Comments by "" (@SuccessWheels) on "Charisma on Command" channel.

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  8. some NOTES here 1. WHEN IT COMES TO PERSUASION, GO SLOW: When people are offered an information clashes with their belief systems they will often disagree reflexively if they aren’t given time to integrate the new information. 2. BUILDING RAPPORT: If someone doesn’t like you the opt of changing their minds are zero. If you have something positive to share then you don’t need to hold back. Also try to find commonalities between two of you which immediately make them feel you are like them which again make them see your view with less suspicion. 3. DON’T USE INSULTS WHEN ARGUING: If you get to a point like insult have been heard then you no longer changing mind but competing in a dominant scale. Insult aren’t doing anything to change anyone mind and winning an insulting argument isn’t going to get you very far in that department. 4. ATTEMPT TO CONCISELY SUMMARIZE HOW THE OTHER PERSON FEELS: It satisfies a core emotional need for anyone might change their mind, that makes them feel personally validated. Repeating their position back to them, asking for clarification is an effective way to do that. 5. MAKE IT CLEAR THAT YOU’RE SPEAKING FROM YOUR INDIVIDUAL PERCEPTION OF REALITY: Try not to highlight your opponents concession or contradiction with upward. You want to frame the discussion not as tug of war but search for an agreement where you both contribute. Even you feel like the other person has been a jerk then don’t gloat victory just calmly call out that you agree. My crazy passion is to share summaries like started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries ✌ Alright it's time for me to change my wife's mind that I really love her. Just Kidding she knows I love her 😜
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  9. some NOTES here 1. FIRST THING YOU DO IS SHARING YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS: When you meet or talking to someone you keep talking about your proud achievements all the time. Solution: Let your achievement come organically. First connect with people, build rapport, crack jokes, generate trust then share your achievements. 2. DIVERTING YOUR ATTENTION: If something is interrupting the conversation then you easily get diverted out of current conversation. Solutions: Finish up what you were saying before engaging with the interrupter. 3. HOW YOU HANDLE BEING INTERRUPTED IN SINGULAR CONVERSATION: Most times when we get interrupted by someone then we don’t really react in a right way. Solution: Finish your point before engaging with the interrupter, finish your sentence strongly, with same speed, volume. 4. NOT FOLLOWING THROUG ON YOUR WORDS: Sometime we tend to talk about the things that we don’t believe or follow through, basically don’t walk the talk. Solution: Talk about things you can follow through. 5. INSTANTLY CHANGING YOUR ENERGE LEVELS BASED ON WHAT YOU CAN GET FROM SOMEONE: Some people tend to show the interest depending on who they are talking to especially keeping in mind what they can get from other person. Solution: Keep a higher level of baseline enthusiasm when out in public. Be friendly, engage, don’t stare at your phone. 6. SELLING TO YOUR FRIENDS & FAMILY: Sometime people try to convert social links into currency which can disrupt the relationship. Solution: You should be able to sell to people that you don’t know because the product speaks for itself. 7. LAPSES IN HONESTY & INTEGRITY: You don’t mean what you say, bluff people with dishonesty. Solution: Act in congruence with your words. In hard situation if you do the right thing which is hard everyone around has the massive respect. As always my passion is to share summaries like started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries ✌ This was seriously by far the best video for me Charlie since I know I have done few of them 😜
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  11. Steal my NOTES 1. DO NOT DEMONIZE EXES: Emotionally mature people are less interested in blending & demonizing and far more interested in learning from their experiences. 2. RECOGNIZE IF THEY’RE CONTRIBUTING TO BAD EXPERIENCE: Instead of indulging more into bad experiences, they use that bad experience to inspire themselves which they can change & there by change the results. 3. DON’T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OTHERS FEELINGS: This is a common pitfall as people become more emotionally mature, so as not be a victim they assume responsibility before everything. 4. GET ANGRY, SAD & ANXIOUS: Anger, sad & anxious nature is normal part of healthy life & if you repress it then you will be damaged. So give yourself permission to feel you own negative emotions by acknowledging & moving through them that you can release hidden destructive habits. 5. DON’T NEED TO DEWELL OR WALLOW: Always the goal should understanding & self compassion not victimization or self pity. So sit with your negative emotion & dig through roots of those emotions & then with care solve the problem 6. CAN SPEAK ABOUT EMOTIONS WITHOUT GETTING EMOTIONAL: You don’t have to yell how angry you are, instead when you express those emotion just say that with strong posture. Understand the difference between venting vs problem solving. 7. CAN PAUSE: They move often slowly in more aggression moments, take deep breath & wait a few seconds before responding allowing for better decision making. My passion is to share summaries like started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries ✌ Frankly I am living half of these signs, which means I need be better at emotionally maturity level 😝
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  12. Some NOTES here 1. SUB-COMMUNICATE THAT YOU AREN'T THERE FOR A FIGHT: If you try to argue then no matter how good you are your point won’t be well received. Solution is A. to slow things down: It reduces the tension and opens up the other person with his perspective. Take a deep breath as you are about to speak. B. Inflection: Upward inflections are excellent in de-escalating conflict. This indicates that you are not trying command them. C. Ability to crack a joke: This relieves some tension when you are debating self believes and brings more constructive outcome. But make sure you should be willing to take a joke too. 2. ASK QUESTIONS INSTEAD OF MAKING STATEMENTS: This comes as less confrontation than statement provided that they are not provocative accusatory questions. A. Genuine questions: Ask and then try to state back to them their own beliefs in your words B. Questions that probe for inconsistencies in beliefs in a non-accusatory way: This is kind of socratic method. 3. CONFIDENTLY DEFEND YOURSELF WITHOUT COMING ACROSS AS ANTAGONISTIC: The best method for this is ‘yes, but’. First you agree & build upon the statement other person made and then to make your argument you create but statement Mindset that concludes all these together: 1. You are not necessarily right 2. Adjusting your beliefs, doesn’t diminish you 3. Its never because they are evil As always my passion is to share summaries like started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries🙌 My favorite one was ask question instead of making statement✌
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  22. some NOTES here 1. OFTEN ENGAGE IN FANTASY: Visualization include the work necessary to achieve a goal VS Fantasies focus merely on the crowning moment of glory. Make sure you visualization include not just the moment of success but also some of the realistic efforts that are going to be required to get there which will inspire you to take appropriate actions rather than just miracle to occur. 2. SELF EFFICACY: Dedicated hardworking can make an impact. If you want to feel confident don’t ever undercut your own self efficacy, take small steps to improve your life whenever needed. 3. NO OUTLET WHERE ARTHUR CAN HONESTLY EXPRESS HIS EMOTIONS: Find some sort of healthy outlet for challenging emotions, it could be rigorous exercise, hitting punching bag etc. But integrating your shadow side will make you much more confident since you likely no longer denying the aspects of yourself. 4. ARTHUR INADVERTENTLY DISOWNS ASPECTS OF HIMSELF: Our emotional lives are complex & they do not fit neatly into the language that we describe to ourselves. When we feel forced to make confront to the way we describe ourselves we engage in self denial. 5. EVERYTHING WE HAVE DISCUSSED RESULTS IN ARTHUR’S TOTAL HATRED OF THE WORLD: Think what it’s like to be the other guy at some point today, this empathetic perspective makes you far more socially affected & it makes you less likely to become caught up in negative spirals which addictive as them may feel. As always my passion is to share summaries like started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries ✌ Its time to crush arthur or may be think what it's like be Arthur 🤔
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