it was great fun and we are still friends! As they are in your back yard and you didn't even realize it, it would be interesting to do a piece on Chasidim outside of NYC (Which is a whole other world)!! The Rebbe sent "shluchim" all over the world starting the the 50's and 60's, to spread the word to other Jews--"where there is a Jew! We will build a Chabad House!" And now, every international traveler can find food, a shul, lodgings, and a shabbat experience! Be it in Bangkok (Rabbi Kantor), Italy (many lovely Rabbeim who offer many services), HK (HUGE community in Hong Kong!! I know many ppl ho grew up there). And my family were the ones who called Chabad right after they moved to Hawaii in the 60's and said--"There is no Judaism here! We need to build a community!" And our uncle brought Chabad to Hawaii. Now, thru the kids, every Island has a Chabad! And Hawaii is easy to visit! Feel free to answer me and I will send you my info if you would like to know more or understand how it works (from an Orthodox outsiderookibg into the. Hassidic community). It is a very different perspective. I loved you series on Hasidim, but Modern Orthodoxy offers you a whole different POV. Even the Chabad Rabbeim in SF have now learned a different point of view. Through us. And I am happy to share with you!
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Rabbi Manis Friedman is a Rockstar in Orthodox Judaism--Super famous! Thanks for sharing!!
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It is not just Hasidim. This is how all Orthodox Jews live (ok, most). These are the religious Jewish laws that we follow as part of our everyday lives!
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And let him know...I remember our meeting with the Rabbi before we got married (years ago), and the Rabbi told my husband, every Friday, at least for the first year, make sure you buy flowers for her for shabbos every week! And he did!
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@antichristlicheaktion1769 Du bist aber wirklich ekelhaft. Du kannst auch ruhig gehen. Aber schnell!
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Samanthat--How dare you show up and troll here, calling Rabbi Friedman a liar and other horrible names? He is a well known, highly respected Rabbi in the Jewish community. Not just for Hasidim. If you are not interested in listening to him--LEAVE! This is pure LOSHON HORA! You should be reported for such disgusting slander!
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She is a horrible troll posting hateful lies all over Peter's comments section. She is here for one reason only and it is not to benefit from the video!
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STOP TROLLING and spreading lies everywhere!!! It is DISGUSTING!!!
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@therealdefund9763 Just so you are aware, many Orthodox communities, all over the world and outside of Israel, give their children modern Hebrew names. It is more common than not. Hasidic custom is to name after the dead, and most of their families came from. Shtetls in Poland or Russia where they spoke Yiddish, so they give their kids Yiddish names. Sephardic Jews name after the living so the kids born now are generally named after a living grandparent. And then they are both cyclical. They are different minhagim (customs), but they are customs we hold very dear. Once you start making up mew rules, you lose your culture. As far as Aleinu, there is a reason that we only go down to the floor on Yom Kippur. That is also meaningful. If you change that just cause, you are changing the religion, traditions and the culture. That is not the point of Orthodox Judaism. Everything we do, we do for a reason. If you are an observant Jew and don't know why something is done a certain way, look it up. Don't just decide you like something better and randomly follow it blindly. Judaism is all about asking questions and learning through study. For example, if you look up the Book of Daniel, it is not just something studied by Muslims. And it is directly related to how Jews pray, and when they are told to sit, stand, bow, etc. Just as the custom of NOT prostrating ourselves is over 1,000 years old, and there are many things that have been written about it by poseks from the 11th century who studied tehillim and other texts that influenced what we still do today. My point is--it is not like no one thought about it before... study some of the texts and opinions of the past couple thousand years, and you may feel differently about the topic!
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@rogersevers123 Sure he can! Why don't you share the highlights of your trip? Where did you stay? What did you do?
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Because he knows his audience, so he purposely stayed away from discussing religion or tying his advice to Orthodox Jewish ideals. He wants his message to be heard by everyone, because it can, regardless of their religion (or lack thereof). Also, in the Orthodox world, the Ketubah is a marriage contract as you say. So if you divorce, when you get a get, and go to the bais din, you can discuss what you want to hash out and have the bais din rule on it and it is binding (assuming both recognize the bais din). Or you can take it to the regular, secular courts and hash it out there....
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Get a Chavrusa instead of taking a class if that is your preferred way of learning. And now with Zoom, you can learn with any Rabbi or Rebbetzin in the world!
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There is Tomchei in every Orthodox community all over the world!
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LOL! You disagreed with BOTH of their perspectives? Does your spouse also disagree with both of them?
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Notice how Rabbi Friedman is not interjecting G-d or religion into any of the discussion? That is part of why Peter can't grasp a lot of the simple concepts. Rabbi Friedman is a marriage and relationship counselor for Orthodox Jews (not just Hasidim). Jews who already practice religion daily and understand most of these basic concepts. They are very important as a foundation for these conversations. And as an Orthodox Jew who has been married over 20 years, especially when I am not sure if it is Corona and overexposure that is breeding contempt... it was a good refresher course!
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@Farhat Please do not listen to Martin, who is clearly a troll who knows little about religion (any of them), and is just being disgusting and offensive. He does NOT represent the Jews or any form of Judaism. There are indeed many similarities (not a coincidence of course) in both the religion and the customs. Islam has many lovely aspects as does the Koran. Anyone who says otherwise just doesn't know enough about the two religions.
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@anonymousanonymous9844 Excellent point! And assuming she sees this too--Rav Friedman was not accused of anything. Why drag his name thru the mud?? Why is she here to slander him?
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The one at the Blind Museum? In Holon? Or in Tel Aviv?
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@joeangelsantos8715 Really??? Where in LA?? I didn't know we had one here! My kids would love to go!
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David Ruth Tickets are really cheap right now on United. The SFO flight is great (or ORD, EWR, BOS,....). Book it now and then change the flight dates if you have to.
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@Mk-vd9qs Modern Hebrew teachers so teach using shorashim (roots of the words). Every Hebrew word has a shoresh--a root, that many other words also share. Regardless if you are studying biblical, or ancient Hebrew, or learning modern Hebrew.
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@Mk-vd9qs Modern Hebrew teachers so teach using shorashim (roots of the words). Every Hebrew word has a shoresh--a root, that many other words also share. Regardless if you are studying biblical, or ancient Hebrew, or learning modern Hebrew.
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@dollymadison2397 LOL! I totally hear you! When they were younger I used to tease them, when sitting on the couch and asking them to get me something, that they were "are my little slaves!--that is why I had so many of you!" But I agree on the bigger, more important stuff, reverse psychology is important! And they fall for it every time--even still, at their late teens, and college years--I often purposely suggest something knowing they will do the opposite, just bc I told them to do it. So far, so good--I think I have a good handle on it. And in our culture, they may be married sooner than most these days. So I have less time than most to set them straight and on their way. Luckily they tell me everything. Sometimes more than I even want to know. But I can't complain!
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@w2brad918 He is very well known in the Jewish world (not just Chasidic). He has a website and I am sure his bio is on there along with other videos.
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Ouch! Sounds like a fairly recent break up! Get over him and start off on the right foot now that these ideas are fresh in your mind! (Check out his website). Maybe it was meant to be that you stumbled on this now? And now you are ready to find your bashert! Best of luck!!
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