Comments by "Poisonelle Misty" (@PoisonelleMisty4311) on "Big Think" channel.

  1. Throughout my life i have been a victim of scapegoating, these narcissistic people only cared about themselves and were full of arrogance. People need to practice empathy and humbleness.
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  2. Scapgoating is common in western society due to individualism, people dislike community, they see selfishness as good. Direct communication is seen as rude in western culture, they would much rather beat around the bush, this result dishonesty which result rumors.
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  3. I'm sorry to hear about your health struggles, but I'm glad to hear that this philosophy resonates with you on a personal and professional level. It's important to acknowledge and validate the experiences of those who have gone through trauma, rather than trying to push them to be positive all the time. Compassion and understanding can go a long way in healing and recovery. Take care of yourself and keep seeking out support and understanding.♥♥♥
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  4. I am so sorry to hear about the trauma you experienced as a child. It is incredible to hear that you were able to find healing and release that trauma with the help of a kinesiologist. It takes strength and courage to confront and work through such painful experiences. I am glad to hear that it has made a positive difference in your life and that you are no longer burdened by the past. Keep taking care of yourself and continue on your journey of healing. You deserve to live a life free from the weight of past trauma.
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  5. I'm sorry to hear that you experienced such overwhelming emotions during your childhood. It's common for individuals with undiagnosed autism to struggle with various challenges, including sensory overload and difficulty in processing emotions. It's great that you are finding resources like videos to help you better understand and navigate your experiences. Remember that it's never too late to seek support and work through any lingering confusion or trauma. You deserve to feel empowered and at peace with yourself.
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  6. This can lead to feelings of low self-worth, difficulty setting boundaries in relationships, and struggles with self-care. It can also result in seeking validation and approval from others in unhealthy ways, as we may not have learned how to provide that for ourselves. Healing from neglect-related traumas involves learning to nurture and care for ourselves, setting boundaries that protect our well-being, and developing a sense of self-worth independent of external validation. It may also involve seeking therapy or support to process and heal from the effects of neglect in our past. It is important to remember that we deserve love and care, and that it is never too late to learn how to provide that for ourselves.
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  7. That's great to hear that the book was helpful to you. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk is a renowned expert in trauma and PTSD, so it's no surprise that his book was beneficial. It's also good to know that his clinic is still open for those in the Boston area who may need support. Complex PTSD can be particularly challenging to cope with, so it's important to seek out appropriate resources and treatment. Thank you for sharing your experience.
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  8. In societies where traditional gender roles prevail, there may be less emphasis on individual choice, with a greater focus on familial duty. Daughters may be viewed as part of the family’s legacy, and organizing their marriages is seen as part of parental responsibility.
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  9. It’s disheartening to see how marriage can sometimes become a transaction rather than a union of love and respect. In many societies, women find themselves trapped in a cycle of dependence, where they are expected to forfeit their independence for the sake of family honor or financial gain. The idea that a father can sell his daughter off to the highest bidder, while neglecting her autonomy and well-being, is not just disturbing—it's a violation of her rights. The reality of arranged marriages often means that women are relegated to roles of servitude, cooking, cleaning, and raising children, all while their potential is stifled and their voices silenced. This isn't just an inconvenience; it’s a nightmare that can lead to abuse, neglect, and even violence. The pressure to remain a "virgin" until marriage, placed on women, can be a heavy burden that results in severe repercussions when those expectations aren't met. While parents may believe they are protecting their daughters by arranging these marriages, or ensuring their 'purity,' it often leads to a cycle of oppression instead. Rather than securing their future, they may unwittingly place them in dangerous situations. We need to reconsider these harmful traditions and strive for a world where women are valued for their identities and aspirations, not just their ability to conform to outdated norms.
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  10. Families may believe that marrying their daughters at a young age provides them with protection and security. Concerns about women's safety in certain areas can drive parents to seek rapid marriages for their daughters.
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  11. Ah, the classic tale of arranged marriages—where love is as optional as a gym membership in January! It's like a family reunion meets a financial transaction, where the bride is often treated like a limited-edition collectible rather than a partner. "Congrats on your new home! Oh, and here's your cooking and cleaning schedule!" You’d think the dowry would come with a side of empowerment, but instead, it often feels like an express ticket to a life of servitude. It’s the only job where women clock in for a lifetime with no benefits and plenty of overtime, taking care of everything from children to chores, while the pay? Well, that’s just a long "maybe" that may never arrive. And let’s not forget the charming tradition where some fathers hold the bank account for their daughters’ futures, treating marriage as a how-to guide for financial gain! "Why pursue a career when your daughter can snag a husband? It's nature's way of saying, 'Why work hard when you can work smart… at other people’s expense!'" In these scenarios, women often find themselves in a real-life horror story—where love takes a backseat, and the villains are often the very people who should be their protectors. Instead of being the stars in their own romantic comedies, many end up in tragic dramas, battling oppression with no exit signs in sight. So here's to hoping for a future where love stories are written with consent, respect, and a little less cringe-worthy negotiation. Because love shouldn't feel like an unpaid internship in a horror show, right?
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  12. : In impoverished areas, marrying off daughters can sometimes be seen as a way to alleviate financial burdens. In some cases, families may receive a bride price or dowry, providing much-needed financial support. This practice can also ensure that a daughter is cared for and protected after marriage, as families may see it as a way to secure her future.
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  13. The body keeps score of trauma through a process known as somatic memory, which involves the storage of traumatic experiences in the body at a physical level. When a person experiences trauma, the body responds by releasing stress hormones and activating the sympathetic nervous system in order to cope with the perceived threat. Over time, these physical responses can become ingrained in the body's cellular memory, leading to the development of somatic symptoms such as muscle tension, chronic pain, and digestive issues. Additionally, traumatic experiences can also disrupt the body's stress response system, leading to an exaggerated or dysregulated response to stressors in the future. This can result in increased feelings of anxiety, hypervigilance, and emotional reactivity, as the body remains in a state of heightened arousal long after the traumatic event has passed. Furthermore, trauma can also impact the brain's ability to process and integrate distressing experiences, leading to symptoms such as intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, and emotional numbness. These symptoms can further contribute to a sense of disconnection from the body and difficulty regulating one's emotions and responses to stress. Overall, the body keeps score of trauma through a complex interplay of physiological, psychological, and emotional processes, which can have lasting effects on both physical and mental health. It is important for individuals who have experienced trauma to seek support from mental health professionals in order to address and heal from the impact of traumatic experiences on the body and mind.
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  14. In some poorer countries, women may have limited access to education or job opportunities. Arranging a marriage early on can be perceived as a practical solution for their future.
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  15. In many poor countries, girls may have limited access to education and job opportunities. As a result, families may feel that marriage is one of the best options for their daughters, especially if they believe it will provide them with security.
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  16. Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your story.
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  17. Anyone can heal
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  18. In societies with strong patriarchal traditions, women often have less autonomy in decision-making. Parents may feel a sense of duty to arrange their daughters' marriages to ensure compliance with societal expectations.
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  19. I decided to seek therapy to address my unresolved feelings and work through my trauma. It was a difficult process, but with the help of my therapist, I was able to confront my past and make peace with it. I learned coping mechanisms to deal with my triggers and slowly started opening up to others again. It wasn’t easy, but I am grateful for going through therapy as it helped me realize the impact of my past on my present relationships. I am now more aware of my emotions and how they affect my interactions with others. I have also learned to be more open and vulnerable, allowing me to form closer connections with those around me. Although the scars from my teenage years will always be a part of me, they no longer control me. I have taken control of my trauma and used it as a learning experience to grow and become a better version of myself. I am now able to navigate my relationships with a greater sense of understanding and empathy, both towards myself and others.
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  20. Stay strong and keep moving forward on your path to healing. Thank you for your resilience and strength.
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  21.  @mechanical_chaos  You're welcome! I'm always here to offer support and help in any way I can. Just remember, I believe in you and know that you have the strength and courage to overcome whatever challenges come your way. Take care!
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