Comments by "Wobbles And Bean" (@WobblesandBean) on "This is How a Stalker's Brain Works And It's Really Disturbing" video.

  1. And as long as you refuse to accept objective reality and try to silence anybody who even mentions the disorder in a realistic light instead of sugarcoating things to spare your fragile personality, then nothing will change. There's only a "stigma" because you get all offended and refuse to have an open and honest discussion about it. Like it or not, the symptoms of BPD can be incredibly toxic if unchecked and untreated. You sound like you're not trying to work on that, you're just trying to excuse it and even pretend that you don't have to accept any responsibility for your actions because of it. Why should people think you're not going to be abusive when you won't even acknowledge the truth that things like extreme mood swings, emotional outbursts, and an irrational fear of and aversion to rejection aren't potentially toxic behaviors?
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  2. Gotta love all the BPD people in the comments getting big mad cuz they'd rather silence Thoughty2 and anyone else bringing up the objective reality regarding this disorder, than face that reality and have an open and honest discussion about it. How can you whine about a "stigma" when by refusing to allow even the mere mention of typical symptoms of BPD, you yourselves are perpetuating said stigma? I have CPTSD, which is often misdiagnosed as BPD, but guess what? I fully acknowledge that my behavior can be harmful to others if I don't stay mindful of it. And I sure as heck don't get all defensive and deny that these behaviors can be difficult if not flat out toxic, because I am fully aware that they can be. Having BPD doesn't automatically make you a bad person, but it does mean a lot of your behaviors can be toxic and even abusive if you don't keep yourself in check. Emotional outbursts, extreme mood swings, and taking drastic measures to prevent rejection are all classic signs of BPD, and can all be mentally damaging to the people around you. Denying any of those traits and getting angry when anyone else even mentions them, tells me you're one of the toxic ones to avoid, because you won't even acknowledge these traits, let alone try to seek treatment or be mindful of yourselves. It's YOUR responsibility and yours alone to rein in your behavior and put forward a positive example of someone with this disorder. Stop trying to censor others just cuz your ego got bruised.
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