Comments by "Clogs" (@clogs4956) on "A&E" channel.

  1. It's painfully obvious that David resented Elizabeth falling ill and not being there for 8 months to cater to his demands. He's probably going to keep the house tidy because he can't control and punish Elizabeth now she's escaped, so has moved on to impress his daughters and grandchildren.
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  2.  @mariannevontrapp1063 the lady doesn’t present as a Narcissist but as someone who has experienced trauma.
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  3. My husband, a level 1 hoarder, uses the same diversionary tactic. He’s not yet a level 2 because I won’t engage with his wails of supposed victimhood. If I pre-decease him, goodness knows what state the home will get into…
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  4. It’d say this is an example of Diogenes syndrome. It’s terribly sad.
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  5. It’s called abuse!
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  6.  @CowToes you forgot early onset dementia, which can be characterised by lack of empathy. Unfortunately, in an area like that, I doubt this would be recognised and treated.
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  7. Abusers tend to colonise spaces by demanding their victims remove personal items or else they remove/destroy them. It’s about control. Hoarders, on the other hand, keep everything because they have lost their ability to appreciate of the value of things, which may be due to mental illness or excessive stress. They will invent logical fallacies to excuse their behaviour and will be fixated on retaining everything, even to their own detriment. It’s lack of any control.
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  8. Just come across this vid now and immediately spotted the problem: Wallace. His poor wife was so worn out and frightened trying to cope with his laziness, she used buying as a displacement activity and the items to build a shell for herself. The confrontation over the dirty plates was so telling.
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  9. Returning home after a long weekend away in August, I had to clear up an accumulation of rubbish my husband, a borderline level 2 hoarder, left for me. Perhaps this ‘someone else needs to do it’ attitude is behind a few of these hoards.
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  10. She’s frightened.
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  11. Shanna is cognitively impaired (or educationally subnormal, as it’s otherwise put). That’s the issue here; she did not understand that there was a problem and is incapable of caring for herself.
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  12. Please stop hating and blaming this lady. Early stage dementia can sometimes look exactly like this: the need for control, marking territory with ‘stuff’, excuses and intractability. The lack of empathy is very common if the frontal lobes are chiefly affected. It’s kind to offer help and compassion, but what’s really needed is a mental health/dementia assessment and, if necessary, institutionalisation.
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  13. I’m not sure what’s going on here, but blaming mom who is blamed by her husband and also blames herself? I do wonder if this is an abusive marriage…. The fact that they’re using aftercare funds for marriage counselling is interesting.
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  14. My husband is an “acquirer”, definitely not a hoarder… I’ll let my adult sons know that people do feel for them. They have both been diagnosed with depression; all three of us have anxiety.
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