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This is so sad. For my entire life, I had that same "tummy bulge" and always wanted to get rid of it (and no, I have never had a transplant of any kind to blame). It took years for me to realize that I simply had an extremely tiny waist, so by definition, it seemed that my tummy was bulging. 30 years and 5 pregnancies later, I tell my 3 girls, whenever they go on about their body or their weight--You will always wish every single day, that you and the body you had last year, last month or even last week. So don't worry about yesterday and cherish and enjoy what you have today because you look great and things only get worse with age, so don't sweat it! (I am brutally honest with my kids). I definitely wish I had the body I had when I was 20 and stressing about it. And while it is practically physically impossible to get back, I CAN help my kids appreciate what they have and not let them waste energy on something unattainable. Such as a tummy that protudes slightly from a Scarlett O'Hara sized waist that people envy on a daily basis. Focus on what God gave you and highlight your good features. And remember that self confidence is the best feature of all!
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You didn't fall out--you took a break! It happens to the best of us! And as you know, once a Jew, always a Jew! You can come back anytime, and however you want to. Everyone picks and chooses, as you know. You don't have to become carbon copies of your parents, but now that you have seen that the grass is not necessarily greener out there, which may make you appreciate the world you grew up in, or atleast the way you were raised, you may decide that as an adult, you can carve out your own space for yourself in the Orthodox world. Be it Modern Orthodox, Chabad, Satmar, whatever! And once you have kids, as they start to grow up, you really begin to understand and appreciate the value of a religious home and what it gives you and your relationships and as a family. It is ok to come back and take a look around with a new perspective. You're never going to be a tourist--and you are always welcome back home! Wherever you find your new home to be! Hatzlacha!!
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@PeterSantenello You mean the intimacy in the dark tip? BTW, Also, FYI--There are Lubovitchers in SF!! I can hook you up with them as we are close friends for over 20 years. Even though we are Modern Orthodox, we were there bc of grad school and became close with the Chabad Rabbis in SF (in the Richmond. Although we "shul shopped" first, Rabbi Zarchi and Rabbi Langer became close friends during our first years. And thru that experience, the Zarchis (gesher Lubovitchers), and the Langers (ba'alei tschuva Orthodox Jews--yet neither knew anything about Modern Orthodox Jews until they met us). So we all learned thru the experience! And it was great fun and we are still friends! As they are in your back yard and you didn't even realize it, it would be interesting to do a piece on Chasidim outside of NYC (Which is a whole other world)!! The Rebbe sent "shluchim" all over the world starting the the 50's and 60's, to spread the word to other Jews--"where there is a Jew! We will build a Chabad House!" And now, every international traveler can find food, a shul, lodgings, and a shabbat experience! Be it in Bangkok (Rabbi Kantor), Italy (many lovely Rabbeim who offer many services), HK (HUGE community in Hong Kong!! I know many ppl ho grew up there). And my family were the ones who called Chabad right after they moved to Hawaii in the 60's and said--"There is no Judaism here! We need to build a community!" And our uncle brought Chabad to Hawaii. Now, thru the kids, every Island has a Chabad! And Hawaii is easy to visit! Feel free to answer me and I will send you my info if you would like to know more or understand how it works (from an Orthodox outsiderookibg into the. Hassidic community). It is a very different perspective. I loved you series on Hasidim, but Modern Orthodoxy offers you a whole different POV. Even the Chabad Rabbeim in SF have now learned a different point of view. Through us. And I am happy to share with you!
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@knowbuddy0 Sadly, they are designed to address any naysayers and their objections. Every salesperson is trained to do so, of course, that is how their scripts are written (yes, by psychiatrists who specialize in that--which is the same process that happens when writing infomercials). And while if you get in very early and are at the top tier of their pyramid, you will likely make a lot of money. That is an if, but a necessary one--and almost impossible to acheive. The real problem is, if your friends and relatives have already been approached about the "product", there are only so many times one will say yes, fail, and then agree to try it again. And if all of her friends and relatives won't sign up, then who is left? I know ppl who have lost friendships over MLM schemes...I am sure the person selling meant well, but you know what people say about doing something stupid more than once...
And nowadays, with the internet at our fingertips, there is no excuse for people to go in blind. An easy search on the product should bring up all of this negative info and bad press. No one has to live in the dark anymore
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NO ONE was "entitled" to anything. It was HIS money to do with what he wanted to. Without knowing anything about their interpersonal relationships, no one has a right to claim, or even speculate, who is more deserving or who should get what from the estate. Not to mention that the estate still has to be assessed. And not just the house, but, as they mentioned, all of its contents. Apart from a divorce proceeding that was going on (who is going to pay those attorneys??), and however contentious that was, there had to be someone who had beef with the will situation as a phone call to Inside Edition, that then shows a clip, which happens to show off the expensive items and memorabilia that is already worth more than $2Mil, is not only opening Pandora's Box, it tips the hand of whomever made the call and started this mess to begin with! 🤔
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I drove my kids to picture day the other day (bc of Covid we had to go in). As we drove out the other line of cars was picking up their lunches, packed for the week. My girls asked what it was and I explained the SNAP program. They were shocked, amazed, interested and happy at the same time. So confused as it was Beverly Hills. Yes, even in BH, people are on snap. Lunch is otherwise not free, unless you qualify. They happily took their lunch last year. And were glad that during Covid, people were still getting a loaf of whole grain, milk, cheese, eggs (and other things we could not see). They asked to volunteer but I said they couldn't bc we need to keep things like that private. But I was glad they atleast asked. Again, even in BH people are in need right now, which I was also glad they saw. Sometimes there is something as a free lunch and I am glad my taxes go towards that!
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@RicoWings while probably the most racist thing I have heard all day (and what a day it has been!), I hear you. I probably would put it differently, as likely, so would you, if it were not online and anonymous. And there are about a 100 different ways, at least, that that issue should be tackled. Nonetheless, I think those numbers at a school in BH are likely pretty low. I was surprised that the line was as big as it was! And knowing the community, I will go out on a limb and say that they are actually producing more than you would think around here. They are, sadly, just scamming the system! (Picking up snap in a Range Rover, Mercedes-Benz, or the like, is pretty ridiculous!).
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@Canuckmom128 I don't know if you grew up FFB, or were a BT, and then fell off the derech, or have absolutely no idea what I am asking you. However what you are stating is extremely rare in the Orthodox Jewish community. In which there are HUGE differences depending on the community. This is a documentary about dating in Israel. And as you can see, even in this poorly done documentary (the translation is also terrible) there is a system in place, and it has a good track record. The things that you are pointing out, as well as the sensationalized YT video you suggest, represent a very, very small, fringe group that most do not want to even be associated with.
Also, if someone wants to marry "a boy who learns" or prefers a "learner-earner", that is their business--and not ours--to judge. Oprah actually did an interesting series on the topic of the Orthodox Jewish home that I would recommend (it's on YT). Although it represents but only one segment of the many different types of Orthodox Judaism (Chabad Lubovitch--like "the Chabadnik" the mom mentions here, as opposed to an Ultra-Orthodox boy), it is done well--Oprah style, of course. You would learn more there. If interested. And if not, please don't judge and miseducate based on a few YT videos.. The world today aside, we are certainly used to antisemitism... but comments like yours are literally the definition of spreading hate, lies and bigotry. Not to mention that some could say it is "fake news" (tho I am sure you are not using something called the Secret Lives of Chassidim as your only source of information). Unless of course, that was your point all along. Tho I can't imagine why you would be watching these shows (it is frightening actually).
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@hugheaston7598 I absolutely think they should restrict travel! They should have done that over a week ago. At least non-essential travel. That is literally the only way to even try to get a handle on this. And the morons who don't want to miss out on their non-refundable cruise should just stay home, and eat the couple 1,000 dollars. It is just not worth it. Nonetheless the flip side is what it will do to the global economy. We already have China way behind as they were not allowed to go to work and produce things people count on daily (whether they really need them or not). And that is just the manufacturing side. And for those who don't actually have to make sure the teleconferencing happens, and think that everyone can just meet from their homes with video conferencing and have the same work product outcome doesn't know what actually goes on behind the scenes. The MWC canceled and a multi billion dollar house of cards fell. From Ericsson and Nokia pulling out, which affected not only their marketing efforts and what that does to the global world markets down to the cleaning staff from within the company, to the entire hospitality industry that counts on them each year, but most importantly, down to the restaurant owners and even coffee stands that support the event and make almost half of their annual income from the one week. And, while none of us have a crystal ball, there are still plenty of us who have to plan--and guess--on how this will play out. And for many, simply saying "just shut it all down" doesn't work, due to the ripple effect it has on everyone involved. But when they do shut it down, we need a plan B to keep the globe turning. Not an easy thing to come up with when we have never been in this situation before. And most people are just sitting and waiting and hoping for the best... not a great plan.
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As Olivia explains, culturally "they were raised to keep their head down and not make waves". The point of Olivia speaking out on CNN and other networks, she is thanking everyone on SM, and the NYPD, for standing up for them and helping them to find the culprit--which they did. I think the reporter was surprised that she didn't want to see the power of the internet and the fact that Sam's mom, and the Asian community in general, does not have to just take it on the chin. After all these years, she will hopefully see all these stories after the fact, and find new hope in humanity. We all need to start viewing things from a positive perspective rather than a negative one (as our parents and grandparents did), in order to move forward, collectively, and spread the word of hope for tomorrow.
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@jakobwashington5878 What does what have to do with anything? Amy was asked if she saw the Floyd video and what impact it had on her. She said she had seen it and then explained how it impacted her family. How many times have we heard, especially lately, about Black (and Latino) parents needing to educate their children about how to conduct themselves should they get pulled over, or come into contact with a police officer, in order to stay safe, and why. Amy will need to have that conversation with her children. Kamala Harris will not, as her stepchildren are not black. If you missed the irony in that, then all I can say is that we clearly have different definitions of the word irony! But to your specific points, based on your view, you are correct--it was the question that was inappropriate in this instance as how the video affected her personally is irrelevant to the job and what it entails. It, in fact, as she states, goes completely against what her role in the job would be as her personal feelings or empathy towards this and any situation should never come into play once she puts that robe on. But again, she answered, as answered politely, intelligently and succinctly. But, just as her kids are not all white, Kamala's kids are not black (stepkids if you want me to be specific, but she still plays a nurturing role sharing in the upbringing of their lives, so I chose to focus on the "kid" part and omit the "step" part of the word). And because they are not black, she would have a different conversation about interacting with police officers than Amy would with her children. Just as Amy would have to have 2 different and separate conversations with her children as some are black and some are white. Amy's kids can't hide the color of their skin when they feel like it. And we don't get to speak for Kamala's children and say "Because Kamala is black, her kids are black". Her children are the only ones who can say who and what they identify with.
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@ArronP Also, Kobe was a stickler for being on time (yes, I know first hand). With so many commitments, plus a family, it was a smart decision to purchase his own private helicopter. LA traffic doesn't care who you are or how important you are--sometimes it just makes you late. Something Kobe could not abide. He took all his commitments seriously. And I doubt we will ever know, but he could have said he didn't want to be late, and if there was even a chance of getting there safely, perhaps the pilot felt pressure to agree to take off. I certainly hope that was not the case, for many reasons. And while it never makes sense, I agree that when it is your time to go, it's your time. It is not us to question why...
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@bluej6127 Or your interpretation is possibly incorrect. We do not work (ie., cook, etc., on the sabbath), so we prepare all of our food before the sabbath starts and the keep it hot or reheat it on Saturday for lunch (and use something called a blech--an electric hot plate specifically made for shabbat). However as we are to "honor the sabbath", we prepare a festive meat meal for Friday night and Saturday lunch, usually with atleast 3 courses, including one with meat, that we sit down to as a family and enjoy after prayers. With a linen tablecloth, our nice dishes and silverware, flowers on the table, etc.. Friday night it is typically the men and boys who go to synagogue and on Saturday morning, the whole family goes. The men show up on time at 9am, and the women come a little later. Services end at noon and then the whole community gathers in a room to have a snack and chat, and then you go home with your guests. Either if you have been invited out or you are having guests. Years ago, when people live out by their farms, they would prepare a cholent (a meat stew we make now in a crack pot and let it cook for 15-20 hours), and then bring it to town and put it in the bakers oven, and let it cook overnight as the embers in the oven were dying out. Then the family would pick it up after shul was over and bring it home for Shabbat lunch so they had a hot meat meal. After lunch, families either take a walk and visit with friends. Or stay home and read or nap. Or play a board game together. Shabbat is about family time and rest. We honor the sabbath and honor g-d by observing his commandments and resting. Restraining from work, and spending time with family. Even sexual intercourse is considered a mitzvah on Friday night! We spend a lot of time in synagogue, praying to G-d, and discussing the Torah portion of the week. So G-d is definitely a part of the sabbath, however there are many ways that we can honor Hashem, while enjoying eachother and the sabbath at the same time. Hope it helped!
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@barryfriedman3223 Great question! VERY complicated answer!... first, there are the basics of reform, conservative and Orthodox. And then divisions within. So Orthodox used to be just Modern Orthodox and Ultra Orthodox. Then, it grew from there (from the 1950's/60's when people came over after the war and DP camps and either assimilated, became traditional, or kept their faith and stayed Orthodox) and it still keeps growing. From Conservadox, crossing that line between Conservative to Orthodox, all the way to divisions under the label of Chasidim (like the show "Shtisl"), largely because of Chabad. They are the most outgoing and open of the Chasidim-they are the ones you see in the NYC Subway asking if you're Jewish and would like to put on tefillin or light shabbat candles when you get home, or who you call when travelingto Bangkok or Shanghai for business--there is always a Chabad house ready and willing to help any Jew- they have grown tremendously over the years and do a lot of good all over the world (they are the ones being interviewed in the videos). Their neighbors in Brooklyn, like Satmar ("Unorthodox") are very different and not as open and friendly (I am being very kind here....). There are a lot of different sects within Ultra-Orthodox, all stemming from 18th century Poland. And they are not so familiar with the differences within Modern Orthodox. Although the newer generation is more open, especially those living outside of NYC and the tri-state area. Then within Modern Orthodoxy we have a range. Jared Kushner is Modern Orthodox and Ivanka Trump converted--not the highlight of our religion but I assume you know them... or, a better one, Sacha Baron Cohen was raised Orthodox and his family in London still is kosher and sabbath observant and always was. His wife, Isla Fisher, converted. The kids take bar mitzvah lessons and Judaism is very important to them, but they do not practice daily anymore. (Whereas Jared and Ivanka, in the house, keep shabbat and kosher.) Men wear yarmulkes to work and some men don't. Women who won't wear pants and only cover their hair, and those who don't. BUT any of those within the category of Orthodox will go to a synagogue on shabbat and fit right in with another member within Orthodoxy, wherever they fall within the spectrum. But that person would be totally lost in a reform synagogue (and likely would not even enter bc they are not observant of the Torah within Reformed Judaism). I could keep going, but hopefully that is a good overview. There are plenty of (other) well known Orthodox Jews you would recognize who are Modern Orthodox, but as they believe in Torah U'Maddah (Torah and Secular Studies) and live their life according to those beliefs, you would not necessarily know. Men who don't wear a yarmulke to work don't want to be judged as a Jew first, but as a doctor, lawyer, etc. first. My husband wants to be seen as a dr. first when someone enters the room, but as soon as he jumps in the car to drive home, it goes right back on his head. Was that helpful? Any questions? Senator Joe Lieberman is Orthodox. He walked to the Hill when he needed to cast an important vote on a Saturday (we don't drive on Saturdays). There are more of us than you would think...!😉
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@barryfriedman3223 sorry, I'm back, lol. Rereading your question--the different level of interpretations are what led to the Reform and Conservative Movements (a much deeper reason and explanation can be found online. Has to do with post WW2 Jews in America. Or more recently, letting women become Rabbis, etc). Orthodox Jews follow the Torah. To the letter. But...EVERYONE (and that means everyone!) picks and chooses. But there are basics. I have friends who don't cover their hair, but they keep shabbos and kosher so I will eat in their house. A famous Chabad Rabbi in a city in America eats in my house but won't eat in anyone else's house in the city where he is the Chabad Rabbi. And he is respectful in that he won't go to someone's home if invited and not eat, but he won't eat anything cooked and be respectful about it. Everyone does their own thing and let's others do their as long as it doesn't impinge on you. Does that make sense? We are told that if someone says they are sabbath observant and kosher, who are we not to believe them (it gets a little harder when you see them buying non kosher meat in a supermarket!). And then there are those who "eat out". Some eat cold only. Some won't eat dairy (VERY few eat meat out), some ask for it to be wrapped in foil... it can be hard with work lunches. I luckily live in a city where a well known Vegan restaurant happens to be kosher. There is ALWAYS a famous person there, so when I have (had) my business meetings there, it seems normal and I don't have to explain. All that said, a Satmar Hasid (or Ger, or Skver, Boomer, etc Hasid) would likely NOT eat in my house (until my Rabbi told them who I was). And by then, I wouldn't want them, lol...JUST KIDDING!! (But I doubt they would eat hot in my house!)
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@vivsreds1006 Sure! It is super complicated (even to Orthodox Jews) but I will try. It has to do with Kashrut (kosher). We separate meat and dairy (and then there is pareve, which is neutral, like fish, eggs, fruits, vegetables--they go with both meat or dairy). Orthodox Jews often have 2 sinks, 2 ovens, 2 dishwashers and always a separate set of dishes and cutlery for each. Everyone tries to be as strict as they feel they should be within one's home (and everyone's highest level is different). One wants to feel that anyone would feel comfortable eating in their home, so we are extra careful. The sign you see on a lot of products--the circle with a U or K in it--are under a kosher supervision agency. There are hundreds around the world, some more reliable than others. We don't bring the triangle with a K inside into our home, for example. Many don't "hold by it" so I don't let it into my kitchen. But again, as many of us work in the regular secular world, you may have to go to a business lunch, for example. Unless it is a kosher restaurant, we don't eat there (we don't "eat out"). But everyone pick and chooses what rules to break or bend. The most basic, easiest thing (beyond just a cup of black coffee) would be a plain salad. But even there you run into issues with kashrut. The dressing might have a splash of red wine or balsamic vinegar, which is made with wine. We do not drink non-kosher wine, so the dressing is out. Salt, pepper and a squeeze of lemon would be ok, (but it may have onions in it. They are considered "sharp" so the knife that cut them is a problem if used also for something meat, which was not kosher). By only eating cold, as heat transfers the non-kosher "flavor" from vessel to food and vice versa, it is safer. Some eat hot out, but only fish (with scales and fins only as then the fish is a kosher fish). Eating dairy out (pizza), is a problem because of the rennet (a meat product) used in cheeses....and while everyone does their own thing, if one is not so careful, then it begs the question, how careful are they in there home? Most Rabbis don't eat in their congregants homes as while they could eat in one, maybe they can't in another and they want to be respectful and fair to all. Again, it is complicated but Chabad and Aish are good sources for info. If you have more questions, just let me know--hope it helps! Stay healthy!
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@benjaminr6153 That is not an accurate explanation. We use Hashem (yes, literally translated as "the name"), all the time. We refer to G-d, Hashem, all the time in everyday conversation. Regardless if we are using the expression "Baruch Hashem"=Thank g-d (we do not write out the word), or saying "whatever happens, it is up to Hashem..." (just one example), as we do not use the same word for g-d that we would use while praying (since we don't take his name in vain), we still recognize his presence in everything all day long. Another commonly used expression is g-d willing (IY"H is the shortened version of Im Yirtzeh Hashem). Also, for example, if one of my small children were making a blessing on apple juice before they took a sip, and they got the blessing wrong, when I correct them, I would substitute the Hebrew word for g-d in the blessing with the word Hashem, and she would understand what the substitution meant (that I was not taking his name in vain) and when she said the blessing again (hopefully correctly), she would use the correct word for g-d used in prayer. I was merely substituting it with Hashem while correcting her. Also, the letter "shin" is a Hebrew letter that has a dot or dots added to the consonant. The dots indicate the vowel sound that should be used (similar to Arabic) and tell you how to pronounce the letter or word. In this case the dots tell you to make the shhh sound... the dots placed elsewhere on the Shin make it become the SIN sound. While Hebrew is a different alphabet, it is fairly easy to learn. But things like newspapers or subtitles do not have the dots, or vowels, so one must know what sound to make, which can be difficult until you are fluent. And actually Halleluja, in Hebrew, is still Halleluja in English. It doesn't mean g-d. It means the same as it does in English. It is often the last word of a prayer.
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@nickinurse6433 You do realize that you are talking about half of the country, right? Are you teaching your children to think that way as well? I am just curious. Even if you don't have kids yet--let's pretend you do... I assume that you are teaching them to be good, upstanding citizens--don't discriminate against others, treat everyone as you want to be treated, be kind, etc. (the basics)... right? And again, I am just curious, but where do you draw the line? Is it ok to be honest about how you feel and tell your kids, "No, you can't go play at Tommy's house, because his parents are Republicans and voted for Trump. They watch Fox, so you can't have a play date at their house." Or do you just say no and make up a story as to why he can't go to Tommy's house? Or do you say "Hey, why doesn't Tommy come here? And then you play CNN in the house and over snacks,, tell him all about climate change?" Honest question!
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@bradleysmith681 No, Gavin has been a successful business owner for years. He owns and ran (past tense, before he was an elected official) many well known, popular wineries, bars and restaurants. He employed hundreds of Californians--and still does as those places have not gone out of business and are still operating, even tho everything went into a blind trust years ago so he could work for the State. He clearly did not think he was doing something as stupid as it was, until it was splashed across the front page of almost every paper in the country, but he quickly apologized and made no excuses for his behavior. Yes, he is human just like everyone else, and he made a mistake. It was not planned as a media moment and was not meant to be viewed by the world, whereas Pelosi and her ice cream moment will go down as one of the most tone deaf displays of poor judgment in history, so people should stop comparing the two.
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The part when he interjects needs some clarification... there are some Orthodox women who choose NOT to cover their hair at all, and only cover it in synagogue or other religious service (weddings, funerals). Halachically (by Jewish law), one may allow a "tefach" of their hair exposed. So there are many Orthodox Jews who wear just a fall instead of a full wig and they pull out some hair by the hairline and blend it in, so it looks incredibly natural. Within the Ultra-Orthodox community, each group is different and it is based on their culture within their culture (and yes, likely goes back to how the head Rabbi of that group has "poskined" (when a Rabbi gives an opinion know an issue that one has a question about. Chabad Lubovitch--the group he is interviewing--who are the most open and friendly, all wear very expensive, long (dare I say, sexy) wigs. They cost anywhere from $2,500 to $5,000 each and women will usually have at least an everyday wig and another one for shabbat and special occasions. We never change style or color from one day to the next. If you want to change your shade, then you would change all your wigs (and they don't grow back, so you better be sure....). Other groups wear a hat over a wig, just to be sure anyone who may think you are not covering your hair, sees you covering your hair. And they still wear pillbox hats (a hold over from the 60's). Whether you are in the community in Brooklyn or in Israel, they all have the same "look" again, there are many, many groups within Orthodoxy and within Ultra-Orthodoxy. Chabad is a great way to learn about Judaism, but when they bring you in, it is usually the Chabad way or the highway. Whereas another modern-Orthodox group, Aish HaTorah, also does outreach to Jews to bring them back to Orthodoxy. But once one is ready, they don't necessarily keep you within the fold (of Aish), but send you out to explore other Modern Orthodox communities.
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@JENDALL714 Unfortunately there are thousands of kids in cities all over the country who count on that lunch just as much as it is counted in the state aid that they get. They are even now getting lunch, picked up weekly due to Covid, as it is am important part of their daily nutrition, which is overseen by a tax funded committee and part of board of education. Yes they go to school for education, however they do also go to school and, if eligible, receive free lunch. Free to them, not free to the taxpayers, so it is also the school's job to feed kids. Which is why so much is spent on lunch and it's administration. I don't know how many kids you have or how much time or money you spend on their lunches--or their ages and whether or not they eat it all daily, trade it, or throw it in the bin--but for many parents, and many children, the economic and social aspects of "hot lunch" has a much bigger impact than most realize.
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@_BiscuitNinja_ EVERYONE loves pizza day!!! That will never change! And since you are 11 (does your Mom know you are here???), when you get to middle school or HS, if there is a problem with lunch and you and your friends are not eating it (whether or not your parents have to pay for it), speak with your Principal and the head of PTA, and ask to sit on the student body. Then you can be the liaison between the students and the school to reform your lunch program! You will help your friends, your school, and yourself, as it will look great on your college application that you got involved! That is how being an advocate, an organizer, and a leader starts! Many a student body presidential election has been won based on running on a platform that includes lunch reform! And Pizza Day!! That is how you can start to change the world--it starts with pizza day! Remember that! (I am not joking either!). Good luck!! (And again, does your mom know you are here??? 😉)
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So...(CAUTION, MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS). My third comment on the film and the controversy surrounding it--it has absolutely NOTHING TO DO WITH THE WAY THE KIDS ARE DANCING--it is about the WHY they are dancing this way. It is a French film, which I did not know until I hit play. I watched it in French bc I hate poor translations and prefer, when possible, to watch the original version (and likely more importantly, bc I speak French, lol!). It takes place in the suburbs of Paris. The burbs of Paris are the absolute antithesis of what the word conjures up to Americans. Les Banlieues are more akin to the projects in any big city in the US. Low-income housing mainly for foreigners (and the French version of white trash). Lots of drugs being sold, bought and consumed. Prostitution, guns, sex trafficking... you get the picture. Contrast that with the other inhabitants--A TON of native French speaking, religious Arabs and Africans who migrated from former French colonies turned indépendant countries such as Algeria, Mali, Tunisia, etc. to France--and they all need to co-exist together. It doesn't always go so well but there are many other (great) movies on that. Les Mignonnes is a coming of age film that is commenting on one Senegalese's girl, and her desperate desire to become one of the "cool kids". She accomplishes that through dance. BUT bc she is only 11, she does something stupid in the heat of a moment and hits send....never a good idea, but, much like in the film, everyone knows that even though one always tries to teach their kids how to grow up to become a responsible, respectable member of society, they rarely listen and have to often make their own mistakes in order to learn that actions have consequences. I won't go into the subtle subplots of the movie, but the last scene shows us that being one of the cool kids is not always the road to happiness. Family is important, respecting your parents is important. And moreover, they are the ones who will love you unconditionally and forever. CUTIES is not remotely about beauty pageants (of any age), sex, or anything else I was led to believe it was about. It was just a poorly done segment by Krystal. Hey, we all have bad days, right?
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@K71421 Absolutely! At this point, I think we can all agree, it goes without saying (except for almost every Democrat in the Nation) that Joe Biden has dementia, to some degree. He is completely unfit to be President. At this point, that is more frightening than the Coronavirus! I still don't understand how every reporter--people like Anderson Cooper, Rachel Maddow and even George Stephanopoulos, who consider themselves tough, investigate journalists--can still give him a free pass each interview and continue to let him ramble on, confused, using these delays as a tool to help him get through the interview. It seems Biden's team have finally gotten him to understand the delay so he doesn't keep talking when he is done with his sound byte, which was getting him into trouble before. But any seasoned politician knows from countless interviews, there is always a 10 second delay (at a minimum). The fact that he is just getting that now is, in itself, embarrassing. Go back and watch some of the older interviews from his basement. Or the first town hall, that was an epic disaster. There is something wrong with all of this.... I suppose we will see what the Dems are playing at soon enough.
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@beautiful7610 Every sect is indeed different! And while Satmar is very different than Chabad, and I don't know what Satmar necessarily keeps in their closets, I can certainly tell you what plenty of Lubovitchers have in their closets! While those on schluchos may be a little more lax, and with cell phones the need for an actual TV has lessened,, I still have plenty of Lubovitch friends--"hot Chanis" as my girls (who are in Sem in Yerushalayim) call them--who watch TV. Doesn't matter if they are FFB, BT's or even gehze, they still watch. I understand why they do it in secret, as it is hard for outsiders to understand, but I still get a good laugh out of it. And they don't mind when I tease them. Hopefully you'll understand that it is all in good humor. Not out of ignorance and certainly not out of hate! I may as misnogdish as they come, but I still get it. And have Chabad friends from NY to CA to Hawaii to Bangkok. There may be subtle differences in how they do things, but their mission is all still the same. And no one does Kiruv like Chabad--They do the Rebbe proud and always get a big Yasher Koach from me!
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@oscaralvarado2899 No, there are plenty of Doctors who are not Physicians (which what I think you mean when you say Medical Doctor). Dentists, Veterinarians, even podiatrists. A lawyer, who doesn't have a designation in front of his name, but rather, uses Esq. (For esquire) after his name, is still considered a J.D., or Juris Doctor (Doctor of Jurisprudence). The background of the words are rooted in Latin and they still differ from country to country in there present usage and meaning. Even in the US, for a Veterinarian, the general standard degree one earns after 4 years of postgraduate school is a DVM. However U of Penn (one of the top Vet Schools in the world), still confers their graduates with a VMD, as they continue to use the traditional Latin with their graduates. Nonetheless, it still indicates that one is a Teacher (translating from the Latin) of the subject who has earned the highest level of studies within their field.
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It doesn't occur to Çenk that they may want to find out all if the details, such as what happened before and after (and during, more clearly than what we can see)? I feel like there is so much more to this story that will come out. And I think the father could have embarrassed her just as easily if he proved it was his kids phone right then and there, on video. Was it due to his privilege that he just said no and walked off (in front of his son)? Yes, black people can also show privilege and bias. The video of him and his son afterwards and what his son said during the interview bothered me. I felt like the father, who was justifiably outraged, was explaining why the situation was wrong and the history behind it, in a moment of outrage and from a place of anger. I have been in similar situations and I have found that trying to explain prejudice to my kids when I am angry about something that just happened, always comes out all wrong. You can't explain centuries of prejudice while in a moment of crisis (for lack of a better term). It is a much bigger conversation and while the son seemed to have been sheltered from all of it, this may have not been the right time to sit him down and have the talk. But he needed to know the dog whistles for the media and bc Crump wanted him to vocalize them, which is very gratuitous, imho. The way this poor kid will end up internalizing everything will just make him confused and angry (likely at his parents for not preparing hin sooner). The way the Central Park Cooper situation played out,, and the compassion he showed afterwards,, even tho he didn't need to, was a much better example of the way to handle a situation like this. Rather than from a punitive state of retaliation (as everyone calls for her and the managers lives to be ruined. Along with the charges they demand be brought against them. All without people knowing the details. So far). Atleast from what I have seen so far. I am sure we will learn a lot more in the coming days...
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@therealdefund9763 Just so you are aware, many Orthodox communities, all over the world and outside of Israel, give their children modern Hebrew names. It is more common than not. Hasidic custom is to name after the dead, and most of their families came from. Shtetls in Poland or Russia where they spoke Yiddish, so they give their kids Yiddish names. Sephardic Jews name after the living so the kids born now are generally named after a living grandparent. And then they are both cyclical. They are different minhagim (customs), but they are customs we hold very dear. Once you start making up mew rules, you lose your culture. As far as Aleinu, there is a reason that we only go down to the floor on Yom Kippur. That is also meaningful. If you change that just cause, you are changing the religion, traditions and the culture. That is not the point of Orthodox Judaism. Everything we do, we do for a reason. If you are an observant Jew and don't know why something is done a certain way, look it up. Don't just decide you like something better and randomly follow it blindly. Judaism is all about asking questions and learning through study. For example, if you look up the Book of Daniel, it is not just something studied by Muslims. And it is directly related to how Jews pray, and when they are told to sit, stand, bow, etc. Just as the custom of NOT prostrating ourselves is over 1,000 years old, and there are many things that have been written about it by poseks from the 11th century who studied tehillim and other texts that influenced what we still do today. My point is--it is not like no one thought about it before... study some of the texts and opinions of the past couple thousand years, and you may feel differently about the topic!
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EXCELLENT VIDEO!! May I point out another fact that many do not know, or just ignore, is the Balfour Declaration and the roles Britain played in the Jews and the land of Israel (you would explain it better than the small space I have here)! And regarding the Media--during the second Intifada, CNN kept showing a scene of the "Jews attacking the Palestinians on Temple Mount". In the clip, there is a struggle, with a gas station in the background. Does anyone ever recall there being a gas station on Temple Mount??? Nonetheless the world went crazy. That was almost 20 years ago and it has only gotten worse since. But until I can go for pizza or a coffee without security (real security, not American security) checking my bags and person, or know that my 2 oldest who are there this year learning, can go out without a thought for safety, and know that the Palestinians love their children more than they hate us, I know there won't be peace. As it is, knowing ppl who have gone for coffee and ended up in the hospital, or unfortunately, did not survive, I must put it put of my mind while my kids are there or I won't sleep at night (bc they are young and new living there--otherwise I generally feel safe when there). And lastly, UNWRA is the WORST anti-semitic organization in the world! Using the most biased, lying media--they should be ashamed. And defunded!
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@brucecampbell6578 LOL, I appreciated the honesty of "I picked on you because...". I get picked on a lot on YT (and trolled, answered by bots, lunatics, morons, etc.) I also appreciate that you replied without using any profanity. I hear what you are saying, but I don't (for many reasons) like to go down the rabbit hole of conspiracy theories. I honestly don't think that everything is as dark and convoluted as people make it out to be. Take the Operation Warp Speed and the vaccine for example, I do truly believe that it wasn't as nefarious of a plan that people (and the media) would like us to think it is. And it wasn't that shortcuts were taken, just that the approval process was jumped to the front of the line. They want people to take it, or they won't be able to claim success. Pretty straightforward. But we are all so used to finding someone to blame, skeptism has taken over rational thought. It is to the detriment of all of us, but no one wants to see that. We are all to used to assuming it is a set up and we all like to hear ourselves talk (complain) too much. It will literally be the death of a lot of people until they can get over themselves!
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@brucecampbell6578 Dude...I think you may need to lay off the recreationals a little...lol. Although I agree there isn't much else to do these days. But aside from not exactly following you, I will say that regardless whether or not Reagan actually said that and even believed it, that was then and this is now. We live in an entirely different world now. We can't even trust "the news" anymore. In fact (you will likely appreciate this), I am all in a bother today bc a friend who is an ER doctor sent me a dm to back up a point be had been arguing with me. It showed the record--yes, ok, against the rules....but he didn't show me the name--of a 94 year old man in total organ failure who was dying. He didn't test positive for Covid, yet when he died a few hours after coming into the ER, the code they put on the paperwork was "died from Covid." At first I didn't think much about it, but as he pointed out--that man was part if the "daily count" of deaths in our city, county, and state! THAT IS NOT COOL! I get that the hospital, city, county, and state all get more funding, and there are plenty of people who are being written off as a victim of Covid, even though that may have just sped up their demise. But if the person doesn't even test positive??? Not cool...!
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Karen O If I were being paid to make his case to you, then I certainly think that it was money wasted, as there is no way that I could change your distorted view and borderline paranoid mind of the past 10 years and what you expect from the next 10. Apart from not knowing your circumstances, yet alone what you believe, all I can hope is that you are as fervent as you are about seeking out the truth of those things that you are so passionate about (matters of policy that hopefully cover issues both domestic AND international), as you are about making disparaging and insulting comments to strangers online. Again, if part of being a Democrat means that one is not prepared to work alongside Republicans, or simply people who disagree with you, in order to bring the country together, then there is no hope for the future. I may have raised 4 Republicans, but I raised 4 smart, independant, RESPECTFUL Republicans, who are not afraid to debate nor discuss nor disagree with their fellow man. As well as knowing when to listen to all opinions. Whatever side of the aisle that man may stand on.
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Karen O I would not have bothered, however in the hopes that you may be young and open-minded, I would just reiterate that you have not at all stated what you feel (apart from calling me a troll and a cult member), and neither have I. So, to tell me that "you feel the same way about me, have a nice day" after a brief encounter with a stranger on YT, whom you reached out to (and fairly aggressively at that), only shows that you are not listening. Even people who don't agree with you may bring something worthy of consideration to the discussion. Unless we are in Guyana and it is 1978, I assume that you have access to information and that you use it. Go to the source and then use your own mind to find what is the truth and what you think. And only after that, after you have been well-informed, then vote your conscience! Otherwise you are correct, you would be no better than a cult member--though we cannot blame the godless members of the club, if they have been brainwashed and taught what to believe!
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@T.J. One thing I would point out is that while your kids may have been doing well this past year as they work from home under your tutelage, do bear in mind that zoom learning was not designed to be the same as homeschooling. Depending on the ages and grades, while your kids (and your friends kids) may be at the top of their class, if you have "taken the reigns", then it is to be expected that they are getting straight A's. I would be surprised (and concerned) if they weren't. Zoom/pandemic at home learning was not designed for parents to "take the reigns" in order for a child to learn, or thrive, in the class. Not every parent can do so, which means that there is an uneven playing field for the kids. So, for those who do not have the help of their parents, for whatever reason, and are doing well nonetheless--those are the ones who will be the superstars in life--guaranteed! For the kids whose (helicopter) parents are involved in everything the child is doing all day, looking over their shoulders, reviewing their work and correcting it before they hand it in, etc.--those children are being done a huge disservice. And their parents may not even know it. School is about a lot more than just the curriculum on paper. And it us not designed to be a team sport in which one attends with mom or dad by their side. Just like life! If they have spent the past year riding along as a passenger, because someone else took the reigns and drove the carriage for them, then how will they know how to drive by themselves when the time comes for them to take the reigns and drive solo? And it is great to get all A's, but there is also a lot to be learned from failure too. Or even just learning to say, hey, wait a minute--I think I need help (before they get an F)! I have 4 kids, and it has been a crazy year! One started college, one started gap year abroad (and just won a prize for most weeks spent in quarantine!), one in 11th and one in 10th. And they just left public to return to private bc I found the everyone at home all day together soul sucking, and they needed to return to a classroom setting (now that we are vaccinated). I have seen it all, done it all, just stepped off the school board bc I disagreed with their Covid policies.... I am not coming from a place of total ignorance. I obviously don't know how this will all play out and how the kids will end up, but I do know that the concern of parents being overly involved in the at home learning process is real. Just be aware. It is like a drug. It may feel good now, but you will likely pay for it later. Somehow. Sometimes we have to force ourselves to just say no. Good luck!
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@hugheaston7598 True, and when the airlines stop global travel (which has never been done), the ripple effect will be devastating on the world economy. I personally use my State Department warning system as a guide, as I travel a lot for work. But I also live in a city where there are hundreds of people flying in from Asia daily, even though 3 main carriers stopped flying in (and one doesn't even service Asia, except thru their partner airline system, so they didn't really get hit. Just PR). The WHO seems behind the 8 ball for some reason, so I am not countingon them. Yet I trust the CDC, having unfortunately had to deal with them directly. They follow up and follow thru and seen to really care from patient 0 on, for their own research purposes, so unless things have changed (which may be), I would sooner take their advice. Problem is, again, it is just for the US. Luckily however, most other "state dept" health and travel sites take their cue from the US.
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American accents--New York (includes NYC, Brooklyn, Queens, Bronx, Long Island, and they are all subtly different). Then Boston, Chicago (and other Michigan accents), MidWest, which includes a wide variety--Cleveland, as mentioned, Cincinnati, etc., then Wisconsin, North Dakota, Minnesota... Seattle (where they also say Pop, randomly), California, then go back through Texas, OK, ARK, Tenn, and all the southern states and their accents. Louisiana--NO and the Bayou...until the North of Florida. South thru FL the accents start to change again. Back up the coast, the accents become slightly southern again, until you hit DC. Philly has a strong accent. I think we have a lot of accents in the US when one thinks about it. Colorado is known as "non accented English" and what News reporters strive to speak. But we don't have one basic "pure" English that everyone across the country knows to switch into when speaking to people from other areas. As for example, when one flies LH, the flight attendants speak Hochdeutsch, but use their dialect to one another.
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It was a stab in the back of the community because I am sure that the synagogue board had the same discussion (argument) as every other synagogue in the country does when we receive the email we all get annually (at the very least), advising us to have security, and when possible, armed security. Some listen, some don't. The board votes and decides. It is a democratic process but I doubt the President was aware of it when he made the comment. And either way, he is correct. Armed guards, when properly trained, are always the better option! Not agreeing to meet with the President in this instance was inappropriate. We say the "Prayer for the Government", which is in our prayerbooks, every shabbat (and pray for the President, regardless who he is or if we like him). I am very surprised the Rabbi was not able to convince him to overlook his personal feelings for the greater good.
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Her English is not terrible, she just has a strong accent. Nonetheless, I agree. When I moved to LA, I had to teach myself Spanish to be able to communicate with my babysitter. She is legal, pays taxes, has kids in IVY league colleges now, but does not speak ANY English. After working for me for 16 years and living here for over 30, I think she should speak English. I tell her all the time. Whereas her brother came her at 19, got a job and went to free ESL classes at night (they are everywhere) and is practically fluent now 5 years later. She just never took classes or even tried to learn. We just speak Spanish together. I know it is hard to learn, especially as one gets older (and I am good at languages so learning a 6th one was not hard for me), but everyone should at least TRY!!
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The EXACT SAME THING happened to my daughter (but at a private school), and bc of the headmaster and parents of the other girls on the chat, MY daughter did not get into a high school where I had 3 other kids, sit on the board, and am a Trustee of the school for years. I even had equally, if not worse, posts from her friends and other girls on the chat--just as graphic and lude--and they were accepted into 9th grade but my daughter was made an example of. I told the Headmaster, when he told me of their decision, that he was new to the city and community and that he was handling the situation poorly and would end up learning this once it was too late.....and I said I would be pulling all of my kids. He dug his heels in, I pulled my kids, the community went nuts and called him daily to protest, would not give them any additional money beyond tuition, sent around a petition, etc. This went on for a year until he called and apologized and asked us to come back--all of us. I said I would think about it and then Corona started. And THEN...a few months later, he was fired...🤣🤣🤣 Sorry, I know that I should not laugh, BUT....I warned him!!!
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@karyndewit193 I absolutely understand how it could make you feel constrained or anxious, especially if it triggers something negative from your past. But putting that aside (as it is personal to you), even if there were a very small chance that it could keep you or someone else around you healthy, why would you advocate for people not to wear it? I was just discussing it with my husband as we have two groups of friends--the mask wearers, and the anti mask group (most of which also happen to be doctors ironically). And my husband was talking about it with the one friend who agrees with him about wearing masks and he said that it is not because he is afraid of getting sick or dying (although I am high risk), it is that he and this one friend, both had Covid outbreaks at work and they both had to close for 2 weeks, I had to open a case with the Health Dept., we paid thousands of dollars to get everyone tested and retested privately bc testingwas such a mess here. We lost tons of money (and annoyed a ton of clients), and still had to pay everyone. All because our "patient zero" went to visit a friend who was in quarantine, stayed for dinner bc she was asymptomatic, and then SHARED A FORK WITH HER!!!. Then came to work (while shedding) and after work, the second person asked for a ride home and they sat in a car for an HOUR without masks and the windows rolled up
So they didn't even get sick AT work, but it was a HUGE, expensive, annoying hassle! Same thing happened to our other friend. It was so stressful and we just don't want to go through it again. That's the other side people don't think about until they have to deal with it. And I am not even talking about the sick ones. We all got lucky with that, thank goodness! So, if everyone would just help each other out and wear a mask, maybe we will get through this sooner and life can get back to normal!
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@Pinkheartbwell I don't mean to harp on this, however, apart from the fact that the years don't add up, you do realize that "Nazi Soldiers" are not allowed to roam the world free, right? It has been, in fact, a race against time, to bring to justice the last of them who had not been caught and put in jail. Had you come across one, I am assuming you would do the right thing a report a war criminal as they would have still been actively sought by the authorities internationally. I get the point that you are trying to make, however, again, when you are raised the home of Holocaust survivors, the trauma that one experiences is very deep rooted. And I am not talking about one's energy. There is nothing one can do to understand what that experience is like, or what the survivor goes through. No matter how many times you hear the horrific stories from the victim's mouths. And becoming a vegetarian doesn't make it all better. Neither will forgiveness. I don't know what you are trying to illustrate by saying "my father was there", but this story was about a doctor who happened to be Jewish. Not a doctor who survived the camps. And the patient was an idiot with a swastika, not an actual, vile SS Officer. It is honestly upsetting to read people's posts recounting something as if they are retelling the plot of a movie, rather than an actual account (or even just a place and time). If you want to be compassionate, please just take it down.
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@Pinkheartbwell Yes, that account is from a well known book, written by a survivor. No one "was in the Holocaust." One either "survived the Holocaust", or one did not. The concept of forgiveness in Judaism is very different than in Christianity. The Torah is very clear on when one is to forgive, and equally as clear as when one need NOT forgive or even cannot forgive. Especially if the person has not asked for forgiveness or tried to earn a person's forgiveness. Within Judaism, the construct of forgiveness, most especially towards the Nazis, is not even a debate. Even on Yom Kippur God does not ask it of us as without their attempt in even receiving it, we do not have the ability to grant it. The wrong they have done unto the Jewish people, without any remorse, is too great. By Jewish law and by International law, which is why we still have Nazi hunters who attempt to seek out those last living animals that may roam the earth, hiding, likely in plain sight. So they may be brought to justice and to their death. Every last one.
There are plenty of live testimonials from the Wiesenthal center that you can view on YouTube. I suggest viewing some to understand the difference between hearing a story from an actual survivor rather than an account reenacted in a movie.
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@Pinkheartbwell And again, I hope you understand that your statements (reread them from the beginning) have been a deep, painful betrayal to those who not only perished in the Holocaust, but to those who survived the horrors of the Holocaust. As well as their trials and tribulations in the DP camps and thereafter. Including the impact it had on their children and grandchildren. It will take many generations for us to not be reliving daily the reminders of the atrocities that occurred, and the affect it had, and still has, on our lives. I don't know what year your father came to the US, or where he came from, but even if he didn't tell you stories about it, just his behavior throughout, how he carried on with life, was likely marred by what he had experienced and seen. And someone like that, who carries that burden, passes it on. Just as I want you to understand that your mindless, thoughtless, insincere commentary--completely anonymous on YT of course--is deeply hurtful and painful. And yet you keep going. I am glad that you are ok with forgiving nazis, letting SS officers roam free, although illegal, and saving little animals because you are a vegetarian. But I want you to understand that what you did was not only wrong, it was vindictive and mean. People may comments on YT all the time and others sling insults, call people names and liars, all from the safety of their screen name. I did none of that--I simply asked you to take it down. And you won't, and yet still keep posting. I don't know what your point even is anymore. It certainly can't be forgiveness as I have told you how offended, horrified and saddened I am by your actions and, perhaps bc I am a stranger online, you don't care. And while I did start out by saying I had a hard time believing your story, I did not follow that line of logic, not because I am now convinced--quite the opposite--I was truly just being courteous. I could go through each comment and sentence that only highlights the insincerity of your story, but I don't need to. You know what they are. And yet you still seem to have a point you wish to make. I implore you to find a different way. Doing it at the expense of 6 million dead is truly reprehensible. And just the fact that you don't understand how awful it is, or what your first post represented--or understand and feel the deep shame that you should be experiencing right now, is proof enough of your not even that elaborate, yet nonetheless pathetic, ruse. Just know that again, whatever point you tried to make, all you did was traumatize someone further. And yet, you seem very ok with it. Does that help prove your point? I doubt it.
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@Pinkheartbwell Since you brought up Eva Kor--do you even know the whole story? You cut and pasted part of an article on commonlit but in addition to what she said, "Forgiveness does not mean that the perpetrators are absolved of their crimes," what Eva Kor also said, which is just as important as her own personal experiences were, as her ability to forgive was, was that "Each person can forgive only in his or her own name. One cannot forgive in the name of all Holocaust survivors." As I said before, the concept of forgiveness in Judaism is very different than that of Christianity. Many survivors did not, and do not, feel the same way as she did. "It is not our place, or our duty, to forgive. We do not owe anybody forgiveness. The pre-requisite for forgiveness is atonement. Justice we should seek--and forever seek--but forgiveness? It is not our place to forgive." Your point on how you came to forgive could have been made by simply telling Eva Kor's story--a true story. But the fact that you have chosen to leave your comments up, which are not only offensive to those who actually DID survive the Holocaust, or are children and grandchildren of those who are survivors, you do a disservice to Eva Kor and her memory, which is the exact thing you are trying to make a statement about. Make your point another way. Honor Eva Kor and her memory, along with the memory of her sister and family. Or simply make the point by drawing a parallel from the original news clip to Eva Kor's testimonials in documentaries and YT video that you found inspiring. Or use something else. Anything else but the tale you told about treating a Nazi War criminal and then letting him roam free!! The power to forgive that man was not yours! There are laws! People get put in jail for doing what you said happened! And the fact that you were not aware of that, or the impact of your other statements, may exonerate you and your false statements from those you have offended, but they do not make them any less painful to those whose identity you are essentially stealing. They also don't necessarily exonerate you from the law! Have you done anything to rectify the situation? Called the FBI? You claim to be a nice, peaceful person who wants to do good things. Take your statements DOWN! And then, in return, I will gladly delete mine. You are desecrating the memory of those who perished in the Holocaust as well as the survivors, whether dead or alive. You may not have the ability to exonerate anyone on behalf of the survivors or those killed, but apparently you can help them seek justice. In the name of everyone murdered.
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@paulinbrooklyn And since you want to be her knight in shining amour... you know her statements are factual how? I certainly did not come in guns blazing, but since you brought it up, aside from the numbers not adding up (yes, even before I has exact numbers, it was clear they were off), there is zero mention of where her father was born, where he was during the war, or when and how he came to the US. And all that aside, Germans who "just served their country during the war" also had to go either left or right. The US or Russia. To be reeducated before reentering society. There was no such thing as a German just innocently serving his country, as 11 million people were massacred and per the Potsdamer Konferenz (amongst others) they had to pay their dues. They were not just set free when the war was over. Naomi may be a liar, whatever you know of her, that much is clear. But you seem to be equally naive. And it is more important to you to try to tell me to leave a stranger alone, than learn the truth about history and actually educate yourself on something important.
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@bradleysmith681 Is your issue with everything driven by some personal grudge against Gavin or just nepotism in general? And is it so offensive to you how someone gets their start in life regardless of what they then do with their life thereafter? None of your idols had a leg up somewhere along the way? Willie Brown cares way too much about his reputation (and now, likely, his legacy), to help someone who will not perform and do well in any position he helps someone attain (and he is a lovely, decent human being btw). Just as Gavin would not have gotten as far in life without everything he did for the city. I, personally, cannot claim to be as virtuous as either of them as I would not have (did not) leave my life, my family, my business es, in order to take a huge payout and work as a government employee. Even if it would have looked great on paper and there would have been tremendous bragging rights, I prefer to be able to eat at The French Laundry whenever I want, in private. So, while Gavin is now getting crap for one dinner gone wrong, he is still, in my eyes, a better person than I. Is he full of himself? Absolutely. Does he think he is better than most? Probably. But I can also attest to the fact that he likely is. He was and likely still is and the people who keep attacking him either have some personal beef with him, or they are just jealous. There is no other rational answer. The people writing comments to strangers on YT to "storm the Bastille" are clearly not actually starving as the French were during the Revolution or even during the Terror. Our generation of woke revolutionaries are misguided, misinformed and honestly, pathetic!
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These are just frivolous lawsuits in order to try and cash in. If awarded a sum or offered a settlement, it will only increase the cost of Healthcare in this country for all of us! If she truly just wanted doctors to "stop talking this way", then she would not sue. And I wonder, when she is for example, in the kitchen with family or friends, or shopping with them, or rides the elevator with a coworker, and they make a snarky comment to one another about someone thinking they will never find out, is that also inappropriate? And they were not making a racist comment, they were body shaming her. That was clear. Precious was fat and happened to be black. Just as this patient happened to be black. Less important to her doctors than her weight, which affects so many other aspects of her health, and in that room at that moment, her surgery. Her color does not.
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@TheJeweledBird You were correct until you started repeated CNN/Biden rhetoric. Just as we did not lose as many lives as projected, there is no way that we can know that 36,000 live could have been saved. Also, CA--the 5th largest economy in the world--is a much larger state than New York, where I grew up, in a city with 8 million. But I grew up in an apartment. I now live in LA, right near the riots and looting, but in a house with space around me. You cannot compare the two. Just as you can't compare what Trump was advised by Fauci on Birx on one day, to whatever they told him two weeks later that made him take action. But when he said I am closing the borders, I immediately got on the phone, spent 5 hrs on hold,, and brought my son home from his gap year.. Before everyone else, so there were no lines or waiting at his first POE in the US. But 48 hrs later it was a mess. Things don't happen overnight. The country needs time to organize. And Trump acted early. Despite what the news was saying at the time. Go back and re-watch it instead of just repeating what the news is telling you. Better yet, get your own fair and balanced news and change the channel half the time.
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She changed jobs (think of it that way), and as a driven, successful independent woman, I don't think she enjoyed all the baggage her "new position" carried with it. Unfortunately she married someone who cannot just turn his back on his job, which he was born into. And $30 mil is not enough to support their lifestyle, especially since she seems to display signs of postpartum, along with his fear of the media, so the security alone will cost them tremendously. Look at Fergie and what she had to go through. It was worse than what Meghan has endured. Look at Wallis and how that turned out. It is not the first time the Queen has had to contend with a troublesome spouse and the fallout within in the royal family. The Queen is a rockstar and will hopefully, as head of the Firm, set them straight, however it turns out. I wish HER the best of luck through this all since H + M seem to just want to have their cake and eat it too, yet the Queen is the one who will have to clean up the mess AND do the dishes!
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@Jack Johnson The Islamic countries are not inviting the Danes to live there. These immigrants were invited to come into (many) European countries, were allowed to stay, were given citizenship and as time passed, they had children. Those children are nationally Danish, but culturally Turkish, or Persian, or whatever country their parents came over from--they also identify with their families culture, even tho they have Danish citizenship. And no other. The Danes invited them and "created" the problem. They can't now say "go back where you came from", if where they came from, is Denmark! Same thing in Germany, Holland, France, the rest of Scandinavian and half of Europe!
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@itawircberg6376 Yes, I already commented on a previous video (in which Malky says she is Chabad--not that I needed to hear her say it to know), why Chabad is the most open and friendly, as kiruv is their main mission. And that there are 1,000's of shluchim and Chabad houses all over the world, because back in the 1950's the Rebbe said "where there is a Jew, we will build a Chabad house." They may have started in the subway stopping people and asking "are you Jewish" and then trying to get people to lay tefillin or take home shabbos candles to light, but now they have the best online presence of all of the Orthodox groups, great marketing and PR dept's, and they have taken kiruv to a different level. No other Ultra-Orthodox group does that. And even if one is not Chabad, if you are traveling for work or vacation, and you need somewhere to daven or need to find food, Chabad is always there. Regardless if you are in Boston, Bangkok or Bali, you will find Chabad ready and willing to help!
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@itawircberg6376 Also, I am not stereotyping, I am generalizing. I am very entrenched in the Lubovitch community, which is why it is easy for me to see that Malky is Lubovitch (which she then verified in one of his other videos). Every community has it's own flavor and style. This is a YT video and an overview of Hasidic women. Any overview will lead to generalizations and I think most people understand that. However, people still have questions. And many people who don't understand the culture don't realize that there are Modern Orthodox Jews in Flatbush, for example, whose everyday community life is closer to Chabad than Chabad is to, for example Satmar or Skver, over in Williamsburg or other parts of the City. Not to mention that going into detail about Satmar (which is the largest sect amongst Haredim), would not only be disrespectful to the Satmar, it is difficult to explain the Satmar to people who don't understand Orthodox Judaism (even FFB's), without having people cast aspersions on them. They get enough bad press. They don't need anymore, especially from within the fold. Especially not now.
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@tg2683 Then you are aware of the changes and differences between Aish the org and Aish the shul and how some of the shuls have separated themselves from the org. Just as Rav Bekovitz, who took over as Rosh Yeshiva for the org in Israel, would likely not consider himself personally Modern Orthodox, he would consider Aish HaTorah, the movement, Modern Orthodox in general. The movement is still based on kiruv, and they know that, as an organization, Modern Orthodoxy seems less restrictive and more appealing to people. So as an organization, in the US, they still align themselves with Torah U'Maddah (as you know, it is very different in Israel. But Aish believes in the army, for example. They are still Zionists.) They have a very large presence in LA and after shabbos I asked two of the Aish Rabbis I am close to (one's a relative and one is a neighbor), if they align themselves with Modern Orthodoxy, and moreover, would Rav Weinberg, zt"l, say that Aish (the org) is aligned with Modern Orthodoxy. The answer was yes to both. But I asked about the org, not the shuls that have spun off or the Rosh Yeshiva as an individual. So, in conclusion, I guess one should confer with their Aish Rabbi in their community for further explanation and clarification. If one is asking, then, a. the person asking is likely not FFB, and if they are BT and want to understand the nuances of the differences, B. it is likely signaling to a larger conversation. But hey, that is what exploring Judaism is all about--asking questions!
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@tg2683 LOL...I totally "hear you"... just this shabbos we were hanging out, talking Torah, and one of my kids starts a dvar Torah, but then does that thing where they cross into medrash (Lubovitch Medrash, that they learn in Gan Izzy or whatever)... and then it just blurs to them when little, but when they get older, they should be able to differentiate between medrash and Torah. My husband and I just looked at each other and rolled our eyes. Then corrected her. So I know what you mean by an insult to some. What I don't get is which other sect could she be?? (Insert Satmar joke here)?? And moshiachists are fairly rare these days (and I will limit my adjectives to that). I don't count those at all. Most of my friends are Gehze, so I have very little to do with the hippie, dippie Chabad crowd. Or Moshiachists, or any other fringe sub group. When my husband was in grad school our Rav was Chabad, we were in the middle of nowhere and the Rabbi could not leave for a Shabbat unless my husband would be there,, bc he was the only one who could daven for the amud and lein. 25 years later, we are still very close. But they taught each other so much in the beginning. Our first meal at his house my husband leans over and asks me "what's a Tanya? 24 years of Yeshiva education and I have never heard of a Tanya before?" Then at their Pidyon, when siblings were visiting, we were telling a story at the shabbos table and his brother asked "what are you guys, reformed?" Oy vey! Such an insult, I had to hold my husband down! But when stuck in an insular community like Brooklyn, that is your world. If you are not sent to Australia for a year, or on shluchus somewhere where there are other kinds of Jews, it is Chabad or nothing (and the rest of us are goyim...). So feeling insulted can work both ways. The Chabad community where we live now has started using the Modern Orthodox schools for a better education that will allow for college. My friends say that their kids are teaching them (the parents) how to become Modern Orthodox! They certainly didn't learn in Crown Heights!
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@shulamitkalish3060 LOL, yes, I also laughed when my daughter said it. What's old becomes new again! Like sitting on the square on Ben Yehuda... She is Shana alef so you know how they label everyone. My son is Shana bet and he is "shtarking hard" (Israel was the cure for the Corona blues as YU was zoom only--very handy!) I am going to have to look for the video where Malky says she is Chabad (now it is bugging me)--someone else said she is Bobov! That was ridiculous. Can you imagine a Bobove woman in an animal print, a sexy Shevy's, who makes her own music videos and walks the streets of Brooklyn, alone with a random guy filming a YT video?? Not likely... and you are right, it is too hard to explain to outsiders. Brooklyn alone is its own world. The "Lubovitch Light" crowd in Brooklyn is still so different than in LA, for example. I have a whole theory on how and why things changed after the Rebbe, zt"l, was nifter, and then with the introduction of the internet (for another time). I am probably a lot older than you, but even within the NY communities, things have changed a lot over the years. "Modern" Monsey (which has grown so much over the past 30 years) is a very different modern than say, Teaneck or Woodmere. A friend who grew up Chassidish in Brooklyn met a Lubovitch boy, and he told her he was Chassidish... she went to meet his family in Crown Heights and as she had never really been exposed to Chabad, she ended up saying to him "You call yourself Chassidim? This is not Chassidish!" They are married with kids now, 25 yrs later. And she still makes fun of him. My other friend, as Upper Westside Modern as they come, married into a big (gehze) Lubovitch family and even tho YU straightened him out, as she says, he still "plays dress up" on shabbos. And she calls his gartel "his lingerie" (she is very funny). Chabad is as Chabad does... we are as misnogdish as they come and so my husband is a very typical, joyless Jew, as I call him. Whenever in Israel for Pesach, I used to drag him to Moshav Modi'in chol hamoed for their festival to visit old friends of mine. I love a good Carlebach davening. He never liked it. But that is also why I can appreciate Chabad (he can't). They do good for the world! And I travel a lot for work, so when I can't get home for shabbos, Chabad is always there! But they don't look like Bobove Chassidim...lol.. so I will look for the video! Kol tov! Stay healthy!!
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@shulamitkalish3060 Yup! Very typical in our community. Most kids do a year in Israel after HS. And whereas I had always said "Shana Bet" were words that would never leave my lips, never say never! I brought him home in March the minute Trump said he was closing the borders (spent 5 hrs on hold with United, then booked tix and called and said you have 4 hrs to get to the airport). Then he spent 4 soul sucking months in his room zooming (and playing way too much Fortnite) and finally I said, enough! And sent him back. So did most parents. It was a good solution. He is done next week and then starting YU. He is in Bet Shemesh and she is in Yerushalayim. Complaining about the weather. They keep pretty close tabs on them, so they don't get out much. Boys schools are less strict. And it is way more strict than it was 30 years ago. Speaking of strict, yes, of course there are exceptions to every rule (can you imagine shaving your head?? I cannot.). But even if someone like your friend were to do a YT video, I would think she would still be respectful and considerate of others and not attempt to bring them into the video without asking them first, don't you think? Like the woman in the sheitl shop who asked not to be shown (even tho it is great advertising!). Malky also said she grew up frum (how frum, or if she grew up Chabad, she didn't elaborate on). So she would know that while she may be ok doing it herself, others would frown on it and would likely not agree to take part in it. I won't even go into Maaris Ayin, lol. You are right, we are getting worked up over shtuiot! BTW, I just heard about that poor woman in the forest, and some other stuff that happened. Baruch Dayan HaEmet. How awful! We never hear about it in the US, just on YT. Are things heating up over there or was it random, usual stuff (you know what I mean)?.
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@shulamitkalish3060 Thank you! Shana Gimel!! Wow, talk about shtark!! She is already talking Shana bet (I shut that down pretty quickly), but she is already talking marriage too (never had a bf, lol!). Everyday is something else. If it weren't for Corona, I would be annoyed that she calls 5 times a day (and then she calls her sisters). A year away should be a ayear away! On the other hand,, my son barely answers texts. They are closing borders again now. I am getting very Covid weary... we have family in Elkana, and she hasn't been there for shabbos even once. But she did visit a cousin who lives 5 mins from her. Which has also been handy when she needs something. They meet at the gate, that is how strict it is. And we didn't get to visit this year either. I cannot stay home another Pesach!!! No way! I made Pesach last year and said first and only... I thought things were looking up, but now who knows. You are right, it is all in Hashem's hands, so I tend not to stress and leave it up to the Big Guy... what else can you do? Luckily, they are well traveled and independent so they have some street smarts which is helpful. You lived in Brooklyn, you know what I mean...I grew up in the city and my husband is also East Coast. It just freaks me out that my kids are Californians.... camp on the East Coast helped sort them out tho. It is still the center of the Orthodox world!
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@tg2683 LOL!! We are about as misnogdish as they come... Yet I still have a room in my heart for a good Carlebach minyan (because I knew Shlomo years ago--yes, I am old) but my husband is (as I say) a joyless Jew. So when he was at grad school and we lived in "yehuppitz" (as Chabad says), all there was was Chabad (now, 25 yrs later, they are still amongst our closest friends). But the first shabbosom we spent together, "the Rabbi", Shlomie, who grew up (gehze) in Brooklyn, would ask us about our background, our schooling, etc. Bc even tho he was also from NY, he grew up Brooklyn sheltered and knew nothing about Modern Orthodoxy (but he learned, thru us). One meal, he started a dvar Torah and referenced the Tanya. My husband, who only knew Chabad from the subway, 30 yrs ago, when they used to give out candles and try to stop you to lay tefillin (before the invention of the internet), leaned over and said to me "What's a Tanya?? 19 years in Yeshiva and I have never heard of a Tanya before??!" Fast forward a few years (and many funny barbs and stories between the two of them)--and bear in mind that Shlomie could not leave town on Shabbat unless he knew we were in town bc my husband was the only person within a few hundred miles who could daven for the amud and lein... they made a bris and my in-laws happened to be in town so we had shabbat lunch by them. In the middle of the conversation, his brother who was visiting from Brooklyn (and saw us in shul already!), was listening to our convo, as I sat on the shul board and was discussing fundraising thru membership (a foreign concept in Chabad). The brother says "Nu, what are you? Reformed?" I shoot my husband a look before he tries to jump across the table at him...a few minutes later, he gives a dvar Torah that was 100% (Lubovitch) medrash. Finally, my MIL cocks her head to one side and ask them both, "Are we in the same religion??" Your story made me think of that, lol! I totally hear you. Chabad has changed a lot over the years. Since the Rebbe, zt"l, was nifter, and then add the invention of the internet. A lot has changed. BUT....I travel a lot for work, and Chabad is always there for me. As I am not BT, I can take the good and leave the bad. Unfortunately, others can't (and when Chabad "gets you" they keep you!). The Lubovitch Light crowd, especially outside of Brooklyn, is altering the landscape--the kids are attending Modern Orthodox yeshivas bc they want to go to college and then work (their parents say the kids are teaching them how to be Modern Orthodox). I used to get upset that they didn't revamp their own schools (they all want financial aid), but after 10 years, I am cool with it. They give back. In a way, they understand Chassidus better than anyone else! Or we can hope atleast! And yes, living in Israel is a whole different ballgame (I have 2 kids there). Not so much intermingling. But once you all get to Israel, you need eachother less. That is the upside!! Kol tov!! Stay healthy!! I need to go answer someone who thinks Malky is Bobov (she said she was Chabad in a video--I have to find where), and also thinks I am new to Judaism and do not understand the different hashkafot....🤔🙄 I need to take a breath before I answer her, lol!
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@michellelansky4490 The Aish info is not mine, it is from two of the Aish Rebbeim whom I asked. Again, I was not asking them what they would label themselves (as they are yeshivish, which is appropriate), but what they would tell someone Aish is. As far as "most of Lakewood being Harvard Law students", that is a stretch. At best. And as far as who opposes medical school, well, one has to go to college first. In the Chassidish world, those who are FFB and want to take courses to even allow them to get into college are already fringe. Most yeshivish kollels, or high schools, are not WASC accredited (or any of the other seven titles IV accreditations across the country). Chassidish aligned students are few and far between at YU as it is. And always was. Those who grew up in the depths of sheltered Brooklyn yet changed course and went to YU (such a rebel!) are few and far between, and fairly well known as "the success story" certainly going back at least the 30 years that I can account for of YU grads. Yes, there are some. But they need to working towards it starting at 16 if they don't want to fall behind, and depending on what community one lives in, that can be an onerous (and expensive) task. If one wants to get into a top Yeshiva HS in the US, such as Frisch, Ramaz, DRS, YULA, they need to be at the top of their class in grade school. And after HS, they need to spend atleast Shana alef at a top Yeshiva (or "sem" as people started calling it 20 years ago). Girls can go to Harvard Law too (like my sister in law did)! Unfortunately, one does not wake up one day and say "I want my kid to be a doctor, what do I do?" And suddenly switch paths. It is not that easy for those who grew up frum. For those who are older, and then found Yiddishkeit (likely thanks to Chabad), it is easier to incorporate into your life. And I won't even go into the back story of the Lakewood yeshiva boys who may have been Harvard Boys, as it would just lead to lashon hora. But they all have a story. It is not the norm.
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@michellelansky4490 I am sure I am older than you, so as far as bringing Jews back to Yiddishkeit and the history behind it that started in the 80's with Rabbi Riskin's famous shabbos drash about "if you are going to sleep over at HER house, at least bring your tefillin with you"... a well known drash he gave on shabbos during the AIDS epidemic. In concert, Chabad was still among up their Kiruv movement, albeit candles in the subway, or guys trying to lay tefillin...but together they created a movement (you can look it up. There are many interesting stories and books about it). It was a period in time, after EST, the start of Scientology and people seeking out gurus to find the meaning of life, when shuls and organizations from "wink and stare" on the UWS to Shlomo, to Chabad in CH, all worked their hardest to bring Jews back to Judaism. The rebirth of the Ba'al Tshuvah movement. And they achieved a lot! Sadly, Shlomo, zt"l, and the Rebbe, zt"l, were nifter in the 90's and things faltered for a while. Then the internet was invented and it changed the world. Including the Orthodox Jewish world. From Modern Orthodox to Hassidim. Fast forward to now as those who got married back then have kids who are getting married. But without the Rebbe, and people who remember him (or even kids on the Moshav who didn't even grow up with him), there is a whole generation trying to grow, and fit in, and make a living, without a Rebbe for guidance. So, Chabad kids, "Lubovitch Light", who are not gehze, and can't get a good shluchus spot (or don't want to be in shluchus), are stuck. So what do they do? They infiltrate the modern Orthodox yeshivot. It was a problem 10 years ago as they all wanted financial aid. But, as the parents have said "the kids are teaching us how to be Modern Orthodox", and the parents are, in fact, giving back. Granted, you wouldn't see it happen in Misnogdish or Litvish circles, but Chabad is as Chabad does. And they possibly understand Chassidus better than anyone, so the ner tamid still shines thru and guides them. Or they just want their kids to succeed in life. Either way, we will take them.
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@michellelansky4490 I don't know your background or where you are from. Nor would I be so presumptuous as to ask or guess. However, (as if I have nothing else to do), I will find the video in which she says she is Lubovitch. As I have a lot of Lubovitch friends, perhaps it is clearer to me, and that is why I saw it right away. But even if she were a Bobov outlier, she said she grew up frum. So while she may be outside the box, it is extremely unlikely that a Bobove woman, who records her own music videos, would wander around Brooklyn in an animal print, with a long, luscious top of the line Shevy's, walking alongside a random (sorry) shaygetz, through her neighborhood where she knows she will likely encounter people she knows and then spontaneously approach them to be on the video for YT with them, without contacting them and asking them first. She grew up frum and knows better than to put someone else in that predicament. You would never see that happen on the street with someone who grew up Bobov. Regardless how "open" they are.
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@shulamitkalish3060 Thank you! You are right, I think her anxiety is real right now. And they are stuck in the dorm together was more than they would (and should) be, so it is leading to a lot of drama. She has a crazy roommate and she (and the other girls) have had so many issues with this girl since day one. My daughter always likes to handle things herself, so I let her. And bc I have always sat on the EB of all their schools, and the shul, she knows that I can reach out and help, but I have also always told them that we don't ask for special favors, or throw our weight around. We follow the rules and get in line and wait our turn. But, she also has learned that the one who yells the loudest gets the most attention. So, finally, yesterday, she called in tears and said "Mommy, you are right. You need to call the school." So for the first time since she has been there, I called the school (and showed them who can yell the loudest). What has been going on is totally crazy, and they need to move her room (which she has been asking to do since October). And, after one 10 minute phone call, it was sorted. So hopefully she will feel better about being there and atleast that stressful situation will hopefully be behind her. We shall see... as you say, when you are 18, you are supposed to be happy, having fun, and dreaming about your future. And her thoughts and "goals" certainly do change daily, lol!
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@shulamitkalish3060 LOL, of course I am familiar with heimish (and all the other dozens of labels), however, I don't like to make assumptions about strangers on YT, even when they are pretty clear based on what they are saying, especially if they are BT. Because in my world, there are certain labels that we make fun of, which of course, is not very nice. So I don't want to insult anyone, even if they are a stranger and being offensive to me (and plenty of people make fun of our crowd too). But while Brooklyn has a huge Jewish community, with so many different types of religious groups, it is still very insular and many who grew up there can be very sheltered. Then you have the whole BT crowd who became religious via one of the Brooklyn groups, so they only know what they know (apart from exposure to Lakewood, Monsey, bungalow colonies, the correlating communities in Israel, etc). It is such a huge learning curve for someone just within their little world within the world, and one is constantly learning just as the communities are constantly changing. My comment about "where do they daven" wasn't literal, as there are tons of options all over each neighborhood. A shtiebel minyan may be the obvious answer (tho typically one would likely say "I daven by Rabbi so and so"), but generally when in grows up in say, a YI or 770, and then possibly changes course and ends up at say, Aish, it says something about who that person is and who they identify with. Does that make sense? Very similar to when someone makes Aliyah and chooses which community they are going to live in. Sure, there are always exceptions to every rule, but if someone moves to Chashmonaim, or Efrat, it signals to what label they identify themselves with. And as much as things evolve and change, I don't think Modern Orthodoxy is going away anytime soon. Am I making sense?
Someone just tested positive at her Sem. Now they are all going back into quarantine for 2 weeks....oy vey! More tears...
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@shulamitkalish3060 BTW, about Flatbush. Remember when it used to be 30% "SY" and 70% "Jdub"? The school I am talking about (I am joking when I use those old references btw). And now the Syrians have basically taken over Flatbush and they make up 70-80%? The Syrian community has also gotten much more frum over the years, which has changed Flatbush so much in the past 30 years. And which each neighborhood changing and growing, they spill over into neighboring neighborhoods, which in turn changes that neighborhood. Brooklyn used to be much more straightforward as to which groups lived where. But just as there are always breakaway shuls, there are breakaway schools, and that, ultimately is usually one of the main driving forces of change in frum neighborhoods. I am sure you have heard about the tuition crisis in America. I have been working on a National committee for over 10 years trying to find a solution (not to be negative, but there isn't one...🙄--aliyah is the smartest move, as you know!), and the studies of the community schools and their breakaways really highlight the growth and changes in the larger Jewish communities both within the Tri-State area and beyond (Florida, LA). With each generation what people want for their kids education seems to grow as parents want more balanced and accredited schools (which is a good thing, in my opinion). It would be fascinating if it weren't so depressing!
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@shulamitkalish3060 Ignorant is definitely not the word I would use, don't be silly! First of all you are way younger than I am, and while you said you had lived in Brooklyn, I was guessing that was during your early 20's, but, you could have possibly gone to Flatbush...(again, I don't like to be presumptuous as it can be offensive to people). But you are too nice to have grown up a NYer, lol... another clue! But even if you did, the expressions "Jdubs" (what "SY's" used to call Ashkenazim) would have predated you regardless. It doesn't have the nicest connotation anymore, depending who is saying it and how, but you can google it and read the (infamous) articles that were written about the Flatbush (and Deal) communities (they are funny actually, as long as one doesn't take offense). Back in the day, when my cousins went to Flatbush, it was a very different world. Nowadays, Flatbush can barely get a spot at Sarachek, they have dropped out so much from the mainstream Modern Orthodox scene. The a
Syrians made a spin off Yeshiva HS, Magen David (say it with the right accent, lol!), and they did play well at Sarachek the past few years, so maybe that is why Flatbush's team is so bad. They took all the good players. Who knows? But anyway, just as those expressions are old and therefore unfamiliar to you, and have been replaced by new ones, is the example I am making about how things change with each generation. And if one is BT and is only learning about the current, new stuff (and possibly occasionally the just recently passé expressions and ideology), they don't really understand the bigger picture and cultural history and background of Orthodox Jewish culture and how we got to where we are today. If that makes sense. I am a history and sociology geek, so I find these things interesting in general (Jewish or otherwise). Things don't just evolve and change on their own. Outside forces affect change. Even within Judaism, Orthodox or otherwise. Such as post WW2, how did Judaism evolve in the US and what forces of change affected the outcome. I find that fascinating. If you can ever find the book called "How to run a traditional Jewish Household" written by Blu Greenberg, you would find it a fascinating read! Even when it was new it was great! But it is so "out of date" now as so many years have passed and "rules" have changed. Maybe you can get an online copy--you would really enjoy it (sadly, her son, who she writes about a lot in the book, was a great friend and passed erev YK, years ago. Tragic.). But Blu and Rabbi Greenberg were the Rabbi and Rebbetzin in Riverdale in the 80's (and were friends with my in-laws, who started out in the Bronx and then moved to NJ where they started what is now a huge, well known community). I don't want to give details bc it will become political (which likely tells you what and where I am talking about...). Now I am just rambling, lol. OH! I had something else to ask your opinion on! Will send another message shortly. Thanks!!
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@shulamitkalish3060 Oh, to be young again! Again, I am much older than you, so if one goes back to the late 80's when Rabbi Riskin made his famous speech at "wink and stare" (AKA Lincoln Square--where I grew up). Way before he moved to Efrat), and told everyone (from the Bima!), if you are going to sleep over at your girlfriends house, at least bring your tefillin with you! That was a huge moment. It was after the AIDS outbreak of the early 80's, when so many people were coming back to Judaism, many organizations (and even individuals such as Esther Jungreis), made a huge impact on so many people and Jewish communities. And just as any new community has to build a mikveh first, the reason that the school is so important is because it is the center of the community--it helps shape, define and drive the community. Hence the concept of "the community school". A concept now somewhat forgotten, unfortunately. But much like the joke about the person stranded on the desert island who shows his rescuers around...one Jew, 2 opinions, or 2 shuls..."what is that building? OH, that is "the other shul"--I wouldn't be caught dead davening there! (The punchline to the joke). Flatbush has always been one of the prototypes for how a community and community school can be "taken over" and redefined by changing forces and growth (in this instance, the growth of the Syrian community and how the next generations started to become more frum). It is inevitable. It is when the growth is not harmonious that we start to see divisions and problems. Which has made finding a solution to the tuition crisis in America next to impossible. It is truly tragic.
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@shulamitkalish3060 Also, if I wrote anything offense, I apologize. They are actually not just my views. And while I sit on many boards, and these are the general, current, Modern Orthodox views in America right now, I certainly understand that there are many who may disagree. I am still pondering how to reply to Michelle who said that Modern Orthodoxy died with Rav Soloveitchik, zt"l, and that YU should strip the word Yeshiva from its name. I obviously feel strongly that YU is a necessary institution in America, especially with what goes on on college campuses right now. It is really awful right now in the US. Thank goodness for org's like standwithus.org! Kids should be allowed to attend whatever university they want, and not be harassed for being Jewish, or for their beliefs in general. It is times like these that I consider aliyah! (Briefly..😉. You are stronger and better than I am!)
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@michellelansky4490 I am hardly painting anything with one brush--there just is not enough room, or time, to go through each label, segment, and sub segment of each group who identifies with Orthodox Judaism (from Conservadox to Ultra-Orthodox and everything in between). I am trying to address each of your comments and ideas one by one, however, while I really do not want to give a stranger mussar in a public forum, I will however point out that while you are entitled to your own opinions, please do remember that this IS a public forum, and some of what appears to be your own opinions, are in fact, yours alone. A public cry to shut down YU is, again, YOUR opinion. There are hundreds and hundreds of people who would disagree with you. Just as your statement about modern Orthodoxy being dead is very controversial. And if it were dead, then what would become of all the yeshivot and seminaries in Israel that are all still well attended (and needed)? And have been for decades? They are a now under the umbrella of MASA and YU (as they should be) and still represent the foundation of modern orthodoxy. Here, and in Israel.. Your definition of Halacha is exactly that. Yours. EVERYONE picks and chooses. No one is perfect. Just as you have decided to pick and choose which Loshon Hora halachot are important to you. And please bear in mind that I am only illustrating a point, however some of your statements are a slap in the face to halacha itself. The "issues" you have with YU are not the issues that YU sees as a "challenge", whether they offend you personally, or not. If you were a graduate of Stern, or affiliated in some way, you would have a better understanding of what YU is, what it's history is, what it stands for, and why so many are proud and thankful that it exists. Calling for the word "Yeshiva" to be stripped from it's name, and stating that one should not "mix this Judaism stuff in" is beyond a shande. It is the stuff that the Neturei Karta is made of!
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@shulamitkalish3060 I don't have Instagram, but will ask my kids to look it up. I don't know if you saw it but I posted a comment saying exactly that. That Jews often get caught up in playing "who is the most frum card". It happens everywhere, in every community. And I just replied to the comment about how YU should stop associating all the "Judaism stuff" with it's name, and remove Yeshiva from it's title. That was only part of the person's post, but to claim the YU/Stern is not "Jewish enough" and doesn't observe halacha, and then point out specifically why, in that person's opinion, in a public forum, is not ok. The comment itself just devolved into negative PR for YU (or otherwise known as Loshon Hora!). I have worked too hard (and still work too hard), for Jewish education in America to stay on the right path and be accessible and available to anyone who wants it! I hear you and understand your perspective, but as you did benefit from a Stern education, even tho you are amongst the lucky ones who made aliyah, there are still so many here in the US who want a Jewish education from grade school through college. And then beyond if they want it. And I will continue to fight for that. Thank g-d for people like LH, who have made it their goal, personally and financially, to pull YU out of the Madoff hole we fell into, and get us back on track! Hopefully this Covid era will not set us back too far. And while there are still plenty of other (unaccredited) Jewish schools doing ok, if there are kids who want to cross over into the world of those college bound, there are plenty of us here to help them. Financially and otherwise. I am passionate about it as I know a lot of people who grew up at a Chofetz Chain or Bais Chaya Mushke, but clawed their way into college and beyond and any kid should be allowed that opportunity. Those who find out too late that it is so difficult really struggle and it is really hard to watch. Especially when they have a large family to support. Until there are no kids asking for help left, I will continue to fight in their behalf and make sure that YU and Stern will always be there to help them!
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@shulamitkalish3060 I certainly did not mean to say anything negative about Ricky! In fact, again, if she is single, I have the perfect shidduch for her!! But I am very protective of YU and all it stands for (and as an old friend and huge admirer of Richard Joel, I have nothing negative to say about his tenure). Yes, YU went thru changes, as you mentioned, but anything with a label will go through changes. Including YU, as you know from being there at that time. Yet, I don't like to air "dirty laundry" in a public forum, especially when people don't understand the nuances. And as I mentioned about 6 degrees... I am not asking you to post details, but we are one step away from a list of (atleast) 10 common friends, lol! Jewish geography! But again, as evolution happens, whatever YU went through while you were there, was then overshadowed by the Madoff scandal, and that took precedence. We are still feeling the ripple affects. And trying to overcome it so that thos who want to have a secure, Jewish Orthodox college experience, will be able to. Labels, in general, are dangerous and are not a healthy thing. Some people need them more than others. And while their definitions are fluid and constantly changing, many don't feel the need to be defined by them. Nor should they. That is what leads to one group feeling superior over another.
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@psychosious I think you are overthinking this. Most people who go to college come out with some amount of debt. And that "some" can be 100's of thousands of dollars (for those who went on to get graduate degrees, such as doctors, lawyers, etc). For Biden to come along and say "we are going to wipe away student debt", or even a portion of it, which then means that the taxpayers will have to pay for it--after they have already paid off their own student loans--is not only a bad idea, it is infuriating! It doesn't matter why someone went to college, or who put the original thought in their mind that college was a good idea (and worth taking out loans for), it is simply not right. Not to sound like one of my kids, but it really is not fair. Not to the kids who went to college, not to the kids who decided they couldn't afford to go, not to the parents, not to the taxpayers. It is a horrible idea!
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@psychosious Also, student debt discussion aside, it is likely a generational thing as I am noticing it a lot lately... and a little late, as I see I am as much to blame with regards to my own children... but one can only blame their parents for so much for so long. At a certain point, when one realizes, "Hey, I never learned how to be responsible with money" (or something similar), it is a waste of time blaming your parents or school or anyone else for that matter. You were smart enough to come to the realization that there is something useful you need to learn--go out and teach yourself what it is you want to know. Take charge of your destiny! Especially now, with the internet (that your parents did not grow up with), and all the differences in how we live our lives today and how much new info there is to learn (you could probably teach your parents a few things!), you can go out and learn about anything just by searching YouTube. Whereas back in the day, we had to go to the library, use the Dewey decimal system (do you even know what that is, lol), find a book, look up the topic, hope it is the right book, read about it....you get my point. It is a whole different world we live in now. Whatever they would have taught you would likely be useless now anyway. Or maybe I am just making myself feel better and less guilty. But learning the "value of a dollar", when we hardly use cash anymore is hard. Knowing how to write a check when we have PayPal is useless... even if your parents taught you everything there was to know, it is now obsolete. But you can always teach it to yourself. Knowledge is very fluid these days...
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@walkerpublications4418 NOTHING that you have written is anywhere close to true. Coming from a family with 2 doctors and 3 lawyers, all with double IVY degrees, your statement could not be further from the truth. And having sat on the board of a feeder school to the IVY's for almost 20 years, and chair of their FA committee for over 10 years, you are very misinformed. And even with all that aside, having 2 kids currently in college and another one who will be applying this year, I am well aware of how the loans programs work. Including FAFSA. Which is rolling, so there is no guarantee, even if one is eligible. Do you realize how much money one has to make to pay even ONE IVY tuition and graduate without any debt?? For those who have $80,000 a year, after taxes, JUST to send their kid to college, not counting anything else (not even a trip home for the holidays), on top of paying for their own life, 4 years in a row (haven't even mentioned grad school yet), and not notice the impact on their bank account, AND see the kid graduate with school all paid off, is an anomoly--largely bc it is just stupid and no one would do it. But pretend that they were going to--do you understand what kind of disposable income one would have to earn a year?
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@ralphbernhard1757 Exactly, which brings me to my next point. Before we can even think about getting from point A to point B, we need to define what B is. Which will take time and money. Then it needs to be run by an administration, which would need to be staffed. More time and money. I could keep going, but you probably get my point. If you watched the AOC interview (there are a few actually) where she is asked to speak to how things like defending the police, Medicare for all, and the Green New Deal would be paid for, she starts to wave it off as the minutiae that isn't important. She doesn't have an answer or even an inkling of where to turn to start to become informed as to HOW to find the answer. And as a leader, that is not ok. People need to understand that an idea that has not been well thought out from beginning to end, is not something ready for general consumption. And certainly not a reason for an entire country to start protesting and turn everything upside down. Just watch some of the college students being interviewed on Campus Reform. They are our future. They are the ones who will supposedly be doing the defunding in the future (or whatever you want to call it). Yet they don't seem anywhere near being capable to comprehend what needs to be done, let alone accomplish the task!
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@ralphbernhard1757 Having lived in Europe and used the Healthcare system in both Germany and France, I personally would not want to give up my extremely expensive, excellent Healthcare for Die Krankenkasse! Niemals! (Wie wir auf Deutsch sagen). And the Germans pay a ton in taxes for it as well. As far as the Upper Middle Class and the super rich--I don't know how you define those two groups. And I have found that the average American from any random flyover state has a very different interpretation of what kind of salary defines one as wealthy. Obviously, in NYC (where I was born and raised) and in California (where I live now) those numbers are vary depending on who you ask. Biden seems to have put that number at $400K. Depending on how many kids one has and how they are educated, that can leave one either living hand to mouth, or somewhat comfortably. But far from wealthy. Just as "a millionaire" does not have the same meaning as it did in the 60's. Or even the 90's. BUT, if one works hard enough to make a million dollars a year (of which one sees a lot less after the IRS takes their share), and is already know the highest tax bracket, why should they have to then pay more just so others who are not working at all can have the same Healthcare? Medicaid is apparently not good enough for them (I wouldn't it either), but if it is "free", it is atleast something. If one is hit by a bus or gets cancer, atleast they have coverage and will not be ruined by medical bills. And don't forget that all that money that the wealthy pay for good Healthcare often does not get used each year. So it therefore helps the others who do need it (like auto insurance or any other insurance plan). The only Germans who are actually ok with their Healthcare system are those who are healthy and don't actually use it urgently or more often than for eine Jährliche Überprüfung.
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@ralphbernhard1757 Weil ich damals viel junger war und dachte, daß ich gesund war, und zwar nichts mehr brauchen würde. And now, here in the US, my employees who are under 30 all thunk the same way. Most of them don't even realize or remember that they have insurance, let alone use it. Yet as an employer, it costs a fortune every year. And that is just for an HMO. None of them ever opt to pay up and they would all rather have the money in their salary, which is of course, illegal, so they are not terribly thankful to have a job with benefits either. They don't understand that whether it is through their employer or through some version of socialized medicine, they still have to pay for it.
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I haven't gotten to the "people losing their minds" in the media/world yet, but I am sure it is there, LOL!
I want to watch it but it will make me even more twitchy than I am these days raising 3 teenage girls. I think I get it. Not sure I need to see it to feel uncomfortable with the comments that bothered me...because...as she says, it is all already over TikTok (and if one hasn't seen that, they should!!). But some of the things she mentioned are thing we would see on this Netflix program, but NOT on the selection of TikToks that our kids choose to show us (mine happen to tell me which grosses me out enough, and they know it is inappropriate, so I don't need/want to watch). They love freaking me out at the dinner table as we discuss them... and they can't really leave the house, so I don't make that big of a deal right now...I am picking my battles, as we all are I am sure.
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Yup! I am not sure values need to be "ancient", lol, but think maybe more "Leave it to Beaver" 1950's values. And dinner in my house is far from quiet...always a lot of loud debate, everyone talking over eachother and the occasional siblings bickering. But hey, at least they are all tuned in and involved, so I don't mind the noise. We eat, we drink, we laugh, we sing, we play board games, we read. For 25 hours every week, with no internet or TV, no phones, no driving. Just family, friends, synagogue and God. It isn't as serious as you are probably imagining, but that is what makes it the highlight of the week. I don't know what I would do without shabbos! (But don't get me wrong, the minute it is over, the first thing everyone does is run to turn their phone back on...!). Oprah did an interesting series about Orthodox Jews that is worth watching. You can find it on YT. They discuss child rearing and family dynamics as well. Be well!
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Denise G. As someone who was born and raised in Manhattan and lived half my life there, before I moved to LA, I know that you probably don't know 1 person who even voted for Trump. The standard has always been, even for Republicans, to vote Democrat on the local level. And even my Republican friends who still live in the city dislike Trump (including the ones I know secretly voted for him), because the pressure to hate him is just too great. However if you reread what you wrote, it comes across as one-sided to say that I am the one who was brainwashed (I can't be indoctrinated into somewhere I always belonged). Both sides are equally guilty. However I find the double standard of things like "peaceful protests" that end up with neighborhoods beings terrorized by rioting and looting, very tiresome. Especially when I live and work in one of them. Biden and Harris both have terrible track records (their voting records are all public record and readily available to anyone who wants to spend a few minutes to look them up--yet most don't)--whereas, on the top things I look at when supporting a candidate, Trump has actually done quite well. Had he never been given a cell phone or Twitter account, the past 4 years would have played out very differently. But I can look past that and focus on the things that matter to me and affect my everyday life. Just as I don't need to wait and see with Biden as far as what he will do once in office and how I will feel about it. I just hope he can help steer his party in the right direction so that all the people who feel like they won can comport themselves in a respectful manner going forward, instead of acting like the angry, misinformed animals they have been behaving like up until this point.
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Denise G. I hear you and agree with most of your points. I try to stay away from the sweeping generalizations--in general, but specifically within the context of politics. Blame it on my age, but it is getting very disheartening to view an entire generation who act like (and likely are) simply uneducated, misinformed, morons! I can't take it anymore. And while I try to comfort myself that I am sending 4 kids into the world who are not uneducated, misinformed, or just plain stupid, I find myself checking in on them to double check--similar to the way one checks on their newborn who finally stopped crying and fell asleep but you think they stopped breathing, lol. Because we can't compare it to when we were in college, 30 years ago, as there was no internet or social media and it is like comparing apples and oranges. They are both fruit, but... and then add in the fact that, as you mentioned, the Dems dropped the ball now twice--2016 was also a bust--and so while you voted more against Trump, I definitely voted not only against Biden, but again Harris. I am truly frightened by a Harris Presidency, largely bc I focus my vote heavily on foreign policy and her is somewhere between terrible and non-existent to dangerous. I have 2 kids studying abroad and while I care about the environment, I am more concerned about a nuclear Iran (luckily they don't even want to get into bed with Biden even tho he is already warming the sheets!). I can't stand AOC +3. They are simply the end result of a PR exec's wet dream, but one day people will wake up and realize that it was all a one night stand seen through beer googles. In the morning you realize it was all just a bad idea and there isn't the substance to it that you thought would be there past midnight. It is scary how dumb AOC is and how anti-semitic Ilan Omar is. I spoke not thunk, however, that Trump is racist (if it even matters anymore), and I know that he is not anti-semitic. And while Jared is certainly not the smartest in the family (Kushner, not Trump), the Abraham Accord was truly a historic achievement that everyone unfortunately overlooks. I don't think they will be all that welcome back into NY Society (even at KJ), but for the sake of their kids (who are so far, quite lovely actually), I hope people remember the positive things that he was able to achieve as he still has a whole life ahead of him, whereas we won't have to deal with Trump for that much longer. Which bring me back to why I would never have even considered voting for Biden. Hopefully the Dems do better next time around so it is at least a less divisive election! This one was straight out of the history books. I just hope we don't now have to live through The Terror and can all move on. Together, as one nation.
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Denise G. And thank you as well! Especially for not becoming aggressive or calling me names! It is crazy some of the conversations (with strangers) I get involved in (I am female, btw). And I do agree there are bad apples in every party, but it is the ones who danger my life and that of my family directly that I keep an eye on. But actions speak louder than words--or 140 characters on Twitter--and I pay more attention to people's intentions and what motivates them. Just as I put more weight into my personal experience and interactions with individuals rather than their party affiliation. One conversation or experience can affect a person's actions more than a history of voting records. So one photo op, be it Ivanka and a can of beans or Gavin in a restaurant without a mask, never tells the whole story. I didn't mean that Jared was lovely, but his kids. And while Charlie is truly an awful human being, Jared did actually turn out OK, and Arabella is not nearly as spoiled as one would think (yet, atleast). As I always tell my kids, nice goes a long way. As does loyalty. So for the things that matter to me (and my family), I don't have any beef with them. Just as I don't let things like jealousy, or opinions driven by media, influence my views. Watch some of the Campus Reform videos of interviews of college students--they have so little understanding about the things they take a stance on. But they do it anyway to be cool and "woke". I would rather they expended that energy on things they actually cared about and understood. Otherwise one is just wandering aimlessly through the world without a goal in sight.
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Trump aside, people hate wearing masks. Yes, some use politics as an excuse, and we fight with them all the time. Surgeons who wears masks practically all day long, and even enforce the current law in our state, still refuse to wear a mask during their off time, when they (still) host BBQ's, etc. They couldn't care less about what Trump says or does. They just think that they won't get it. Like all the other who think they are immune. No one is immune! But it is no different than the gun argument, or vaccines, or even abortion. People want the right to choose what they do in their private time, and their are enough of them to gather and spread Covid-19. Thus won't be over in November and even if Biden wins, you will see the same problems. You can't blame it on anyone in government.
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@amandap9332 And I will say, working with many non-profits here in LA, where I do dinners for 1,000+ ppl (think the room where the Golden Globes, etc are held, as that us the largest ballroom in LA), that go for hundreds to thousands a plate, I always organize to have an org pick up the leftover food at the end of the night. It has become so difficult to actually give the leftover food away bc they changed the laws. The city would rather have dumpster divers, than homeless ppl eat filet mignon, bc "it sat out for too many hours and ppl may get sick and sue." It has gotten almost too hard to be nice. The insurance costs to protect yourself is prohibitive. Point being, it is a lot more difficult than you would think, even when one means well. And the Dems are to blame, unfortunately.
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Excellent report. But why do people not understand how the markets and our economy is tied to all of this? The supply chain is currently a mess already, with empty shipping containers on one side of the world and full ones on the other and bc of what happened in China, they can't get back to where they need to be. If the markets continue to plummet, production slows down or stops as companies lay people off or just go out of business. People stop shopping, slowing down the basics of supply and demand, again leading to more job loss and companies closing their doors. People then have less money to spend and don't go out to eat, or even buy more than the bare minimum they need. Travel stops, and millions of jobs are affected. People don't understand that the government does not want to create panic yet as it will only accelerate the economic problem that could ground the country to a halt. It is not about rich or poor, Republican or Democrat--it is just common sense. If healthy people would wash their hands more, stop shaking hands, and for now, make smart decisions while they go about their daily lives until we do need to take more draconian measures, the few weeks that we are able to keep things running could save the country's economy billions of dollars. If the markets crash and the hospitals become more understaffed, or insurance companies go out of business, then what? There is not an endless, unlimited supply of money and resources to continue to make the world go round.... that is why it is the job of the President to try and slow down the panic and keep the markets and the economy on track!
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@diamondamongrocks #1 I think you missed the comments before mine, to which I was responding to in jest.
HOWEVER, #2, having raised 4 kids who are already leaders, and of whom I am very proud... regardless if we agree, they know to respect authority, their elders, other people'sviews and opinions, and MOST OF ALL, whatever their view is, they should always comport themselves in a calm, collected and respectful manner. Screaming obscenities simply for air time, when half the viewers will see you as a lunatic, is NOT the way to get your point across. They learned it from me, they learned it from debate class, and they learned it from watching people like the woman in this video. Make it about what you have to say, not about you and how you say it!
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@wolfjarlgrbane5771 Wow! That was quick--thank you! I accept your apology, thank you again! It actually bothered me as I am not used to randomly being called names, especially when I was just suggesting that if one is interested in the 1918 pandemic, it is a fascinating documentary and worth watching, that is all. The news did not cover it accurately at all (Fake News, lol!), which means people will run around misquoting what actually happened (as a historian, it irritates me). And my apologies as well--they were merely in reaction to your words. I also have teens (4), and they are constantly on Tik Tok. I told them they all had to be "private". But I do hear some horror stories from them about their friends and what goes on. Chona aside, the general stupidity of it aside, I don't think it is the healthiest app. And we are all too wrapped up right now to monitor and deal. At least they can't leave the house, lol! Best of luck!
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snailure Yes and no. You are right, I am explaining myself incorrectly. I was including the veterinary coronaviruses, as well as the human ones, I know they are subdivided into classes, and there are a lot of them. Usually one doesnt pay attention, but I did in January when it was announced. The disease and the virus have different names (as they are, of course, different). I do recall last year when the WHO came out with the name (each year they have a novel one, they put the year on the end, but they seem to come up with a new variation of one in animals annually, and as a vet you get an update). I just double checked on the WHO website and found this:
https://www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019/technical-guidance/naming-the-coronavirus-disease-(covid-2019)-and-the-virus-that-causes-it
(and I am glad we left the WHO!). Did you see that memo on the site??!! Assuming it was a memo (I didn't download it). Pretty odd! But, I know I remember correctly. Not that it matters, but it does raise an eyebrow that they changed the name and won't refer to those docs anymore. Nonetheless, the studies of each one had already been done and they used that info to create the vaccine. That is what I read, and heard from colleagues while the research was being done. What their story is today... I don't know. I will edit my previous comment as I don't need the nastygrams... thanks! Stay well!
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I think it depends on the kids. I have a 19, 18, 16 and 16 yr old. They love their phones, but they also watch the news everyday, follow Trump, Newsom and Garcetti on Twitter, and are very outspoken in their support for Israel. I don't think they are going into politics, but they definitely know how they feel about issues like abortion, BLM, immigration, Iran, etc. And they don't all feel the same way, so there is a lot of "healthy debate" in our house.
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We raise children to think if they see something that is wrong in society, don't just complain about it--take action and affect change. And we obviously don't mean with violence. The general perfect example is, if you don't like the policies of X--the school board, your homeowners association, the district you live in, your mayor, senator, etc, etc, you can't just complain about X, you must get involved to create change. Join a committee, volunteer, run for office and help affect change from within. That is the cornerstone of our democracy. And the takeaway from this interview was that she didn't like his choice of words?? If he wants to run, let him run! Everyone who wanted Trump out, voted for Biden and Trump lost. That is the system and the rules apply to everyone.
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@imateapot51 That is the problem. Not only do we not know what the disease will do, there has never been a global wide pandemic, so it is unclear, even to the governments, what to do. We now know a little about what NOT to do. Hopefully you live in one of the cities with hospitals that are prepared, yet won't need to use it! When I was quarantined in the hospital, there was only one very kind nurse who would even come into my room to take my temp, etc. Bc she was from Ethiopia and knew that whatever I had, it was NOT Ebola and she was not scared. Everyone else was. That is the other part of the equation--will there be enough trained staff who will be able and willing to treat the sick? Hopefully yes. And yes, the CDC is a government agency but I would not waste your time mixing your feelings about Trump with your worries about the efficacy of the CDC. They are a well run, very thorough organization (almost annoyingly so, they called so often to follow up on me). I cannot donate blood unfortunately but yes, bc of what went on in the 80's, I would still be hesitant should I need blood or a transfusion. It was a harrowing thought back then, but presumably the supply now is much more carefully screened and controlled.
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@byttlejuice145 Correct, Coronavirus cannot be contracted via mosquitoes. Unlike Dengue, or West Nile, where the vector for both, is a mosquito (and a specific species of mosquito at that.). I have contracted both. From mosquitoes. From different countries, at different times. It is Dengue that now makes me high risk, as Dengue can reoccur should I have a respiratory infection (whereas West Nile cannot reoccurand does not make me high risk). It was when I contracted West Nile after a trip to Africa, that the CDC discovered from my test and my tithers that I had contracted Dengue seven months prior in Rio. Also note it took the CDC 7 days to give me a diagnosis. And by then, I had already, stupidly, I now admit, I had left the hospital as I then felt fine and could not take it anymore as I had 4 kids to get home to...I wouldn't do that again, but luckily I was not contagious. At any point. They did follow up relentlessly, I will say. To the point that I stopped calling back. Something else I feel bad about! (Pls note I am not sure what you read that was unclear but please let me know so I can clarify it. Whatever I wrote was clearly misunderstood as I am always very clear on each disease, my history and experience, and the disease's vector.) Thanks!
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Fantastisch! Echt gut! Bei mir ging es auch so... in der 9. Klasse mit Deutsch auf der Schule angefangen. Wir sind dann für 2 Monaten in Bielefeld gewesen--Da haben wir einen Austausch mit dem Gymnasium in Bielefeld gemacht, und die Kinder sind nach den USA gekommen. Dann war ich ein Jahr in Würzburg, an der Uni. Und dann danach, als ich mit der Uni fertig war, habe ich bei Daimler Benz (in NY) gearbeitet (und auch mal in Hamburg und Stuttgart gearbeitet). Aaaaaber...weil ich jetzt doch öfters mein Deutsch mit meinen Klienten üben kann, bemerke ich dass mein Deutsch bestimmt besser ist, nachdem ich eine Menge Zeit wieder in Deutschland mit denen bin. Also dass heisst, mehr als eine Woche, aber die ganze Zeit wo ich nur Deutsch reden muss. (Bis ich auf Deutsch wieder träume...) Ihr sollt dass beide noch erinnern, als ihr beide älter werdet und wollt euren Deutsch nicht verlieren....! Naja, diese Diskussion hat mir ganz gut gefallen... sehr Interessant (ich habe irgendwie dass gefühlt gehabt, dass ich gerade dabei war! 😅). Ich habe auch VIELE Geschichten gehabt, die genauso ging wie bei Euch! Sehr lustig!Vielen Dank!!
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What makes Peter's videos interesting is that we are on the journey with him as he learns about and discovers a new culture. However, as he is new to all of it, he still has a lot to learn, and therefore, what the right questions to ask are. It was discussed in the comments, for example, on a previous video. The person being interviewed said something (twice) as a lead in for him to delve into it further, as she was signaling to a topic that many viewers would want to know more about (as we all mentioned in the comments). But until someone learns more about the community, they wouldn't necessarily pick up on that comment and investigate it further. Documentary filmmakers are generally showing viewers more about a topic so they feel, after they have watched it, that they have seen and experienced a new world as an insider would. There are a few on YT that you may find interesting, and when you read thru the comments and see the questions, you can see the difference between being introduced to a new culture as an outsider vs. learning about a culture from an insider who is asking the questions that an average viewer would not even think to ask. Here is an example...Malky makes music videos that say "for women, by women". Why do they say that? There is a concept in Judaism called Kol Isha, in which men cannot listen to women singing (it is considered too sensual). As with everything else, there are exceptions to the rule... if you are listening thru a microphone, if it isn't live, etc. But if one does not even know that the law exists, one would not know to delve into the topic. Orthodox Judaism is very complex... but it is interesting watching someone experience and appreciate it!
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@SarahAvi That is wonderful that you have had such great experiences with Satmar. However, in general, within the Ultra-Orthodox groups, they are known to be not so happy... it is not my opinion, I am just speaking about the generalized view of Satmar by other groups such as Chabad--who, granted, has a different outlook and approach to the secular world. That doesn't mean that you, or others, have not had good individual experiences with Satmar, just that they are not typically viewed as open and friendly. And while Unorthodox is a true story, it is still a dramatized version of a very tragic story. I recommend people watch "Shtisel" instead, if they want an inside look of Ultra-Orthodox Jewish daily life. But remember, they are all movies, not documentaries. The is another show about the Orthodox Jewish community in Manchester on YT (Strictly Kosher I think?) that is worth a watch. Shows the different layers of Modern Orthodoxy and could be Flatbush, LA or Jerusalem.
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@vivsreds1006 Also, there is a kosher hotel and restaurant in Jaco Beach. While Chabad is everywhere, one also often finds other Orthodox synagogues and restaurants if there are enough Jews in the community to support it. While the Syrian Jews, who can be found mostly in Brooklyn and Deal, NJ, also have large communities in Central and South America, with schools, shuls and restaurants (such as, in Panama--some of the best food I have ever had!), so it makes it very easy to vacation in those places. My family started the Jewish community in a popular vacation spot years ago when my great Aunt and Uncle wanted to move there full-time. But when you move somewhere and there is no community, what do you do? Call Chabad! Now that same Rabbi who Chabad sent out there as a young married man has around 12 kids, and they are now grown up with families and working at other beach locations nearby with their own Chabad houses that they started all because of Uncle Irving! (Although they still charged me full price when I ordered a bunch of shabbat food when we were there last...🤔). It all started with a desire for more Judaism in their life and a phone call! (Ok, and a lot of money to help fund the whole operation, but still...).
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Also, erstens muss ich fragen ob du Ostdeuscher bist? Und zweitens muss ich erklären dass ein Deutscher nicht sagen darf, daß er so was so schrecklich findet. Dass klingt irgendwie doof an. Daß geht einfach nicht. Ja, du hast den 2. Weltkrieg studiert, aber ob du dass gelernt hast ist eine andere Sache. Bei uns, geht es einfach nicht, dass wir 6 Millionen Juden umbringen könnten, nur weil wir etwas gegen Juden hatten. Das versteht keiner bei uns nicht. Du hättest irgendwas sagen können wenn du nicht mit "Ich bin Deutscher" angefangen hättest. Und zwar auch wenn es leider nicht so lange her ist, dass wir alle keine Erinnerung daran hätten. Besonders für den Juden, die immer noch am leben sind. Unsere Geschichte mit dem Schwarzen ist hunderte Jahre lang her, und wir haben immer noch Probleme damit (wie du gesehen hast). Wie kannst du denn meinen dass die Juden und alle andere die bei dem Deutschen Händen gestorben sind, dass alles schon vorbei ist? Ich sage dass ja alles nur um zu erklären. Du siehst ja schon was die anderen gesagt haben (und zwar auch denken). Bald wird dass alles Geschichte, aber jetzt zur Zeit, ist dass immer noch frisch in der Erinnerung für viele Leute.
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All of the banks are in the same boat. Either already, or will be, or simply could be. It is the system that is broken, not one bank in particular. And we certainly are not going to get a list of banks where it is "safe to bank". That in itself (publishing a list) wouldn't be legal. And beyond that, after having read through all the comments and seeing how little people understand about what is happening, or how banking operates in general, it is scary to see how easy it is for not only scammers to take advantage of people, but just even the banks to get away with what they do. And legally! Who ever reads the fine print on anything? And when you do, if you object to something, there is never an option to change the clause you don't agree with. It is always take it or leave it. The average consumer is not an attorney, or a banker, or a fiduciary advisor, etc. Nonetheless, I am shocked at some of the comments I have read. If you have specific questions about how to bank safely, your best bet is to ask your accountant or your financial advisor. There are even some good YouTubers who make videos about specific topics you can search on. With all the recent changes, in each state, to the laws regarding the Cares Act and Covid, my bookkeeper and I have found some of them particularly helpful lately (otherwise I wouldn't have even known they existed). And it is cheaper than calling my CPA everytime I have a question. Good luck!
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@alexandrgreat5657 As I have 2 kids in Uni abroad, I watch news from overseas daily, so I am more up to date on most. Nonetheless, if we were having this conversation in May, or June/July, we would be arguing a very different point. Which only tells us that one can't actually say at this point, whether their approach was the best. They went with an it is a marathon not a sprint approach (knowing that their elderly couldn't keep up--another discussion entirely), because they felt that their citizens would ride to the challenge of self monitoring themselves. Not every country can say the same, just as each State within the US is different. Comparing all of the US to one country in Europe is nonetheless, ridiculous. But moreover, until the dust has settled once this is all over, and everyone has some perspective when viewing the data, only then can it be analyzed. So, no, I do not necessarily think that Sweden is doing ok. And certainly can't say they are doing better or worse than the US.
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@HeiBred I understand that you are seeing it all play out from afar, and in the media, but please don't believe everything you see and hear. The media is out of control and has been for the past 4 years. The reason that the news keeps playing impeachment stories is because they are concerned their ratings will plummet after January 20th when Trump is out. They know that Biden is boring, when they can even get him out of his basement to answer questions. He spoke last night and it was ridiculous. With an impeachment story, the cable news channels will be able to continue to cover Trump and keep their viewership. Even at the expense of keeping the country divided. And Trump closed the borders early. But if you recall, when he did, Biden called him names for doing it, Pelosi did as well, and then pulled that stunt in Chinatown in SF. Then shortly thereafter we had the situation where Fauci admitted to misleading the country regarding face masks. For some reason, of all the international news I watch daily for work, in various languages to understand how the world sees the US, the virus and how it is affecting different countries across the globe, Sky News Australia is always very pro-Trump and reports from a right-wing, Republican perspective. Why? I can never figure out why Australians in particular, have their own equivalent of FOX News. But, if you have been watching that, alongside other, more left leaning news channels, you have likely gotten a well rounded view of what is going on here. Nonetheless, the stories they all run are the few outlier examples that make for interesting news. You can assume the whole country is that way. Just as the few nutjobs who stormed the Capitol don't represent every republican in the US. Or the 74 million who voted for Trump. (Side note--I also really enjoy Australia's 60 minutes! Much better than ours!)
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@HeiBred I don't know if you are an American living overseas, or just a foreigner interested in American politics, but what happened with Dr. Fauci and the masks was covered by every single news channel. Not just right wing media. You can type it into YouTube or Google and watch the stories. I was only pointing it out because you were Monday morning quarterbacking by saying that Trump should have responded sooner. Those who recall what happened here in the US remember how it played out. However crazy and awful he has been on many occasions, it still does not mean that they way they responded to the virus in the beginning was necessarily wrong, or was the cause of more deaths. And again,, I don't know what perspective you are viewing this all from,, however to state that you don't care for the Republicans or the Democrats, and at the same time say that bc I am trying to show issues that have occurred on both sides of the aisle, making them equally to blame, yet stating that that must make me a Trump supporter/and or a Republican and therefore a bad person is a bit disingenuous. This country is made up of 70+ million people who voted for Trump, or just voted against Biden/Republican, as well as 70+ million who voted against Trump/for Biden or Democrat. Either way, Trump is out, Biden is President and the entire country must find a way to move forward. We have enough issues to work through right now. We don't need to focus on gratuitous comments from the peanut gallery. It isn't helpful.
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@HeiBred I unfortunately hate golf (I am terrible at it but my son was captain of the team in HS, lol!)... but I love riding, and used to work with horses when younger (running a hack stable in Upstate NY in the summers during college). I used to compete as a hobby when younger, at camp in Colorado--Rodeo (barrels, poles and flags)--very American! At the dude ranch where I ran the barn, all of our staff came from Camp America and CCUSA, so I had many Aussies and Kiwis come work as wranglers and they produced the best horseman (with the ability to easily switch over to western style). While that was before the internet, when people still felt very isolated coming from Australia, and would save up for their trip abroad when they would then spend 6 months traveling America before they would go back and settle down, there are still some similarities now. Especially during Covid. I have been waiting over a year for a few surgeries so I have not really left my house much this past year. I understand what you mean about trying to manage the pain and get some sleep. And I too have been watching a ton of YouTube, which started for work, and then became quite a nasty habit I think.... 🤔 but nonetheless, it doesn't matter where one comes from, everyone has bias. Unless it is about something that they didn't even know existed--like asking a rural farmer in a fly over state who started working on the family dairy farm right out of HS and has never been out of his town, what he thinks about Maori culture, or other aboriginals (the small a being intentional), such as Torres Straight Islanders and Aboriginals (big A) and the issues they face in Australian society... I am going to take a leap and guess that the farmer will give you a blank stare back. Honestly, so would my husband! Maybe he might break into a Haka, but it would still take him a few minutes to put it together. Other than those isolated incidents, it is impossible for people to escape forming a biased opinion one way or the other. It is human nature. And it starts with the way one first encountered the person or subject matter and how it was presented to them. I am personally a little sensitive to the way the media covers Jared and Ivanka for example, as I know one of them and share common friends with the other (and I don't typically even write this much about it in the comments section online). The coverage was ridiculous from the start. At this point, it is pure conjecture and people hear stories about them which may as well be fairy tales. Yet everyone feels that they know them, what they are thinking, what they say and do--it is absurd! Having heard that go on these past 4 years, knowing that the media is simply making news up, how can I now believe anything they say or write? Unless it is sourced properly and confirmed. So when you say that Trump is anti-science or science illiterate, or would not listen to his scientific advisors (I don't recall if you said would not or did not), think back on where and how you heard this. And of course you would have formed a bias upon hearing it. The person reporting it probably influenced that bias as well. And that is the problem right now in America. On both sides. And what makes it worse is when people are stuck at home watching the news and that is their only source of news and opinion. There is no more water cooler talk at the office where you can hear other opinions or stories of other people's experiences. Or me saying Trump is NOT an anti-semite, they have it all wrong. Jared's father may be the worst person and criminal to walk the earth, but his mother is lovely and his father-in-law is not an anti-semite. All we hear, we hear solely from the media and the extreme outlier stories they cover to make a point, and make news. It is very misleading and we all fall victim to it. It is a big problem!
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@mikeherschhersch82 Yes, it truly is an oxymoron. And the wig culture, especially in Modern Orthodox circles, is definitely a mystery that no one would be able to give you a rational answer as to how it has become ok to wear such sexy locks (that are almost always nicer than the real thing). Certainly if you are going to spend $3-$5K on a wig, you want it to look as good as possible. And tzniut, while there are of course, rules, is still largely a concept. Shoes for example. One would not normally think if shoes as "too sexy", however I have friends who won't wear certain shoes because they are not tznius (maybe their husband has a foot fetish?) Other, more strict sects, have their own standards as to what a wig should look like, or whether one should wear a hat as well. But if you look back over the decades, the style of hat has not changed (still 1960's), the haircut is out of style and the wig itself is of a lesser quality (and less expensive), so all of those things together make all the women look the same--dowdy, not fashionable and not attractive. But they wear it with pride because it also signals to "I am more religious than you" (another neighboring sect in Brooklyn for example), which is very common. Everyone is always trying to outdo the person next door in the "who is the most religious" contest. In some Chabad circles, it is who has the hippest, best quality, best looking wig. Whereas in Satmar, they have a different look and a different standard. It is confusing and complicated. And has changed a lot over the years.
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Just because you are allergic to penicillin, opioids and NSAIDS, doesn't mean you can't get vaccinated. You have likely been vaccinated already as babies are started at a very early age. You can get your blood drawn and get your titers taken to follow up, if concerned. As you probably already know, the mycin family of antibiotics are a good substitute for the penicillin family. Just as there are subs for NSAIDs and opioids--the chemical make up of pain killers vary greatly and there are other COX-2 inhibitors that you can take with good results. And yes, those are meds, but they are also different from vaccines (which gives you the actual virus). Different chemical make-up, function, and goal. Vaccines save lives! Your GP can go over it with you, but regarding your other allergies, should you ever need anything due to pain, aside from wearing a bracelet and having it in your medical file, you should know what you can tolerate without consequence, so a doctor can treat you in an emergency. I would not suggest Tramadol for childbirth for example, but that is why it is good to know ahead of time. And your food allergies often have a lot to do with your med allergies.
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