Comments by "Aga" (@aga5109) on "Secret to romantic relationships | Andrew Huberman and Lex Fridman" video.

  1. I think friendship first. How can we love someone we have no clue about & just guessing and idealising? It's a projection of ourselves we are in love with and fuzzy feeling of being in love. But also looking out for somebody who is responsible, good communicator, hard working & funny. Sustaining long term relationship & family requires maturity. It can be learnt along the way, provided a potential is there.Physical attraction is important, sharing same goals, mutual understanding, playfulness. I think " covert contracts" in part may come from self-protective strategies coming from early attachment and relational traumas. It's good to know them & learn to communicate them to your partner. Something undermining safety of a bond is really damaging in a close relationship. It evokes safety behaviours and mechanisms. Depending on attachment style they can be unconsciously damaging.
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  2. Maybe you should look for love elsewhere to where you have looked before. Fingers crossed!
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  3. Agree.
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  4. 😂
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