Comments by "Crazy Eyes" (@CrizzyEyes) on "What to do if your Partner Offers an Open Relationship" video.

They'll just say "you agreed to this. Why are you upset? Your divorce is unjustified, she gets the kids"
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In school they taught this to me as "passionate" vs. "compassionate" love. The former is what you feel when the relationship is new and exciting. The latter is what you feel when you've settled in and genuinely care for the other person as you would a member of your family, because that's what they should be to you.
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I'd definitely say the likelihood of being murdered is higher than average.
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@Xplora213 He's musing on the reason for the marriage.
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That dude is such a stereotypical "liberal cuck" that it's hard to laugh at him. I just feel sad for him.
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@freikugelmorning3789 I've known exactly one guy who had a "successful" open relationship, but it was basically just them occasionally taking on a third, always a girl. So, not really the same thing. Also, she turned out to be an immature person who never grew out of her high school habits of literally writing fanfiction while his interests turned to outdoors activities and wanting to build a farm, so he ended up leaving her many years later. The "successful" part is their threesomes never specifically became the bane of their relationship. "Traditionally" this sort of activity is reserved for middle aged couples who are or are soon to be empty nesters. They have perhaps gotten tired of themselves and want to do other things now that they're done taking care of the kids. The human brain isn't wired to do this around the 20s or 30s when you don't have kids. It's weird how people can instinctually find it revolting, then say "oh it means I need therapy" and not "this weird behavior simply isn't for me." I don't typically shell out thousands of dollars for therapy because I don't like doing something.
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"I am suddenly apprehensive of all other sorts of attachments." No, you were apprehensive about them to begin with, which is why you had an open relationship. If you had a marriage with a man who didn't want an open relationship, you would have never had this problem. This behavior just blows my mind.
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What a clown world we live in where the counter-culture rebellious thing to do is to want to wait until marriage for sex and always stay monogamous. She sounds like a perceptive girl that realizes the relationship structure (or lack thereof) is the cause of frequent fights and disharmony around the house.
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@keyboardguru4212 Stereotypes sadly exist for a reason. Not even because of the other stereotype that gay people have a higher chance of being promiscuous, but because the anus is biologically not well suited for preventing sexually transmitted diseases.
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The irony of that is seeking the opinions of the learned academics instead of comparing along the lines he should have -- American grassroots beliefs and traditions to the Islamic fundamentalist equivalent of grassroots beliefs and traditions. The learned academics are always the ones to question tradition and throw the baby out with the bathwater.
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People like this legitimately treat relationships like jobs. This and that other video about the woman who keeps a spreadsheet of the guys she's dating, their qualities, their relationship status etc. opened my eyes to their disgusting mindset. When you're a skilled worker, it can be a good idea to look for a new job while keeping your old one so you have the safety of income. This isn't how you're supposed to treat love with another person. More insane is how these people make it to middle age and never realize why they're extremely unhappy.
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@Miranox2 Eh, not really, if someone has it in their mind that they deserve to have sex with other people then that's a seed planted in their mind that can only be removed by fundamentally changing how they think about themselves. They are likely very self-centered or not as interested in a long term relationship as they thought they were. Most people aren't therapists and can't move such a mountain. They will likely go behind your back to get what they want if they are that self-centered. Because who really cares about your feelings anyway?
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@Eric Nunya Porn is omnipresent. Good luck enforcing that law. We already have a law stating that you must be 18 to look at porn. Virtually nobody follows it. Even if the law you speak of existed, and a theoretical enforcement system existed (and was effective, which is extremely unlikely), people would create "communal" drivers' licenses that were legitimate but the number would be shared among minors specifically for the use of looking at porn.
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@Eric Nunya Do you have reading problems? I never advocated for the removal of the minimum age.
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@Eric Nunya You can't illegally buy booze online very easily. Assuming you're underage, someone will have to be there to pick up the package, and it will likely be your parent or guardian. In-person purchases are important to preventing illegal purchases of booze because the seller can gauge the age of the buyer at a glance. The analogy simply doesn't work. If it did, booze would be omnipresent for free on every street corner. You would accidentally trip over cases of booze on your way to work or your mailbox. There would be ads at many vendors that would give you brochures that you could turn in for free booze at said vendor. You suffer from the same misperception many people have when they try to compare selling real tangible products, like a bottle of booze, to selling software. They're incomparable because software and data have nearly zero production and distribution cost.
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