Comments by "Aga" (@aga5109) on "The cruelty of Steve Jobs and Elon Musk | Walter Isaacson and Lex Fridman" video.

  1. ​@Milkmans_Son It is not exclusive to Germans. Being straightforward in a polite way pays off. No sugar coating but also not being rude. Although many people were conditioned not to do that. I think one can decide what sucks for him/her by their standards & can tell that without attacking a person personally & then they can discuss with another person. And vice versa.
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  2. ​ @TP-gx8qs l agree.
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  3. True, but l think that progress would never have happened without highly driven people who want to change this world into the Paradise, demanding sacrifices from others.
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  4. ​ @Diomedes99 True. Terrifying. There's many people who are trapped in abuse without proper resources or help.
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  5. ​​@superpsychoschizo ​ That's true. I had a friend who is highly narcissistic. I have known her for 4 years, being her close friend. I am very empathetic, caring, and sensitive. There were times l used to feel different and couldn't fit in. After a few years since l ended this friendship, l can see what played out. I wasn't able to see it at that time because she manipulated me into the best friendship l was in so far. I was in a new place on my own & l needed people. I have a narcissistic-father l was close to as a child. I had a need to belong. I wasn't looking after myself the way l should. I felt like a young child emotionally, although l was in my late 20ties. I was really lost & hurt. She somehow picked up on it. I treated her like a big sister l never had. Trauma played out in this relationship to an extended l am amazed now at. It felt like having a great friend, a sister, and a mother who navigates my life, thinks for me. First time in life, such a great friendship. She was so sweet, wise, etc. I didn't pay attention at that time how cruely critical she was about certain people.l was landed the best person ever l could meet wanting to be my friend. Oftentimes, strategic, logical, cold, and adhering to her goals and plans, which were difficult, sometimes impossible to be achieved. She was mega ego maniac at times, fantasising on what she will achieve (she is very hard working, she achieved some of her goals, using other people and exploiting them, manipulating them into being servants on a" court of a quinn" )& needing her badly, controled & controlled by her. Regardless, she used people who could contribute to it like chess in a game. There were confusing moments when she raged at me for a trivial reason, moments of cruelty, rejections, cold shoulder, selfishness, extremely demanding attitude when l needed empathy or more serious situations when she picked another person as her helper, more capable than l was for given circumstances. It hurt, but l was blinded by her brilliant personality, achievements & very sad, traumatic childhood she openly told me about almost straight away after we met. She was very special. I felt very confused in this relationship. I tried to leave it once, but circumstances were unfavourable. I was in a survival mode. I had to survive at that time. She exploited me as much as she could. When she didn't need me, she just threw me out of her life. It came as a shock. It is difficult to see if a person is narcisistic if you are in a relationship this person needs you. There are hints, though. I am grateful for my lesson, which contributed to my growth and, in a way, catapulted me to the next level & as a result, the next level of emotional maturity and so on. I had to finish it, though. At that time, l couldn't. I was too afraid l wouldn't be able to cope with life without this person, my dear friend l was extremely loyal to. A year later, l decided to study psychotherapy & help people professionally. It included my own psychotherapy as a part of a training. I had a good outlet for stress and traumas. I can help people with my own life experience & with my professional knowledge & experience. I am glad. I think many things in life happen for a reason. But we need to process and get free from our traumas because they DO have a profound, unconscious impact on us. Sometimes radical, necessary changes in life help us to move forward in the right direction instead of being "in a loop" and repeat trauma. It's called the process of maturing emotionally & process of healing.
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  6. Yes, because this reality is created by narcisistic and psychopatic individuals who thrive in it to the detriment of others, less disordered individuals.
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  7. I agree with this quote. In the end, everything is for a reason, and everything makes sense. It is not only my limited experience but people l talk to who stepped on a development path. As irrational as it might sound, it is true.
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