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  27.  @PeterSantenello  You mean the intimacy in the dark tip? BTW, Also, FYI--There are Lubovitchers in SF!! I can hook you up with them as we are close friends for over 20 years. Even though we are Modern Orthodox, we were there bc of grad school and became close with the Chabad Rabbis in SF (in the Richmond. Although we "shul shopped" first, Rabbi Zarchi and Rabbi Langer became close friends during our first years. And thru that experience, the Zarchis (gesher Lubovitchers), and the Langers (ba'alei tschuva Orthodox Jews--yet neither knew anything about Modern Orthodox Jews until they met us). So we all learned thru the experience! And it was great fun and we are still friends! As they are in your back yard and you didn't even realize it, it would be interesting to do a piece on Chasidim outside of NYC (Which is a whole other world)!! The Rebbe sent "shluchim" all over the world starting the the 50's and 60's, to spread the word to other Jews--"where there is a Jew! We will build a Chabad House!" And now, every international traveler can find food, a shul, lodgings, and a shabbat experience! Be it in Bangkok (Rabbi Kantor), Italy (many lovely Rabbeim who offer many services), HK (HUGE community in Hong Kong!! I know many ppl ho grew up there). And my family were the ones who called Chabad right after they moved to Hawaii in the 60's and said--"There is no Judaism here! We need to build a community!" And our uncle brought Chabad to Hawaii. Now, thru the kids, every Island has a Chabad! And Hawaii is easy to visit! Feel free to answer me and I will send you my info if you would like to know more or understand how it works (from an Orthodox outsiderookibg into the. Hassidic community). It is a very different perspective. I loved you series on Hasidim, but Modern Orthodoxy offers you a whole different POV. Even the Chabad Rabbeim in SF have now learned a different point of view. Through us. And I am happy to share with you!
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  120.  @Canuckmom128  I don't know if you grew up FFB, or were a BT, and then fell off the derech, or have absolutely no idea what I am asking you. However what you are stating is extremely rare in the Orthodox Jewish community. In which there are HUGE differences depending on the community. This is a documentary about dating in Israel. And as you can see, even in this poorly done documentary (the translation is also terrible) there is a system in place, and it has a good track record. The things that you are pointing out, as well as the sensationalized YT video you suggest, represent a very, very small, fringe group that most do not want to even be associated with. Also, if someone wants to marry "a boy who learns" or prefers a "learner-earner", that is their business--and not ours--to judge. Oprah actually did an interesting series on the topic of the Orthodox Jewish home that I would recommend (it's on YT). Although it represents but only one segment of the many different types of Orthodox Judaism (Chabad Lubovitch--like "the Chabadnik" the mom mentions here, as opposed to an Ultra-Orthodox boy), it is done well--Oprah style, of course. You would learn more there. If interested. And if not, please don't judge and miseducate based on a few YT videos.. The world today aside, we are certainly used to antisemitism... but comments like yours are literally the definition of spreading hate, lies and bigotry. Not to mention that some could say it is "fake news" (tho I am sure you are not using something called the Secret Lives of Chassidim as your only source of information). Unless of course, that was your point all along. Tho I can't imagine why you would be watching these shows (it is frightening actually).
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  124.  @hugheaston7598  I absolutely think they should restrict travel! They should have done that over a week ago. At least non-essential travel. That is literally the only way to even try to get a handle on this. And the morons who don't want to miss out on their non-refundable cruise should just stay home, and eat the couple 1,000 dollars. It is just not worth it. Nonetheless the flip side is what it will do to the global economy. We already have China way behind as they were not allowed to go to work and produce things people count on daily (whether they really need them or not). And that is just the manufacturing side. And for those who don't actually have to make sure the teleconferencing happens, and think that everyone can just meet from their homes with video conferencing and have the same work product outcome doesn't know what actually goes on behind the scenes. The MWC canceled and a multi billion dollar house of cards fell. From Ericsson and Nokia pulling out, which affected not only their marketing efforts and what that does to the global world markets down to the cleaning staff from within the company, to the entire hospitality industry that counts on them each year, but most importantly, down to the restaurant owners and even coffee stands that support the event and make almost half of their annual income from the one week. And, while none of us have a crystal ball, there are still plenty of us who have to plan--and guess--on how this will play out. And for many, simply saying "just shut it all down" doesn't work, due to the ripple effect it has on everyone involved. But when they do shut it down, we need a plan B to keep the globe turning. Not an easy thing to come up with when we have never been in this situation before. And most people are just sitting and waiting and hoping for the best... not a great plan.
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  198.  @jakobwashington5878  What does what have to do with anything? Amy was asked if she saw the Floyd video and what impact it had on her. She said she had seen it and then explained how it impacted her family. How many times have we heard, especially lately, about Black (and Latino) parents needing to educate their children about how to conduct themselves should they get pulled over, or come into contact with a police officer, in order to stay safe, and why. Amy will need to have that conversation with her children. Kamala Harris will not, as her stepchildren are not black. If you missed the irony in that, then all I can say is that we clearly have different definitions of the word irony! But to your specific points, based on your view, you are correct--it was the question that was inappropriate in this instance as how the video affected her personally is irrelevant to the job and what it entails. It, in fact, as she states, goes completely against what her role in the job would be as her personal feelings or empathy towards this and any situation should never come into play once she puts that robe on. But again, she answered, as answered politely, intelligently and succinctly. But, just as her kids are not all white, Kamala's kids are not black (stepkids if you want me to be specific, but she still plays a nurturing role sharing in the upbringing of their lives, so I chose to focus on the "kid" part and omit the "step" part of the word). And because they are not black, she would have a different conversation about interacting with police officers than Amy would with her children. Just as Amy would have to have 2 different and separate conversations with her children as some are black and some are white. Amy's kids can't hide the color of their skin when they feel like it. And we don't get to speak for Kamala's children and say "Because Kamala is black, her kids are black". Her children are the only ones who can say who and what they identify with.
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  252.  @bluej6127  Or your interpretation is possibly incorrect. We do not work (ie., cook, etc., on the sabbath), so we prepare all of our food before the sabbath starts and the keep it hot or reheat it on Saturday for lunch (and use something called a blech--an electric hot plate specifically made for shabbat). However as we are to "honor the sabbath", we prepare a festive meat meal for Friday night and Saturday lunch, usually with atleast 3 courses, including one with meat, that we sit down to as a family and enjoy after prayers. With a linen tablecloth, our nice dishes and silverware, flowers on the table, etc.. Friday night it is typically the men and boys who go to synagogue and on Saturday morning, the whole family goes. The men show up on time at 9am, and the women come a little later. Services end at noon and then the whole community gathers in a room to have a snack and chat, and then you go home with your guests. Either if you have been invited out or you are having guests. Years ago, when people live out by their farms, they would prepare a cholent (a meat stew we make now in a crack pot and let it cook for 15-20 hours), and then bring it to town and put it in the bakers oven, and let it cook overnight as the embers in the oven were dying out. Then the family would pick it up after shul was over and bring it home for Shabbat lunch so they had a hot meat meal. After lunch, families either take a walk and visit with friends. Or stay home and read or nap. Or play a board game together. Shabbat is about family time and rest. We honor the sabbath and honor g-d by observing his commandments and resting. Restraining from work, and spending time with family. Even sexual intercourse is considered a mitzvah on Friday night! We spend a lot of time in synagogue, praying to G-d, and discussing the Torah portion of the week. So G-d is definitely a part of the sabbath, however there are many ways that we can honor Hashem, while enjoying eachother and the sabbath at the same time. Hope it helped!
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  254.  @barryfriedman3223  Great question! VERY complicated answer!... first, there are the basics of reform, conservative and Orthodox. And then divisions within. So Orthodox used to be just Modern Orthodox and Ultra Orthodox. Then, it grew from there (from the 1950's/60's when people came over after the war and DP camps and either assimilated, became traditional, or kept their faith and stayed Orthodox) and it still keeps growing. From Conservadox, crossing that line between Conservative to Orthodox, all the way to divisions under the label of Chasidim (like the show "Shtisl"), largely because of Chabad. They are the most outgoing and open of the Chasidim-they are the ones you see in the NYC Subway asking if you're Jewish and would like to put on tefillin or light shabbat candles when you get home, or who you call when travelingto Bangkok or Shanghai for business--there is always a Chabad house ready and willing to help any Jew- they have grown tremendously over the years and do a lot of good all over the world (they are the ones being interviewed in the videos). Their neighbors in Brooklyn, like Satmar ("Unorthodox") are very different and not as open and friendly (I am being very kind here....). There are a lot of different sects within Ultra-Orthodox, all stemming from 18th century Poland. And they are not so familiar with the differences within Modern Orthodox. Although the newer generation is more open, especially those living outside of NYC and the tri-state area. Then within Modern Orthodoxy we have a range. Jared Kushner is Modern Orthodox and Ivanka Trump converted--not the highlight of our religion but I assume you know them... or, a better one, Sacha Baron Cohen was raised Orthodox and his family in London still is kosher and sabbath observant and always was. His wife, Isla Fisher, converted. The kids take bar mitzvah lessons and Judaism is very important to them, but they do not practice daily anymore. (Whereas Jared and Ivanka, in the house, keep shabbat and kosher.) Men wear yarmulkes to work and some men don't. Women who won't wear pants and only cover their hair, and those who don't. BUT any of those within the category of Orthodox will go to a synagogue on shabbat and fit right in with another member within Orthodoxy, wherever they fall within the spectrum. But that person would be totally lost in a reform synagogue (and likely would not even enter bc they are not observant of the Torah within Reformed Judaism). I could keep going, but hopefully that is a good overview. There are plenty of (other) well known Orthodox Jews you would recognize who are Modern Orthodox, but as they believe in Torah U'Maddah (Torah and Secular Studies) and live their life according to those beliefs, you would not necessarily know. Men who don't wear a yarmulke to work don't want to be judged as a Jew first, but as a doctor, lawyer, etc. first. My husband wants to be seen as a dr. first when someone enters the room, but as soon as he jumps in the car to drive home, it goes right back on his head. Was that helpful? Any questions? Senator Joe Lieberman is Orthodox. He walked to the Hill when he needed to cast an important vote on a Saturday (we don't drive on Saturdays). There are more of us than you would think...!😉
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  255.  @barryfriedman3223  sorry, I'm back, lol. Rereading your question--the different level of interpretations are what led to the Reform and Conservative Movements (a much deeper reason and explanation can be found online. Has to do with post WW2 Jews in America. Or more recently, letting women become Rabbis, etc). Orthodox Jews follow the Torah. To the letter. But...EVERYONE (and that means everyone!) picks and chooses. But there are basics. I have friends who don't cover their hair, but they keep shabbos and kosher so I will eat in their house. A famous Chabad Rabbi in a city in America eats in my house but won't eat in anyone else's house in the city where he is the Chabad Rabbi. And he is respectful in that he won't go to someone's home if invited and not eat, but he won't eat anything cooked and be respectful about it. Everyone does their own thing and let's others do their as long as it doesn't impinge on you. Does that make sense? We are told that if someone says they are sabbath observant and kosher, who are we not to believe them (it gets a little harder when you see them buying non kosher meat in a supermarket!). And then there are those who "eat out". Some eat cold only. Some won't eat dairy (VERY few eat meat out), some ask for it to be wrapped in foil... it can be hard with work lunches. I luckily live in a city where a well known Vegan restaurant happens to be kosher. There is ALWAYS a famous person there, so when I have (had) my business meetings there, it seems normal and I don't have to explain. All that said, a Satmar Hasid (or Ger, or Skver, Boomer, etc Hasid) would likely NOT eat in my house (until my Rabbi told them who I was). And by then, I wouldn't want them, lol...JUST KIDDING!! (But I doubt they would eat hot in my house!)
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  256.  @vivsreds1006  Sure! It is super complicated (even to Orthodox Jews) but I will try. It has to do with Kashrut (kosher). We separate meat and dairy (and then there is pareve, which is neutral, like fish, eggs, fruits, vegetables--they go with both meat or dairy). Orthodox Jews often have 2 sinks, 2 ovens, 2 dishwashers and always a separate set of dishes and cutlery for each. Everyone tries to be as strict as they feel they should be within one's home (and everyone's highest level is different). One wants to feel that anyone would feel comfortable eating in their home, so we are extra careful. The sign you see on a lot of products--the circle with a U or K in it--are under a kosher supervision agency. There are hundreds around the world, some more reliable than others. We don't bring the triangle with a K inside into our home, for example. Many don't "hold by it" so I don't let it into my kitchen. But again, as many of us work in the regular secular world, you may have to go to a business lunch, for example. Unless it is a kosher restaurant, we don't eat there (we don't "eat out"). But everyone pick and chooses what rules to break or bend. The most basic, easiest thing (beyond just a cup of black coffee) would be a plain salad. But even there you run into issues with kashrut. The dressing might have a splash of red wine or balsamic vinegar, which is made with wine. We do not drink non-kosher wine, so the dressing is out. Salt, pepper and a squeeze of lemon would be ok, (but it may have onions in it. They are considered "sharp" so the knife that cut them is a problem if used also for something meat, which was not kosher). By only eating cold, as heat transfers the non-kosher "flavor" from vessel to food and vice versa, it is safer. Some eat hot out, but only fish (with scales and fins only as then the fish is a kosher fish). Eating dairy out (pizza), is a problem because of the rennet (a meat product) used in cheeses....and while everyone does their own thing, if one is not so careful, then it begs the question, how careful are they in there home? Most Rabbis don't eat in their congregants homes as while they could eat in one, maybe they can't in another and they want to be respectful and fair to all. Again, it is complicated but Chabad and Aish are good sources for info. If you have more questions, just let me know--hope it helps! Stay healthy!
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  279.  @benjaminr6153  That is not an accurate explanation. We use Hashem (yes, literally translated as "the name"), all the time. We refer to G-d, Hashem, all the time in everyday conversation. Regardless if we are using the expression "Baruch Hashem"=Thank g-d (we do not write out the word), or saying "whatever happens, it is up to Hashem..." (just one example), as we do not use the same word for g-d that we would use while praying (since we don't take his name in vain), we still recognize his presence in everything all day long. Another commonly used expression is g-d willing (IY"H is the shortened version of Im Yirtzeh Hashem). Also, for example, if one of my small children were making a blessing on apple juice before they took a sip, and they got the blessing wrong, when I correct them, I would substitute the Hebrew word for g-d in the blessing with the word Hashem, and she would understand what the substitution meant (that I was not taking his name in vain) and when she said the blessing again (hopefully correctly), she would use the correct word for g-d used in prayer. I was merely substituting it with Hashem while correcting her. Also, the letter "shin" is a Hebrew letter that has a dot or dots added to the consonant. The dots indicate the vowel sound that should be used (similar to Arabic) and tell you how to pronounce the letter or word. In this case the dots tell you to make the shhh sound... the dots placed elsewhere on the Shin make it become the SIN sound. While Hebrew is a different alphabet, it is fairly easy to learn. But things like newspapers or subtitles do not have the dots, or vowels, so one must know what sound to make, which can be difficult until you are fluent. And actually Halleluja, in Hebrew, is still Halleluja in English. It doesn't mean g-d. It means the same as it does in English. It is often the last word of a prayer.
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  369. The part when he interjects needs some clarification... there are some Orthodox women who choose NOT to cover their hair at all, and only cover it in synagogue or other religious service (weddings, funerals). Halachically (by Jewish law), one may allow a "tefach" of their hair exposed. So there are many Orthodox Jews who wear just a fall instead of a full wig and they pull out some hair by the hairline and blend it in, so it looks incredibly natural. Within the Ultra-Orthodox community, each group is different and it is based on their culture within their culture (and yes, likely goes back to how the head Rabbi of that group has "poskined" (when a Rabbi gives an opinion know an issue that one has a question about. Chabad Lubovitch--the group he is interviewing--who are the most open and friendly, all wear very expensive, long (dare I say, sexy) wigs. They cost anywhere from $2,500 to $5,000 each and women will usually have at least an everyday wig and another one for shabbat and special occasions. We never change style or color from one day to the next. If you want to change your shade, then you would change all your wigs (and they don't grow back, so you better be sure....). Other groups wear a hat over a wig, just to be sure anyone who may think you are not covering your hair, sees you covering your hair. And they still wear pillbox hats (a hold over from the 60's). Whether you are in the community in Brooklyn or in Israel, they all have the same "look" again, there are many, many groups within Orthodoxy and within Ultra-Orthodoxy. Chabad is a great way to learn about Judaism, but when they bring you in, it is usually the Chabad way or the highway. Whereas another modern-Orthodox group, Aish HaTorah, also does outreach to Jews to bring them back to Orthodoxy. But once one is ready, they don't necessarily keep you within the fold (of Aish), but send you out to explore other Modern Orthodox communities.
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  388. So...(CAUTION, MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS). My third comment on the film and the controversy surrounding it--it has absolutely NOTHING TO DO WITH THE WAY THE KIDS ARE DANCING--it is about the WHY they are dancing this way. It is a French film, which I did not know until I hit play. I watched it in French bc I hate poor translations and prefer, when possible, to watch the original version (and likely more importantly, bc I speak French, lol!). It takes place in the suburbs of Paris. The burbs of Paris are the absolute antithesis of what the word conjures up to Americans. Les Banlieues are more akin to the projects in any big city in the US. Low-income housing mainly for foreigners (and the French version of white trash). Lots of drugs being sold, bought and consumed. Prostitution, guns, sex trafficking... you get the picture. Contrast that with the other inhabitants--A TON of native French speaking, religious Arabs and Africans who migrated from former French colonies turned indépendant countries such as Algeria, Mali, Tunisia, etc. to France--and they all need to co-exist together. It doesn't always go so well but there are many other (great) movies on that. Les Mignonnes is a coming of age film that is commenting on one Senegalese's girl, and her desperate desire to become one of the "cool kids". She accomplishes that through dance. BUT bc she is only 11, she does something stupid in the heat of a moment and hits send....never a good idea, but, much like in the film, everyone knows that even though one always tries to teach their kids how to grow up to become a responsible, respectable member of society, they rarely listen and have to often make their own mistakes in order to learn that actions have consequences. I won't go into the subtle subplots of the movie, but the last scene shows us that being one of the cool kids is not always the road to happiness. Family is important, respecting your parents is important. And moreover, they are the ones who will love you unconditionally and forever. CUTIES is not remotely about beauty pageants (of any age), sex, or anything else I was led to believe it was about. It was just a poorly done segment by Krystal. Hey, we all have bad days, right?
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  434. It doesn't occur to Çenk that they may want to find out all if the details, such as what happened before and after (and during, more clearly than what we can see)? I feel like there is so much more to this story that will come out. And I think the father could have embarrassed her just as easily if he proved it was his kids phone right then and there, on video. Was it due to his privilege that he just said no and walked off (in front of his son)? Yes, black people can also show privilege and bias. The video of him and his son afterwards and what his son said during the interview bothered me. I felt like the father, who was justifiably outraged, was explaining why the situation was wrong and the history behind it, in a moment of outrage and from a place of anger. I have been in similar situations and I have found that trying to explain prejudice to my kids when I am angry about something that just happened, always comes out all wrong. You can't explain centuries of prejudice while in a moment of crisis (for lack of a better term). It is a much bigger conversation and while the son seemed to have been sheltered from all of it, this may have not been the right time to sit him down and have the talk. But he needed to know the dog whistles for the media and bc Crump wanted him to vocalize them, which is very gratuitous, imho. The way this poor kid will end up internalizing everything will just make him confused and angry (likely at his parents for not preparing hin sooner). The way the Central Park Cooper situation played out,, and the compassion he showed afterwards,, even tho he didn't need to, was a much better example of the way to handle a situation like this. Rather than from a punitive state of retaliation (as everyone calls for her and the managers lives to be ruined. Along with the charges they demand be brought against them. All without people knowing the details. So far). Atleast from what I have seen so far. I am sure we will learn a lot more in the coming days...
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  441.  @therealdefund9763  Just so you are aware, many Orthodox communities, all over the world and outside of Israel, give their children modern Hebrew names. It is more common than not. Hasidic custom is to name after the dead, and most of their families came from. Shtetls in Poland or Russia where they spoke Yiddish, so they give their kids Yiddish names. Sephardic Jews name after the living so the kids born now are generally named after a living grandparent. And then they are both cyclical. They are different minhagim (customs), but they are customs we hold very dear. Once you start making up mew rules, you lose your culture. As far as Aleinu, there is a reason that we only go down to the floor on Yom Kippur. That is also meaningful. If you change that just cause, you are changing the religion, traditions and the culture. That is not the point of Orthodox Judaism. Everything we do, we do for a reason. If you are an observant Jew and don't know why something is done a certain way, look it up. Don't just decide you like something better and randomly follow it blindly. Judaism is all about asking questions and learning through study. For example, if you look up the Book of Daniel, it is not just something studied by Muslims. And it is directly related to how Jews pray, and when they are told to sit, stand, bow, etc. Just as the custom of NOT prostrating ourselves is over 1,000 years old, and there are many things that have been written about it by poseks from the 11th century who studied tehillim and other texts that influenced what we still do today. My point is--it is not like no one thought about it before... study some of the texts and opinions of the past couple thousand years, and you may feel differently about the topic!
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  581. @T.J. One thing I would point out is that while your kids may have been doing well this past year as they work from home under your tutelage, do bear in mind that zoom learning was not designed to be the same as homeschooling. Depending on the ages and grades, while your kids (and your friends kids) may be at the top of their class, if you have "taken the reigns", then it is to be expected that they are getting straight A's. I would be surprised (and concerned) if they weren't. Zoom/pandemic at home learning was not designed for parents to "take the reigns" in order for a child to learn, or thrive, in the class. Not every parent can do so, which means that there is an uneven playing field for the kids. So, for those who do not have the help of their parents, for whatever reason, and are doing well nonetheless--those are the ones who will be the superstars in life--guaranteed! For the kids whose (helicopter) parents are involved in everything the child is doing all day, looking over their shoulders, reviewing their work and correcting it before they hand it in, etc.--those children are being done a huge disservice. And their parents may not even know it. School is about a lot more than just the curriculum on paper. And it us not designed to be a team sport in which one attends with mom or dad by their side. Just like life! If they have spent the past year riding along as a passenger, because someone else took the reigns and drove the carriage for them, then how will they know how to drive by themselves when the time comes for them to take the reigns and drive solo? And it is great to get all A's, but there is also a lot to be learned from failure too. Or even just learning to say, hey, wait a minute--I think I need help (before they get an F)! I have 4 kids, and it has been a crazy year! One started college, one started gap year abroad (and just won a prize for most weeks spent in quarantine!), one in 11th and one in 10th. And they just left public to return to private bc I found the everyone at home all day together soul sucking, and they needed to return to a classroom setting (now that we are vaccinated). I have seen it all, done it all, just stepped off the school board bc I disagreed with their Covid policies.... I am not coming from a place of total ignorance. I obviously don't know how this will all play out and how the kids will end up, but I do know that the concern of parents being overly involved in the at home learning process is real. Just be aware. It is like a drug. It may feel good now, but you will likely pay for it later. Somehow. Sometimes we have to force ourselves to just say no. Good luck!
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  674. For someine who doesn't have a lot to go on, you sure have a lot of definitive statements about Jared Kushner and why you hate him so much. Have you ever even met him? Spoken to him? What exactly is all your hate based on? What is the point of these ramblings except to make baseless statements such as "pro-formative measures?" Israel--a country who is at war every day of its existence (or did you miss the news about rockets being fired into Israel from Gaza the other day?)--and the SUDAN came to an agreement! That is unbelievable to people who know their Middle East history or the present situation of Israel and those living in Israel. Who never thought we would see that in this lifetime. I'm sure the people who thought that those kids were riding actual Coyotes to get into the country know about as much as the situation in Israel as they clearly do about immigration. Jared did not grow up with a silver spoon in his mouth, even tho his family was wealthy. Even Netflix showed that much was true. Whether it lasts or not, or how long, whether Biden reverses it and screws it up, or the ME countries and their extremist factions who are furious that these countries have gone against the "3 No's" and won't honor the agreement (Saudi Arabia has already been warned by the terrorist organization The Islamic State), we won't know. Israel is our oldest and best ally in the region. And the Abraham accord is the closest thing we have seen to peace in the Middle East in a long time, which makes not only Israel safer, but the US safer. No one can begrudge Jared that.
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  737.  @karyndewit193  I absolutely understand how it could make you feel constrained or anxious, especially if it triggers something negative from your past. But putting that aside (as it is personal to you), even if there were a very small chance that it could keep you or someone else around you healthy, why would you advocate for people not to wear it? I was just discussing it with my husband as we have two groups of friends--the mask wearers, and the anti mask group (most of which also happen to be doctors ironically). And my husband was talking about it with the one friend who agrees with him about wearing masks and he said that it is not because he is afraid of getting sick or dying (although I am high risk), it is that he and this one friend, both had Covid outbreaks at work and they both had to close for 2 weeks, I had to open a case with the Health Dept., we paid thousands of dollars to get everyone tested and retested privately bc testingwas such a mess here. We lost tons of money (and annoyed a ton of clients), and still had to pay everyone. All because our "patient zero" went to visit a friend who was in quarantine, stayed for dinner bc she was asymptomatic, and then SHARED A FORK WITH HER!!!. Then came to work (while shedding) and after work, the second person asked for a ride home and they sat in a car for an HOUR without masks and the windows rolled up So they didn't even get sick AT work, but it was a HUGE, expensive, annoying hassle! Same thing happened to our other friend. It was so stressful and we just don't want to go through it again. That's the other side people don't think about until they have to deal with it. And I am not even talking about the sick ones. We all got lucky with that, thank goodness! So, if everyone would just help each other out and wear a mask, maybe we will get through this sooner and life can get back to normal!
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  744.  @Pinkheartbwell  And again, I hope you understand that your statements (reread them from the beginning) have been a deep, painful betrayal to those who not only perished in the Holocaust, but to those who survived the horrors of the Holocaust. As well as their trials and tribulations in the DP camps and thereafter. Including the impact it had on their children and grandchildren. It will take many generations for us to not be reliving daily the reminders of the atrocities that occurred, and the affect it had, and still has, on our lives. I don't know what year your father came to the US, or where he came from, but even if he didn't tell you stories about it, just his behavior throughout, how he carried on with life, was likely marred by what he had experienced and seen. And someone like that, who carries that burden, passes it on. Just as I want you to understand that your mindless, thoughtless, insincere commentary--completely anonymous on YT of course--is deeply hurtful and painful. And yet you keep going. I am glad that you are ok with forgiving nazis, letting SS officers roam free, although illegal, and saving little animals because you are a vegetarian. But I want you to understand that what you did was not only wrong, it was vindictive and mean. People may comments on YT all the time and others sling insults, call people names and liars, all from the safety of their screen name. I did none of that--I simply asked you to take it down. And you won't, and yet still keep posting. I don't know what your point even is anymore. It certainly can't be forgiveness as I have told you how offended, horrified and saddened I am by your actions and, perhaps bc I am a stranger online, you don't care. And while I did start out by saying I had a hard time believing your story, I did not follow that line of logic, not because I am now convinced--quite the opposite--I was truly just being courteous. I could go through each comment and sentence that only highlights the insincerity of your story, but I don't need to. You know what they are. And yet you still seem to have a point you wish to make. I implore you to find a different way. Doing it at the expense of 6 million dead is truly reprehensible. And just the fact that you don't understand how awful it is, or what your first post represented--or understand and feel the deep shame that you should be experiencing right now, is proof enough of your not even that elaborate, yet nonetheless pathetic, ruse. Just know that again, whatever point you tried to make, all you did was traumatize someone further. And yet, you seem very ok with it. Does that help prove your point? I doubt it.
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  747.  @Pinkheartbwell  Since you brought up Eva Kor--do you even know the whole story? You cut and pasted part of an article on commonlit but in addition to what she said, "Forgiveness does not mean that the perpetrators are absolved of their crimes," what Eva Kor also said, which is just as important as her own personal experiences were, as her ability to forgive was, was that "Each person can forgive only in his or her own name. One cannot forgive in the name of all Holocaust survivors." As I said before, the concept of forgiveness in Judaism is very different than that of Christianity. Many survivors did not, and do not, feel the same way as she did. "It is not our place, or our duty, to forgive. We do not owe anybody forgiveness. The pre-requisite for forgiveness is atonement. Justice we should seek--and forever seek--but forgiveness? It is not our place to forgive." Your point on how you came to forgive could have been made by simply telling Eva Kor's story--a true story. But the fact that you have chosen to leave your comments up, which are not only offensive to those who actually DID survive the Holocaust, or are children and grandchildren of those who are survivors, you do a disservice to Eva Kor and her memory, which is the exact thing you are trying to make a statement about. Make your point another way. Honor Eva Kor and her memory, along with the memory of her sister and family. Or simply make the point by drawing a parallel from the original news clip to Eva Kor's testimonials in documentaries and YT video that you found inspiring. Or use something else. Anything else but the tale you told about treating a Nazi War criminal and then letting him roam free!! The power to forgive that man was not yours! There are laws! People get put in jail for doing what you said happened! And the fact that you were not aware of that, or the impact of your other statements, may exonerate you and your false statements from those you have offended, but they do not make them any less painful to those whose identity you are essentially stealing. They also don't necessarily exonerate you from the law! Have you done anything to rectify the situation? Called the FBI? You claim to be a nice, peaceful person who wants to do good things. Take your statements DOWN! And then, in return, I will gladly delete mine. You are desecrating the memory of those who perished in the Holocaust as well as the survivors, whether dead or alive. You may not have the ability to exonerate anyone on behalf of the survivors or those killed, but apparently you can help them seek justice. In the name of everyone murdered.
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  758.  @bradleysmith681  Is your issue with everything driven by some personal grudge against Gavin or just nepotism in general? And is it so offensive to you how someone gets their start in life regardless of what they then do with their life thereafter? None of your idols had a leg up somewhere along the way? Willie Brown cares way too much about his reputation (and now, likely, his legacy), to help someone who will not perform and do well in any position he helps someone attain (and he is a lovely, decent human being btw). Just as Gavin would not have gotten as far in life without everything he did for the city. I, personally, cannot claim to be as virtuous as either of them as I would not have (did not) leave my life, my family, my business es, in order to take a huge payout and work as a government employee. Even if it would have looked great on paper and there would have been tremendous bragging rights, I prefer to be able to eat at The French Laundry whenever I want, in private. So, while Gavin is now getting crap for one dinner gone wrong, he is still, in my eyes, a better person than I. Is he full of himself? Absolutely. Does he think he is better than most? Probably. But I can also attest to the fact that he likely is. He was and likely still is and the people who keep attacking him either have some personal beef with him, or they are just jealous. There is no other rational answer. The people writing comments to strangers on YT to "storm the Bastille" are clearly not actually starving as the French were during the Revolution or even during the Terror. Our generation of woke revolutionaries are misguided, misinformed and honestly, pathetic!
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  874.  @tg2683  Then you are aware of the changes and differences between Aish the org and Aish the shul and how some of the shuls have separated themselves from the org. Just as Rav Bekovitz, who took over as Rosh Yeshiva for the org in Israel, would likely not consider himself personally Modern Orthodox, he would consider Aish HaTorah, the movement, Modern Orthodox in general. The movement is still based on kiruv, and they know that, as an organization, Modern Orthodoxy seems less restrictive and more appealing to people. So as an organization, in the US, they still align themselves with Torah U'Maddah (as you know, it is very different in Israel. But Aish believes in the army, for example. They are still Zionists.) They have a very large presence in LA and after shabbos I asked two of the Aish Rabbis I am close to (one's a relative and one is a neighbor), if they align themselves with Modern Orthodoxy, and moreover, would Rav Weinberg, zt"l, say that Aish (the org) is aligned with Modern Orthodoxy. The answer was yes to both. But I asked about the org, not the shuls that have spun off or the Rosh Yeshiva as an individual. So, in conclusion, I guess one should confer with their Aish Rabbi in their community for further explanation and clarification. If one is asking, then, a. the person asking is likely not FFB, and if they are BT and want to understand the nuances of the differences, B. it is likely signaling to a larger conversation. But hey, that is what exploring Judaism is all about--asking questions!
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  875.  @tg2683  LOL...I totally "hear you"... just this shabbos we were hanging out, talking Torah, and one of my kids starts a dvar Torah, but then does that thing where they cross into medrash (Lubovitch Medrash, that they learn in Gan Izzy or whatever)... and then it just blurs to them when little, but when they get older, they should be able to differentiate between medrash and Torah. My husband and I just looked at each other and rolled our eyes. Then corrected her. So I know what you mean by an insult to some. What I don't get is which other sect could she be?? (Insert Satmar joke here)?? And moshiachists are fairly rare these days (and I will limit my adjectives to that). I don't count those at all. Most of my friends are Gehze, so I have very little to do with the hippie, dippie Chabad crowd. Or Moshiachists, or any other fringe sub group. When my husband was in grad school our Rav was Chabad, we were in the middle of nowhere and the Rabbi could not leave for a Shabbat unless my husband would be there,, bc he was the only one who could daven for the amud and lein. 25 years later, we are still very close. But they taught each other so much in the beginning. Our first meal at his house my husband leans over and asks me "what's a Tanya? 24 years of Yeshiva education and I have never heard of a Tanya before?" Then at their Pidyon, when siblings were visiting, we were telling a story at the shabbos table and his brother asked "what are you guys, reformed?" Oy vey! Such an insult, I had to hold my husband down! But when stuck in an insular community like Brooklyn, that is your world. If you are not sent to Australia for a year, or on shluchus somewhere where there are other kinds of Jews, it is Chabad or nothing (and the rest of us are goyim...). So feeling insulted can work both ways. The Chabad community where we live now has started using the Modern Orthodox schools for a better education that will allow for college. My friends say that their kids are teaching them (the parents) how to become Modern Orthodox! They certainly didn't learn in Crown Heights!
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  878.  @shulamitkalish3060  LOL, yes, I also laughed when my daughter said it. What's old becomes new again! Like sitting on the square on Ben Yehuda... She is Shana alef so you know how they label everyone. My son is Shana bet and he is "shtarking hard" (Israel was the cure for the Corona blues as YU was zoom only--very handy!) I am going to have to look for the video where Malky says she is Chabad (now it is bugging me)--someone else said she is Bobov! That was ridiculous. Can you imagine a Bobove woman in an animal print, a sexy Shevy's, who makes her own music videos and walks the streets of Brooklyn, alone with a random guy filming a YT video?? Not likely... and you are right, it is too hard to explain to outsiders. Brooklyn alone is its own world. The "Lubovitch Light" crowd in Brooklyn is still so different than in LA, for example. I have a whole theory on how and why things changed after the Rebbe, zt"l, was nifter, and then with the introduction of the internet (for another time). I am probably a lot older than you, but even within the NY communities, things have changed a lot over the years. "Modern" Monsey (which has grown so much over the past 30 years) is a very different modern than say, Teaneck or Woodmere. A friend who grew up Chassidish in Brooklyn met a Lubovitch boy, and he told her he was Chassidish... she went to meet his family in Crown Heights and as she had never really been exposed to Chabad, she ended up saying to him "You call yourself Chassidim? This is not Chassidish!" They are married with kids now, 25 yrs later. And she still makes fun of him. My other friend, as Upper Westside Modern as they come, married into a big (gehze) Lubovitch family and even tho YU straightened him out, as she says, he still "plays dress up" on shabbos. And she calls his gartel "his lingerie" (she is very funny). Chabad is as Chabad does... we are as misnogdish as they come and so my husband is a very typical, joyless Jew, as I call him. Whenever in Israel for Pesach, I used to drag him to Moshav Modi'in chol hamoed for their festival to visit old friends of mine. I love a good Carlebach davening. He never liked it. But that is also why I can appreciate Chabad (he can't). They do good for the world! And I travel a lot for work, so when I can't get home for shabbos, Chabad is always there! But they don't look like Bobove Chassidim...lol.. so I will look for the video! Kol tov! Stay healthy!!
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  879.  @shulamitkalish3060  Yup! Very typical in our community. Most kids do a year in Israel after HS. And whereas I had always said "Shana Bet" were words that would never leave my lips, never say never! I brought him home in March the minute Trump said he was closing the borders (spent 5 hrs on hold with United, then booked tix and called and said you have 4 hrs to get to the airport). Then he spent 4 soul sucking months in his room zooming (and playing way too much Fortnite) and finally I said, enough! And sent him back. So did most parents. It was a good solution. He is done next week and then starting YU. He is in Bet Shemesh and she is in Yerushalayim. Complaining about the weather. They keep pretty close tabs on them, so they don't get out much. Boys schools are less strict. And it is way more strict than it was 30 years ago. Speaking of strict, yes, of course there are exceptions to every rule (can you imagine shaving your head?? I cannot.). But even if someone like your friend were to do a YT video, I would think she would still be respectful and considerate of others and not attempt to bring them into the video without asking them first, don't you think? Like the woman in the sheitl shop who asked not to be shown (even tho it is great advertising!). Malky also said she grew up frum (how frum, or if she grew up Chabad, she didn't elaborate on). So she would know that while she may be ok doing it herself, others would frown on it and would likely not agree to take part in it. I won't even go into Maaris Ayin, lol. You are right, we are getting worked up over shtuiot! BTW, I just heard about that poor woman in the forest, and some other stuff that happened. Baruch Dayan HaEmet. How awful! We never hear about it in the US, just on YT. Are things heating up over there or was it random, usual stuff (you know what I mean)?.
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  881.  @tg2683  LOL!! We are about as misnogdish as they come... Yet I still have a room in my heart for a good Carlebach minyan (because I knew Shlomo years ago--yes, I am old) but my husband is (as I say) a joyless Jew. So when he was at grad school and we lived in "yehuppitz" (as Chabad says), all there was was Chabad (now, 25 yrs later, they are still amongst our closest friends). But the first shabbosom we spent together, "the Rabbi", Shlomie, who grew up (gehze) in Brooklyn, would ask us about our background, our schooling, etc. Bc even tho he was also from NY, he grew up Brooklyn sheltered and knew nothing about Modern Orthodoxy (but he learned, thru us). One meal, he started a dvar Torah and referenced the Tanya. My husband, who only knew Chabad from the subway, 30 yrs ago, when they used to give out candles and try to stop you to lay tefillin (before the invention of the internet), leaned over and said to me "What's a Tanya?? 19 years in Yeshiva and I have never heard of a Tanya before??!" Fast forward a few years (and many funny barbs and stories between the two of them)--and bear in mind that Shlomie could not leave town on Shabbat unless he knew we were in town bc my husband was the only person within a few hundred miles who could daven for the amud and lein... they made a bris and my in-laws happened to be in town so we had shabbat lunch by them. In the middle of the conversation, his brother who was visiting from Brooklyn (and saw us in shul already!), was listening to our convo, as I sat on the shul board and was discussing fundraising thru membership (a foreign concept in Chabad). The brother says "Nu, what are you? Reformed?" I shoot my husband a look before he tries to jump across the table at him...a few minutes later, he gives a dvar Torah that was 100% (Lubovitch) medrash. Finally, my MIL cocks her head to one side and ask them both, "Are we in the same religion??" Your story made me think of that, lol! I totally hear you. Chabad has changed a lot over the years. Since the Rebbe, zt"l, was nifter, and then add the invention of the internet. A lot has changed. BUT....I travel a lot for work, and Chabad is always there for me. As I am not BT, I can take the good and leave the bad. Unfortunately, others can't (and when Chabad "gets you" they keep you!). The Lubovitch Light crowd, especially outside of Brooklyn, is altering the landscape--the kids are attending Modern Orthodox yeshivas bc they want to go to college and then work (their parents say the kids are teaching them how to be Modern Orthodox). I used to get upset that they didn't revamp their own schools (they all want financial aid), but after 10 years, I am cool with it. They give back. In a way, they understand Chassidus better than anyone else! Or we can hope atleast! And yes, living in Israel is a whole different ballgame (I have 2 kids there). Not so much intermingling. But once you all get to Israel, you need eachother less. That is the upside!! Kol tov!! Stay healthy!! I need to go answer someone who thinks Malky is Bobov (she said she was Chabad in a video--I have to find where), and also thinks I am new to Judaism and do not understand the different hashkafot....🤔🙄 I need to take a breath before I answer her, lol!
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  882.  @michellelansky4490  The Aish info is not mine, it is from two of the Aish Rebbeim whom I asked. Again, I was not asking them what they would label themselves (as they are yeshivish, which is appropriate), but what they would tell someone Aish is. As far as "most of Lakewood being Harvard Law students", that is a stretch. At best. And as far as who opposes medical school, well, one has to go to college first. In the Chassidish world, those who are FFB and want to take courses to even allow them to get into college are already fringe. Most yeshivish kollels, or high schools, are not WASC accredited (or any of the other seven titles IV accreditations across the country). Chassidish aligned students are few and far between at YU as it is. And always was. Those who grew up in the depths of sheltered Brooklyn yet changed course and went to YU (such a rebel!) are few and far between, and fairly well known as "the success story" certainly going back at least the 30 years that I can account for of YU grads. Yes, there are some. But they need to working towards it starting at 16 if they don't want to fall behind, and depending on what community one lives in, that can be an onerous (and expensive) task. If one wants to get into a top Yeshiva HS in the US, such as Frisch, Ramaz, DRS, YULA, they need to be at the top of their class in grade school. And after HS, they need to spend atleast Shana alef at a top Yeshiva (or "sem" as people started calling it 20 years ago). Girls can go to Harvard Law too (like my sister in law did)! Unfortunately, one does not wake up one day and say "I want my kid to be a doctor, what do I do?" And suddenly switch paths. It is not that easy for those who grew up frum. For those who are older, and then found Yiddishkeit (likely thanks to Chabad), it is easier to incorporate into your life. And I won't even go into the back story of the Lakewood yeshiva boys who may have been Harvard Boys, as it would just lead to lashon hora. But they all have a story. It is not the norm.
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  883.  @michellelansky4490  I am sure I am older than you, so as far as bringing Jews back to Yiddishkeit and the history behind it that started in the 80's with Rabbi Riskin's famous shabbos drash about "if you are going to sleep over at HER house, at least bring your tefillin with you"... a well known drash he gave on shabbos during the AIDS epidemic. In concert, Chabad was still among up their Kiruv movement, albeit candles in the subway, or guys trying to lay tefillin...but together they created a movement (you can look it up. There are many interesting stories and books about it). It was a period in time, after EST, the start of Scientology and people seeking out gurus to find the meaning of life, when shuls and organizations from "wink and stare" on the UWS to Shlomo, to Chabad in CH, all worked their hardest to bring Jews back to Judaism. The rebirth of the Ba'al Tshuvah movement. And they achieved a lot! Sadly, Shlomo, zt"l, and the Rebbe, zt"l, were nifter in the 90's and things faltered for a while. Then the internet was invented and it changed the world. Including the Orthodox Jewish world. From Modern Orthodox to Hassidim. Fast forward to now as those who got married back then have kids who are getting married. But without the Rebbe, and people who remember him (or even kids on the Moshav who didn't even grow up with him), there is a whole generation trying to grow, and fit in, and make a living, without a Rebbe for guidance. So, Chabad kids, "Lubovitch Light", who are not gehze, and can't get a good shluchus spot (or don't want to be in shluchus), are stuck. So what do they do? They infiltrate the modern Orthodox yeshivot. It was a problem 10 years ago as they all wanted financial aid. But, as the parents have said "the kids are teaching us how to be Modern Orthodox", and the parents are, in fact, giving back. Granted, you wouldn't see it happen in Misnogdish or Litvish circles, but Chabad is as Chabad does. And they possibly understand Chassidus better than anyone, so the ner tamid still shines thru and guides them. Or they just want their kids to succeed in life. Either way, we will take them.
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  888.  @shulamitkalish3060  LOL, of course I am familiar with heimish (and all the other dozens of labels), however, I don't like to make assumptions about strangers on YT, even when they are pretty clear based on what they are saying, especially if they are BT. Because in my world, there are certain labels that we make fun of, which of course, is not very nice. So I don't want to insult anyone, even if they are a stranger and being offensive to me (and plenty of people make fun of our crowd too). But while Brooklyn has a huge Jewish community, with so many different types of religious groups, it is still very insular and many who grew up there can be very sheltered. Then you have the whole BT crowd who became religious via one of the Brooklyn groups, so they only know what they know (apart from exposure to Lakewood, Monsey, bungalow colonies, the correlating communities in Israel, etc). It is such a huge learning curve for someone just within their little world within the world, and one is constantly learning just as the communities are constantly changing. My comment about "where do they daven" wasn't literal, as there are tons of options all over each neighborhood. A shtiebel minyan may be the obvious answer (tho typically one would likely say "I daven by Rabbi so and so"), but generally when in grows up in say, a YI or 770, and then possibly changes course and ends up at say, Aish, it says something about who that person is and who they identify with. Does that make sense? Very similar to when someone makes Aliyah and chooses which community they are going to live in. Sure, there are always exceptions to every rule, but if someone moves to Chashmonaim, or Efrat, it signals to what label they identify themselves with. And as much as things evolve and change, I don't think Modern Orthodoxy is going away anytime soon. Am I making sense? Someone just tested positive at her Sem. Now they are all going back into quarantine for 2 weeks....oy vey! More tears...
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  890.  @shulamitkalish3060  Ignorant is definitely not the word I would use, don't be silly! First of all you are way younger than I am, and while you said you had lived in Brooklyn, I was guessing that was during your early 20's, but, you could have possibly gone to Flatbush...(again, I don't like to be presumptuous as it can be offensive to people). But you are too nice to have grown up a NYer, lol... another clue! But even if you did, the expressions "Jdubs" (what "SY's" used to call Ashkenazim) would have predated you regardless. It doesn't have the nicest connotation anymore, depending who is saying it and how, but you can google it and read the (infamous) articles that were written about the Flatbush (and Deal) communities (they are funny actually, as long as one doesn't take offense). Back in the day, when my cousins went to Flatbush, it was a very different world. Nowadays, Flatbush can barely get a spot at Sarachek, they have dropped out so much from the mainstream Modern Orthodox scene. The a Syrians made a spin off Yeshiva HS, Magen David (say it with the right accent, lol!), and they did play well at Sarachek the past few years, so maybe that is why Flatbush's team is so bad. They took all the good players. Who knows? But anyway, just as those expressions are old and therefore unfamiliar to you, and have been replaced by new ones, is the example I am making about how things change with each generation. And if one is BT and is only learning about the current, new stuff (and possibly occasionally the just recently passé expressions and ideology), they don't really understand the bigger picture and cultural history and background of Orthodox Jewish culture and how we got to where we are today. If that makes sense. I am a history and sociology geek, so I find these things interesting in general (Jewish or otherwise). Things don't just evolve and change on their own. Outside forces affect change. Even within Judaism, Orthodox or otherwise. Such as post WW2, how did Judaism evolve in the US and what forces of change affected the outcome. I find that fascinating. If you can ever find the book called "How to run a traditional Jewish Household" written by Blu Greenberg, you would find it a fascinating read! Even when it was new it was great! But it is so "out of date" now as so many years have passed and "rules" have changed. Maybe you can get an online copy--you would really enjoy it (sadly, her son, who she writes about a lot in the book, was a great friend and passed erev YK, years ago. Tragic.). But Blu and Rabbi Greenberg were the Rabbi and Rebbetzin in Riverdale in the 80's (and were friends with my in-laws, who started out in the Bronx and then moved to NJ where they started what is now a huge, well known community). I don't want to give details bc it will become political (which likely tells you what and where I am talking about...). Now I am just rambling, lol. OH! I had something else to ask your opinion on! Will send another message shortly. Thanks!!
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  892.  @shulamitkalish3060  Oh, to be young again! Again, I am much older than you, so if one goes back to the late 80's when Rabbi Riskin made his famous speech at "wink and stare" (AKA Lincoln Square--where I grew up). Way before he moved to Efrat), and told everyone (from the Bima!), if you are going to sleep over at your girlfriends house, at least bring your tefillin with you! That was a huge moment. It was after the AIDS outbreak of the early 80's, when so many people were coming back to Judaism, many organizations (and even individuals such as Esther Jungreis), made a huge impact on so many people and Jewish communities. And just as any new community has to build a mikveh first, the reason that the school is so important is because it is the center of the community--it helps shape, define and drive the community. Hence the concept of "the community school". A concept now somewhat forgotten, unfortunately. But much like the joke about the person stranded on the desert island who shows his rescuers around...one Jew, 2 opinions, or 2 shuls..."what is that building? OH, that is "the other shul"--I wouldn't be caught dead davening there! (The punchline to the joke). Flatbush has always been one of the prototypes for how a community and community school can be "taken over" and redefined by changing forces and growth (in this instance, the growth of the Syrian community and how the next generations started to become more frum). It is inevitable. It is when the growth is not harmonious that we start to see divisions and problems. Which has made finding a solution to the tuition crisis in America next to impossible. It is truly tragic.
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  894.  @michellelansky4490  I am hardly painting anything with one brush--there just is not enough room, or time, to go through each label, segment, and sub segment of each group who identifies with Orthodox Judaism (from Conservadox to Ultra-Orthodox and everything in between). I am trying to address each of your comments and ideas one by one, however, while I really do not want to give a stranger mussar in a public forum, I will however point out that while you are entitled to your own opinions, please do remember that this IS a public forum, and some of what appears to be your own opinions, are in fact, yours alone. A public cry to shut down YU is, again, YOUR opinion. There are hundreds and hundreds of people who would disagree with you. Just as your statement about modern Orthodoxy being dead is very controversial. And if it were dead, then what would become of all the yeshivot and seminaries in Israel that are all still well attended (and needed)? And have been for decades? They are a now under the umbrella of MASA and YU (as they should be) and still represent the foundation of modern orthodoxy. Here, and in Israel.. Your definition of Halacha is exactly that. Yours. EVERYONE picks and chooses. No one is perfect. Just as you have decided to pick and choose which Loshon Hora halachot are important to you. And please bear in mind that I am only illustrating a point, however some of your statements are a slap in the face to halacha itself. The "issues" you have with YU are not the issues that YU sees as a "challenge", whether they offend you personally, or not. If you were a graduate of Stern, or affiliated in some way, you would have a better understanding of what YU is, what it's history is, what it stands for, and why so many are proud and thankful that it exists. Calling for the word "Yeshiva" to be stripped from it's name, and stating that one should not "mix this Judaism stuff in" is beyond a shande. It is the stuff that the Neturei Karta is made of!
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  895.  @shulamitkalish3060  I don't have Instagram, but will ask my kids to look it up. I don't know if you saw it but I posted a comment saying exactly that. That Jews often get caught up in playing "who is the most frum card". It happens everywhere, in every community. And I just replied to the comment about how YU should stop associating all the "Judaism stuff" with it's name, and remove Yeshiva from it's title. That was only part of the person's post, but to claim the YU/Stern is not "Jewish enough" and doesn't observe halacha, and then point out specifically why, in that person's opinion, in a public forum, is not ok. The comment itself just devolved into negative PR for YU (or otherwise known as Loshon Hora!). I have worked too hard (and still work too hard), for Jewish education in America to stay on the right path and be accessible and available to anyone who wants it! I hear you and understand your perspective, but as you did benefit from a Stern education, even tho you are amongst the lucky ones who made aliyah, there are still so many here in the US who want a Jewish education from grade school through college. And then beyond if they want it. And I will continue to fight for that. Thank g-d for people like LH, who have made it their goal, personally and financially, to pull YU out of the Madoff hole we fell into, and get us back on track! Hopefully this Covid era will not set us back too far. And while there are still plenty of other (unaccredited) Jewish schools doing ok, if there are kids who want to cross over into the world of those college bound, there are plenty of us here to help them. Financially and otherwise. I am passionate about it as I know a lot of people who grew up at a Chofetz Chain or Bais Chaya Mushke, but clawed their way into college and beyond and any kid should be allowed that opportunity. Those who find out too late that it is so difficult really struggle and it is really hard to watch. Especially when they have a large family to support. Until there are no kids asking for help left, I will continue to fight in their behalf and make sure that YU and Stern will always be there to help them!
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  920.  @psychosious  Also, student debt discussion aside, it is likely a generational thing as I am noticing it a lot lately... and a little late, as I see I am as much to blame with regards to my own children... but one can only blame their parents for so much for so long. At a certain point, when one realizes, "Hey, I never learned how to be responsible with money" (or something similar), it is a waste of time blaming your parents or school or anyone else for that matter. You were smart enough to come to the realization that there is something useful you need to learn--go out and teach yourself what it is you want to know. Take charge of your destiny! Especially now, with the internet (that your parents did not grow up with), and all the differences in how we live our lives today and how much new info there is to learn (you could probably teach your parents a few things!), you can go out and learn about anything just by searching YouTube. Whereas back in the day, we had to go to the library, use the Dewey decimal system (do you even know what that is, lol), find a book, look up the topic, hope it is the right book, read about it....you get my point. It is a whole different world we live in now. Whatever they would have taught you would likely be useless now anyway. Or maybe I am just making myself feel better and less guilty. But learning the "value of a dollar", when we hardly use cash anymore is hard. Knowing how to write a check when we have PayPal is useless... even if your parents taught you everything there was to know, it is now obsolete. But you can always teach it to yourself. Knowledge is very fluid these days...
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  955.  @ralphbernhard1757  Having lived in Europe and used the Healthcare system in both Germany and France, I personally would not want to give up my extremely expensive, excellent Healthcare for Die Krankenkasse! Niemals! (Wie wir auf Deutsch sagen). And the Germans pay a ton in taxes for it as well. As far as the Upper Middle Class and the super rich--I don't know how you define those two groups. And I have found that the average American from any random flyover state has a very different interpretation of what kind of salary defines one as wealthy. Obviously, in NYC (where I was born and raised) and in California (where I live now) those numbers are vary depending on who you ask. Biden seems to have put that number at $400K. Depending on how many kids one has and how they are educated, that can leave one either living hand to mouth, or somewhat comfortably. But far from wealthy. Just as "a millionaire" does not have the same meaning as it did in the 60's. Or even the 90's. BUT, if one works hard enough to make a million dollars a year (of which one sees a lot less after the IRS takes their share), and is already know the highest tax bracket, why should they have to then pay more just so others who are not working at all can have the same Healthcare? Medicaid is apparently not good enough for them (I wouldn't it either), but if it is "free", it is atleast something. If one is hit by a bus or gets cancer, atleast they have coverage and will not be ruined by medical bills. And don't forget that all that money that the wealthy pay for good Healthcare often does not get used each year. So it therefore helps the others who do need it (like auto insurance or any other insurance plan). The only Germans who are actually ok with their Healthcare system are those who are healthy and don't actually use it urgently or more often than for eine Jährliche Überprüfung.
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  1070.  Denise G.  As someone who was born and raised in Manhattan and lived half my life there, before I moved to LA, I know that you probably don't know 1 person who even voted for Trump. The standard has always been, even for Republicans, to vote Democrat on the local level. And even my Republican friends who still live in the city dislike Trump (including the ones I know secretly voted for him), because the pressure to hate him is just too great. However if you reread what you wrote, it comes across as one-sided to say that I am the one who was brainwashed (I can't be indoctrinated into somewhere I always belonged). Both sides are equally guilty. However I find the double standard of things like "peaceful protests" that end up with neighborhoods beings terrorized by rioting and looting, very tiresome. Especially when I live and work in one of them. Biden and Harris both have terrible track records (their voting records are all public record and readily available to anyone who wants to spend a few minutes to look them up--yet most don't)--whereas, on the top things I look at when supporting a candidate, Trump has actually done quite well. Had he never been given a cell phone or Twitter account, the past 4 years would have played out very differently. But I can look past that and focus on the things that matter to me and affect my everyday life. Just as I don't need to wait and see with Biden as far as what he will do once in office and how I will feel about it. I just hope he can help steer his party in the right direction so that all the people who feel like they won can comport themselves in a respectful manner going forward, instead of acting like the angry, misinformed animals they have been behaving like up until this point.
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  1071.  Denise G.  I hear you and agree with most of your points. I try to stay away from the sweeping generalizations--in general, but specifically within the context of politics. Blame it on my age, but it is getting very disheartening to view an entire generation who act like (and likely are) simply uneducated, misinformed, morons! I can't take it anymore. And while I try to comfort myself that I am sending 4 kids into the world who are not uneducated, misinformed, or just plain stupid, I find myself checking in on them to double check--similar to the way one checks on their newborn who finally stopped crying and fell asleep but you think they stopped breathing, lol. Because we can't compare it to when we were in college, 30 years ago, as there was no internet or social media and it is like comparing apples and oranges. They are both fruit, but... and then add in the fact that, as you mentioned, the Dems dropped the ball now twice--2016 was also a bust--and so while you voted more against Trump, I definitely voted not only against Biden, but again Harris. I am truly frightened by a Harris Presidency, largely bc I focus my vote heavily on foreign policy and her is somewhere between terrible and non-existent to dangerous. I have 2 kids studying abroad and while I care about the environment, I am more concerned about a nuclear Iran (luckily they don't even want to get into bed with Biden even tho he is already warming the sheets!). I can't stand AOC +3. They are simply the end result of a PR exec's wet dream, but one day people will wake up and realize that it was all a one night stand seen through beer googles. In the morning you realize it was all just a bad idea and there isn't the substance to it that you thought would be there past midnight. It is scary how dumb AOC is and how anti-semitic Ilan Omar is. I spoke not thunk, however, that Trump is racist (if it even matters anymore), and I know that he is not anti-semitic. And while Jared is certainly not the smartest in the family (Kushner, not Trump), the Abraham Accord was truly a historic achievement that everyone unfortunately overlooks. I don't think they will be all that welcome back into NY Society (even at KJ), but for the sake of their kids (who are so far, quite lovely actually), I hope people remember the positive things that he was able to achieve as he still has a whole life ahead of him, whereas we won't have to deal with Trump for that much longer. Which bring me back to why I would never have even considered voting for Biden. Hopefully the Dems do better next time around so it is at least a less divisive election! This one was straight out of the history books. I just hope we don't now have to live through The Terror and can all move on. Together, as one nation.
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  1072.  Denise G.  And thank you as well! Especially for not becoming aggressive or calling me names! It is crazy some of the conversations (with strangers) I get involved in (I am female, btw). And I do agree there are bad apples in every party, but it is the ones who danger my life and that of my family directly that I keep an eye on. But actions speak louder than words--or 140 characters on Twitter--and I pay more attention to people's intentions and what motivates them. Just as I put more weight into my personal experience and interactions with individuals rather than their party affiliation. One conversation or experience can affect a person's actions more than a history of voting records. So one photo op, be it Ivanka and a can of beans or Gavin in a restaurant without a mask, never tells the whole story. I didn't mean that Jared was lovely, but his kids. And while Charlie is truly an awful human being, Jared did actually turn out OK, and Arabella is not nearly as spoiled as one would think (yet, atleast). As I always tell my kids, nice goes a long way. As does loyalty. So for the things that matter to me (and my family), I don't have any beef with them. Just as I don't let things like jealousy, or opinions driven by media, influence my views. Watch some of the Campus Reform videos of interviews of college students--they have so little understanding about the things they take a stance on. But they do it anyway to be cool and "woke". I would rather they expended that energy on things they actually cared about and understood. Otherwise one is just wandering aimlessly through the world without a goal in sight.
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  1215. Excellent report. But why do people not understand how the markets and our economy is tied to all of this? The supply chain is currently a mess already, with empty shipping containers on one side of the world and full ones on the other and bc of what happened in China, they can't get back to where they need to be. If the markets continue to plummet, production slows down or stops as companies lay people off or just go out of business. People stop shopping, slowing down the basics of supply and demand, again leading to more job loss and companies closing their doors. People then have less money to spend and don't go out to eat, or even buy more than the bare minimum they need. Travel stops, and millions of jobs are affected. People don't understand that the government does not want to create panic yet as it will only accelerate the economic problem that could ground the country to a halt. It is not about rich or poor, Republican or Democrat--it is just common sense. If healthy people would wash their hands more, stop shaking hands, and for now, make smart decisions while they go about their daily lives until we do need to take more draconian measures, the few weeks that we are able to keep things running could save the country's economy billions of dollars. If the markets crash and the hospitals become more understaffed, or insurance companies go out of business, then what? There is not an endless, unlimited supply of money and resources to continue to make the world go round.... that is why it is the job of the President to try and slow down the panic and keep the markets and the economy on track!
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  1368. What makes Peter's videos interesting is that we are on the journey with him as he learns about and discovers a new culture. However, as he is new to all of it, he still has a lot to learn, and therefore, what the right questions to ask are. It was discussed in the comments, for example, on a previous video. The person being interviewed said something (twice) as a lead in for him to delve into it further, as she was signaling to a topic that many viewers would want to know more about (as we all mentioned in the comments). But until someone learns more about the community, they wouldn't necessarily pick up on that comment and investigate it further. Documentary filmmakers are generally showing viewers more about a topic so they feel, after they have watched it, that they have seen and experienced a new world as an insider would. There are a few on YT that you may find interesting, and when you read thru the comments and see the questions, you can see the difference between being introduced to a new culture as an outsider vs. learning about a culture from an insider who is asking the questions that an average viewer would not even think to ask. Here is an example...Malky makes music videos that say "for women, by women". Why do they say that? There is a concept in Judaism called Kol Isha, in which men cannot listen to women singing (it is considered too sensual). As with everything else, there are exceptions to the rule... if you are listening thru a microphone, if it isn't live, etc. But if one does not even know that the law exists, one would not know to delve into the topic. Orthodox Judaism is very complex... but it is interesting watching someone experience and appreciate it!
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  1533. @HeiBred I understand that you are seeing it all play out from afar, and in the media, but please don't believe everything you see and hear. The media is out of control and has been for the past 4 years. The reason that the news keeps playing impeachment stories is because they are concerned their ratings will plummet after January 20th when Trump is out. They know that Biden is boring, when they can even get him out of his basement to answer questions. He spoke last night and it was ridiculous. With an impeachment story, the cable news channels will be able to continue to cover Trump and keep their viewership. Even at the expense of keeping the country divided. And Trump closed the borders early. But if you recall, when he did, Biden called him names for doing it, Pelosi did as well, and then pulled that stunt in Chinatown in SF. Then shortly thereafter we had the situation where Fauci admitted to misleading the country regarding face masks. For some reason, of all the international news I watch daily for work, in various languages to understand how the world sees the US, the virus and how it is affecting different countries across the globe, Sky News Australia is always very pro-Trump and reports from a right-wing, Republican perspective. Why? I can never figure out why Australians in particular, have their own equivalent of FOX News. But, if you have been watching that, alongside other, more left leaning news channels, you have likely gotten a well rounded view of what is going on here. Nonetheless, the stories they all run are the few outlier examples that make for interesting news. You can assume the whole country is that way. Just as the few nutjobs who stormed the Capitol don't represent every republican in the US. Or the 74 million who voted for Trump. (Side note--I also really enjoy Australia's 60 minutes! Much better than ours!)
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  1534. @HeiBred I don't know if you are an American living overseas, or just a foreigner interested in American politics, but what happened with Dr. Fauci and the masks was covered by every single news channel. Not just right wing media. You can type it into YouTube or Google and watch the stories. I was only pointing it out because you were Monday morning quarterbacking by saying that Trump should have responded sooner. Those who recall what happened here in the US remember how it played out. However crazy and awful he has been on many occasions, it still does not mean that they way they responded to the virus in the beginning was necessarily wrong, or was the cause of more deaths. And again,, I don't know what perspective you are viewing this all from,, however to state that you don't care for the Republicans or the Democrats, and at the same time say that bc I am trying to show issues that have occurred on both sides of the aisle, making them equally to blame, yet stating that that must make me a Trump supporter/and or a Republican and therefore a bad person is a bit disingenuous. This country is made up of 70+ million people who voted for Trump, or just voted against Biden/Republican, as well as 70+ million who voted against Trump/for Biden or Democrat. Either way, Trump is out, Biden is President and the entire country must find a way to move forward. We have enough issues to work through right now. We don't need to focus on gratuitous comments from the peanut gallery. It isn't helpful.
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  1535. @HeiBred I unfortunately hate golf (I am terrible at it but my son was captain of the team in HS, lol!)... but I love riding, and used to work with horses when younger (running a hack stable in Upstate NY in the summers during college). I used to compete as a hobby when younger, at camp in Colorado--Rodeo (barrels, poles and flags)--very American! At the dude ranch where I ran the barn, all of our staff came from Camp America and CCUSA, so I had many Aussies and Kiwis come work as wranglers and they produced the best horseman (with the ability to easily switch over to western style). While that was before the internet, when people still felt very isolated coming from Australia, and would save up for their trip abroad when they would then spend 6 months traveling America before they would go back and settle down, there are still some similarities now. Especially during Covid. I have been waiting over a year for a few surgeries so I have not really left my house much this past year. I understand what you mean about trying to manage the pain and get some sleep. And I too have been watching a ton of YouTube, which started for work, and then became quite a nasty habit I think.... 🤔 but nonetheless, it doesn't matter where one comes from, everyone has bias. Unless it is about something that they didn't even know existed--like asking a rural farmer in a fly over state who started working on the family dairy farm right out of HS and has never been out of his town, what he thinks about Maori culture, or other aboriginals (the small a being intentional), such as Torres Straight Islanders and Aboriginals (big A) and the issues they face in Australian society... I am going to take a leap and guess that the farmer will give you a blank stare back. Honestly, so would my husband! Maybe he might break into a Haka, but it would still take him a few minutes to put it together. Other than those isolated incidents, it is impossible for people to escape forming a biased opinion one way or the other. It is human nature. And it starts with the way one first encountered the person or subject matter and how it was presented to them. I am personally a little sensitive to the way the media covers Jared and Ivanka for example, as I know one of them and share common friends with the other (and I don't typically even write this much about it in the comments section online). The coverage was ridiculous from the start. At this point, it is pure conjecture and people hear stories about them which may as well be fairy tales. Yet everyone feels that they know them, what they are thinking, what they say and do--it is absurd! Having heard that go on these past 4 years, knowing that the media is simply making news up, how can I now believe anything they say or write? Unless it is sourced properly and confirmed. So when you say that Trump is anti-science or science illiterate, or would not listen to his scientific advisors (I don't recall if you said would not or did not), think back on where and how you heard this. And of course you would have formed a bias upon hearing it. The person reporting it probably influenced that bias as well. And that is the problem right now in America. On both sides. And what makes it worse is when people are stuck at home watching the news and that is their only source of news and opinion. There is no more water cooler talk at the office where you can hear other opinions or stories of other people's experiences. Or me saying Trump is NOT an anti-semite, they have it all wrong. Jared's father may be the worst person and criminal to walk the earth, but his mother is lovely and his father-in-law is not an anti-semite. All we hear, we hear solely from the media and the extreme outlier stories they cover to make a point, and make news. It is very misleading and we all fall victim to it. It is a big problem!
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  1536.  @mikeherschhersch82  Yes, it truly is an oxymoron. And the wig culture, especially in Modern Orthodox circles, is definitely a mystery that no one would be able to give you a rational answer as to how it has become ok to wear such sexy locks (that are almost always nicer than the real thing). Certainly if you are going to spend $3-$5K on a wig, you want it to look as good as possible. And tzniut, while there are of course, rules, is still largely a concept. Shoes for example. One would not normally think if shoes as "too sexy", however I have friends who won't wear certain shoes because they are not tznius (maybe their husband has a foot fetish?) Other, more strict sects, have their own standards as to what a wig should look like, or whether one should wear a hat as well. But if you look back over the decades, the style of hat has not changed (still 1960's), the haircut is out of style and the wig itself is of a lesser quality (and less expensive), so all of those things together make all the women look the same--dowdy, not fashionable and not attractive. But they wear it with pride because it also signals to "I am more religious than you" (another neighboring sect in Brooklyn for example), which is very common. Everyone is always trying to outdo the person next door in the "who is the most religious" contest. In some Chabad circles, it is who has the hippest, best quality, best looking wig. Whereas in Satmar, they have a different look and a different standard. It is confusing and complicated. And has changed a lot over the years.
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