Comments by "Crazy Eyes" (@CrizzyEyes) on "The Shame of Adult Virgins and their Identity Crisis" video.

You're overthinking it. The goal is to spend time with another person that you enjoy spending time with. Maybe you learn something from talking to each other, maybe it's just a way to pass time, maybe you share a hobby. If you don't enjoy spending time with other people, then you may be an edge case, but that doesn't mean there isn't someone out there you can connect with. There is no "I want something" in a friendship. That isn't a friendship, that's a manipulative person trying to take advantage.
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@CBfrmcardiff I do know a few women as friends and they've never bothered to hook me up with anyone. Even after asking about it. Possibly because the women I do know don't have that many women friends themselves, possibly because they're also weird (not a knock on them). That's the curse of being weird enough. You have to be lucky enough to find a group of like-minded people you can be friends with or you may just go through your whole life alone. I consider myself one of the lucky ones.
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@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 That would be difficult considering the guy who made this video is not a woman.
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I think that living your life in the hopes that a benevolent higher being will admit you into the Super Special Cool Kids Club instead of living your life with genuine feelings for other people is very disingenuous, but hey, for some reason "heaven" is always the first thing that's brought up. Gotta chase that carrot.
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@rejectionisprotection4448 There's a lot of media out there that portrays men's feelings about being with a virgin as a burden, especially if they're just looking for hookups. They are afraid of the virgin being too emotionally attached and getting in the way of their promiscuity. I think the real solution to all of this is to not "try to get laid," as mentioned in the Reddit post. Call me a Puritan if you want, but I very rarely see people who are both genuinely happy, and promiscuous, who have not had a family. It's just not a combination of traits I see often if at all, and if they are happy it only lasts for a phase of their life. Maybe more often in older people; I mean 45 and up. Usually those people also already have had kids and seen them grow up. Their mind is probably freed of that burden of responsibility, of needing to reproduce. It's weird that society focuses on just the sex part, but that really isn't the fundamental problem in my opinion. In reality it is "easy" to get laid; you just have to have absolutely no standards. Many men have done this because they have so little self-respect that they NEED to be able to say they've been laid or else they can't live with themselves. Even if the act of coitus itself was so shameful that they'd lie about it or never go into detail.
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@CBfrmcardiff First of all, being pointed to an app isn't helpful at all. Secondly, as others have mentioned, a man asking a woman for dating advice has always been a joke. The problem here is that the activity of dating is, frankly, wholly unappealing. My problem is that I'm introverted, but just socially outgoing enough to know that I have a very hard time relating to almost everybody. I know I sound like a prick, but a part of me secretly wishes that I lived 500 years in the past and that my marriage was arranged for me. At least then, the both of us would have to make it work, and I feel like I am good at persuasion and compromise. However, I'm not that good at small talk. I don't relate to most people and I don't have any passion for watching TV, or most mainstream activities for that matter. I take care of myself physically, but the idea of spending my entire evening of free time on someone I don't know, only to roll the roughly 95% chance that I won't like them or find them boring -- it's just very unappealing. Not to mention that goes both ways. If I actually think I'll like someone for a change, and they don't, the evening is also wasted. I've thought about dating online so I get a chance to talk to someone first and form a connection, but even that is unappealing, because I've met a lot of people who use it just for hookups so that's the impression I'm left with for online dating. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just lazy when it comes to people. I just don't have that much patience for them. I do have a lot of other male friends who I feel lucky to have, but every time I consider spending time trying to court someone I don't know, my mind returns with a resounding "meh." I just don't care. At the same time, a part of me would like to have the deep bonding experience of raising a family. Just wish I didn't have to trudge through all the "dating" crap.
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@ponternal Depression is a sickness in the brain that can be objectively measured with chemistry. So yeah, it's real.
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@rightcliquegod7653 I'd like to know which romantic relationships you've been in that allow you to be totally transparent or "truly who you are." You are a very lucky individual if that is the case. Almost every relationship I've ever seen is about compromise, which is by definition doing something you don't want in order to please another party. Male bonding is usually specifically about being "who you are" with very little if any judgment.
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