Comments by "Poisonelle Misty" (@PoisonelleMisty4311) on "How envy is a mindset issue" video.

  1. There could be several reasons why envy started bothering you now, even if it didn't bother you before. Here are a few possibilities: 1. Increased exposure: With the rise of social media and constant connectivity, we are more exposed than ever to other people's lives and achievements. This increased exposure may make it easier for envy to creep in. 2. Unrealistic comparisons: When you compare yourself to others, you may be focusing on their best moments or only the highlights of their lives. This can create a distorted perception and make you feel inadequate, leading to envy. 3. Personal insecurities: As we grow and change, our own insecurities may emerge or become more prominent. These insecurities could make you more prone to feeling envy towards others who possess qualities or achievements you desire. 4. Changing priorities or values: Over time, our priorities and values may shift, and what once seemed important may no longer hold the same significance. If your values have changed, you may find yourself envying individuals who align more closely with your new priorities. 5. External pressures: Societal expectations, cultural influences, or peer pressure can all contribute to feeling envious. If you perceive others as meeting these external expectations more effortlessly than you, it may intensify your feelings of envy. It's important to remember that envy is a natural emotion, but it's crucial to find healthy ways to manage it. Practicing gratitude, focusing on personal growth, and celebrating your own achievements can help shift your mindset and reduce the impact of envy on your well-being.
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  2. The underlying promise of what I envy body-wise is the belief that achieving a certain physique – being thin, strong, or pretty – will guarantee acceptance, love, desirability, and a sense of safety.
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  3. Envy is considered a mindset issue because it originates from a person's thoughts and beliefs. It is a state of feeling dissatisfied or resentful when others possess what one desires. Envy often arises from comparing oneself to others and focusing on what one lacks rather than what one has. The mindset of envy is rooted in a scarcity mentality, where individuals believe that there is only a limited amount of success, happiness, or resources available. This mindset leads to feelings of insecurity and the belief that others' achievements or possessions diminish one's own worth. Envy can be detrimental to one's mental and emotional well-being. It can breed negative thoughts such as self-doubt, self-pity, and resentment. It can also impact relationships as envy often involves wanting what others have and resenting them for possessing it. Overcoming envy requires a shift in mindset. This involves acknowledging and challenging the underlying beliefs that fuel envy. It requires focusing on one's own accomplishments, strengths, and personal growth rather than comparing oneself to others. Cultivating gratitude and appreciation for what one has can also help combat the tendency to be envious. Ultimately, envy is a mindset issue because it is influenced by how individuals perceive themselves, their worth, and their relationship with others. By adopting a more positive and abundance-oriented mindset, individuals can free themselves from the detrimental effects of envy and embrace a more content and fulfilled life.
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  4. It sounds like you're describing a common experience of envy. Envy often arises from a sense of inadequacy or a belief that we are lacking something that others possess, particularly in terms of social status, success, or recognition. From your example, it seems like you have identified that what you truly desire is not the specific thing others have (fame in this case) but rather the feeling of self-worth and contentment that you perceive as being associated with it. It's important to recognize that the feeling of envy is not uncommon and can stem from societal pressures and cultural expectations. Many people experience similar emotions and comparisons, feeling devalued or inferior in certain aspects of life. Acknowledging this is the first step in understanding your own emotions. To work towards being at peace with what you have and who you are, it may be helpful to shift your focus inward and cultivate a sense of self-acceptance and self-worth. This involves recognizing and appreciating your own strengths, accomplishments, and unique qualities. Reflect on your own values and priorities in life, and remind yourself of the things that genuinely bring you joy and fulfillment. Additionally, trying to cultivate gratitude for what you have can help counteract feelings of envy. Taking time to acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life can shift your perspective and reduce the
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  5. Hi there! Thank you for your kind words and I'm glad you found the video helpful. I completely understand your point about the perspective of envious people not always being addressed, and I think it's important to have empathy towards them as well. Regarding your suggestion about becoming optimistic as a pessimistic person, I think that's a fantastic topic! Developing a more optimistic mindset can definitely be challenging, but with some strategies and practice, it's absolutely possible. I'll definitely consider creating a video on that topic in the future. Thanks again for your feedback and suggestion!
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  6. It's understandable to feel envious of those who have had a safe and secure upbringing, especially if you haven't had the same experience. Childhood experiences can have a significant impact on our lives and shape our desires and aspirations. The longing for a safe and nurturing upbringing is a valid and natural response. Starting a family can indeed be a way for some individuals to create the safe and secure environment they may not have had themselves. It offers the opportunity to provide their children with the loving and supportive upbringing they may have longed for. However, it's important to note that starting a family is a personal decision and there are various reasons why people choose to become parents. While your past may have influenced your desires, it's essential to remember that even as an adult, you can still create nurturing and secure relationships and environments for yourself. Building a support network of friends, seeking therapy or counseling, practicing self-care, and surrounding yourself with positive influences can all contribute to creating a sense of safety and security in your life. It's also essential to remember that everyone's journey is unique, and comparing ourselves to others can sometimes be detrimental. Instead of focusing on what you may not have had, consider focusing on what you can do now to cultivate a fulfilling and secure life for yourself.
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  7. I'm glad to hear that sharing my experiences has made you feel better and reassured you in some way. It's completely natural to compare ourselves to others and feel underqualified, especially when starting something new like grad school. But remember, everyone has their own unique journey and timeline. Your accomplishments and experiences, no matter how different they may be from others, are still valid and valuable. Grad school is a challenging yet rewarding experience, and I believe that you have what it takes to succeed and achieve great things. Keep a positive mindset, stay focused on your goals, and don't be afraid to ask for help or seek guidance when needed. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there are resources and support available to you. Believe in yourself, trust your abilities, and embrace every opportunity for growth and learning. You are capable of achieving great things, just like anyone else. Best of luck in your upcoming grad school journey!
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